The fact that this sort of thing has been an issue 2/3 times I've attempted to join an online DnD game is kind of wild. At this point, I can’t tell whether I’m just a prude, joined the hobby too late, have terrible luck, or if it really is that common of an experience. When I think DnD, the last thing that comes to mind is dating drama and forced romance arcs. Sure, that stuff can be part of a game, but unless you specifically advertise the campaign as such, I feel like most players don’t expect it to devolve into a poorly written smut novel.
The first time I tried to join an online DnD game I already posted about, but to sum it up, it never actually got going because the DM basically decided my halfling wasn’t “hot enough." Apparently that mattered a lot, because she planned for everyone to get flirted with at some point. The second attempt was uneventful; scheduling just didn’t work out. I guess third time wasn’t the charm, as it’s probably been my worst experience yet.
Once again, at the start everything looked fine. The group seemed beginner-friendly, had a healthy mix of RP and combat, and most players were European, which was a big plus for scheduling. The DM seemed nice enough. At least no glaring red flags or anything. They did come across as a bit Tumblr-ish (no offense to anyone, I honestly don't know how else to describe it), constantly gushing over fictional ships and character designs, but I didn’t think much of it. I’ve played with people like that before who were still perfectly capable of handling serious, mature characters when it mattered.
Also, I’m not sure if I’ve mentioned this explicitly in any of my previous stories, but as an ace person I’ve learned to remind myself that just because that kind of stuff doesn’t interest me, it doesn’t mean I get to judge anyone for enjoying it.
This time I went with a tiefling druid (kind of an odd combo, I know, but I had a solid backstory in mind. The DM even encouraged it since the game wasn’t supposed to be min-max focused). We actually made it past session 0, which was already a rare victory.
I won’t bore you with the details, but things kicked off with a pretty standard setup: the town where we all met got attacked, we fought our way out, and we ended up tasked with delivering a dying NPC’s important message to a relative up north. Nothing groundbreaking, but I liked it.
For the next week or so, things went smoothly. Sure, the main goal was pretty straightforward, but to the DM's credit, there were enough side dungeons and encounters to keep things interesting. And those quiet camping moments were a good chance for the PCs to get to know each other.
And then it happened. The plot twist that changed the entire vibe of the campaign. After accidentally rescuing what turned out to be some powerful hellspawn from its prison, we were forced into a contract that basically assigned each of us our own personal devil patron (think Mizora from BG3) who granted certain buffs. Honestly? Not a bad hook. And since my character was a tiefling who had rejected his infernal side by embracing druidism and self-isolation, having that connection forced back into his life was satisfying from a narrative standpoint.
Until it wasn’t.
As the game went on, the DM kept casually reminding everyone that our assigned devils were specifically succubi. Nearly every single one of us responded with a collective “Okay?” and just continued playing. I’ve been around long enough to see exactly where this was going, but I still tried to give them the benefit of the doubt, especially since the rest of the players seemed pretty chill.
If it’s not obvious yet, the DM’s grand vision was that we’d slowly become corrupted by our lustful desires and eventually give into it. And apparently lust was the only vice worth exploring. No greed, wrath, pride, ambition, nothing, just that. Now, in theory, even that could work if handled with restraint and maturity, but it quickly became apparent that this wasn’t a psychological corruption arc. It was basically turning into one big fetish session for the DM.
Everything came to a screeching halt when we found ourselves in a situation where we were about to die, and another player (a female kitsune wizard) was “encouraged” to draw more power from her patron to save us. And by encouraged, I mean the DM basically railroaded her into it with a “you kind of have to.” So she did, under the understanding that there would be a price to pay later.
“Later” came that same night at camp, when her succubus patron manifested and announced that payment was due. Right there, in front of the entire party. The DM then proceeded to describe how we could all see the outline of a certain… horse-like appendage begin to form between her legs.
And that was that. Almost all of us, except one player, who more or less called us snowflakes, collectively noped out right then and there. The DM tried to backpedal and say it wasn’t “mandatory,” but come on. If that had been the only weird moment, maybe someone could have brushed it off as a lapse in judgment. But this had been building for several sessions, ever since the succubus plotline was introduced.
Shoutout to the three people from that game who stayed in touch and invited me to another DnD group they swear is at least normal. Here’s hoping I finally get to experience a full campaign.
TL;DR: DM derailed their own campaign with increasingly blatant fetish content, and most of the group leave as a result.
