Reposting for clarity… Okay y’all, I need some strategy because my default pettiness is just telling the truth with precision… and apparently that’s too effective 😭 I’m a Black queer woman who likes to look nice, mind my business, and keep my world peaceful. But my girlfriend’s family especially the women. They operate on some jealous, mean girl, passive aggressive type ish that I do not understand. I walk into a room and the there is a shift like I’m the problem because I’m not insecure, messy, or miserable.
They do the usual backhanded comments, weird stares, trying to exclude me, acting like remembering basic things like names is rocket science,loud talking for attention, inserting themselves when I’m being flirty with my girlfriend,treating me like I’m too much or extra because I’m put together.
Here’s my issue I’m not naturally petty. I’m accurate! When they push me, I don’t do little jabs. I accidentally drop a truth that rearranges their whole life and then I become the villain 😂 I don’t want to burn the house down with truths no one is ready to hear (even though I’m good at it). I want controlled, classy pettiness. A level of don’t play with me without becoming the main event. So, Reddit what are some smooth, subtle, classy petty moves to handle insecure mean girls? How do I block the mess without blowing everything up? Because I swear… that jealous, envious spirit be LOUD and I’m trying to stay in my positive joyful cute mode
Okay here is an example of me setting the house on fire! So let me set the scene My girlfriend’s estranged half-sister has always given me this weird, dusty Flowers in the Attic energy like she’s floating around trying to be mysterious, important, or edgy, and wants to be her sisters girlfriend but mostly just gives off girl, go get some sunlight and therapy. She has been desperately trying to force this narrative that for some reason I have a problem with her and I’m jealous because she is her sister..no I’m weirded out because she demands I’m her girlfriend energy..eeeeyyyuck! Ma’am… nobody has a problem with me but you, because I show up cute, confident, moisturized, and unbothered. Meanwhile she is constantly throwing shade for no reason! But wait it gets better.
This half-sister decided to secretly date my girlfriend’s cousin a female (yes, the one who has an on-again/off-again committed live in girlfriend, she had NO business entering) and yes once she started coming around and met the cousin for the first time in a family environment. The cousin was in the company of said girlfriend and so was the sister. Little did we know they started talking and never stoped. Everyone knew because she was coupled up with the cousin at any family event she didn’t bring her girlfriend to and told everyone she was done with her (they live in different cities BTW) She knew but played like she didn’t and was just innocently falling in love. I could see straight through her but I stayed cool and minded my business. She STILL dove in like a contestant on Flavor of Love.
Of course… her attempt at romance crumbled faster because it turned out the cousin is a compulsive, manipulative liar with the emotional intelligence of a wet sock Now here’s where I accidentally became the villain in her story.
Me? I had formed an actual bond with the cousin’s girlfriend early on. We hung out, I came to there city and stayed the weekend with them, vibed, connected, talked like grown women. Meanwhile the half-sister is off in the corner trying to stir up strife. Well my girlfriend surprised me with a bday trip to an undisclosed location and guess who her plus one was the live in girlfriend..now by this point the sister was claiming her and say they go together sharing locations and all right. One day, on this trip while talking casually with the girlfriend, I accidentally mentioned something I didn’t know was a secret basically exposing and confirming what she already knew that the sister and the cousin were acting VERY not family friendly with each other. I didn’t know it was supposed to be hush hush. I was just talking…or was I..
WELL. That truth grenade detonated EVERYTHING not on me, but on the half-sister’s entire storyline. She had been out here planting seeds, trying to paint me as problematic, jealous, weird, or messy… meanwhile I accidentally spilled ONE reality based detail that she had no business entertaining her sisters cousin and her whole house of lies fell apart. So now? Somehow of course I’m the person who tells the truth and minds my business, get labeled the liar because the REAL liar got exposed the sister and the cousin. The half sister lost control of her storyline, and the cousin was out here collecting women like Pokémon because she wasn’t the only one she was cheating with lol. And the live in girlfriend confronted her letting her know I confirmed what she already knew. It was something to witness. The math ain’t mathing but the comedy? Peak!
