to be fair they were all mostly his friends + his friends gfs and female friends so this was expected, i just didn't realize the girls would do the same too
same thing happened to me. only found out like 6 months later but it’s so so lame of them to do this. you are loved, try to just put it out of your mind and focus on other things. wishing you the best !
Eugh I'm sorry, something similar happened to me earlier this year. Guy completely ruined my reputation cause' I didn't fuck him. Unfortunately if your friends are not willing to even get your side it's best to just let them be wrong. Fuck him.
Something similar happened to me but the opposite earlier in the year. My ex gf was pretty introverted and newish to the area and spent all her time with me and my friends. When she ended it all my friends (female and male both) unfollowed her within a day. I later found out one of my friends had been in an exercise class with my ex and would just outright ignore her in a "I don't talk to ghosts" type way. I felt really bad about it for awhile but at the same time if my friends were just going along with her just because she was with me they're not obligated to keep her around.
Yeah. I was very surprised as well and I've been trying to branch out since then. I remember when I told my best (female) friend that we broke up and expecting maybe she'd say "I'm sorry to hear that" or something similar and instead she said "I was getting sick of that chick. She would just sit there and never say anything."
That was a different friend than the one from the exercise class. The girl taking the class is just a straight up Regina mean girl type.
Wow glad you are getting away from them. That woman is pretty stupid to say that, why would your ex feel comfortable in a situation where she was clearly an outsider and being excluded? Of course she’s sitting around not saying anything to people who don’t want her to be there lol this friend has no self awareness.
To be fair towards my friends, my ex was getting progressively meaner towards me nearer the end of the relationship and when I tried to talk to her a month later she sent a four paragraph text where she unloaded all of the negative assumptions she had made about me. In the end I'd rather have the friends who stuck with me over the ex that discarded me and treated me that way (though I wouldn't mind finding more level-headed people to spend time with).
Hate to say it but those weren’t real friends if they’re willing to drop you off rip like that. I know it’s not much of a consolation
I’m nowhere near paranoid about it now but I always thought that it didn’t make sense to begin a serious relationship without a solid set of friends that’s already loyal to you first.
If they just go with what he’s saying and stop including you without even talking to you about it, they weren’t your friends
to be fair they were all mostly his friends + his friends gfs and female friends so this was expected, i just didn't realize the girls would do the same too
Someday it’ll be their turn
I had the same experience with a friend in office. They weren't worth being friends with.
he sounds like a sore loser
I have two friends too it’s not that bad really
same thing happened to me. only found out like 6 months later but it’s so so lame of them to do this. you are loved, try to just put it out of your mind and focus on other things. wishing you the best !
Eugh I'm sorry, something similar happened to me earlier this year. Guy completely ruined my reputation cause' I didn't fuck him. Unfortunately if your friends are not willing to even get your side it's best to just let them be wrong. Fuck him.
What a little bitch. Good riddance
Wow. What a pos. You can be stoic about this and just laugh at him lashing out or you can an even bigger pos. Anyways, happy holidays.
Build your own friend group who will abandon your next ex
Something similar happened to me but the opposite earlier in the year. My ex gf was pretty introverted and newish to the area and spent all her time with me and my friends. When she ended it all my friends (female and male both) unfollowed her within a day. I later found out one of my friends had been in an exercise class with my ex and would just outright ignore her in a "I don't talk to ghosts" type way. I felt really bad about it for awhile but at the same time if my friends were just going along with her just because she was with me they're not obligated to keep her around.
That’s a pretty terrible way for your friends to treat your ex. Idk if I’d feel comfortable being friends with such surface level people.
Yeah. I was very surprised as well and I've been trying to branch out since then. I remember when I told my best (female) friend that we broke up and expecting maybe she'd say "I'm sorry to hear that" or something similar and instead she said "I was getting sick of that chick. She would just sit there and never say anything."
That was a different friend than the one from the exercise class. The girl taking the class is just a straight up Regina mean girl type.
Wow glad you are getting away from them. That woman is pretty stupid to say that, why would your ex feel comfortable in a situation where she was clearly an outsider and being excluded? Of course she’s sitting around not saying anything to people who don’t want her to be there lol this friend has no self awareness.
To be fair towards my friends, my ex was getting progressively meaner towards me nearer the end of the relationship and when I tried to talk to her a month later she sent a four paragraph text where she unloaded all of the negative assumptions she had made about me. In the end I'd rather have the friends who stuck with me over the ex that discarded me and treated me that way (though I wouldn't mind finding more level-headed people to spend time with).
Pay him no mind
If you just let this pass and focus on your own shit it'll be like none of it ever happened within I estimate 2-3 weeks.
Hate to say it but those weren’t real friends if they’re willing to drop you off rip like that. I know it’s not much of a consolation
I’m nowhere near paranoid about it now but I always thought that it didn’t make sense to begin a serious relationship without a solid set of friends that’s already loyal to you first.
Well what did you do
nothing, i just broke up with him bc he treated me horribly and refused to be better
Well how old are you? Normal adults don’t drop friends if that’s the true story
i'm 20