In light of recent events, we’ve seen a surge of aggressive and harmful rhetoric across the internet, which has been deeply concerning. We considered closing this subreddit, but we believe that providing a safe space for women to explore this kink is more important than ever.
As most of you know, this subreddit is primarily run by women, with invaluable support from a dedicated male moderator who contributes a great deal to this community. This space is about fantasy and kink—nothing here endorses real-world harm, the restriction of women’s rights, or the hateful attitudes that have been amplified in the political landscape.
We have a zero-tolerance policy on hate. Any hateful or derogatory comments toward our members will result in an immediate ban. This is a place to share, support, and indulge in a positive and respectful way.
To those feeling anxious or uncertain, please know that our hearts are with you. The moderators here stand firmly for women’s rights and bodily autonomy.
This is a safe place for women to explore their kinks, not a space for incels or those spreading hate. We will remove any hateful rhetoric immediately.
Thank you for helping us keep this community a respectful and welcoming space for all.
This sub helped my girlfriend understand she is not abnormal for having this kink! Thank you all for drawing the line between safe practices of kinky sexuality and abusive behavior that some people can misinterpret...
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God bless you, tiny.
You have a thankless task and the incels are out in force since last week.
Thank you! That goes for out entire team! They are and its been terrifying.
Yeah, was thinking of bailing for a while personally. Every red cap chud is suddenly an alpha male all over my regular subreddits, it would be funny if it wasn’t so depressing.
Loving your work, and thanks again to the team for their efforts 🤘
That r/politics thread on the win was terrible to see honestly, all the "haha liberal tears" comments like that is the only thing an election is about
For a meaningful segment of conservatives, that's what politics is: hating the other team and revelling in their losses.
From three months in the future, there's tears a plenty to go around on all but the furthest right.
There is no win. It is not a horse race. It is the installation of a guy who is a habitual liar, is out for himself and his monied friends and is ignorant about democracy and governing and wishes to be a dictator
You've done so well since you took over for this one.
Aw thank you so much 💗
👏👏👏 all I can say is thanks
god bless y'all - this has got to be the hardest modding job for any subreddit
Either this or rape kink, they’re already quarantined
Maybe that is my bad experiences speaking with rape kink, but the mods there dont do shit and just randomly ban you if they feel like it. Here the mods actually mod which is a lot harder. I am 1000% sure that place is only under quarantine because it is a sensitive topic and the mods barely do anything.
Seeing this is great. A lot of guys don’t get the difference between fantasy and reality, or understand that sometimes a kink is desirable to play around in online because it’s NOT acceptable in real life. Stay safe everyone!
well said!
Thank you mods. Being the voice of reason is often not fun or easy. I have nothing but respect for you guys right now. Everyone is dialed up to 11 and you guys have to sort it all out.
Fellas, fantasy can be fun. But reality is often very different. No one wants to truly live under your boot here. They may find it fun to pretend or fantasize. Please understand they are people too. As for the guy who says China funny, there are subs for that. Basically please don't be a dick and ruin it for everyone. Be a misogynist 😉, but be willing to drop it to comfort someone if needed. Be willing to be a human.
Ladies, I like playing with you. I hope I've never gone too far in that. If I have, I am truly sorry for that. Just here to have fun and it is fun for me when it's fun for you.
Thank you. This was a very thoughtful commenr and we appreciate it. ❤️
Thank you for your efforts! Some of the kink sub reddits are going to approved posters only, which is enough to turn away some of the chaffe
We've been that way for awhile now. Luckily the really had spam boom a while back helped us be more prepared for this
This is exactly what we need. As a lurker (here and on the wider internet), I think we need to draw the line between the imaginary and not being a dickhead irl.
It's sad that people can't understand that this is for expressing a kink and not a platform for pushing actual female abuse.
I really appreciate this, these kinks are only fun to participate in because I know I have a choice. The illusion of not having a choice during sex is nice because it allows me to just let go and not have the stress of being in control- especially considering this is the only area of my life where I can do such a thing
Well we will be here offering this space for as long as we can do so safely!