Now I need advice on how to navigate these mean girl, jealous women without burning down the whole family tree full of adulterous alcoholics. Because my natural level of petty is the type that ends generational cycles not arguments. I need like… a petty mastery course for beginners so I don’t accidentally destroy their toxic peace with basic honesty.
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This is unreadable.
And is not the sub for this post anyway.
I wish we could start enforcing rule 3. I'm here for stories. Idgaf about people asking for advice. This isn't an advice sub.
Edit: nevermind, just saw that "asking for advice" is an approved flair. Dunno if I want to stay here now.
I have no idea why it even is a flair here. The About section doesn't mention anything about advice. The mods should get rid of that flair imo bc it just attracts people who should be on /prorevenge or /immorallifehacks or whatever those subs are called
I’ve been here since the original post. It got taken down for being suspiciously like AI….because of punctuation and wording. It was very clearly NOT AI nor AI assisted. I encouraged her to try to repost but “dumb down” the formatting so people would help and not accuse her of BS again aaaaaand now it’s too hard to read. I get it for some parts, because it can be unclear and I know she rewrote this while quite frazzled so I’m giving her a pass here. But half the comments in here are complaining about paragraphs so I took it upon myself to make it “readable” for everyone struggling. No, I did not put this through AI. I just know how to write comprehensively!
“Reposting for clarity…
Okay y’all, I need some strategy because my default pettiness is just telling the truth with precision… and apparently that’s too effective 😭 I’m a Black queer woman who likes to look nice, mind my business, and keep my world peaceful. But my girlfriend’s family, especially the women, operate on some jealous, mean girl, passive-aggressive type ish that I do not understand. I walk into a room and there is a shift like I’m the problem because I’m not insecure, messy, or miserable.
They do the usual backhanded comments, weird stares, trying to exclude me, acting like remembering basic things like names is rocket science, loud talking for attention, inserting themselves when I’m being flirty with my girlfriend, treating me like I’m “too much” or “extra”because I’m put together.
Here’s my issue: I’m not naturally petty. I’m accurate! When they push me, I don’t do little jabs. I accidentally drop a truth that rearranges their whole life and then I become the villain 😂 I don’t want to burn the house down with truths no one is ready to hear (even though I’m good at it). I want controlled, classy pettiness. A level of don’t play with me without becoming the main event. So, Reddit, what are some smooth, subtle, classy petty moves to handle insecure mean girls? How do I block the mess without blowing everything up? Because I swear… that jealous, envious spirit be LOUD and I’m trying to stay in my positive joyful cute mode
Here is an example of me setting the house on fire! Let me set the scene: My girlfriend’s estranged half-sister has always given me this weird, dusty ‘Flowers in the Attic’ energy. Like she’s floating around, trying to be mysterious, important, or edgy, and basically wants to be her sister’s girlfriend. But mostly she just gives “girl, go get some sunlight and therapy”.
She has been desperately trying to force this narrative that, for some reason, I have a problem with her and I’m jealous because she’s her sister… No, I’m weirded out because she demands I’m her girlfriend energy. EeeeyyYUCK! Ma’am… nobody has a problem with me but you, because I show up cute, confident, moisturized, and unbothered. Meanwhile, she is constantly throwing shade for absolutely no reason!
But wait, it gets better.
This half-sister decided to secretly date my girlfriend’s cousin (another woman, and yes, one who has an on-again/off-again committed, live-in girlfriend. Half sister had NO business to enter that relationship.)
She started coming around and met the cousin for the first time in a family environment. The cousin was in the company of my aforementioned girlfriend and the half-sister. Little did my gf and I know, they started talking and never stopped. Everyone else knew because she was coupled up with the cousin at any family event that she didn’t bring her girlfriend to. On top of that, the cousin told everyone she was done with her live-in girlfriend (they live in different cities, BTW) Half-sister knew but played like she didn’t and was just innocently falling in love. I could see straight through her but I stayed cool and minded my business. She STILL dove in like a contestant on Flavor of Love.
