I am a 26 years old male from Eastern Europe and I'm honestly not sure what is my actual exact height right now but I'm gonna say that I'm around 162cm (so around 5'4") for now I guess and the average height here is almost around 180cm for guys and around 166-168cm for women where I live. I always have had actual health problems such as severe depression and anxiety/stress and even certain severe enough eating problems and sleeping problems (aka insomnia) ever since my childhood and I was also two months premature as well. I'm almost certain one of these things have contributed to my short stature at the very least and I really feel like I should have been around 172-175cm at the very least if I didn't have had these kind of health problems in my life especially ever since my childhood formative years. I also really wanted to make this post here for about a year or two (if not even more) at this point right now.
I also don't really know the exact height of both biological parents but I've been told that my biological mother was either 162cm or 165cm or even 170cm (which would had been quite very unusual to say the least) and my biological grandmother (which was basically my "actual" mother if that makes sense) was around the same height though her mother is apparently at around 158cm from what I've heard so that would probably explain why I'm so short pretty well enough but that's still pretty bizarre to be the same height as my biological mother or even shorter than her regardless. My stepfather is around 182-185cm according to my family and my family doesn't know the height of my biological father according to them. I've also been measured at around 165cm by my parents during the evenings back when I was 16 years old with the same exact conditions before. I didn't even know that I was considered short back then 10 years ago despite the fact that my parents actually told me something about that back when they had measured me at home 10 years ago and I also didn't know that being short would be a serious problem for me in almost all aspects of my life especially when in terms of social interactions even outside of dating because I was homeschooled for most of my school years and didn't socialise that much either. I also have been lurking this sub somewhat active enough ever since around 2016-2018 and have been lurking here almost every week since around either 2018 or 2020. I also made one post here back in March 2020 about some of my height insecurities before and I also feel too depressed and insecure about the fact that I'm actually around my biological mother's height if not even shorter because it's something that's extremely rare and also that I've almost never seen anyone really talk about this on both of the subreddits either for so many years as well meanwhile I've seen the absolute opposite of that happening so many times here over the years at this point as well.
I started to realise that I'm short ever since I went to college especially after I became 18 years old and also have had experienced some height related bullying back then but I didn't think being short was actually all that bad until around 2020 which was when I started to get bullied about my height by my own family sometimes ever since then most probably because I'm one of the shortest guys if not the shortest guy in my family but haven't been bullied this year from them though. I was usually being treated like a child by them and wasn't really being respected by them and I also have had certain negative comments about my height a few times sometimes over the years as well which was about that I won't ever be able to be around with girls because they would find me disgusting all because of my height and other similar things such as not being able to protect myself and my girlfriend if I ever manage to get one in the first place. They've even blamed my height on me even though I couldn't do anything about my severe eating and sleeping problems at all especially during my childhood and teenager years and absolutely nothing about the fact I was two months premature. I actually started becoming more and more insecure about my height after all of that and started actively lurking this sub ever since. The fact that I also also look so much younger than my actual age doesn't help either. I actually used to have a girlfriend once back in 2016 which didn't last long at all and also have had some few female friends from my school since around that time as well which are around the same height as me if not even a bit taller than me which I haven't talked with them that much for the past few years either and never really have had any other IRL friends other than them though some of these IRL friends especially the taller girl actually bullied me before as well and can't help but to think my height was a part of that at least considering that I've actually went outside with her and one of her friends once before that was also above average height wise as well back then.
My parents also have seemed to measure me at around 162cm during the evenings for so many years now ever since 2020 consistently which I'm not sure if whether that's my actual height after all these years even though I've also been measured at 168cm once back a few years ago during a medical checkup which had happened in the mornings so I'm not exactly sure about that to be honest and I've also been measured at 165cm once before back in early 2015 with the same exact conditions as before but that absolutely made me even more depressed for quite a while afterwards especially last year to the point where I genuinely thought that I should just basically forget about socialising and women altogether and almost never go outside after that if that's my actual height at this point.
I honestly feel like my life is straight up worthless most especially because of my height and that there's zero point for me to do anything at all because of how society treats short guys and that I should just basically give up on life altogether because it's not for me at all even though I've actually also had started to come to terms with my autism/aspergers diagnosis and my height this year somewhat after such a long time right now but I still keep thinking about both my autism/aspergers diagnosis and my height almost every day and can't accept myself and these flaws regardless. I also don't want to move out from Eastern Europe just because of my height either and also don't have the exact ability to do that even if I actually wanted to do that in the first place. I really wish that my parents had taken my health problems much more serious during my childhood and teenager years so that I could had become 172cm-175cm at the very least but I also couldn't exactly do that because of all these health problems around as a whole so it's not my fault for that either I think.
Save up for Limb lengthening surgery, some guy went from 5'5 to 6ft in a year doing it in Turkey or move to asia where height matters less
Your life isn't worthless and you aren't either. That really is internalized heightism speaking. It's difficult to get over it but it's possible. And some goals will be more difficult but please attempt doing what you dream of doing.
My brother,im also from Eastern Europe and also born 3 months premature with HGH deficiency and alot of other health problems,ive been on HGH injections from age 11 to 17, now im 22 and 165cm tall (5'5) I promise u its all in ur head If u need someone to talk to hit me up,u are not alone <3
I realise that you're genuinely trying to be supportive and stuff but I don't really think being made fun by my family members in multiple occasions literally because of certain things which are obviously well outside of my control is exactly just in my head to be honest though and I haven't done a single thing to deserve that kind of fucked up treatment whether you believe it or not for real and I'm not some average/tall height guy here either. Well I haven't actually been bullied this year by them for what it's worth thankfully right now though (and they also have actually admitted that heightism is a real problem for me a few days ago which wasn't something I had expected) but still have had a few similar enough situations with some strangers early this year (but not exactly as bad at the same time either) however but yeah I'm still trying to stay positive at all times despite of everything what had happened in my life regardless no matter what.
5'2"M, I am taking antidepressants (escitalopram)
We've all had negative experiences regarding our height, but I think at least some of your mental health issues stem from what sounds like a very chaotic and inconsistent upbringing. Your real father seems to be unknown to you (have I read that right?). There's a lot of familial bullying and derogatory remarks directed at you, and I'm not sure what's going on with all the 'measuring' but that's guaranteed to give you a complex. Even if you had hit the magic 175cm mark, I'd wager someone with your childhood would still be prone to depression.
My experience of life has been that it's ultimately mentally stable folk from nurturing families who more readily overcome any other deficiencies, who know how to make others feel good or have innate selfworth that's not easily demolished by the casual cruelty of others. Rather than emblematically pin all these other traumas onto your height and oversimplify that as the sole reason for your depression, I'd seek therapy regards your rather beastly-sounding family and childhood. Dating and also just plain socialising will be more challenging if you're short, especially if you encounter bullies of either sex, but romantic happiness will be far from impossible. But first you have to do a deep dive on your general non-height-related unhappiniess which is palpable even from just reading a few paragraphs.
Edited: What’s the thing want most in your life?
just Geo maxx bro,
Move to a different country man, to some place where height won't matter that much. And as long as u can earn decent being European makes you a shiny object for women.