A woman who has the desire and willingness to do what you just said is very sexy. You included
I love subs where people are encouraged to explore their (compared to most people) extreme kinks without judgement and good direction. I’m masc and the idea of sincerely hurting, disrespecting, or degrading a woman or femme presenting is abhorrent to me, that doesn’t mean I don’t enjoy the surrender of control. I’ll be sure to frequent more often now
Well we will be happy to have you!
Thank you for posting this. This kink has been waning quite a bit and I’m afraid if I use these types of subreddits that I might encourage men to think this is what I actually want.
It’s nice to know this Reddit is ran mostly by women and continues to do so. I very much appreciate you offering us a safe space.
We are doing our absolute best! The kink can't just be shut off for some of us and I just wanted everyone to know with absolute certainty that we don't condone true misogyny. We just a bunch of kinky fucks trying to enjoy life lol. We will always support women.
did not know this sub had such great mods
I'm glad you thinks so! We support kink and human rights lol
Yeah I feel gross indulging in this kink when I think about all those losers who really believe in misogynistic stuff like that "your body my choice" bullshit, and I'm happy to see a post like this.
It’s one thing to call a woman a thing and not mean it. It’s another to say “your body my choice” and absolutely mean it
Right? It's so scary that these people feel emboldened and that trump has done NOTHING. I'm not surprised, but I like to think most people would try to be lile... hell no, I don't support that, but we all know he does.
Obviously, I'm not saying there's anything he can do physically, but he could at the very least set these men straight, but again, it just shows he doesn't care.
Unfortunately Trump truly is one of those people who wants to live his fantasies, because they are not fantasies for him, they are his preferred reality. He will keep saying they are joke until he has enough power to destroy our institutions and eliminate his critics
Yes I agree. 100%
Not even that, to say it to complete strangers. I'd love to have a woman as a sex toy, someone to whom I can say "I own you, your body is my property" and genuinely mean it, because that is exactly what she wants to hear.
I am glad this comment was posted
I am a man And find the fantasy of this so hot
But i have been disturbed by the degree of violence and anger in some of the posts
Some guys here simply hate women, and likely themselves
It has increased this last week But it has been present before that time
I love women And only find these fantasies hot when consensual and fun for all involved
Thank you for making it known that the moderators behind this sub feel this way
I had to unsub from a similar kink subreddit bc the post-American-election messaging was just insult to injury. It’s a little bizarre
I had to leave r/femaleinferioritycap and steer clear of a few erotica stories on here post election just bc it feels gross and not right rn. I’m usually into that kind of stuff as fantasy but i don’t want to consume that content when clearly some men want that as our reality…
Yes. It is really so sobering to see some of those posting drop their pretense of just talking about a fantasy.
Exactly the sub I’m referring to!! Same situation here 🙃
Yeah as a man with this fetish it truly is disgusting and reprehensible there are men and women for that matter who vote for taking away from the rights of women.
Who say things like "Your body, our choice" is beyond pathetic and the comments I would make about those individuals would likely get me banned by admins.
I for one am glad you said the quiet part out loud cause it is a bit weird how the fantasy and fetish is being legitimized to an extent. This is not a good thing.
Thank you for this and thank you for what y’all do!!! Things have become very dystopian and depressing and it’s nice to have a safe space to process that in a different way than rage posting all over social media.
Agreed agreed! It's hard to cope.
Sadly this is why political-themed content on either side should always be banned from kink threads. I have alot really fun communities that I've seen be shifted from their original purpose to a very politically charged community. I feel are some communities that already target content in that direction, so wish people just go to those instead of trying to incite open spaces like this and others. Really am glad to see a community take a really hard stance on this and put their foot down on it.
+ didn't know group was ran mostly by women, nice surprise.
We are. We are proud of the fact that for over 12 months now every single poster is a verified woman posting themselves. Their body. Their choice.
Women who want this kink are welcome here.
Men who can enjoy the kink while recognising it exists only due to the consent of the women involved are also welcome.