Of course… her attempt at romance crumbled faster because it turned out the cousin is a compulsive, manipulative liar with the emotional intelligence of a wet sock.
Now here’s where I accidentally became the villain in her story.
Me? I had formed an actual bond with the cousin’s live-in girlfriend early on. We hung out, I came to their city and stayed the weekend with them. We vibed, connected, talked like grown women. Meanwhile, my girlfriend’s half-sister is off in the corner trying to stir up strife. Well, my girlfriend surprised me with a bday trip to an undisclosed location and just GUESS who her plus one was?
The live in girlfriend… Now by this point, the half-sister was claiming the cousin as her’s and said that they’re always sharing locations and all that. One day, on this trip while talking casually with the live-in girlfriend, I accidentally mentioned something I didn’t know was a secret. Basically exposing and confirming what she already knew: that the sister and the cousin were acting not at ALL family friendly with each other. I didn’t know it was supposed to be hush hush! I was just talking…or was I…? 🤫
WELL. That truth grenade detonated EVERYTHING. Not on me, but on the half-sister’s entire storyline. She had been out here planting seeds, trying to paint me as problematic, jealous, weird, or messy… Meanwhile I accidentally spilled ONE reality based detail (that she had no business entertaining her sister’s cousin) and her whole house of lies fell apart. So now? Somehow, of course, I’m the person who tells the truth and minds my business yet labeled the liar because the REAL liar got exposed. The half sister lost control of her storyline, and the cousin was out here collecting women like Pokémon because half-sister wasn’t the only one she was cheating with lol. And the live-in girlfriend confronted her, letting her know that I confirmed what she already suspected/knew. It was something to witness. The math ain’t mathing but the comedy? Peak!
Now, I need advice on how to navigate these mean girl, jealous women without burning down the whole family tree full of adulterous alcoholics. Because my natural level of petty is the type that ends generational cycles, not arguments. I need like… a petty mastery course for beginners so I don’t accidentally destroy their toxic peace with basic honesty. Best advice on how to traumatize them back in small, petty, yet effective ways?”
oh my god now I’M verified AI? good god what am i going to tell my parents. they birthed a poorly trained LLM that posts on reddit calling out AI. they’re going to be so disappointed in me
edit: wait i can just remove it LOL this is such a mess
Girl thank you!! Now your good deed has put a target on your back.
I think that the first half of the paragraph about dropping truth with precision, and many other flourishes there and in other parts, are some of the main things that people are identifying as AI coded speech patterns. I did.
"I'm not A, I'm B. I don't do X, I do Y!". "Here's my issue: "
I think these are primarily black coded patterns that AIs has picked up and introduced a lot of people to, so they now assume that they must come from those instead of from actual people.
Contrasting stuff is just classic rhetoric, it's annoying that LLMs using normal phrases makes people think it has to be generated. Can't we just stick to deeming "Family helps family" and all those other exploitative phrases as overused by LLMs?
Ding ding ding 🛎️ hit it on the head!
Well I posted a more readable version and they said it was AI so…I’m confused at this point. Just trying to post and not get banned
Try to just state the facts without all of the fluff. I also couldn't follow. You could try running it through an AI for clarity and then edit it. Maybe use names for people too? You have writing talent but for a post like this where you want advice, the writing needs to be clear and concise.
Thank you for your feedback and suggestions ☺️I do enjoy constructive criticism I can apply.
I understood it just fine. Just let them know you know the truth without spilling all the beans. Hopefully if they know what cards you hold, you may rule out of fear ....if that's what you wish to do?
Hope that’s better.
The paragraphs help a lot! And, mean girls should be ignored. They hate that.
