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Hell yeah! The Internet can be a brutal place, but it can also be wonderful when you connect with the right people. Internet trans people helped me realize it too 💕🏳️⚧️
Unfortunately, the little bigoted people in the homophobes phones made them feel like their true selves are normal and unfortunately the average person isn't pushing back enough on their behavior.
As someone who grew up pretty isolated in turbo-conservative environment where discussions about LGBT+ people are basically nonexistent, internet made me discover the existence of trans people, that I am not alone in my discomfort with my own birth gender, and that there is in fact a medical solution to that problem that doesn't involve antidepressants.
This happened to me during COVID because I couldn't leave my house and was so disgusted by how politicized medicine became I also stopped leaving my highly curated gay internet bubble. And then I just sorta forgot that queer wasn't the default and had to do a crash course reeducation on heteronormativity when I went back into the real world. It was awful.
I had to relearn how to code switch and it just felt like pulling on wet jeans and running for my life.
Relatable, I moved from my blue city to a small town/conservative job right at the end of the pandemic and the culture shock was rough. I literally forgot how it feels to be honked at by cars on the street.
Oh man, last time I visited my hometown someone screamed the f-slur at me from a pick up in the first hour I was back. And I thought I was in my undercover queer clothes! Fled back to the city as fast as I could
"People today are so obsessed with their screens! All they do is get on the internet all day! That's why society is the way it is! Back in my day we went outside and said hi to everyone! We were a community!"
Unless you were in any way an outsider or even just an outlier. Then the "community" was specifically and with extreme prejudice aimed at making sure they could be a community by excluding and targeting you.
Things have been regressing real bad. I've heard so much more casual homophobia and especially transphobia in the last couple years that would have been unthinkable in public in the places I've lived like 8-9 years ago. I miss the brief window when homophobes were afraid of social ostracism, and I'm glad the queer community has been getting more serious about self-defense.
I also find that I see a lot more homophobia and especially transphobia online than in real life, especially in YT/Instagram comment sections.
Of course, there are also more places for LGBTQ+ people to find each other online, so it's really two sides of the same coin. I live in a rather conservative area and go to university in my country's biggest city, I've rarely had any trouble being openly LGBTQ+ in either but have often struggled to find people I really relate to even in the city.
I hope I can feel this someday. (My world is hostile rn. But I’m really glad that some places are becoming friendly enough that this can happen, it gives me hope)
I ma Really Lucky I mainly Meet other Queer People IRL. So they are Mostly Chill.
I only have one Friend who it feels like doesn't accept me. But a Girl I befriended Recently Fully Embraced me when I came out to her. And now our Bond isuch stronger.
I’m a woman and almost casually mentioned an ex girlfriend in conversation at work the other day and had to pause and think oh no they might not get it. It made me pretty sad at the time but this reminds me that there are indeed so many wonderful people in this community 😊
I made a formal complaint about a manager mocking his employee for telling me in a stereotypical "gay" voice that they had deals on coffee and donuts.. F that noise, I pulled out my Karen card and called corporate!!!! The manager was walking behind the cashier and repeated "we have deals" in a mocking voice. I could tell the young man was very uncomfortable and upset. Me, in boy mode/trucker attire asked if that was his manager and the cashier said yes. I called the manager a F'ing prick and called corporate and made a cool and calm report about how the manager was acting and talking.
I don't know the outcome but I'm not going to let some ahole mock someone else at work!!! Work and home are a safe place and no one should be made to feel uncomfortable.
