(I'm an ob-gyn. The youngest I saw was a 9.5 yo who got pregnant right after her ninth birthday. Her parents didn't want her to get an abortion. Poor girl.)
No one ever says that it's selfish to have a good day because someone out there is getting married and having the best day of her life. "Don't you feel silly with your minor happiness next to someone else's true joy?"
In an online discussion I was in years ago about suffering, someone said "This isn't the Suffering Olympics". It doesn't matter who's doing worse or who had the worse day because it isn't a competition. Damn straight!
“the starving homeless pregnant with triplets 5year old orphan dying of both brain and lung cancer with an addiction to drugs and I forgot to mention they are paralysed and have 50 traumatic events and in a war zone rn. They are the only person who gets to feel sad, okay 5 year old in the same situation but with only 49 traumatic events”
Years ago, someone said "This isn't the Suffering Olympics" and I loved that. There's no gold, silver, or bronze for drowning in deeper water than others, to use that metaphor.
I fucking hate the reductionism, but this shit made me feel a little better right now actually. Probably because I wasn't feeling too bad from the start, idk.
Oddly reminds me of when I was in my early 20s and ended up pregnant due to rape.. Far too many people told me, "At least you didn't get pregnant as a teen!" 😒
Ngl as shitty as it is, I don’t think teen pregnancy is the absolute worst thing that could possibly be happening to a person at this current age. The world must be pretty damn sunshine and lollipops right now if this is the furthest bar for tragic occurrences
I didn’t say it’s without its damage, just that if all the things currently going on in the world, teen pregnancy is rather underwhelming of a bar to set
Yes, we should start telling them to deal with it as they aren’t the starving homeless pregnant with triplets 5year old orphan dying of both brain and lung cancer with an addiction to drugs and I forgot to mention they are paralysed and have 50 traumatic events and in a war zone rn/s
Yeah, loads of people suffer things that I haven't suffered yet. Yeah, my life is relatively easy. But even my set of health problems (including but not limited to chronic depression) and social barriers are enough that I have trouble finding joy, and sometimes think my life is barely endurable, emotionally. Therefore, I worry that my life will become intolerable agony of some tye(s) if any of those bad things happen to me. Thus it's really not...comforting? Inspiring? Whatever this is intended as?...to be reminded about them. Actually, I don't think I would be happy about (most) peoples' suffering anyway.
People who say shit like this, which just boils down to "if someone else has it worse than you than you can't feel bad", always end up getting offended at the symmetrical approach of "if someone has it better than you then you can't feel good".
Well, I am certain somewhere in a 3rd world country some kid just died of starvation. While this is absolutely tragic, what the fuck does it change for my current situation where my head is actively trying to yeet us out of existence at every given possibility???
If it was my kid I would emphasize that she should always come to me for stuff like that then we talk about it and decide together what course of action to take and i will be there to offer supaport at every step no mater the choice be it abortion adoption or whatever else....
Omg i just realised what sub it is and it totally went over my head
Ah yes, the argument that means that at all given times on Earth, only ONE human may be allowed to feel bad for themself. Before of course succumbing to whatever terrible things they have going on.
Because only the one who truly has it the worst may complain.
Such an utterly brain-cells-reducing way of thinking 😌
When I was thirteen, I was so worried about getting pregnant, I asked my teacher how much alcohol it would take to kill a fetus. Abortion is legal where I live but my mom is highly against abortion. Years later, I asked, when we talked about abortion, I asked her what she would have done if I would have been pregnant as a teen. She said we somehow would have managed it without abortion.
And this is the reason I believe abortion rights are important. This is the reason why I believe we should have resources so obvious, that no one ever will wonder again how much they have to poison their own body to kill a fetus.
(I wasn't sexually active at this time, neither had interest in it at all, but I was so scared of getting pregnant. In the end I ended up being a trans man in mostly straight relationships so I'm glad I don't have to worry about pregnancy)
My OCD makes me stay up at night thinking about this type of thing and how I can't do anything to help them, I think of random girls I babysat growing up or cousins, friends younger siblings and suddenly panic worrying that something happened to them and I'm not there to help. A lot of people have these types of intrusive thoughts that never seem to stop
For most people your problems are in your head. People have it worse and feel better, you should take steps to improve your mental health, whether that's exercising, going outside, joining local clubs, limiting your screen time to an hour or 2 a day or even entirely quitting social media.
Dude, not taking care of yourself is a symptom of depression, not the cause of it. Depression is defined by a general apathy towards one’s self and an unwillingness to self preserve. Any effort made to “just go outside and smell the roses” would feel dull as the problem isn’t addressed
People having it worse makes people with real empathy even more sad and tired of this depressing word. You can't exercise if you have no energy and no motivation and you don't really care about your health. Some of us living in urban hells hate the outside. And clubs can drive you crazy if you are an introvert who hates socialising. So what's left to do than staying home and doomscrolling to kill some time?