For those thinking “why not try a local group?" trust me, I’d love to, but there aren’t any nearby I could realistically join. Any that do exist are likely exclusive friend groups I'm unlikely to run into.
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I do love how almost all DMs like this immediately backpedal and start saying shit like "it's not Mandatory"....after they have made it pretty clear it IS mandatory and not giving the players any warning or way of dealing with it before it shows up.
They realize they didn't actually have consent to do this shit and are trying to cover their asses by basically saying, yes, the players were in on it the whole time and the players had all the decision-making power.
It muddies the water enough that, if you're not experienced, you might give the DM the benefit of the doubt. Or take on responsibility that isn't yours.
And it gives the DM a backdoor so they excuse their actions to themselves; a way to shield their egos.
I feel like half the stories on here could be Terrible Thing: DM's Backdoor.
Also, I am immature.
I am quite ancient, and I got a chuckle out of that.
Yeaah. I mean, it'd still be beyond weird, but some warning before whipping out the horse shlong would've been appreciated.
Yeah, why wouldn’t the SUCCUBUS have fat demon dong? Horse makes no sense. /hj
Clearly ya'll're not friends with a lot of monster fuckers. Horse flavor is the long running cock du jour of futa-succubae. I assume it's because there are already werewolves for the only other widely known animal wang design.
Oh I am. She just prefers the dragon varieties. Personally, horse gets boring after a while.
There is a certain „type“ of dnd maybe the dm should advertise their game there, I guess? Sorry for the bad experience you made.
The icky 🚩problem is the DM, at least from this story, didn't want to attract consenting adults.
They hid the subject matter and tones of this from session zero for a reason. That requires a deliberate thought and action to withhold.
It wasn't just a PC corruption arc they wanted, but a player corruption arc. They were fishing for fresh, naive people who will be shocked by their "wild" lewd ideas but openly curious or enough of a doormat to let the DM verbally sex them up without any out-of-character warning. Probably in hopes of turning the game into an erotica or smut-inspiration for their own gratification and what-must-be-exceedingly-rare social validation. Using d&d as their dating app to hunt for their unicorn basically. Which, again, icky, not how healthy mutual sexuality is explored, nor good group/ttrpg etiquette, big yikes 🚩
OP and the others were fortunately wise enough to recognize that.
Hopefully that DM realizes that was wrong, but there's a nonzero chance they try again with new strangers.
Hit the nail square on the head here. The players not being in on it and being forced into it is 100% part of the DM’s fetish.
The DM's gender isn't specified in the post and/or might be nonbinary, just fyi
Edit: for context, above commenter assumed the second DM was also a woman when that was never stated. Their comment has since been edited.
You are right. The first DM was a she/her, I missed that.
The fact that you're being downvoted for a simple, perfectly polite correction — which the person you were responding to even appreciated! — is really disappointing.
I don't care about the votes, but yeah that's reddit.
Quite. If a comment gets a few downvotes, then clearly everyone else should press the button as well!
Never mind that if this is people being awful because of transphobia, they should be downvoting the person you were responding to as well, since they did edit the pronouns afterwards.
In the OP, they use the pronoun "she" repeatedly to refer to the DM. Did you miss that?
In the OP, there are two different DMs
The first DM is a shee, true! The second's unknown. The third DM though (or second if we're not counting the non-horror-story second attempt):
Now, it's possible that Alcaz2312 was talking about the first DM, rather than the one the main story was about. But given that they corrected the pronoun, presumably not.
Ah fair it was the first DM that was properly identified not the third or second.
That was for a different dm
Best way to short-circuit that sort of thing is to call it out in advance.
"Demons, huh? Hope they aren't anything stupid like succubi. That would be total bullshit."
Honestly, fair point. I will say, though, I’ve seen this kind of thing work in the right context. Another player told me about a Warhammer game they were in where the party constantly dealt with Slaaneshi corruption. There, it worked because one, it was handled more maturely and not like a 12-year-old discovering sex, and two, it explored more than just the “me hot, right? You wanna fuck?” angle.
I remember one time I was in a game (no ERP involved) where my character was in a difficult position (handcuffed, covered in blood, the roll to get out of the cuffs was too high, and the other PCs didn't seem interested in helping). So I broke character and said, "I'm only playing this out because my character would keep trying. Once the cops get here, he's screwed."
And it was like a lightbulb clicked on for the other PCs, and they actually stopped being dicks and started helping him out.
