The St. Croix river is beautiful and that’s the only nice thing I can say about Stillwater. There’s a lot of conservative assholes there

I’m in Stillwater pretty frequently because of all the antique stores there. My partner and I are both visibly queer and neither of us have had any issues there. I frequently see other queer people as well. I like it there, but I have no insight as to how it is to actually live there. I know that general area tends to swing pretty conservative. I definitely don’t think it’s the worst place you could live.

It’s a suburb, so more people may give you shit for existing (especially as a parent), but other than that you should be fine. Stillwater itself is a nice place, at least all of the times I’ve been there. 

If you step outside the twin cities, you are no longer protected by the twin cities. It gets very rural & conservative very fast. I was stunned at how rural & Christian it got like even 30 minutes outside of the twins

I like stillwater. I lived in the area as a teen and its close enough to the cities while not being in the cities. Im not sure how things are for trans people since I transitioned young but its fairly conservative. I would expect most people you meet to be conservative. If youre fine with that its not bad and you're right by a few nice state parks.

I have a friend, a trans woman, who lives in Stillwater. I'll ask her to find and comment on this thread.

i love to visit stillwater but…its one of the few places i’ve been angrily stared at for just existing. i would never live there as someone who looks very gender ambiguous

Stillwater is a little blue river town surrounded by more conservative suburbs and exurbs. In general, I’d say y’all would be pretty safe in the city limits. And you’re close enough to get to the main urban hubs within a fairly reasonable amount of driving time. It’s a really pretty and cute place!

Hey, I grew up in Stillwater, and was in high school there like a decade ago. It’s beautiful visually, but is trying to paint itself as progressive in a way that it just isn’t. I was treated horribly as a queer autistic kid, by peers and adults alike, and have heard many stories similar to mine. All my trans friends were closeted for survival. Not related but important—eating disorders are absolutely rampant and unaddressed among young girls at the schools. There are good public resources, the library and the river are beautiful, and I know there have been some other changes recently. Still, I resent the culture and can’t shake the uneasiness when I visit; I wouldn’t raise my kids there.

Stillwater is very very pretty, and theres plenty to do but its still... stillwater. I'm a visibly genderqueer trans woman and I've definitely had some strange looks and glares, but nothing too too crazy. Some lists still classify Stilly as a sundown town but people will give you conflicting reports on that. What I can say for sure is that its a gorgeous place to visit, perfect for a family outting kind of day, I probably wouldnt want to move there myself personally but thats just me. I will say Stillwater high school is absolutely massive. Its bigger than several college campuses so keep that in mind. There are also several neighboring towns and townships around. Love my suburban east side.

I’m a trans teacher (mostly stealth but obviously gay) and have worked in Stillwater on and off for about 3-4 years, never really had issues with students/parents/other teachers. I did get a bit of a weird vibe at a coffee shop downtown once but I think it was because literally everyone else there seemed to be a regular and I was there doing work lol. Can’t speak to living there but working has been fine.