This is the longest way to say “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, I’ve ever seen. The fact is it’s not always true. Even when it is true, it takes a shit load of work and time to get there, usually. But some losses, failures, and wounds just leave you scarred and diminished for life, and you just…. learn to live with it. Not in any way stronger, but surviving. This post is the mental/emotional equivalent of saying how “lucky” someone with a severe physical disability is, and frankly it’s just as friggin tone deaf and gross. There’s a huge difference between surviving and actually living, and posts like these ignore it. I read them as saying “Hurry up and feel better so I don’t have to practice the compassion I’m preaching and before your pain makes me have to start dealing with all the shit I’m masking.”
It is true you can’t be too afraid of loss or you’ll paralyze yourself, but neither should anyone expect you to just be okay and graceful about it when life kicks you square in the teeth.
learning from bad experiences is good but people say this so much it sounds straight up delusional people so refuse to accept that bad shit happens for no reason and choose to just think its a way of god testing you if religious or its always an opportunity to grow bad things are bad there isnt a second layer and most of the time there isnt much or anything even to learn from at all just learn how to avoid pain and if theres something you cant control either seek support or marinate in misery for however much you like if its not serious tears are valuable for clarity of mind and it might help you understand how to fix this shit or at the very least move on
It's true you can learn from bad situations, but that doesn't mean I have to enjoy the fact my life sucks in ways I can't control.
Also can but not must, and if life sucks for a long time you are tired at soem points.
Yes you got this exactly.
This is the longest way to say “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, I’ve ever seen. The fact is it’s not always true. Even when it is true, it takes a shit load of work and time to get there, usually. But some losses, failures, and wounds just leave you scarred and diminished for life, and you just…. learn to live with it. Not in any way stronger, but surviving. This post is the mental/emotional equivalent of saying how “lucky” someone with a severe physical disability is, and frankly it’s just as friggin tone deaf and gross. There’s a huge difference between surviving and actually living, and posts like these ignore it. I read them as saying “Hurry up and feel better so I don’t have to practice the compassion I’m preaching and before your pain makes me have to start dealing with all the shit I’m masking.”
It is true you can’t be too afraid of loss or you’ll paralyze yourself, but neither should anyone expect you to just be okay and graceful about it when life kicks you square in the teeth.
Yet this post got 50 upvotes on the sub I found it. Go figure...
learning from bad experiences is good but people say this so much it sounds straight up delusional people so refuse to accept that bad shit happens for no reason and choose to just think its a way of god testing you if religious or its always an opportunity to grow bad things are bad there isnt a second layer and most of the time there isnt much or anything even to learn from at all just learn how to avoid pain and if theres something you cant control either seek support or marinate in misery for however much you like if its not serious tears are valuable for clarity of mind and it might help you understand how to fix this shit or at the very least move on
Garbage wrapped in Jim Morrison style faux profundity.