It does help that Slaanesh is about more than just sex. He/She's the god of sex, drugs, and rock n' roll. So you have a lot more to work with that isn't just pure degen fuel.
Excess period. So gluttony works just fine. As does getting hyper obsessive about perfecting your fighting style: it was the drive to perfection as warriors that led to the fall of the Emperor's Children legion to Slaanesh. The sex, drugs, and rock and roll comes after - the servants of Slaanesh lose the ability to feel normal pleasures, requiring more and more extreme stimulation to feel anything. So yes, there is a lot to work with for Slaanesh that isn't pure sex.
Ian Dury as a champion of Slaanesh? I can see it.
Can it be handled maturely? Yes.
Most people can't handle it maturely. Especially with people they just met. I've only ever handled such things with people I know and trust. And even then some of them turned out to not be able to handle shit maturely and acted like children who could tell fiction from reality.
The best way actually would be to state on session zero that you're not looking for the game with prominent romance and don't want too sexual themes in the game. Honestly, your DM was malicious because this talk about expectations and veils (themes that can be in the game but should be veiled and go to black when it goes to the main description) should happen on session 0 before any other discussions. That especially needed with new players and if DM doesn't initiate that talk, I'd be automatically alerted. So I recommend read about the CATS, veils, red cards and other safety guides in the ttrpg and initiate that talk if DM doesn't.
And I would recommend to be honest and talk about your experience on the sessions. Does you ever hsd small section with feedback after the game where you talked what you liked or disliked that session? This common practice in my country and I recommend to give negative feedback honestly, so DM can correct the course of actions. Your DM just was a creep, but even with normal DM things can accidentally go to the unwanted direction.
Never ignore red flags. As soon as you spot it -> ask questions.
I've been in some "wild" TTRPG games, and I don't regret that one bit. The difference being informed consent; we all knew and agreed to what we were getting into!
If you've got a different 'Dungeon' in mind when playing Dungeons and Dragons, fine! But you spring that on anyone out of the blue, and they're fully allowed to walk away then and there. I sure would!
Ahahaha ohgod.
Whne your D&D game suddenly turns into a game of KULT.
That would be Sex Dungeons and Bad Dragons.
This is not normal behavior for a D&D game, online or otherwise. Your luck has just been unfortunate. Keep looking, friend, and good luck.
Well, that's certainly a "creative" weird way to drop un-advertised forced ERP on a group.
I do like the "but I met nice, normal players" upside to the horror story. Hope that works out.
I love that most of the group dropped out right there. The RPG world needs more of that. There is nothing wrong with ERP, but it has to be agreed upon by the entire group before anything happens. A DM can’t just drop it in the middle of the game and think that it’s easier to ask for forgiveness than ask for permission.
And, let’s face it, people who call other people snowflakes are not people you want to hang around with, much less game with.
I played at the banch of wild game. Honestly, I just DMed session where two players grabbed the reflection of one of them from the mirror and had a wild treesome while the third one went to interrogate some prostitutes and utilized the rest of the time just fine.
But me and my whole group would immediately nope out if someone would try to pull this bullshit on us without warning and consent. All the veils should be defined on session 0. I played and DMed the games where any romance was out of question too. I'm sure DM was malicious and specifically fishing for naive people who doesn't know about CATS and veils.
Imagine being that one @$$h0l3 player who calls the rest "snowflakes" for noping the hell out. Like, dude, nobody signed up for this messed up porn, if they wanted this crap they'd look up hentai online.
My guess is, he was in on the fetishes from the start and got annoyed the rest of the group isn't playing along.
I faintly remember that dude saying he imagined them all in bondage gear, so, maybe lol
You can say asshole on the internet
Its reddit not tiktok, youre allowed to spell out swears.
The way I covered my mouth reading "...horse-like appendage". I swear, I'm not a perfect DM but I try to just have fun with people. I mostly play with my friends, but I honestly wish I could play with more strangers so they can understand that D&D really is a fun hobby when not run by gooners.
Some years back, the DM of a campaign decided to railroad the entire party into a pact with a Devil. He showed up and offered us terms that were basically "do what I say, or die." I, playing a Paladin, decided that no thanks, I'd rather die than be a Devil's willing servant. The party agreed, since it was obviously a bad deal. "Making a deal with a Devil" is such a bad idea it's literally a trope.