Does pregnant 15yo win the award for the only person who gets to complain today?
No. She's told that there's a 12 y.o. girl that just found out she's pregnant.
Do I have to go back in time to complain then?
Yes, the earliest age that allows one to bear children. But even then, what if another girl of the same age is having twins?
The 5 year old girl who was pregnant somehow
Precocious puberty for the win!
(I'm an ob-gyn. The youngest I saw was a 9.5 yo who got pregnant right after her ninth birthday. Her parents didn't want her to get an abortion. Poor girl.)
WHAT‽ WHY‽
Ugh, Christ, Jesus, God, Christianity, Sanctity of Life, Republican GOP……or something like that
what, why... (╥﹏╥)(╥﹏╥)༼;´༎ຶ ༎ຶ༽༼;´༎ຶ ༎ຶ༽༎ຶ‿༎ຶ༎ຶ‿༎ຶ
Yes. But you also have to get pregnant.
And that 12 y.o can't complain, cause they have food to eat, unlike the starving kids in Africa.
Yeah no, those starving kids in africa can't complain, there's a pregnant 12 y.o starving somewhere in africa
No, that 12 year old can't complain, there's a pregnant five year old starving in South America
No, that 5 year old can't complain, there's a pregnant 5 year old starving and losing their homes in the islands of the pacific ocean
No, that 5 yo can't complain, there are dead people in mass graves somewhere
using a Vinland Saga pic makes this statement so much worse
Holy shit, is it truly you? John Paradox!
yes it is I, John Paradox
What an ugly thing to say.
As someone who found out they were pregnant at 17, I’d do that 20times over than live through the hell of this chronic illness.
Username kinda checks out!
No one ever says that it's selfish to have a good day because someone out there is getting married and having the best day of her life. "Don't you feel silly with your minor happiness next to someone else's true joy?"
This is such a bizarre thing to say
Same logic as "why are you so happy? someone else out there has it better than you!"
putting down someone else to feel better about my life is like, the worst way to try and make me feel better, if anything this makes me feel worse
I always hate this argument because it means only one person is allowed to complain at any given time and that person is probably dying
In an online discussion I was in years ago about suffering, someone said "This isn't the Suffering Olympics". It doesn't matter who's doing worse or who had the worse day because it isn't a competition. Damn straight!
“the starving homeless pregnant with triplets 5year old orphan dying of both brain and lung cancer with an addiction to drugs and I forgot to mention they are paralysed and have 50 traumatic events and in a war zone rn. They are the only person who gets to feel sad, okay 5 year old in the same situation but with only 49 traumatic events”
Stop gaslighting yourself. both things can be true
Lmao
Tbh that just makes me more sad for a variety of reasons 😭
back in the day my aunt got pregnant at 12
So I guess no one wins here /j
just because someone is drowning in 30ft deep water doesn't mean that the person drowning in 12ft deep water isn't drowning anymore
I will now use this metaphor from now on. 😆
Years ago, someone said "This isn't the Suffering Olympics" and I loved that. There's no gold, silver, or bronze for drowning in deeper water than others, to use that metaphor.
I fucking hate the reductionism, but this shit made me feel a little better right now actually. Probably because I wasn't feeling too bad from the start, idk.
Oddly reminds me of when I was in my early 20s and ended up pregnant due to rape.. Far too many people told me, "At least you didn't get pregnant as a teen!" 😒
Somewhere someone thought of something actually smart and insightful to say. Why did the creator even write anything?
If only negating my suffering made it go away
My life isnt as bad as that english.
That's a meme format
https://preview.redd.it/urj7s5mg136g1.jpeg?width=736&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d5b20f84375008e2137228c547803e93c698bb4e
That girl is fucked
Ngl as shitty as it is, I don’t think teen pregnancy is the absolute worst thing that could possibly be happening to a person at this current age. The world must be pretty damn sunshine and lollipops right now if this is the furthest bar for tragic occurrences
It could be what totally fucks someone's world up. You have no idea.
I didn’t say it’s without its damage, just that if all the things currently going on in the world, teen pregnancy is rather underwhelming of a bar to set
Yes, we should start telling them to deal with it as they aren’t the starving homeless pregnant with triplets 5year old orphan dying of both brain and lung cancer with an addiction to drugs and I forgot to mention they are paralysed and have 50 traumatic events and in a war zone rn/s
Yeah, loads of people suffer things that I haven't suffered yet. Yeah, my life is relatively easy. But even my set of health problems (including but not limited to chronic depression) and social barriers are enough that I have trouble finding joy, and sometimes think my life is barely endurable, emotionally. Therefore, I worry that my life will become intolerable agony of some tye(s) if any of those bad things happen to me. Thus it's really not...comforting? Inspiring? Whatever this is intended as?...to be reminded about them. Actually, I don't think I would be happy about (most) peoples' suffering anyway.
