Hi ,I’m a 23 year old women who got out of the military a year ago ,I came here to vent and see if anyone has answers to my issue ,I’ve been having an issue with having friends as someone who’s never really been able to make friends outside of a work environment, i attempted to make a friend recently and got very overwhelmed with the fact that they had wanted to text me every day?I know that sounds odd but in my brain it felt really overwhelming,I have absolutely no issue making friends inside of a work environment but I also feel like it’s kind of forced in a way? I have no idea what I’m doing honestly and I’ve never really had friends even when I was in school and I feel super lonely but also overwhelmed by the idea of making friends with a complete stranger ,help?

Hi, first to get it out of the way, you are a 'woman', with an a. Women with an e is every woman, that's how you can remember it.

So to your point, it can be very hard to make friends at any age. You're in your twenties, I'm in my 60s. It is very difficult all across the board. I see people with many friends and I have come to assess that they get them for many different reasons but a lot of people make friends from friends of their siblings or relatives, or they hook on to a few good ones in school and work.

Sometimes people find good people in those areas and sometimes not. You're not alone and there are always very tips how to meet people. Go to meetings of your hobbies, online groups in your area etc. Some of us have social anxiety even though we should try to put it aside to make friends. But it's very hard.

Best going forward to you

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Hi, first to get it out of the way, you are a 'woman', with an a. Women with an e is every woman, that's how you can remember it.

So to your point, it can be very hard to make friends at any age. You're in your twenties, I'm in my 60s. It is very difficult all across the board. I see people with many friends and I have come to assess that they get them for many different reasons but a lot of people make friends from friends of their siblings or relatives, or they hook on to a few good ones in school and work.

Sometimes people find good people in those areas and sometimes not. You're not alone and there are always very tips how to meet people. Go to meetings of your hobbies, online groups in your area etc. Some of us have social anxiety even though we should try to put it aside to make friends. But it's very hard.

Best going forward to you