If you seen me in public, I'm your typical cishetnorm passing white guy trucker and I can tell that other truckers get confused when I defend the LGBTQ community. It's rather comical to watch the gears grind in their heads 😆 little do they know, I cross dress
Sorry.. I had to tell someone.. we do exist and we'll do stand up when we can 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
I've had this thing over the last month or so where I get up in the morning and I don't want to be bisexual. Like I'll wake up next to my boyfriend and I don't want to be bisexual , I feel this way because I don't want to deal with the hassle of being my true self, not when I experience looks and stares
However by the time 11:00 rolls around I realize that it doesn't matter, I typically go every morning and get coffee at this coffee shop below my apartment and I'll walk down there and usually I'm wearing something pink and I usually wear sandals and here lately I've got my toes painted and people sometimes look at me, like they give me the classic what the hell is this guy LOL
But by the time I sit there and have my coffee and everybody at the coffee place is extremely nice and a couple people say hello to me and I go and start my day I think to myself it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what others think, I always think when people make comments or they give looks what they're really doing is showing their ignorance, they're showing their stupidity.
Sometimes education is key but nine times out of 10 it doesn't matter because these people are so damn ignorant that they're not only ignorant of what you are or how you are but even worse they're ignorant of their own ignorance.
So I just remember that these people are a lost cause And no amount of anything I say to them and no amount of them seeing how nice of a person I am and how good of a person I am is going to change their opinion of me being some gay bisexual guy or more specifically some sort of weirdo LOL
The most important thing we can always do is be our true selves, otherwise what the hell are we doing other than living a lie. I refuse to live a lie anymore and I refuse to not be exactly the person I am so to hell with everybody else
I'm lucky enough to not have too many hateful people in my life. Most of my encounters with it are online. But at least online, it's easy enough to just block them and move on. I realize that's not nearly everyone's case, though. And, for that, I offer my condolences
For me it's almost the opposite. The internet has helped me accept myself, and normalize internal thoughts.
But I never forget how much it sucks. How hard I fought to have the sound mental state I have now. But also, how little I've come to care about it. I am so over it. At least it's easier to take a punch you expect than one you don't, and homophobes never have new material.
The last few years I have been blessed to find a lot of queer community to the point that there are times there are no straight people in the room. I had gotten so used to it that the homophobic and transphobic comments legitimately surprise me and elicit a response I used to suppress. Knowing I have that safe community to go back to makes me feel like I'm surrounded by support even when I'm standing alone. If I ever spoke up before there would be fear and anger, but now I find it so ridiculous I laugh at them. If they call me trans as an insult for speaking up I say "If you wanna see my dick so bad you can subscribe to my onlyfans." I've gotten good laughs out of others with "Whoa what year are we in?" My favorite tho is when there's a loud bigot dude with a partner and I ignore him and say to his partner "Homophobia exists alongside misogyny so why are you fucking a guy that hates you?" When the guy starts arguing I'll ask him what he thinks about body counts, if he watches lesbian porn, his thoughts on abortion access, golddiggers, women getting money in divorce. Basically any conversation shitty men don't have with partners. They can't help telling on themselves because obviously they don't really care what their woman thinks. Once they start fighting I walk away encouraging the woman to dump his dusty ass. I am pretty confident that I've broken up some relationships with this approach and am proud of my contribution to the male loneliness epidemic.
Damn I wish people would have this reaction more often to how the Internet has been quietly dissociating everyone from reality. In general. I want to say it’s about time they do a study on this phenomenon if they haven’t already. Homophobia sucks. But it’s better to know what’s real than to live in a cloud of ignorance. I say this as a person who has never been accepted for who I am, in any capacity.
I got whiplash this week when I learned my own partner misgenders me when I’m not around. He says he’s afraid of correcting people because then he’ll have to disclose he’s dating a trans enby. No one is safe. Careful out there bbys!
This was me going from being chronically online to working in an all old cis straight male engineering company where I’m also seen as a cis straight white man. The casual homophobia they drop is crazy
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thanks for y'all making it easier to accept that I'm trans being so nice
We love you!
You're very welcome. Passing on the kindness I was shown as a baby transbian.
I wss unfortunately not shown such kindness, but I’m willing to break the cycle of abuse
Trans girls together strong!