The DM got really upset. All the plots he'd written branched off that Devil, and he felt that without the Devil commanding us, we'd never go to the places he wanted us to go. It's not like he could use an NPC to hire us to do jobs there or anything, right? It's not like we had a Paladin in the party whose god could have pointed the way.
Basically, he refused to continue the game unless we all accepted the terrible contract. We just decided to leave. So he sent us each a long rant about how the Devil violated and slaughtered us, and we were "so afraid" that we couldn't even fight back, Game Over.
I miss when DnD was about exploration, defeating enemies and puzzles, and bringing home loot to either become stronger or build something like a castle or town.
Sorry you had this happen, given most of the players quit, it was very much a DM looking for a cheap thrill.
As you said, could have been a neat twist, I would have let each player come up with a “patron.” If someone wanted a succubus, I’d make it clear, that certain topics happen off screen. Though I’m a prude about such topics in general.
I don't really consider myself a prude; I just consider "creating fetish content" and "hanging out with my friends" to be separate categories of thing. And I agree with you. I want to have a cute little gnome that goes on quests and had adventures. I don't want explicit sexual content in my game.
Me too.
I also wish newer editions of DnD had better exploration mechanics and modules that permitted it / were a sandbox. It’s part of why Ranger has an identity crisis.
Succubi are demons not devils. DM is a moron.
I ... really don't think the DM knowing that would've changed anything.
It's a red flag the DM doesn't know what the fuck they're doing.
Sorry you've had this experience!
I'm part of a local gaming association that runs weekly sessions at a school. We have a rating system (PG etc) for games when they are posted online so people know broadly what to expect. On top of that, we also provide an X-card system.
I cannot even fathom walking into an online game, with people I don't know, that doesn't provide both. (Unless you're playing Kult or Delta Green - caveat emptor)
If a GM doesn't provide safety tools, that's an immediate nope.
Dare you enter my magical realm? edit: It's a comic link to how DM's who do this sort of a thing end up with a punch in the face.
Beat me to it. I was going to say, "Another one off to the piss forest."
There are sex role play groups online. You can write fan fiction and share this with like-minded people. I will never understand the need to force a fetish like this on people.
I’m not ace, but what I am is shy about things. I love a good romance, a good love story, connecting with someone and finding out who they are. I feel awkward doing that in a DnD setting. It’s odd to me since I’m either talking to a DM doing a character, or another player but it’s not real and that seems weird to me.
I prefer this stuff in interactive fiction or video games.
I have never played D&D before but Baldur’s Gate 3 and Critical Role have me wanting to try it. Having seen a lot of things here, man is it a minefield and maybe I’ll hope my friends will try it! ERP seems to just be becoming mandatory with online TTRPG, odd bunch!
I've been a player in two groups (one since finished the campaign) and running two, and no ERP's come up at all, either from player suggestion or GM imposition. So no, it's not mandatory or even close to it.
Clearly I’m looking in the wrong places then!
It's selection bias. dndhorrorstories doesn't post much about normal games where everyone's having a good time.
"much"? It should be "at all". It's dndhorrorstories :D
Sometimes people make posts about normal games with issues they blew out of proportion.
Or discord server drama as if that was the RPG horror story, and not just social interactions.
I'm on a D&D Discord server, and also check r/lfg along with some other subreddits. The number of ERP campaigns I've seen advertised could be counted on one hand, out of the hundreds I've looked at. ERP is by no means the majority of campaigns.
Thanks for the pointers! I’ll keep that in mind should I require them (luckily a friend group are planning to start a campaign!)
I've played a lot of dnd. I'm usually juggling four campaigns at once. I can safely say that the stuff posted here is the extreme exception. You have to have really bad luck or ignore a lot of red flags (no session zero, no consent forms, no player interview process, etc.) to wind up in a game like this one.
Ok, that’s good to know! I found a couple in my local area and after a few questions I realised it wasn’t going to be for me (ERP was mentioned) so that coupled with these horror stories has warped my view a little bit. On the plus side, a friend of mine has been wanting to DM for a while so my luck may be changing!
D&D is usually just fantasy tropes. The norm is just goofy adventures. Even CR is pretty intense on sex jokes and dick jokes.
My advice, start your own group with friends you think would enjoy it, rather than trying to join a group online. Sure, you won’t know what you’re doing but you’ll learn as you go. And being a fan of those things gives you a leg up. Every online group/social club/game shop group I’ve tried to join has been an rpg horror story waiting to happen. The vibes have always been off. But every time I’ve done it adhoc with my theatre kid/board game nerd friends, it’s been an amazing experience.