Seriously, it’s hard to actually enjoy subs that are supposed to bring pleasure when I’m having to be reminded of the political climate.
I was hesitant to come back to subreddits like this due to recent events and I’m so glad to know this is still a space I can comfortably explore my kink.
What a great name.bit has areal rythm and madee smile ☺️
Kinks should not be vehicles for hate, ever. I commend you for your honesty with this community and the clear statement of separation between kink and reality. I hope not many people are banned for being rude
That’s really sweet
🤜🤛 love your work
Don’t forget to take care of yourselves, mods. I imagine running this sub right now is hell on you guys’ mental health.
Thank you for your hard work. Those assholes are already such a turn off, now that they're let loose - it truly impacts something I enjoy. Happy you're looking out for us to practice safely and enjoy ourselves as the world burns.
Thank you so much. It's been a worry of mine that these subs would close in light of everything. I'd understand it, but I would have less of a space to be able to enjoy this kink.
I don't want to take that away from.women in the us at least. We've had enough taken from us.
It is saddeninng(although, unfortunately, not shocking) to see how many people(almost entirely men) are dropping their masks on these types of subreddits. I'm mostly masc, but sometimes put myself in the woman's perspective in these subreddits. It really sucks to see how much misogyny directed at the women here, wasn't acted, or calculated, or prepared, in respectful manners. But just straight-up real. I wish you good luck in keeping this a safe space, even though I know you get a Lotta criticism from a lot of annoying, and generally disenheartenly, insolent.
As a man, Knowing this is run by women as a way to explore this kink instead of specifically a way for men to get the kick on being abusive makes this enjoyable for once. Thank you for making this clear and combating the turn towards real hate for women that's taken hold of much of my country.
Very very welcome!
Thank you for being so clear about this. I think having kinks like this in this current landscape is going to be more challenging with the influx of emboldened real-world misogyny. The mods making this distinction clearly and unequivocally between fantasy and reality is so, so important and appreciated 💗🙏
You're very much welcome!
I love it when a woman chooses to be submissive. Making them submissive by force against their will is evil.
I explore misogyny in kink but that's becoming increasingly harder because it feels too real now, specially as a trans girl :c So thanks for this
Ooof i share your pain. Seeing the way the USA views women of all walks of life is disturbing. We need to have each other's back. ❤️ and I'm here for all of you in the only way I can be.
Thank you. I have been unfollowing other subs because of this and I'm a man. Good to know I don't have to worry about that shit here
Definitely not! Seeing it the past few days even in non kink spaces (more so there tbh) has been sickening.
Nah this is a kink, not a way of life or actual feelings. If you feel these situations and posts are real, then you have issues and dont deserve this sub.
I don't know if I understand the appeal of this subreddit to people trying to restrict womens' rights. Like...it doesn't mean anything if someone submits to you because they HAVE to. What kind of compliment is that? It's much better to have someone submit because they want to submit and, for them, it needs to be to you. At least, that's my opinion.
Beautifully said! Yes!!! Agreed!
I've always found it heartening and pleasantly surprising when the kink community stands up in real life for women's rights/autonomy while parallely indulging in their kinks and fantasies that imply the opposite. As a guy who is into some really dark fantasy but also a staunch feminist, this gives me hope.
I am the same, my friend! I have dark fantasies but am also a staunch feminist.
Thank you mods. Misogyny as a kink between two consensual adults is hot. Misogyny and patriarchy outside of kink are fucking disgusting.
As for those using this kink as an excuse for your horrendous bigoted and reactionary far-right beliefs, ew. They shouldn’t be welcomed into kink spaces at all.
As a guy it's been pretty uncomfortable too. I feel guilty for a kink that alot of my gender make hateful and harmful. Just know there are those of us that will fight to protect your rights. You deserve no less.
Oh yes. I'm sure it's uncomfortable for yall as well. It sucks! Thank you for your kind words.