^ This. Getting a reaction is the point of their crap - then they have something real to work with. Ignore them like a misbehaving child whose mommy is too drunk to notice? Not knowing what to do, they will they will up their look-at-me vibe and embarrass themselves even more.
An example: they say something dumb trying to spin you up while you are in the middle of a conversation - you look at them (so they know you heard) and without rolling your eyes turn back to your conversation saying "anyway ..." (so they know you think they do not matter).
Thank you I’m trying my best.
I loved reading it. Dusty flowers in the attic - priceless! I can't remember enough awesome quotes. The one about being moisturized was great!
This is waaaay too involved.
I generally have a problem with women who think other women are mean girls because they are just jealous of someone’s looks, how well they dress and basically how great they are. It sounds like you flaunt how wonderful you think you are and frankly that’s probably the real issue between you and all of those mean girls. Also you saying you are not petty just a truth teller seems like you’re justifying you being the actual mean girl.
Thanks for your opinion. I am proud of who I am because of what I have been thru. I am a happy joyful person with a bubbly personality. I don’t flaunt anything. I am truly just me! I have no pre written intention but as you have proven I am often judged as such. That’s fine because again I am proud of who I am and how I carry myself as the women I want to be. while also seeing a little of me in everyone. But there come a time where you have to stand up for your self because when folks get these type of ideas they will try to humble you like it’s the full time job. I am not justifying being a mean girl..I live the truths I uphold and it doesn’t make me better than anyone because I am human and I have and will make mistakes as I grow. But I have never intentionally tried to ostracize or isolate another human. For me when I am wronged it is easy to be honest about what I see than give a superficial snarky comeback that based in insecurity. I look to make genuine connects until the patters of there behaviors prove the are being disingenuous. I understand you do have women that have that chip on their shoulder but that is not me at all.
And saying people flaunt how wonderful they think they are says more about you. I am confident and very feminine. These women that have the issue with me are very tomboyish which is perfectly fine. Be who you are but you don’t have to gang up to throw shade to dim someone else’s light. And also..if folks are lying that makes them a nice girl but being honest and holding adults accountable for their actions that affect me makes me a mean girl?
Oh I doubt anyone can dim your light, at least not in your eyes. I’m sure it is absolutely blinding.
I fear you are right! Finally! Light only blinds people who haven’t adjusted to seeing their own. I hope you find yours.
Finding your light is wonderful but don’t try to dim or outshine the light of others.
I had an inkling just from reading the post but the way you respond to these comments shows me the problem is at least partly you.
Its screaming pick me energy and not from the girls your talking about 💀
It’s screaming “I don’t walk on eggshells, I just say it how it is.” Almost every person I’ve met with that mentality has used it to disguise the fact that, frankly, they’re abrasive and not that likable on their own merits.
It is not gossip by sending screenshots of my nieces latest brag sessions with an eye roll emoji. If you are going to put yourself out there as a braggart people will react to you as one. I happen to love my niece and have gently and privately had conversations with her about how her bragging is received. Bragging or giving the impression you think you are superior to other women simply drives a wedge between them and you and you blame them. Sorry but people do not want to be around someone who comes across thinking they are better than everyone else. If you actually have all of those qualities you claim to have there would be no reason to talk about them because people will see it. No one tells someone they don’t brag enough. Most people find bragging an undesirable trait.
lord, why is your family so malicious towards your niece-in-law, why are you so supportive of it (i’ve never once cared about what my niece- or nephews-in-law that i pay that much attention to, much less to relentlessly tear them down), and why are you so eager to tear down a stranger as well? if you feel so threatened by others and even strangers and how they carry themselves with confidence, that is on you and you ALONE. if anything, she could’ve lied to make herself look better. but she didn’t; she was honest—she can be petty. but sometimes that’s all you can do when faced with microaggressions like this, but i’m guessing that may not be relatable to you. you sound both out of your depth and miserable to the bone and i’m not surprised you have time to be commenting so much squawking on here when no one wants to be around this rancid energy. let women be confident. leave the poor girls in your family alone. had someone lifted you up and not likely done the same of instilling self-loathing and the need to shrink yourself, you too could’ve been like her and not this bitter on the internet over nothing. next time, you can just call her “uppity” and save all of us this time and energy and guesswork. be blessed!
oh btw: she hates you and doesn’t care for your “advice”. if she’s still the talk of the family after all this and hasn’t changed, she never will. i really hope this helps
Oh I’m sending this to the printer NOW!