Shortly after posting my comment, a friend of mine sent a photo to our group chat that he bought a D&D set and wanted to play with people, so now I may have a group to play with! Solid advice, thank you 👊🏻
That’s amazing! Good luck!
Thank you! Now it’s time to use my imagination and create my first D&D character!
Reddit is absolutely NOT a good source of how the community is as a whole, and a sub about “horror stories” is an even worse representation of how TTRPGs are played. The most important thing is to have a group of like-minded players who get along outside of the table so that the game can be entertaining for everyone.
I think I know exacty what this DM had been up to, and dude needs to stop playing porn games so much if he's gonna let it creep into & take over his games like that.
And I wonder if that one player was actively in on it, because if a DM did something like this to me, it being something I'm into wouldn't stop me from being uncomfortable as fuck.
The D&D group I joined was an “exclusive friend group” that I joined as a friend of a friend, and now we are just friends all around. I get that you’d be hesitant to try that dynamic but it’s not always going to be a negative thing!
Stories like yours are the reason I’ve never actually dipped my toe into online games as either a player or DM, it’s hard to beat the accountability factor of having your behavior judged by live humans
I think OP's problem is that they can't find those groups in the first place, since they're very unlikely to be advertised, especially if OP is in a small town where there's simply not many 'nerdy' things to go around (like me!)
Like when I run Cyberpunk Red, sure there is definitely some NSFW in the set dressing of Night City (ads, joytoys, etc.) and it's seedy underbelly. However it never goes beyond the initial flirting.
Lines and Veils are a must, and gods this guy would've crossed lines already. Stuff like the patron's visit should not have come off like an animation I watch on "The Hub".
I hope you're okay, and trust me, there's a table for everyone.
Surprise horse cock.
Ok why do so many DMs seem to think DnD is the only game in existence . There’s literally RPGs that have mechanics around building relationships and dating . If you want to do a different genre do a different game !
I've been doing this for decades, and never experienced shit like this.
Wtf?
ERP DnD is worse than bad DnD
Unconsented to ERP is worse than bad DnD.
Consented ERP DnD is a strange thing to hear about second hand.
Probably because you DON'T hear about it unless something has gone horribly wrong (being the kind of person who discusses your good ERP D&D unprompted is an example of "things going horribly wrong").
The stuff that I heard between consenting adults was a lot worse than most horror stories of these variety.
Like I said: If you weren't consenting to hear about it, that's a horror story.
(if you DID consent to hear about it, meh, don't yuck someone else's yum, y'know?)
Yeah I did consent, otherwise I wouldn’t have been told.
The debauchery was legendary, given it was a game between a polycule.
Session 0 should be mandatory and next time ask if ERP is a thing. Make it clear you are not interested in this kind of stuff.
I never had stuff like that on my tables. Maybe because I always play with 30+ years old people (and I'm 42)
Yeah unless your game is explicitly advertised as ERP, this kind of behavior shouldn’t be a thing. If everybody is consenting then to each their own, but some people get off on the lack of consent and that’s frankly disgusting.
Where are you finding your games? I’ve hopped into a few random one shots on Roll20 (nothing more than like 3 sessions at a time with the same group) and haven’t had any bad experiences.
Unrelated to the overall topic, I’ve been working on a demon-heavy campaign for a while and holy shit am I stealing the demon patron idea.
You dare enter my magical realm?
If the DM wanted to run "that" kind of game, they should have advertised it in their post or talked about it in session 0, so everyone consents and is into it? Like, you can absolutely run games with ERP, if that's what everyone wants to do, not as something you just spring onto people like that.
I think you would be surprised, especially post Critical Role and livestreaming. I think the sentiment is slowly dying out though, and more people want to play these games... as games.
A few things:
1.) I love the game, but I blame BG3 for drawing in a lot of players who seem to think it, and D&D, are dating sims,
2.) Using BG3 as a quick-run to see how it'd potentially go, I too made a tiefling druid. Haven't really got to play much with him, but I adore him. And I made him look like what Graz'zt is said to sometimes appear as, so extra fun!
3.) I really hope you find a good group! Don't let the weirdo shipper types ruin it for you!
I wouldn't say it's common, but it is *more* common in online games from what I've seen. Not only is there more overlap between the genres of RPG and Horse wang in online spaces, but you have the whole anonymity shield of the internet lessening shame and encouraging bad behavior.
