Here's one:

"autistic people dont know how to lie, or are awful at it. it's one of the main sources of adversity in their lives. normal people realize early on that you're meant to get creative with the perceived social rules, and autists literally never get there"

https://old.reddit.com/r/redscarepod/comments/12pduz6/genuine_question_to_incelsvirginslosers_why_arent/jglz9pm/

I don't think I'm actually autistic but the part about not being able to "get creative with the perceived social rules" really hits me hard. I feel like I have always taken rules and the things people say you should or shouldn't do very literally, and get frustrated when other people don't follow them or are hypocritical. Especially when they face no consequence or are rewarded. I also hold myself and others to the literal things that they say, and am terrified of letting people down or being seen as having broken the "rules". This was really bad when I was younger, since adults make the world out for kids as a place where a mistake will ruin you for life, but when you get older you see people who fuck up time and time again and dominate the world. This is kind of a incely example but we all know guys who constantly cheat on their girlfriends or get caught going on tinder only to face what amounts to a scolding because it's just who they are, whereas I feel if I were to do that I'd be seen as a completely different person and ostracized as it's not in my character. More common and subtle is just people flaking on plans they agreed to while I'll flip my whole life around just to be somewhere at a certain time just because I "said I would be there". When I need to lie in certain situations it's almost impossible, like people will say "just tell them this" and I'll be like "but that didn't happen" and it's like a huge barrier is in my brain.

  • So you found out that you're autistic via a reddit comment?

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    Most self-aware autist

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    Lol I've been around enough actual diagnosed autists to know I'm not that bad. I'd like to be able to use it as an excuse but unfortunately I'm just a neurotic rule follower goody good and kind of shy and anxious, which is even worse.

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    Just say you’re German.

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    spiritually teutonic

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    Ppl over diagnosing themselves with autism is just them thinking they have autism from tiktok comments instead of reddit comments.

    I mean that as a bit but genuinely I think that how reddit comments kind of mean whatever comment as a bit of an insult to autists actually helps with better identification. Seeing and identifying with a kernel orf truth you don't want to means more than one you do.

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  • "people will always find someone it is socially acceptable to be cruel to"

    seen on the sub 3 or so years ago

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  • There's a comment I've seen quoted a couple times that goes:

    “when i was 18, i thought i’d wasted my life and it was all downhill from here. when i was 22, i couldn’t believe i thought it was over all the way back then, but it was really over for me this time and there was no point starting now.

    same thing happened at 24, 26, until i turned 28 and realized my whole life was ahead of me and i just wasted 10 years wringing my hands. that’s how you really do waste your whole life”

    Unfortunately it hasn't stuck with me enough to stop wringing my hands, but enough that it has made me self-aware of wasting away

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    I remember this one too

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    This is the plot of Henry James's "The Beast in the Jungle."

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  • That’s kind of the darkly ironic thing about the more mild forms of autism (the kind where the person still has a social life and such, they just struggle). Oftentimes, they’re not socially inept or out of touch, they can clearly see dynamics and motivations at play. But they don’t reach the level of being able to parse out what to play along with versus point out and the world is hard on that. I have some friends where they clearly have a good read on the social situation but they come at it with this heaviness or bluntness.

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    Keep reading reddit

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    Noted, but I'm going to wear all Rick Owens and chase people down the street at 3 AM.

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  • A lot of the internet is 10000 people bullying someone who deserves to be bullied by 1 to 3 people.

    Also, a lot of the internet is 10000 people validating someone who deserves to be bullied by 1 to 3 people.

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  • "Fufu? More like doodoo! I'm "Ghana" puke! 🤢" in that one thread three and a half years ago on bush meat in Africa so funny I still have a laugh about it

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  • Someone commented many such cases on a post about getting black out drunk and cheating on your partner and I think about that once a week

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  • I like how that original guy improved his life through daily bedhumping and calisthenics.

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    Damn JD Vance is a member of this sub?

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  • The turkish dude who made a post titled roughly "$5k would fix my life" then refused everyone offering to wire him money

    somebody commented at the bottom of the thread "let me buy your gf" (paraphrasing) and then he replied "can an aquarium fish afford the ocean herself", still think about that one

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  • Theory that Drake is only hated because he's jewish and not a pedophile sex pest

    The current state of bookstores

    Actual banned books

    Longpost from thread about Lee Harvey Oswald

    Hard truth about boomers

    The sad reality about gender relations today

    Gender identity

    YA Slop

    EDS vs Factitious Disorder diagnosis rate

    2028 prediction that unfortunately will probably happen

    What I think about when Germans do the in my country nonsense

    Encyclopedic links to grooming gang cases that convinced me this isn't culture war stuff

    average YA slop enjoyer

    This is a collection of comments from my saved list as far back as I could spend the time to scroll, just a few months. Many of them saved from here are unfortunately now deleted and anonymized.