These mods are veterans after past week
thank you for clarifying this! glad to know the mod team is sane and respectful
Hmm. I have always and will always view this subreddit as a kink focused Reddit community. I only hope that everyone else see's it that way too
This sub should have a zero tolerance requirement for abuse that is non consensual. This isn’t a political issue, this is purely consent. If you’re an asshole who feels entitled to someone’s time who don’t consent to it, bye. End of story.
We are a right of centre couple and know this very well.
Thanks for your support. As a male that indulges and is always there to offer safe exploration of these kinks, I can't agree enough that in such a hateful time, we need to be there for those that wish to continue explor8ng this side sex, and those who are very wary of all.thinga that have happened and things that are expected to come. Just fucking love and care about eachother. Damn
Thank you for putting this message out🙏
❤️❤️❤️
Thank you!
Thank you for this.
I've definitely noticed an increased curiosity around the kink in recent days, so I agree that shutting it down wouldn't be the right call, I agree though, it's important to separate the fun from real hate
I think there should be clear terms of when it's appropriate and how this kink should be applied, there's a thin line between roleplay and harassment, there should be clear rules.
We stan a nuanced queen
Thank you!
I always make the comparison between a kink and reality is like being hungry because we willingly stop to eat, fasting, vs being hungry because we can’t afford food to eat.
Women being “things” in a play thing situation is nothing like subjugation of women in the whole fucking society.
I stand with your decision !
Thank you mods for being a shield
Modding this has to be... something. Appreciate y'all.
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Well said. As predominantly a male lurker in this subreddit, watching the culture shift after the election was worrying. I’m really glad to see that the team here is keeping an eye out and, likewise, keeping the incels out
Being a moderator on subs like these must be rough especially at times like this. Thank you for all you do
Best of luck to ye mods. It seems a lot of the harder-kinks subs are having to take action to maintain safe places to play. Our unsung kinky heroes.
Well said!
Thank you so much ❤️
thank you
Thank you for that message. It has made me feel like I need to step back and reevaluate how I interact with the world to make sure that I am not contributing to the problem. I appreciate your message and belief that there is still some good in the world. Here's to being better humans regardless of our kinks.
A very good realization and important thing to work on that sets you apart. Thank you.
Couldn't agree more. This space is for women to explore degradation as a kink. It is and shouldn't be a way of life.
Keep up the great work mods.
Thank you 💗
Thank you for posting this ❤️
Please keep the ladies safe!! That is the most important thing!
Thank you. Having safe spaces for kink and not having to be ashamed of your kinks is everything, honestly. I can honestly say that I've had less PTSD panic issues and have been processing things better having these kinky outlets.
Brava, darlin's. Please keep up the good fight.
Of course. I'm sure we all needed to hear that it's ok to like this kink. It's ok to be very distressed at what's going on in the world, too. Both can coexist. I wanted everyone to know that this is a place for kinky fantasies, not real-life misogyny.
Thank you for providing a safe space!! I'll admit, I've had a lot of conflicted feelings about the content I enjoy, and how it compares to the hateful things I've heard more and more recently. It's a little bit harder to enjoy submission and sex slavery fantasies while others are activities working towards it for real.
Oof tell me about it! But I just wanted everyone to know where we stand. With women.
Fucking appreciate you guys.
And we appreciate you!
Thank you for this. Couldn't agree more. Women are only things/property when they CONSENT. It's nota default position
I don't really engage in this community other than looking through the posts but I'd also like to speak out and thank you for your outstanding work. I'm sure it's been very difficult and a lot of hateful people feel now confirmed in their beliefs and live them out to the detriment of all. I genuinely hope you can keep this a safe place for everyone as you have for 4 years now. I can't imagine how difficult it can be to manage a kink community with themes like this in a time like now. You have my deepest sympathy and respect.
I'm honestly so glad to read this. I originally joined reddit to explore kinks that my wife has no interest in. I actually have a lot of respect for women, I just like to play like this with like minded women.
Good. A good decision wisely made.
There's no call for any of that crap in a safe, sane kink environment. Without safe environments, unsafe things happen. Happy that this can continue along being a relatively agnostic, safe place for folks to engage in kink in.