Like if people want to enjoy rampantly erect female demons, no judgement from me, but it's very much a read the room and early and enthusiastic consent is key sort of situation. Randomly throwing dick at people who didn't agree to catch it is not cool no matter the surrounding circumstance.
Super Grok will run a 5E game with all fetish material and detail of said fetishes one could want.
I'll never understand why anyone would want to play a co-op games containing that type of content if you're not in a polyamorous relationship or at least casual cross-poly state with them all. Just seems weird.
Sorry that happened to you.
So you... each got levels in Warlock because that's the representation of that concept that's already baked into the rules, right? Right?
Honestly that probably would have been the red flag for me right there - "I'm giving all of you the core concept of a base class but completely homebrewing everything about how it works instead" can basically only end up being abused.
I almost wonder how the DM would have handled an existing Warlock in that scenario (first patron won't be happy when a second patron tries to steal their Warlock), but considering that this was definitely a fetish thing either the DM would have forced the player to start with the succubus patron or the first patron would have just been totally forgotten.
Nearly every campaign I’ve seen now is that “tumblr-ish” (also can’t find a better way to describe it) with mixed forced fetishized arcs. It’s been that way since I started playing, and one of the reasons why I only DM now. Been like ten years :(
I guess I have been lucky because I have only ever sent one player to horny jail. I’m a forever DM though. I get antsy as a player.
>really is that common of an experience
It's this one.
Yikes. Situations like this are why session zero should be mandatory.
Jeebus, what a way to out yourself as a creeper 😑
Glad you and the others bar another creeper left OP.
Anything explicitly sexual is such a hard nope for me in a group gaming situation. It's just really awkward and the odds of nobody making it weird are very low. I'm not asexual, but I don't consider "playing a game with friends" to be a sexual situation regardless.
And railroading your player into this sort of scenario is deeply icky and is basically just coercing someone into participating in your fetish with extra steps.
That person should not be DMing. They don't respect their players. I'm glad almost everyone quit on the spot; that's exactly what should have happened.
God, shitty fetish DM can’t even get their smut demons correct
A Succubus is AFAB
If a “horse-like appendage” was on the table, that’s an Incubus
Eh. Both incubi and succubi can shapeshift with ease, into whatever configuration they think would work best.
Really, it'd be more accurate to just use a gender-neutral term for them — except when a specific infernal individual identified as a particular gender, of course. I propose fuccubus.
(Of course, jokes aside, rapey fiends are all awful and deserving of smiting, regardless of name!)
If they drew from the... Uh high literature I think they did, that character was called a succubus too. And a such, I would give them a pass about the classification.
And then close discord any roll20.
Even IRL, assigned sex does not equal current anatomy. There are AFAB people who have a dick.
Not defending the DM but this is a fantasy setting. A demon being able to shapeshift or just be like that with no further explanation is really not that out there compared to some other things that exist in D&D.
Not AFAB, just the one that would lie beneath. So sure, could have a horse like appendage, but that's not going in anyone.
This DM is a god
That is certainly a ... take. Would you care to explain what you mean by this?
God is a gooner
The urge to ERP during on line RP is pretty strong in my experience. If that isn't your thing I suggest you make it clear in your profile that you aren't into that. It will cut down on some of the drama like you had.
I mean I'd honestly call your take ridiculous, but at this point, you might be right lol I'd think it be the other way around, but live and learn I guess
The thing that strikes me as odd, really, is that this sort of thing wasn't handled in session 0.
Like, whether sex is described or even a part of the experience at all, is the kind of thing that should be settled on in session 0.
That's kinda the point of session 0. This kind of game can be done... But everyone must be on board. And they obviously weren't, which would've been apparent with a properly run session 0.
Am I being ridiculous? I have a pastor friend who does a lot on line rpging and he has to make it clear all his characters are castrated to get the other players to stop it with him.
As far as DnD goes there is Balders Gate 3, which is supposed to have the followers constantly try to get into bed with the player character, and someone with a Mind Flayer, of all things. I can see where that DM got their idea for the game you described.
Your advice stripped of context is fine and good, what's ridiculous is the implicit framing that OP carries some of the burden for their DM trying to sneak in a demon rape fetish plotline, while doing it in such a way that makes it pretty clear they knew what they were doing. I don't even think your advice would have mattered here
No E role rapers should tag themselves. They are the ones changing the hobby to their personal tastes. Not him.