The 14 yo who is pregnant can't complain
People who say shit like this, which just boils down to "if someone else has it worse than you than you can't feel bad", always end up getting offended at the symmetrical approach of "if someone has it better than you then you can't feel good".
Okay I get the sentiment but this isn’t supposed to be serious it’s a meme even if not a great one
Well, I am certain somewhere in a 3rd world country some kid just died of starvation. While this is absolutely tragic, what the fuck does it change for my current situation where my head is actively trying to yeet us out of existence at every given possibility???
If it was my kid I would emphasize that she should always come to me for stuff like that then we talk about it and decide together what course of action to take and i will be there to offer supaport at every step no mater the choice be it abortion adoption or whatever else....
Omg i just realised what sub it is and it totally went over my head
Thanks now I feel bad for her too and my day got worse
Pretty sure this is a meme making fun of the “someone always has it worse”
Yo, where they holding the Suffering Olympics this year?
wtf
Ah yes, the argument that means that at all given times on Earth, only ONE human may be allowed to feel bad for themself. Before of course succumbing to whatever terrible things they have going on.
Because only the one who truly has it the worst may complain.
Such an utterly brain-cells-reducing way of thinking 😌
These kinds of memes do help ngl
I genuinely wish I was in that scenario because it's so much better than mine. Is it that bad now?
When I was thirteen, I was so worried about getting pregnant, I asked my teacher how much alcohol it would take to kill a fetus. Abortion is legal where I live but my mom is highly against abortion. Years later, I asked, when we talked about abortion, I asked her what she would have done if I would have been pregnant as a teen. She said we somehow would have managed it without abortion.
And this is the reason I believe abortion rights are important. This is the reason why I believe we should have resources so obvious, that no one ever will wonder again how much they have to poison their own body to kill a fetus.
(I wasn't sexually active at this time, neither had interest in it at all, but I was so scared of getting pregnant. In the end I ended up being a trans man in mostly straight relationships so I'm glad I don't have to worry about pregnancy)
Or did a delusional reality just become reality?
My OCD makes me stay up at night thinking about this type of thing and how I can't do anything to help them, I think of random girls I babysat growing up or cousins, friends younger siblings and suddenly panic worrying that something happened to them and I'm not there to help. A lot of people have these types of intrusive thoughts that never seem to stop
CONSEQUENCES OF HER OWN ACTIONS (unless it's rape in which case I feel so sorry for her)
I DIDN'T CHOOSE TO BE THIS
I like this
you guys can’t take jokes, holy 😭
You are all weird
For most people your problems are in your head. People have it worse and feel better, you should take steps to improve your mental health, whether that's exercising, going outside, joining local clubs, limiting your screen time to an hour or 2 a day or even entirely quitting social media.
Dude, not taking care of yourself is a symptom of depression, not the cause of it. Depression is defined by a general apathy towards one’s self and an unwillingness to self preserve. Any effort made to “just go outside and smell the roses” would feel dull as the problem isn’t addressed
None of these help with any of my problems.
bro if this shit was easy i'd be living my happiest life rn
You think life is meant to be easy? People do hard things all the time... What are you talking about?
You say as if it was a simple process, my brain literally struggles to produce the chemical stuff that makes life bearable
I wish it was that easy
People having it worse makes people with real empathy even more sad and tired of this depressing word. You can't exercise if you have no energy and no motivation and you don't really care about your health. Some of us living in urban hells hate the outside. And clubs can drive you crazy if you are an introvert who hates socialising. So what's left to do than staying home and doomscrolling to kill some time?
r/thanksimcured ...oh wait
Your brain is still part of your body yk that right? Some things that are mental health related are biological and due to physical brain structures.
Also, this is what I get told in response to my severe physical disabilities. It really isn't helpful to tell this to anyone, mental health or not.
Where’s your Psychology PhD from?🙄
Same place yours is from lol
I’m not the one giving worthless advice lol
Well Sherlock, last time I checked depression isn't stored in the knees
Funny way of saying "you're right" lol
No, it's just that you people keep saying it as dismissal when it's literally an illness in the brain
And people like you have a visceral reaction when people point out things you can do to try and help yourself.
That's not how disorders work fyi. Otherwise I would've just chosen to be better
Are you taking steps to improve your mental health? Or are you sitting in a messy dark room staring at a screen doom scrolling?
Improving, but I suppose you only see the bad days when someone struggles.