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    Holy shit the comment at your second-to-last link (re: UK grooming gangs) has a response from another user talking about the Wikipedia page dedicated to the UK grooming gangs and the ongoing racial sanitization of the events that was occurring on a daily basis by the Wikipedia editors (e.x. one day the page didn’t include the words “moral panic”, the next day it was in the title); this all reminded me that you can see a log of all changes ever made to any wiki article so I went to look and there’s even a log of the conversation that occurred between the editors while the changes were being made. 

    You can see them going back and forth about the relevance of ethnicity to the crimes and whether or not to frame the media’s focus on ethnicity as a targeted campaign by white supremacists to create a moral panic (as was suggested by the overwhelming number of academic sources). It’s actually incredible that this record exists because it’s such a succinct microcosm of the power struggle between the expert class and the public. 

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    Maybe I'm being dense, but I dont get it if people are more mad at the police than the ethnicities.

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    To my thinking they both share different scopes of responsibility, the Asian and Pakistani sexually violent criminal networks deserve primary blame for doing the original terrible thing and the police and local government deserve secondary blame for permitting additional crimes of a similar nature to occur as a result of their politically motivated inaction and obfuscation, and for partaking in a politically motivated cover-up. 

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    To me the police's conduct is just difficult to accept to this day. I don't understand at all. I heard a theory that the class system is so entrenched there that this is partly a reason. But still, I don't get it at all.

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    Wikipedia is genuinely gone.

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  • ”No one hates a pretty girl as much as another pretty girl”. I think about that one regularly.

    ”Of course you’re in fucking Denver” on the post by the guy who put his date outfit on the nasty bar bathroom floor.

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    I love that you could replace Denver with pretty much any city and the insult still work lol

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    "Of course you're in Chisinau, Moldova"

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    Putting ur harvested organs on the dirty bathroom floor

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    The first one is more complex. I've been raised in a beauty parlor so call me dumb bitch phd md. There are pretty girls that are cold blooded (get their self esteem from outside) and pretty girls who are hot blooded (generate their own self esteem). The first ones are anxious and yeah they hate another pretty girls. Their self esteem is "well if they dont like me fuck them" at best. The other ones are rare and a product of self confident women in their families and dads who did not traumatize them, they are practically Venus archetype, girls girl, shamelessly girly, never gatekeep, and they precisely seek other hot blooded pretty girls to be best friends because they will match their level. Their self esteem is "well if they dont like me its okay, I like myself".

    Seek. Hot blooded. Pretty. Girls. They are the best i swear.

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    Ugh this makes me think of when I joined the robotics club in high school to look good on my college application. I was socially awkward and completely aloof on sports and music and fashion and shit but all my friends kept me around.

    Robotics was like peering into the void of what would happen if I just eschewed all attempts at being socially adjusted. This was early 10s so it was all creeper hoodies, soviet national anthem type humor, a lot of the kids had actual autism, or some sort of behavioral issue idk, and were complete assholes to deal with. They would scream or make weird noises and I hated being near them. Also sooo many of them with BO and hygiene issues. Idk I hate being mean but all the other kids made me so uncomfortable, knowing I was straddling this border between the normie and niche turbo-autist world.

    We'd go to the meets and encounter other, larger, more diverse teams that weren't like this, and I'd be cringing and seething like fuck why am I here, am I one of these guys, I miss my normie friends.

    I dropped it senior year and immediately just felt so much better and came out of my shell.

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    When I was a teen, I eschewed pursuing my autistic hobbies, but I also avoided normie hobbies because I knew those would also make my autism stand out due to how bad I was at them. I figured if I was just kinda quiet most of the time and avoided directly participating in things, I could create a veneer of being normal around my peers. Ultimately, this led to me not having common hobbies or interests with anybody, normal or autistic, which meant when I entered adulthood I didn't have a basis for building a social circle or networking. In hindsight, I probably would've been better off just pursuing the sperg shit I was interested in as a kid.

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    I did robotics and at one point I was sort of the designated minder for the legitimate behavioral issues kid. The quirked up nerds were alright, though. Some of them have been pretty successful.

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    I feel like I have this exact problem with my girlfriends friends a lot. Like I end up feeling weird empathy because I remember being painfully cringe at different points in my youth, but I came into autism before the online surge of 'neurodivergence,' so it was something I focused on overcoming socially rather than just finding acceptance for.