If I think I’m the best version of myself and I truly love myself, and if you think your the best version of yourself and love who you are…I don’t see how anyone can feel superior to the other..I think instead we would appreciate each other no matter how anyone chooses to present themselves to the world. But if I don’t think I am great and I am insecure…well I would judge others and think..oh she thinks to highly of themselves. Honey you can never dream big enough! Life is to short Oh it sounds like you want her to be more like you to make you comfortable..and abide by your values..what about how she feels maybe you all never agreed with her personality and deemed her as extra..and now she tries her best to show you all she is a great person..but because it’s a group of you that agree somehow she is wrong. If you love her embrace her flaws and all! Embrace her for who she is!
Of course you think you are the best version of yourself and you definitely want everyone else to think so too. Being humble is a good quality you may want to work on.
No thanks…I have been down long enough I will live out loud and proud! As I grow and make mistakes along the way.
You do you but stop complaining when doing you causes people to treat you shitty.
Thank you I will for sure..just FYI you don’t have to be around shitty people. Exercise your power of choice and embrace others for who they are. Especially when it doesn’t affect you. I will stick to practicing the 4 noble truths as I continue to grow into emotional maturity. Is it complaining or bringing awareness to a topic that is not talked about enough when it comes to family dynamics and socializing with women. Like for example I love my dogs but I don’t allow them to lick my face/mouth, my choice. Do I deem those that do as nasty disgusting filthy people 🤮..no it doesn’t affect me if they like it I love it that’s how they choose to share affection with THEIR pet. Doesn’t make them more right or wrong than me. Thank gos for the free will to be different.
Please start living by your own advice. Exercise your will power and choose not to keep responding to me. You’ll feel better.
I find ignoring subtext pisses them the fuck off - it a form of “grey rocking”. They get catty about how nice you look, accept the compliment and sail off confident in your bad-ass-ness.
Also, the look that’s basically this: 🤔 without the hand - that neutral look with one arched eyebrow - and then not responding is also excellent. The “I see right through you, and you’re not worth the energy” vibe.
Any attention is better than no attention for a lot of these types. Laughing at their BS narratives also gets under their skin.
I agree, ignoring the pettiness and taking everything as a compliment is super frustrating for someone trying to mess with you.
The best and also most subtle insult to someone who constanty shares their negative opinions of you is to embody an “I don’t care what you think” attitude I reckon.
I run with “dignity is overrated”, so those types don’t know what to do with someone who acts the fool and making self-deprecating jokes.
I’m also really bad at social cues, so most of the time I don’t even realize someone was trying to be catty.
That is good I’m gonna try incorporate that one. Also yeah I miss the cues a lot too, that’s how I found out that ignoring these things frustrates people - I was already doing it just by accident.
Yes I have been doing a lot of that! But the itch is still there…reading the responses and cackling to my self helps also lol
Yes this is a winner
You described yourself as “unbothered” a couple times, but you don’t come across as an unbothered person at all. It’s hard to imagine this post would exist if you were.
When I know people don’t like me or they act passive-aggressive towards me or whatever, I just ignore them and continue living my life because I genuinely don’t care lol. Do they know I’m ignoring them? Do they know I don’t care? Does it piss them off? I don’t know and I don’t care lol.
You don’t seem to be able to do that, though. You need to work on that.