Thank you for this. I’ve been contemplating deleting my account bc of everything I’ve been seeing. This makes me feel a bit safer.
Thank you, mod team, for working tirelessly, often thanklessly (but not today! 🎉) for sifting the grain from the chaff.
🥹🥹🥹 Thank you so much! You have no idea how much this helps. My partner and I have been going through a lot trying to figure out if we were even going to continue posting anywhere, and we're still having that conversation. It really does help hearing you say this. Thank you.
Of course. What we do is consensual. ❤️🙏🏻
Thank you Mods for all you do!
I agree. As fun as these kinks are it’s always important to remember and respect that there are living breathing people on the other side with thoughts and feelings.
I'm sorry that a lot of people can't distinguish fiction from reality. I'm just the average silent viewer, but I'm ashamed of my fellow men and the choices they've made of this most recent US election.
Real men aren't abusers, real men provide safety, comfort, reassurance, support, and love In the sometimes eccentric ways our SO's need.
This is so nice to see. Thank you 💕
My partner and I both agreed to not “play” for a couple weeks. We both are in shock and kinda lost our sex drives anyway for a few days. Was really odd. Thank you Mods for being aware of the outside world and the safety of the community you have built here.
I'm having a hard time trusting men to know the difference between reality and fantasy. Giving them any ammunition because of a kink is risky. The things that used to only be imagined in their minds are now coming right out of their mouths in public. It's like a dystopia come true.
Thanks. It’s uncomfortable since woman are under fire in the real world now.
Yes. I totally get that. I'm struggling with it too at times but thats why I thought it was important for me to say something and let people know where we stand.
Absolutely. I don’t want to add to the burden or seem to be hateful. I just want women to revel in their sexuality. No matter what form it takes.
Well, in every positive kink experience I've had, I've never felt hated. I never had this pit in my stomach or this heavy feeling in my chest. There's a stark difference.
Thanks for the thoughtfulness and moderation.
Really, really annoying that on top of all the other damage being done to the world by these worthless dipshits, they also make our kinky fun less so by trying to sneak their garbage in.
I, and my sub, who is also a full human being deserving of respect and rights, were sure to play this weekend because the dumbshit pigs are not taking our joy from us without a hell of a fight.
Absolute Mod W!
Well said
Real life, separate from both the internet and kink, should never be in danger. Bodily autonomy is a God-given right and should not be taken away. My heart breaks for women who have to deal with the backlash, and I hope they can continue to enjoy the fun of this lifestyle safely, securely, and free of subjugation they they did not consent to.
this has been on my mind all week on how am i to enjoy my kinks with the world like this and this note was just what i needed, thank you 🤎🤎🤎🤎🤎
Thank you for speaking out, my heart is also with any women, trans, LGBTQ+ or any other minorities who have felt attacked or pressured in recent days. It will get easier, don’t stop fighting.
I’m sure the moderators see a lot, and I hope they take care of themselves. ❤️
Thank you so much for properly moderating this subreddit. Yall are doing a thankless job. As community members, what can we do to help?
Yea. I'm glad you guys are addressing the issue. Theres a few similar subs that are having a rough go as of late. Fucking fascists was also forgetting that it was supposed to be a kink and not a real thing leading up to the election. Can't imagine it's gotten any better afterwards.
Seriously, it's been disgusting and sad to see. I'm glad you feel the same. 💗 I hope we only need to endure 4 years of this to remind the world, right-wing extremism sucks but 🤷🏼♀️
this actually made me feel so safe. thank you
🥹❤️ I'm so happy to hear that.
I officially love this post. Bravo.
Thank you. I'm glad to see it's brought so much comfort. You all came through and the comments have passed the vibe check. 💗🥹 love this community
Excellent. Keep up the great work.
Thank you! As a woman I’ve been reading the hateful rhetoric going around in daily life and was feeling shame for getting off to these posts, even considered leaving this subreddit sometime this week as I wasn’t sure if people here were actually serious about their fantasies or actually felt that way towards women. I really appreciate this post. The amount of upvotes is genuinely comforting!
