Hello Level_Reflection_532,

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Original post: I’ve been dating someone for a few months. We’re exclusive and things are going well, but we haven’t said “I love you” yet.

For my birthday, he gave me a thoughtful card and signed it “love ya.” He also mentioned I should read the card later, which made me pause a bit.

He’s the type who tends to overthink things and be intentional with what he says, so I’m not sure if this was meant casually or as a step toward something more. I do have feelings for him too, but I’ve been taking things slow and haven’t said “I love you” yet either.

How would you interpret “love ya” in this situation, and what would a low-pressure response look like?

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You guys have been dating for a few months now, so his effort and consistency should already tell if he’s advancing now or if he’s taking it slow. The love ya card is a good touch of him caring (and even showing appreciation for the relationship), but just look at the overall grand scheme of the relationship

It sounds affectionate and casual, like a "I care about you a lot" without committing yet. You could respond with something equally lighthearted, like "aw, love ya too 😊" or "thanks, you made me smile ❤️".