Thank you!!! And I am actively aware of this and working on it. I do have a limit and I am unbothered. But when you have been genuinely making connections with people it does through you off once they start throwing little jabs. But lately for the most part I act like I don’t hear them..but yes not caring would help but I am human and I do care how others respect me and treat me. But I am working on outing the 4 noble truths into practice.
Paragraphs are a wonderful thing.
Paragraphs would need to do a lot of heavy lifting to help this mess.
Oh... She made "paragraphs".... they just not the paragraphs we used to. Some "MLAfmao" format paragraphs.
Again, I wrote that way intentionally. My initial post got removed because someone flagged as not human…but thanks for proving that you can’t please everyone. If I want my post to be edited for publishing, I will contact a professional. I’m just seeking petty advice.
There is a middle ground of “writing like AI” and “making it unreadable”
I agree. That’s why this is a repost. The original had paragraphs but I was flagged and not being human. Ughh I can’t win I guess.
Needed more "..."s that shows you a real ass human millenial.. but you gotta mix in a couple ..'s and regular old ass .'s Cuz sometimes we do that too... AI is the threat gurl! Stay human!!
Lord now I have to learn how to write to prove I’m human🤣 I took all that stuff out because I thought it was where I went wrong. I even had a bullet points lol.
You're welcome ai tech. Now you know how to be more human.
you’re absolutely delusional to think AI would reply like this. yall are falling for sora videos of straight misinformation but up in arms and, frankly, being rude as hell over a reddit post asking for advice that maybe, possibly, POTENTIALLY could be AI. or because the paragraphs aren’t good enough for you. or because it makes no sense. brah, are you the AI? why do you care so badly about this post you need to convince yourself and everyone else she’s some kind of fraud? just moving the goalpost and being disingenuous. just going off your username, try living and being more pono. this is disappointing and silly behavior.
What is sora technology?
Look up Jefferson Fisher. He focuses on communication skills.
You are very vested in this in a very unhealthy way. It seems that you are relishing being involved in this sordid affair and are almost giddy by being able to ensnare yourself further.
Have you ever been caught in an uncomfortable truth..one event it’s a different person and at other events it’s the girlfriend. And one person is just happy to have them both..then you get asked how was such and such event only to accidentally confirm that certain people was there…she already knew the truth. Knew more than I did and I witnessed the bold public acts..do you know that everyone family knew she was being cheated on except for her. That is horrible..but I am just suppose to walk around like nope not my business..I am not giddy about any of it. I am proud to stand in integrity and do what is honest!
Why are you so aggressive? I think you are one of those mean girls you complained about. At least I hold convos with my niece in private instead of embarrassing her in front of others. You should try it.
How did you get aggression from anything I said? I fear you are trying to pivot via deflecting..
I followed easily but I understand tone in writing and even though the relatives are messy- the easiest way to deal with messy egoists is to be lightly preoccupied, refer them to books to read or insist they hear a song , but you have a plan already to immediately leave to talk to your love when it plays, so its a double benefit.
Sounds like you're the problem.
Describing your partner’s 1/2 sister as someone who gives off Flower in the Attic vibes isn’t malicious? Interfering in her relationship and outing in her to others isn’t malicious? What the 1/2 sister does with your partner’s cousin is none of your business. You said your gf’s cousin not your gf and her sister’s cousin so are the 1/2 sister and your partner’s cousin even related? Even if they are it’s still none of your business. Stop being malicious to your gf’s family.
It is my business when you bring it into my space for date nights and more! It is my business when my integrity is tested..that the problem yall like to sweep uncomfortable things people do under the rug. Honesty seems malicious to those who like to hide behind their lie..stop it with all the malicious talk…how do you know what conversations I have had with them in private…and I didn’t embarrass anyone..their actions embarrassed them…but they shift blame kind of how your trying to do…if you are doing wrong and telling lies on me I will tell the truth on you! Be gone!