I agree. I wasn't sure what to expect, but I've been overjoyed that the response has been completely positive. ❤️ there's still hope!
This is great to read, thank you
This made me feel a lot better, thank you.
I'm so glad. 💗
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Thank you thank you ♥️
Damn straight.
If anyone ever needs to talk about the kink or just process any emotions plenty of people here will listen and understand.
You're never alone and you deserve to be treated with respect.
Love how you said it, hate that it has to be said at all. Enjoying kinks and trying to to experience new fantasies is one thing. But everyone should know how to seperat it from reality. You're doing greata tiny <3
well said. ...
Cool to see this post and the response 🙏
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Thank you ❤️
All power to you for the work you do, it can't be easy. I really enjoy this subreddit as a safe space to explore a kink, and it makes me more comfortable knowing it's in good hands, meant to be enjoyed by people who actually understand the difference between fantasy and reality.
Refreshing to see this, especially on these subreddits. Thank you so much.
Thank you 💗💗💗
I hope, this trouble can be controlled; like you say, it's only fantasy and support by women.
Thank you guys 🩷
I can’t imagine how incredibly complicated it must be to manage this fetish space without it falling into the hands of incels and red-pilled individuals. You’re really doing an excellent job. Thank you for all your work ❤️ and I hope everything can continue as smoothly as possible.
Thank you 😊
Thank you so much.
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I hugely respect y'all for keeping this sub clean and safe. It has to be extremely difficult.
Late to this thread, but thanks for posting this. With recent events I’ve seen so much hate for these types of kinks (which I understand and can’t fault). It’s reassuring to know that this sub is mainly ran by women and that it’s treated like the fantasy it is, instead of an actual way of thinking.
Thank you for this reassuring post. In the light of everything that's happened I started worrying that perhaps this sub was full of people who really did believe in that, and that there was going to be a huge blur between kink and reality. That I wouldn't feel safe, that the person I was responding to really meant harm to me and not just in 'pretend'. Feel much better being here now 🙂
if you private the sub lemme in
Hahaha I'm not doing all that yet. Love your username
I forgot the password to my old account /u/iwantwarioscockinme
I appreciate the support and safe space ;)
Is it possible to ban any Onlyfans/Fansly, etc. Users?
There is so many users on this sub that post constantly and have obvious OF/Fansly links in the user's bio. Can we have better transparency in what determines a ban and what posts are approved on the sub? It feels like 90% at this post is only people selling content. No hate to them but we have subs designed for selling on reddit for this reason.
Its fine if someone has an of on their profile. If they arent overtly advertising on here I don't care abd neither should anyone else. People have to make money too.
Besides that this isn't really the post to make that suggestion on either.
While it is not the correct place, any other time i have tried to post the same comment, the auto mod bans the post. No hate on them wanting to make money, but what is the purpose of the subreddits designed for selling if they can just advertise wherever they please.
They don't advertise. Posting pictures is fine. Having an OF on your profile is fine. As long ad theu aren't posting spam or advertising posting their links I don't care and neither should you As it doesn't change anything for you...
Raggot mods
? What
Appreciate the work you all do, and the outlet you provide for women, feminists and allies.
Thank Yoi for your efforts in keeping this community safe.
We're behind you!
Thank you for posting this!! Very considerate and thoughtful.
Well stated!!! Consent and communication is necessary. It’s a bad look to just come out of the gate swinging, you’d think you’d know better.
The enjoy the subreddit, I don’t interact. I just haven’t been inspired to interact yet. I am absolutely a safe space. Should you need any form of positive aftercare or encouragement or you need the emotional recharge, I’m a message away. Everything is in the strictest confidence.
Stay stage, please take care of yourselves and be careful with some of these fools.
100% agree. Thank you for making that clear to any and all
Thank you very much for posting that. I have been a very mixed emotions on remaining within this community due to that increased harmful rhetoric. But I feel that this may still be a safe place to explore this kink.
Thank you!