Hell yeah! The Internet can be a brutal place, but it can also be wonderful when you connect with the right people. Internet trans people helped me realize it too 💕🏳️⚧️
<3
Im a straight white man and i just wanted to remind you there will always be people who will have your back like me.
I decided a long time ago that if it was illegal to support my lgbt brothers and sisters Im probably gonna end up in jail idgaf
Same! I feel so scared to show my girl self irl sometimes. I'm glad I can be safe with all of you lovely people ❤️
Being Trans Fucking sucks and I hate it so much. But we gotta Deal with it and should be Accepted and Respected anyway.
Hell yeah!!! We go hard against bigots out here good 👍 what are your pronouns and what name do you go by?
When I hear someone call someone else ,,gay" as a slur I get confused, then I remember this
Ikr, my lil sis said kids in her class use this for insult , i told her bruhh its fkin not 😭
Especially funny since gay also means happy
Not in here because of another language (you can guess which)
Yes morons are still with us.
I'm afraid they are among us🥀
ඞ
The extremely toxic and vocal minority who think hating and oppressing people they don’t like is free speech and religious freedom
Same people who make books about sexual education - unlawful 🤬
Unfortunately, the little bigoted people in the homophobes phones made them feel like their true selves are normal and unfortunately the average person isn't pushing back enough on their behavior.
I see plenty homophobes online too and every time I wonder
"how could anyone be this stupid?"
Exact same thought like bruhh grow tf up😭
The usual response to that is why are you straight
I look back on my younger self and wonder the same thing.
(I’m so incredibly sorry to all of you, I promise I will dedicate the rest of my life to making up for being such an asshole)
I'm proud of you on becoming better!
Thank you, I hope I’m doing a good job being an ally. I don’t think I’ll ever really forgive myself even if I am.
Thats a lil much bruv. Take it down a notch and just be chill, you'll be fine.
As someone who grew up pretty isolated in turbo-conservative environment where discussions about LGBT+ people are basically nonexistent, internet made me discover the existence of trans people, that I am not alone in my discomfort with my own birth gender, and that there is in fact a medical solution to that problem that doesn't involve antidepressants.
This happened to me during COVID because I couldn't leave my house and was so disgusted by how politicized medicine became I also stopped leaving my highly curated gay internet bubble. And then I just sorta forgot that queer wasn't the default and had to do a crash course reeducation on heteronormativity when I went back into the real world. It was awful.
I had to relearn how to code switch and it just felt like pulling on wet jeans and running for my life.
Relatable, I moved from my blue city to a small town/conservative job right at the end of the pandemic and the culture shock was rough. I literally forgot how it feels to be honked at by cars on the street.
Oh man, last time I visited my hometown someone screamed the f-slur at me from a pick up in the first hour I was back. And I thought I was in my undercover queer clothes! Fled back to the city as fast as I could
It took me a couple years but I got out of there lol Miserable people everywhere
It really is like that 😭
Thank you for making my days better, queer people in my screen <3
I don't forget
I'm not gonna say something like this has never happened to me, but for the most part yeah I'm the same way.
I'll never forget, and there'll always be this aspect of fear, even when I'm around queer people.
Being queer is kinda a lesson on being empathetic, at least to me.
"People today are so obsessed with their screens! All they do is get on the internet all day! That's why society is the way it is! Back in my day we went outside and said hi to everyone! We were a community!"
Unless you were in any way an outsider or even just an outlier. Then the "community" was specifically and with extreme prejudice aimed at making sure they could be a community by excluding and targeting you.
Someone getting off an elevator recently looked at me, and yelled, "HI, HOMO!"
His family giggled. His wife said "you're terrible!" but was clearly amused.
I just stood there confused, and really didn't know what to say, because... it's not an insult.
What a sad existence his family must live, to think that it is.
Such an odd thing to say to someone :/ I'd be confused, too
I sometimes forget most people are straight 💀
We all need those spaces to escape to and forget about how shitty the world is. It's just the culture shock we get from reality that sucks.