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Lady read the room! Why would I care to have emotional closeness and vulnerability with someone that does the things she did. That’s called situational awareness. I don’t have to be understood, as you’ve demonstrated once a judgmental person has made their mind up about you, there is nothing you can do about it. You would love to hear me tear myself down wouldn’t you? Nope spent too much on therapy because of people just like you. This is fun..please continue giving us a live example. Bless your heart! Is this not what Reddit is for? To ask a question or advice?
I didn’t suggest you have emotional closeness or vulnerability to your gf’s sister. I simply suggested that instead of looking for suggestions on how to be masterful at being petty you actually have an adult conversation with the woman. But I guess you’d have to actually be an adult to do that.
It was difficult to read but you do have a talent for writing and metaphors haha. Man that Flavor of Love show sure was something!
And about your request, I don’t really think they need your help, they will implode all on their own. Just never back down or change yourself to meet them halfway unless you really want to destroy them but would that cause your gf any backlash? Not worth it… I would rather keep doing what I’m doing and have my popcorn ready for the next shit storm for sure!
Yes, I will do the right thing as usual. Just needed to get this out for public opinion and a few cackles to myself. My girlfriend is seeing it too and has called a few folks out on it so I don’t have to say a word. But if it wasn’t for me having integrity even in the face of adversity..boy oh boy!
Us monsters have to keep the peace you know? Not everyone can be out there acting like garbage hahaha jk. I also love being petty but often restrain myself unless they’ve been poking the bear and then I am being asked to keep my hands closed when they tie me to the stake!
I just go with Southern F* you when I'm trying to be classy. Like "bless your heart" or "I'll pray for you" and theres many many more that I am not recalling right now. You could honestly probably Google "southern comebacks and insults" and you'd have a treasure trove of slow burn, classy, bug off energy.
My southern grandma is a savage, all while keeping it classy.
mm reading all that mess like what even is happening here
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I am aloud to brag on myself and honestly I am often told I am too nice and don’t brag enough. I am graceful hints why I am asking for advice. Again you have know idea the adversities I have faced. But for the sake of your argument. You’re saying I flaunt myself because I describe how I present myself. I barely post on my socials. Because I find real joy in living life! I think you are reading me through the lenses of your dislike for your family member. I fear the actions you described that you and you family gossip about proves my point. I won’t argue your view it’s interesting you confuse confidence for conceit. I posted honestly about my experiences and how I have been treated by some women not to “flaunt” anything. If that touched a nerve that’s your perception and not my intention. I guess that was you trying to humble me? Not your place sweetheart. Brag on yourself more it works wonders for confidence and self esteem, you deserve it!
What works is making every mean girl comment unpleasant for them. Coming back every single time with a put down is effective.
It works because it instead of getting a good feeling from being mean (powerful and superior), they get a bad feeling (embarrassment or shame).
A good put down is short, truthful and a little humorous. For example “thats rich coming from …. “ is a classic because you can tailor it.
Consistency is key.
Thank you!!
theres a saying
Never wrestle a pig, you'' just end up sore, sweaty and dirty whilst the pig _likes_ it.
you playing fuck fuck games with them, makes you no better than they are
This is an unreadable pile of words.
At least you tried.. next time add a little personality.
Keep a small bottle of lotion handy. Next time one starts wait about halfway then blink hard a few times and shake your head, reach for the lotion, hand it to her and say, “ I’m sorry I couldn’t focus on what you were saying with your ashy elbows screaming at me.”
Now this one here!!! The sarcasm alone! Kill them with kindness
Might even throw in an, “Oh honey.”
Interested in reading but need some sort of paragraphs
The first "paragraph" had me interested... but im saving the post and checking back in for a tldr later..
Ban advice posts
You spent half the time explaining how unbothered you are. So unbothered you wrote this entire post. Yes, very unbothered 🙄
I say keep doing what you're doing🤷🏾♀️
I love the way you tell your story; too funny!! As a woman of light don’t give them any of it!! Karma has a way of dealing with these people and if you’re lucky you’ll get to see it happen!! Lots of love and light to you!!