I have a girlfriend since a couple of weeks. She told me she can only orgasm from a specific kind of fingering where i rub right abover her clit. Sometimes she say to co for the clit but then gets overwhelmed quickly and it starts to be too sensitive. The problem is I never seem to be able to find exact right spot on the exact moment she needs it (of course everything is fully wet and slippery down there which make so even harde to find the spot she needs.. When om fingering her I have to concentrate so hard on it and she feels and sees this. This seems to turn her off..
So in the 3 months we've been dating I've only been able to make her cum twice with my hands. So somethes she asks if she can do it her self why I play /suck on het nipples. This gets her to come easy but i find it quite a let down that she does it by herself every time.
Orally: she says she very much likes what I do but then again she often pulls me away only after a couple of minutes.
TLDR: my girlfriend can only cum in a specific way and I can't seem to figure out how to do it..
Any tips, tricks or general insights would be greatly appreciated!
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I have a girlfriend since a couple of weeks. She told me she can only orgasm from a specific kind of fingering where i rub right abover her clit. Sometimes she say to co for the clit but then gets overwhelmed quickly and it starts to be too sensitive. The problem is I never seem to be able to find exact right spot on the exact moment she needs it (of course everything is fully wet and slippery down there which make so even harde to find the spot she needs.. When om fingering her I have to concentrate so hard on it and she feels and sees this. This seems to turn her off..
So in the 3 months we've been dating I've only been able to make her cum twice with my hands. So somethes she asks if she can do it her self why I play /suck on het nipples. This gets her to come easy but i find it quite a let down that she does it by herself every time.
Orally: she says she very much likes what I do but then again she often pulls me away only after a couple of minutes.
TLDR: my girlfriend can only cum in a specific way and I can't seem to figure out how to do it..
Any tips, tricks or general insights would be greatly appreciated!
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Let her masturbate and watch exactly where and how she rubs.
Win/win - it's super hot to watch and she'll teach you. Put your fingers on top of hers to feel the rhythm, pace, etc.. pay attention to the location as it's not universal for every woman.
This is the way and like he said win/win
I can only say practice practice practice on her. Me and my girl have taken a long time to get that perfect rhythm that makes it work. Let me know if you want any more advice
Thank you very much for the advice. I sometimes avoid doing it because Im already convinced it won't be right.
Do you have any other advice?
You need to get over avoiding it....beg her for every possible opportunity to keep practicing!! If nothing else, the interest will help.
accept that you’re gonna be bad at it at first. and that’s ok. it will be soo worth being bad when you finally get good. but unfortunately you have to have the strength of ego to be bad at it first. and maybe tell her that. hey, this might not be the best but i think it’s gonna have to be bad a few times before i finally get good at it, but i wanna learn your body sooo bad. like, seem super eager, that’s hot. also, idk if she likes talking but a simple “i got you baby” can be soo hot when you’re getting fingered. “you’re doing so good. tell me what you want. use your words” etc. dirty talk that’s genuine and expressive can make her cum way easier
If she is comfortable with it, see if you can play with her with lights on and take time to explore her body. You can give nice gentle touches, trace fingers lightly over areas, and work your way towards her pussy/clit.
Then you can find the sweet spot for her, have light to see where, and can take your time playing around with different pressures, motions, etc and really learn where her preferred spot is.
My wife is similar, she prefers me rubbing right above her clit, as doing it directly on her clit is too overwhelming. I just find her clit and then go slightly above where you can kinda feel it more “in” her skin and less external, basically just like 2-3 mm higher than where Id rub her clit directly
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If she is too sensitive for direct clitoral stimulation, I would try stimulation from outside of her clitoral hood. Circles are nice, but gentle suction while moving your tongue around in every direction is good too.
Once shes really into it and everything is wet, take two fingers, one on either side of her clitoral hood and slide them down. Anticipation is an important factor, so I would place a finger on the opening to the vagina. People get caught up on G+spot when fingering, but there are more nerve endings near the opening of the vagina than inside of it. Stimulating the G-spot is a combination of the anterior vaginal wall and stimulating the clitoris from the inside of the vagina.
Most women can orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone, but combining it with other sensations is more reliable IMO. Gentle pressure on the mons pubis (area right above the vagina sometimes called the "mound of Venus") can be that added touch that pushes them over the edge, as can g-spot stimulation, as can toying with the vaginal opening, as can nipple play. Basically nearly all women enjoy clitoral stimulation, but there's a wide variety in regards to that second factor.
Take your time, build anticipation, compliment her and make her feel comfortable and remind her how much you enjoy doing this. Those between the ears factors are crucial as well.
Here’s some tips to anyone who is looking to make their partner cum from oral. I was the first to ever make my girlfriend cum (she’s 43) and never thought she would be able to. I achieved the goal and completed the “challenge” on the 3rd time trying 😉
6- DON’T STOP UNTIL SHE CUMS!! You may need to pack a lunch because it could take a while. However, if she doesn’t, for whatever reason, DO NOT act disappointed or start asking a million questions about why.
7- If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again. It will happen!
you need to find the g spot
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You have to work this out together through trial and error and communication. My wife wants to be rubbed above her vagina. Not so much on the vagina or the lips moisture and lube doesnt really help for the way she likes it. Its like rubbing by moving the skin around not sliding against anything. I tried to explain that in the easiest way possible. I do it ina circular motion some times in just a straight up and down motion too. The way my hand is on her is my palm id on her mound and my finger tips pointer and middle finger lays right on the spot. It feels like its not even the vaguna honestly. Hope this gives an idea to try. Women are all different though. Good luck
First unlearn. Whatever advice you hear on the internet, it's your girl and it's your fingers, that's all. Fall in love with the pussy, don't be so practical about it. Most of the sex is the build up of the actual sex.
-Build up Never over stimulate a particularly sensitive area, it doesn't work like that. Don't go straight like a mission to seduce her ...Be gentle use your tongue its the master game. Circle around the vaginal areas, lock her legs with your feet. Build up tension. build up excitement. Soon she will be begging for sex if the build up goes well.
Try each finger. Try each finger into her in all angles, what you see on the internet is that clit hides in the U bend of the vagina... its not always like that. You should find the g spot by understanding her reactions. Gspot is not just a place more importantly its a feeling.
More Vocal the better Make eye contact and see how is she reacting, take control don't let her escape and playfully fight with her. If she's making sounds, covering her mouth, biting lips...its working.
Enjoy.. Enjoy the process...its not a race... you will love the smell..the taste eventually
Communication If you're still not able to focus due to smell or some other reason you should communicate with her regarding the smell or hygiene. Its her responsibility and offcourse she wants an oral job so there's nothing to be shy off.
Suck on her clit and rub her g-spot at the same time.