This is what it’s like being an open socialist with my roommate and then moving in with my libertarian grandpa 😭😭
Things have been regressing real bad. I've heard so much more casual homophobia and especially transphobia in the last couple years that would have been unthinkable in public in the places I've lived like 8-9 years ago. I miss the brief window when homophobes were afraid of social ostracism, and I'm glad the queer community has been getting more serious about self-defense.
I hope you’re all okay!
Also my "friends" who claim to be allies irl but still say f****t even when I say it makes me uncomfortable 🙃
For a lot of people, the bar is low. This is why they won't admit being wrong.
It kinda does the opposite for me haha. Anytime I hear something homophobic, I just think "aw, that's cute! An endangered species is talking!"
I know that's a privileged thing to think, but the thought process is just so foreign to me that it makes them seem like another species
I also find that I see a lot more homophobia and especially transphobia online than in real life, especially in YT/Instagram comment sections.
Of course, there are also more places for LGBTQ+ people to find each other online, so it's really two sides of the same coin. I live in a rather conservative area and go to university in my country's biggest city, I've rarely had any trouble being openly LGBTQ+ in either but have often struggled to find people I really relate to even in the city.
/r/brandnewsentence
that definitely isn’t a brand‐new sentence :3
It's from a meme. "Why are you always on that phone?" "There are little gay people in there that like me."
Teehee :3 its cute na, i saw it in another post😭
For real.
I hope I can feel this someday. (My world is hostile rn. But I’m really glad that some places are becoming friendly enough that this can happen, it gives me hope)
Same, this subreddit and a few other places are really great.
I ma Really Lucky I mainly Meet other Queer People IRL. So they are Mostly Chill.
I only have one Friend who it feels like doesn't accept me. But a Girl I befriended Recently Fully Embraced me when I came out to her. And now our Bond isuch stronger.
I’m a woman and almost casually mentioned an ex girlfriend in conversation at work the other day and had to pause and think oh no they might not get it. It made me pretty sad at the time but this reminds me that there are indeed so many wonderful people in this community 😊
This is why i have 2 far right discord servers that i am in and am incognito in so that i can get a daily dose of hating humanity
My brother used the word "sodomy" unironically in conversation and I almost choked on my milkshake.
I forgot we had a word for it besides "sex."
I made a formal complaint about a manager mocking his employee for telling me in a stereotypical "gay" voice that they had deals on coffee and donuts.. F that noise, I pulled out my Karen card and called corporate!!!! The manager was walking behind the cashier and repeated "we have deals" in a mocking voice. I could tell the young man was very uncomfortable and upset. Me, in boy mode/trucker attire asked if that was his manager and the cashier said yes. I called the manager a F'ing prick and called corporate and made a cool and calm report about how the manager was acting and talking.
I don't know the outcome but I'm not going to let some ahole mock someone else at work!!! Work and home are a safe place and no one should be made to feel uncomfortable.
If you seen me in public, I'm your typical cishetnorm passing white guy trucker and I can tell that other truckers get confused when I defend the LGBTQ community. It's rather comical to watch the gears grind in their heads 😆 little do they know, I cross dress
Sorry.. I had to tell someone.. we do exist and we'll do stand up when we can 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
It's kinda dissapointing that the real world is NOT filled with queer autistic furries and instead has just boring normal people with "jobs"
I've had this thing over the last month or so where I get up in the morning and I don't want to be bisexual. Like I'll wake up next to my boyfriend and I don't want to be bisexual , I feel this way because I don't want to deal with the hassle of being my true self, not when I experience looks and stares
However by the time 11:00 rolls around I realize that it doesn't matter, I typically go every morning and get coffee at this coffee shop below my apartment and I'll walk down there and usually I'm wearing something pink and I usually wear sandals and here lately I've got my toes painted and people sometimes look at me, like they give me the classic what the hell is this guy LOL
But by the time I sit there and have my coffee and everybody at the coffee place is extremely nice and a couple people say hello to me and I go and start my day I think to myself it doesn't matter.
