heightpill is killing me. i feel bad every time i hear the words "short/tall/height etc" or even see numbers that are often used to describe height and i can't do anything about it. i'm not that short, but heightpill/blackpill content is always bothering me. "height doesn't matter" phrase sounds so mocking from the 5'10+ guy, like bro, you will never understand what do i feel. there are lots of situations when people don't even notice me. i remember i was spending time with my friends in summer, we were walking and met our classmates, and they joined our company. we were walking this composition for like 20 minutes and then one girl said "oh, you're there too! i didn't even notice". just kill me already. am i joke?? and this is just one situation out of a hundred. literally born in a body that makes me feel humiliated every time i go outside. no one will feel safe with me, because short dudes are always seem weak, pathetic and not able to defend from anyone. i was using heel pads to make myself look an inch taller. my feet were very sore and tired because of this, but i endured it just because i hate my height. some people ruin their lives with leg-lengthening surgeries. this is an example of how heightpill and the internet in general can negatively affect a person. well, it's not only heightpill content. "jokes" are taking the big part of it too. maybe if i wasn't bullied in the middle school because of my height, i probably wouldn't be so ashamed of my height. i know that's weird. but i literally can't get out of it. i need an advice. has anyone else suffered from heightpill? and how did you escape? (sorry for venting)

  • Heighpill def sucks but aside from short, what other positive adjectives would you use to describe yourself? After thinking about it and coming up with those answers, what other positive adjectives would you like to add in the future?

    Personally , I'd list strong, fast, athletic, scrappy, intuitive, creative, positive, flirtatious, kind, funny, caring, witty, generous, altruistic, mysterious, artistic, poetic.

    I'd like to eventually add multilingual, wealthy, financially free, punctual, organized, flexible, ripped.

  • how tall are you?

    Imagine he says 5’9💀

    make him walk the plank

  • So as a short dude the requirement will inevitably almost always fall on you to make the approach, rather than being approached. And this dynamic extends likely to all facets of life, from social circles, jobs, random passing opportunities in life, etc.

    The issue unattractive and short ppl have is that they are never allowed to practice that approaching in their respective home environments (hometown, highschool, university, workplace), because they've been certified as low status in those communities and the women wont associate with him lest they lose their own status. Not to mention the catastrophic consequences that could happen to that unattractive/short guy's thin reputation he's holding onto should he fail an interaction. And so they're left stagnating, never sure where they stand and never allowed to explore and learn what they like.

    And so the best advice I can give guys like this if possible, is to move somewhere for a year where no one knows you, where your reputation doesn't precede you nor can it really be damaged, and to not give any real details about your identity. And then do exactly the first things that come to your mind approach wise when you see a woman that catches your attention, and see what results you get. Even if you get blown out 100 times and accepted 1, at least you will finally have that internal gauge you were denied so many years, and you will also develop a much better idea of what you actually want to do with women so you can be more intentional wherever you lay down roots in the future.

    I understand perhaps moving somewhere for a year or so isnt possible for a lot of people, but there are varying lesser degrees of this method you can still do. At least it will prevent you from geomaxxing and looking for easy validation in developing countries or wtv. But putting the controls in place to protect your reputation from being misconstrued and damaged by insane women you come across is still key if you choose to do this where you live. Point is, you need to knock out plenty of interactions with women to be clear on just how much your looks are affecting your outcomes in the social sphere, let alone to develop your own tastes in what you like...

  • I mean, it exists so theres no point denying that so I'd suggest just try not to hyperfocus on it and just do other activities. Certainly helped with me by playing video games or just watching shows or some sort. Besides that, try not to be loud or obnoxious in public or else some people view you as a "chihuahua" or another short man insult. I know it sucks but you have to just endure it and also just avoid any altercations since they're likely gonna joke about your height first. I know these tips are sorta odd and specific but it helps with reducing your hyperfixation on height.

  • if u get off the internet like properly for 3 months i bet your issues would be mostly solved.

  • Just a stupid incel community that is nothing new btw, just a little more popular now because of some tiktokers..

    Focus on yourself and how you can become the best version of you.

  • BP values face above height bruh

  • Practice radical acceptance.

    How do you practice it though?

    Accept that there are certain stereotypes and expectations about short men, and standards which exclude short men.

    Then liberate yourself from these expectations and live life for yourself, not others. Do things you want to do without fear of being accused of "Naphthalene syndrome" or "overcompensating."

    How though? how do you actually accept that and then liberate yourself from these expectations? I honestly don't really care about the fact that I'm short, but still curious.

    Best way I can put it is: "people are going to think I have Napa cabbage syndrome anyway, so I might as well just go to the gym and drive the big car I want to drive regardless."

    I see. that's actually pretty badass.

  • Therapy for insecurity.

  • Look im a woman thats 4"11 & i like to date men under 5"10. I'm sure there are more of us. Stop worrying about something you can't change.