Like 0 desire.
I live in a culture where this is expected but I have 0 desire never had. Since 15 i would say i have no desire to marry and live with a man.
Many men text me. Like many. And i have no energy or desire to text them back.
Every-time i talk w one i just get disappointed and im like meh. I just love my solitude sooo much. I love being alone, traveling alone. I cannot wait to live alone. I cannot imagine living with others again.
I loveee being alone people don’t understand. I go to coffees alone. Restaurants alone. Etc.
I broke up with my partner of almost 6 years recently
The relief I have when I go to sleep doing what I want to do, and waking up an my own pace and having my peace, is something I knew I missed but had no idea how much
Before him I lived on my own for a good 4 years and now I’m back at it, I never want to live with a partner
I got married over 10 years to someone I was with for 10 years , and have ZERO interests of ever doing that again
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Yayy cheers to that 🥂
Nah, you’re not weird you’re just post-DLC clarity unlocked.
Loneliness isn’t lonely if we like ourselves. I’d rather be alone than lonely in a relationship or crowd.
I totally understand! I’m divorced and I have zero desire to get married again. I’ve lived alone 7 years and I also love spending time by myself and my own space.
When people say they hate being on their own just think whyyyy, it’s so peaceful!
Ikr whyyyy… i LOVE it!
Nope, you are not alone. I am single, never married, and never will.
I am in my fifties, happy, and have no regrets.
Omg yayy i love when older women chose the life i want and i wanna hear from them what it was like
I love taking myself out to dinner. I often sit with a book and have the best time. I think it’s baller. And I hope that it might just show a path forward for those who can’t imagine doing anything of the sort.
Yes hell yes u do. I feel less crazy when i hear other women doing the same. I love other women the same as me. 🥂
We understand. Too many women are exiting the dating scene and staying out. 4B movement continues to grow. You are not alone, you don't owe anyone explanations. Just enjoy your comfort and peace. We are happy you are here!
r/4bmovement would love to have you
Yess i have joined them
If you have no desire for a romantic relationship at all, you may be aromantic. If you have to get to know someone before you fall in love, you may be demiromantic. These things are completely separate from sexuality. If you want a romantic relationship but just don't want to get married, that's just plain valid!
Don’t you always have to know someone to fall in love? Isn’t that like the one requirement lol
Demiromantics have to know someone really well. Sometimes for a long time, before any romantic feelings even begin to show up. Some people fall in love very quickly. A friend's mother either got married or moved in together after only a couple of weeks, which sounds insane to me. It only took 3 months for me to fall in love, we moved in together after only six months, but I still count myself as being on the aromantic/demiromantic spectrum because I went ten years without a relationship and didn't feel the need for one. Dating was difficult and I wasn't interested in anyone. God forbid if anything happens to my husband, I'm not going through that again.
If you don’t know someone fully, it’s just infatuation. Many just misuse the word love.
They want a special name to put on not wanting to one night stands
I might be demiromantic yeah. But i still have no desire for marriage.
This is normal and healthy. Being overly dependent on someone on the other hand not as much but some people don’t like hearing that. Also marriage is a social construct so if you don’t get married you aren’t biologically or psychologically doing anything wrong
Yes ofc ik it is a social construct. Idk how it became so normalized but yeah
I’m on my 2nd marriage and nth relationship.
When my husband dies, I will never marry anyone else. It took 37 years to find a man that I would consider a good friend.
He’s got my back completely, but that isn’t to say he is has no faults. He’s always surprised about how much he has to unlearn, including using the term “I’ve never had to think about that before…” because male privilege is just so ubiquitous.
Honestly, I think the one thing social media has done has made us women all realize how stacked the odds are against us, with marriage being the cliff that we’re all racing towards, only to plummet to what is likely the death of our autonomy.
Marriage is a lot of work, and when you have a full time job just to survive, marriage can be life threatening in that it can cost you everything.
I would date a good long time before entrusting my assets with another human being.
Or enter a lavender marriage. Everyone wins!
Or maybe no marriage at all tbh. We are not forced to marry. Nobody can force me to marry fr.
Same 😭 I truly believe that sexuality is not a choice because best believe I would be a lesbian by now but unfortunately I’m attracted to men only, even though I’m attracted to them physically, most of them in terms of values, lifestyle and personality give me the ick unfortunately.
Same ugh. I have nothing compatible mentally with them at all.
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Yes cause it is my reddit page? Lmao