It doesn't matter what others think, I always think when people make comments or they give looks what they're really doing is showing their ignorance, they're showing their stupidity.
Sometimes education is key but nine times out of 10 it doesn't matter because these people are so damn ignorant that they're not only ignorant of what you are or how you are but even worse they're ignorant of their own ignorance.
So I just remember that these people are a lost cause And no amount of anything I say to them and no amount of them seeing how nice of a person I am and how good of a person I am is going to change their opinion of me being some gay bisexual guy or more specifically some sort of weirdo LOL
The most important thing we can always do is be our true selves, otherwise what the hell are we doing other than living a lie. I refuse to live a lie anymore and I refuse to not be exactly the person I am so to hell with everybody else
Yeah I have this for whenever I question my gender 🫠
I'm lucky enough to not have too many hateful people in my life. Most of my encounters with it are online. But at least online, it's easy enough to just block them and move on. I realize that's not nearly everyone's case, though. And, for that, I offer my condolences
Come to SF
...Yeah. Being a gay trans individual, regardless of what AGAB was or what you identify as now, is a scary fucking time.
You should be shocked when you hear something homophobic. It's abnormal.
For me it's almost the opposite. The internet has helped me accept myself, and normalize internal thoughts.
But I never forget how much it sucks. How hard I fought to have the sound mental state I have now. But also, how little I've come to care about it. I am so over it. At least it's easier to take a punch you expect than one you don't, and homophobes never have new material.
Yep…. It sucks.
When I experienced my first transphobia, I didn't even realize it at first because I had forgotten such a thing existed. If only...
That gut punch always sucks, man.
Sounds nice honestly. I never forget
Never related to a post more
they're the ones not living in reality, they just update their reality on geologic timescales.
I feel this so strong 🩵
Yeah TT
The last few years I have been blessed to find a lot of queer community to the point that there are times there are no straight people in the room. I had gotten so used to it that the homophobic and transphobic comments legitimately surprise me and elicit a response I used to suppress. Knowing I have that safe community to go back to makes me feel like I'm surrounded by support even when I'm standing alone. If I ever spoke up before there would be fear and anger, but now I find it so ridiculous I laugh at them. If they call me trans as an insult for speaking up I say "If you wanna see my dick so bad you can subscribe to my onlyfans." I've gotten good laughs out of others with "Whoa what year are we in?" My favorite tho is when there's a loud bigot dude with a partner and I ignore him and say to his partner "Homophobia exists alongside misogyny so why are you fucking a guy that hates you?" When the guy starts arguing I'll ask him what he thinks about body counts, if he watches lesbian porn, his thoughts on abortion access, golddiggers, women getting money in divorce. Basically any conversation shitty men don't have with partners. They can't help telling on themselves because obviously they don't really care what their woman thinks. Once they start fighting I walk away encouraging the woman to dump his dusty ass. I am pretty confident that I've broken up some relationships with this approach and am proud of my contribution to the male loneliness epidemic.
🤝🤝
This is how I feel on a daily basis, like wdym I'm being deadnamed at school
Me when I'm using my phone and am out as trans on it but then I go irl and most people don't know
Always exist lgbtphobic both internet and real life the majority are conservative and fanatics religious
Damn I wish people would have this reaction more often to how the Internet has been quietly dissociating everyone from reality. In general. I want to say it’s about time they do a study on this phenomenon if they haven’t already. Homophobia sucks. But it’s better to know what’s real than to live in a cloud of ignorance. I say this as a person who has never been accepted for who I am, in any capacity.
I got whiplash this week when I learned my own partner misgenders me when I’m not around. He says he’s afraid of correcting people because then he’ll have to disclose he’s dating a trans enby. No one is safe. Careful out there bbys!
This was me going from being chronically online to working in an all old cis straight male engineering company where I’m also seen as a cis straight white man. The casual homophobia they drop is crazy
Says a lot more than you realize