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My girlfriend vomited on me. How can I help her not feel so embarrassed?

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My gf and I hadn’t seen each other in a while so we were in a rush to get started with sex. We picked up food and went to my place where we ate and got a little drunk.

I was laying down and she was giving me head. She likes it when I grab her hair and push her head down. We like to do it a little rough sometimes. So I did that but then she came up suddenly and told me not to do that right now.

Quickly, she went back to giving me head and suddenly she came back up and threw up. She caught a lot of it with her hands and I led her to the bathroom where I helped her clean up.

We cleaned up everything else and we sat together. She felt so embarrassed. She couldn’t stop to thinking about it but I kept telling her it was no big deal. I felt so bad and I kept hugging her and kissing her. Eventually she calmed down a little and I started to do some foreplay. I didn’t want her to feel bad about herself or like she ruined things.

We got back in the mood and we had a great time, bug afterwards she kept think about it again. She keeps feeling that I think she’s disgusting but I really don’t.

I just feel bad that she had to experience that. It wasn’t really a big deal we cleaned up and everything was fine. But I know she’s going to keep thinking about it. How can I make her feel better and believe that I don’t think she’s disgusting at all?

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An ex girlfriend did this with me once.

We also had a cat that would eat his dinner too fast, get the zoomies and then throw up at least a couple of times a week. I just told her she was being like the cat, eating to fast, getting excited and making a fool of themselves. And then we'd just have a laugh about it.

The embarrassment will pass just like anything else. Just keep showing her that you’re attracted to her and interested in intimacy with her - respectfully of course. It sounds like you’re handling it well but she might just need time for the vivid memory to fade. Eventually, the two of you will joke about it.

She will move past it just give her time. Have you never done anything embarrassing? You feel horrible at the time but after a few days or so you forget all about it.

I've been that wife.

Multipronged healing approach that leads to less embarrassment, more happiness and more future blowjobs.

Don't actually ignore it, as in help to clean up if it happens, be ok with saying "ooops, ok I'll get a towel and a glass of water to rinse your teeth". Be nonchalant. Even cute and cuddly, wipe her face, give her little hugs and smooches.

Move briskly on. Once you're cleaned up, get into a bit of cuddle aftercare that is ready to maybe get sexually charged again. She might be done for the night, but she alternatively night need to be seen as a hot sexy person as an antidote. Cuddle her, stroke the breast, figure out where she is mentally. Bring it.

Make plans for oral going forward. Some events just aren't meant to be deep, but they can be super passionate and sexy just keeping it shallow and handsy, and praise and enjoy that. Make it clear that blow jobs can be awesome without being deep every time.

I'm not up for deep if there's been alcohol or a recently big meal. We play around a bit without expectation, a little warmup, and once I realize what my body is up to tonight we have some signals. If I get his hands and push them on my head and grab his butt, I'm telling him I'm down to have him push and shove deeply. And sometimes I'm using my hands in his thighs, partly to rub and caress but also to keep some space. And that's cool. And you should find a non sex time to tell her that all of that is cool.

Babe you know our sex is crazy hot and I'm just mad for you. And we had a thing the other night that I hope you don't feel bad about, because you're crazy perfect. Sex gets messy sometimes and we had an oopsy, learning about our body limits. I want you to know that I'm so stoked to have your mouth anywhere around my dick, even if we just do lick jobs for a while that's fantastic. Your fantastic. And this is one part of our sex that I think you should be in control of for a while, while we practice it. Damn you're the sexiest thing since sliced bread. Can I suck on your nipples for an hour now?

You handled this better than probably any man in history. She’ll be ok.

I also puked when someone was fucking my throat. It was also after a big dinner with alcohol. I dont feel embarrassed about it. Like, there is literally a reflex in our anatomy. Make anyone gag repeatedly with a full stomach and they will puke. Alcohol being cherry on top. Its natural. Idk if you can help with that or she just needs time with it.

Seeing as y’all engaged in sex pretty soon afterwards it looks like she’s already on the mend where this is concerned.

But in terms of a pep talk on your behalf, not continually bringing it up will help, and also if she says that she’s struggling to come to terms with what happened, mention an embarrassing thing that happened to you once and try to relate it back to the conversation, something like, “This might be TMI but I was out running one day and there wasn’t a toilet I could find in time to get to, I couldn’t just pop a squat somewhere either it was in broad daylight and for the next 2 miles it was all roads and concrete, so to my horror I shit myself, it was so damn messy, it took me forever to get home and by the time I finally got in the door the poop had also sunk into my socks and shoes, I was completely humiliated, I thought I would take this to the grave but I’m telling you now, cos sometimes embarrassing things happen and yeah they’re pretty mortifying in the moment but when we deal with it and have time to move on from it, it simply becomes a thing of the past.” Laugh it off with her and keep it moving.

I’d advise you also to not keep on saying, “It’s not a big deal,” that can be the case for sure but to her right now it is a big deal.

I was drunk and this happened to me and we were cracking up

last year .... 2am on christmas day i was the one vomiting all over my bfs dick. i was mortified in the moment, but my boyfriend was a total champ, if anything he might've been into it... but it makes for such a funny story that i couldn't possibly stay upset about it. i hadn't even eaten too quickly before! it just happens sometimes. if you're fucking around with the gag reflex ... you can't be surprised when it triggers more.

You handled it so well. I’m sure that if you reassured her whenever she brings it up that she will understand that it’s ok and that you’re not grossed out.

I mean this is the risk you take when you trigger someones gag reflex

Vomit on her while going down on her… it is the only way! 😂🤣😂

Tell her the only way to get past this is for you to throw up on her. Tell her that you've bought some ipecac and you're coming over now. She'll be resistant, it's important that you be very determined that "this is the only way for it to be fair".

It will pass. Just reassure her and keep a good attitude about it!

If you want you can tell her that I once shit all over my bed and wife lol. Doing some anal play on me and she pulled a butt plug out and shit just exploded everywhere! All over the bed, all over her hands, on me, it was gross. We just cleaned up, she reassured me it was all good, we laughed about it and moved on. I told her it is only fair since she has gotten her shit on me before! Comes with the territory of anal play lol

Ignore it, laugh, kiss her, fuck it

been there, done that, my husband honestly barely even remembers but i do 😭 just give it time lol

How the hell do people do that without the fear of throwing up

Do something really goofy when you next see her. Something playfully embarrassing for yourself. You could invite her for dinner and be lightly cross-dressed or in a costume.