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I wanna get better at riding

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Hi. I'm 20f and have a boyfriend and I really just wanna be good at riding him. I have short legs and low stamina and feel like I can't do much for that long before I get tired. I've started doing more cardio (incline walk on treadmill lol) and heard that helps, but any other tips would be greatly appreciated.

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There is no shortcut, so I suggest you make it into a game.

Tell him you want to use sex for cardio and need to ride him for 30 minutes everyday.

I don't think he will be upset.

You'll have fun. Get exercise. And bond as a couple. 💕

You could try to angle yourself on him for a way that doesn’t feel tiring. Whether it be leaning into him, leaning back, or even asking him to thrust into you. You could even just rub yourself back and forth on him along with some lighter movements for both of your pleasures. Maybe even the reverse cowgirl on him to see if that can do anything for you? Those exercises definitely will help tho, and I hope you find a great solution soon!

Rest your palms on his chest, squat on your feet, go up and down. When your legs tire, grind back and forth instead. Then rest on your knees, lean forward, hump and grind at a steady pace (based on what feels good for YOU). When you're tired of that, lay chest to chest, and have wrap his arms around your torso and thrust full speed into oblivion. He will die (in a good way).

Hit the gym, build the Quads of the Gods.

If your legs are short, the problem is always going to be the standard cowgirl position where you spread your legs across his hips.

There's no reason it can't be the opposite and it works a lot better. It's called Amazon instead of cowgirl.

And you can still do it both forward and reverse.

It's way easier to learn to do facing away from him (reverse) rather than towards him though.

A couple of people always try to explain this every time it comes up and I feel like I should make a notes file or smth

But basically have him rest up against the headboard or some pillows and bend his leg and out so you can kneel between his legs.

Just back onto the dick basically. Reach under yourself and hold his shaft to guide it in. From there you can sit up and back or stay leaning forward on your hands and just bounce your ass.

Keeping your legs closer together and letting his legs be on the outside gives you WAY more leverage. You'll never get tired and can crush the pelvis of a weak partner.

When done facing away you also have full unobstructed access to your clit and plenty of room for your favorite clit suction toy, which can be kinda bulky if facing each other

If you can afford it….horseback riding lessons can help with this :D plus it’s hella fun. Otherwise there’s yoga and Pilates routines that are helpful!

Practice makes perfect.

Dance. Belly dancing, twerking etc. They all teach you how to move your pelvis and pelvic floor properly while strengthening your legs and building insane cardio. Take a weekly class, practice everyday.

Get a dildo, and practice on that as well.

Agree, just keep practicing. You’ll get there.

Riding is a team effort. Ask your partner to help you, to hold your hips and guide you forward and backward, or when you get tired, to support your weight and start pushing while they're underneath you.

Edit:reread the problem is stamina, practice lots, my husband and I take lots of breaks and often I’ll only ride him for less then 5 mins or sometime less and it’s still amazing for us both and change positions ect or go to kissing ect and back . Also going slow feels amazing sometimes by riding ai doesnt always have to be long and fast ect

Or ride him in a chair/couch so you can use the arms of trybe chair /couch as support to help you go up and down if tired i do this sometimes. 

Original: Try to feel less self concious? I know that’s impossible so maybe just be really turned on and go up snd down on how it feels good for you? Either way my first husband I had no sex experience and felt super akward. But either way my current husband i was suprised riding him wasn’t hard! I was just so turned on how ever I rode him and actually I moved up and down as fast or slow as I wanted and when I thought of my pleasure versus his it was way easier for both of us to be satisfied . Not sure this was helpful but just in the slightest chance it could help. Good luck. Best thing I’ve heard from guys is enthusiasm is way more important then skill, if she’s super into it like you’re actually enjoying it not faking it most guys love that versus feeling stage fright to please him. Good luck!! Riding is amazing lol im oretty sure as long as you are actually enjoying yourself the guy will like it if not hes probably not worth it 

do other things than sex for sometimes, bj and stuff, u see, let this build ur stamina and things will turn around

Just ride him like you are fucking him on top, he will love it!