So after spending almost 2 years without sex I found my husband watching porn and masturbating in the middle of the night. To my surprise the erection was pretty strong which I hadn't seen for a long time. Everytime I initiated, either he was tired, not interested, or even if things started, he would lose the hardness during foreplay. Masturbating was okay for him and he didn't seem to have any issues. Our GP had already confirmed his blood reports were fine and it was only in his head.
The doctor referred to a psychosexologist who had helped another couple with same issues. We took the session and he diagnosed it as porn induced sexual dysfunction. Where mind gets desensitized due to history of porn. Mixed with anxeity because of sudden failures. He was also using a specific grip to masturbate.
The treatment included only CBT, sex therapy, exercises and no medicines. All it took was a push, the right treatment, and losing my temper (when I caught him masturbating). Its been over 7 months and our bedroom is as alive as it was in the early days of our marriage.
Edit- For reference, the doctor who fixed our situation was Dr. Rishabh Bhola. We took online sessions (around 4). It doesnt matter who you consult, make sure you find the right cause of the dysfunction. Popping pills didn't help our case until we found what was ruining the libido and his erections.
You forgot the part where the addict wants to change.
No amount of any of that will help if the male does not WANT to change.
100%!!
It comes down to whether there's any love left. If he's not willing to change or work on the situation, then you should leave.
This reads as an ad for service (especially with the cheeky edit name dropping the provider, and OP has their post history set to private) that is basically online only (unless you live in India), has multiple currencies (and regions) listed as payment options, has no details on the qualifications of the "doctor" and the only information on him is photos of him holding trophies.
I am not saying there aren't psychosexologists, I am saying that I do not trust OP.
We first took the session like more than 8 months ago. I didn't even check his website before posting this
I’m glad you made it through this. But my god isn’t being attracted to men a humiliation ritual sometimes. They are so embarrassing.
im so glad everything is going well for you guys!
😇 it is🤞🏻
I hope more people follow your advice from the posts in this subreddit it would help a lot of couples!
I read someone else's story couple of days back. That basically gave me the courage to talk on this. I thought I was alone but I guess many suffer in the same situation so why not help them