    I want them to find like minded people and all, but so often they are still miserable and don't see why they have friend conflict or why conversation with other autistic people is still awkward because instead of learning why/how they made people uncomfortable, they learned other people's discomfort as an offense they would shirk that the right people would somehow not be bothered by. In reality, other autistic ppl have an even harder time managing someone who conversation hogs or talks too loud or has no sense of what is spewing about themselves vs a dialogue on a shared interest or an insight worth hearing from only one person about. I really blame the movement of making it seem almost like a form of psychosocial dimorphism rather than a short coming caused by disability.

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    This one is absolutely true lol. Similar to the other person who replied to this I graduated high school in 2016 and was one of those guys who was between the normies and the band kid types and most of the actual bullying I saw take place was higher functioning kids trying to ostracize lower functioning ones and making any social faux pas into a big deal. Come to think of it as you said that's the exact dynamic with Chris Chan and all the other online personalities people cyberstalk. In middle school there was more of the traditional male dominance hierarchy stuff because of puberty but most of the alpha jocks or whatever mostly just didn't acknowledge these guys in high school even if I'm sure they talked shit about all of us (granted this was also when anti bullying campaigns seemed to have worked a bit so different environment than the kind that gave rise to high school movies and Columbine, but its not hard to imagine someone caring more about partying and fucking than being a stereotypical bully at this point)

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  • The funniest comment I read on here was on some gender war post about gooning, and some guy commented something to the effect of “I masturbated to women’s recent success in the workforce.”

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  • It seems really popular these days to talk about the loss of community, neighborhood, family, and how this is making everyone sad or something. But nothing is actually physically stopping us from having constant neighborhood dinners and borrowing things from each other and whatnot.

    There's a sort of standard answer that goes something like "phones and internet and video games are more short term interesting than building community spirits, so people do that instead" which I get but that still feels... unsatisfactory. People push do themselves to do annoying short term but beneficial long term, in fact this is a thing generally considered a great virtue in the West IME. See gym culture, for one.

    Do people maybe not actually want it, and saying that you do is just a weird form of virtue signalling? Or is it just something people have almost always said, like "kids these days"? Is it that community feels "fake" unless you actually need it for protection and resources?

    I think about this a lot

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    This one is brutal damn

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  • this scathing anti-anna propaganda piece:

    Anna is dumb as shit.

    Dasha is the smart one.

    Anna is the try-hard person who comes in with her cringe as fuck notes to read off awkwardly--not that she can pronounce half the words--and all the reading she claims to have done. Nonetheless, Anna still doesn't know if Ford Motor Company still exists.

    Dasha rolls up drunk, says she doesn't read novels, and still drops wittier and more insightful shit off the dome than Anna could dream of coming up with even sitting alone at her MacBook writing and re-writing for hours.

    This fact enrages a certain kind of wannabe

    "smart" person who thinks being smart is doing all your homework on time. Anna even talks about this, though she doesn't realize it. When she talks about all of her failed attempts at writing longform. She wants to be an interesting essayist but she's just not smart enough to do it. Nobody would read her in print.

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  • I forget the exact wording but it was along the lines of “squirt is to pee as a home is to a building.” And I thought that was kind of beautiful

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  • This explains so much about reddit snitch culture

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  • "some spend their entire lives trying to prove their highschool bully wrong"

    Said in reference to poly/ENM people

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  • This one deleted yesterday about how people are intentionally making effort to pretend things that aren’t true are true to protect government pdfiles

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  • 𝐻𝑒𝑦 𝑔𝑖𝑟𝑙 𝑖𝑡𝑠 𝑚𝑒 𝑖 𝑎𝑚 𝑝𝑜𝑠𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑓𝑟𝑜𝑚 𝑠𝑜𝑛𝑔 𝑑𝑦𝑛𝑎𝑠𝑡𝑦. 𝐴𝑛𝑑 𝑜𝑚𝑔 𝑖 𝑏𝑒𝑒𝑛 𝑒𝑎𝑡𝑖𝑛𝑔 𝑠𝑜 𝑚𝑢𝑐ℎ 𝑟𝑖𝑐𝑒

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  • I have Autism, everything here said about it is wrong other than Anna and Dasha do have Autism voice

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  • Happeningcels are seething

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  • Also someone here told a story about going to some sort of outdoor music event, like lots of people sat on a hillside, and there was a older man walking around who, when asked what he was doing, responded "I'm hoonin fer poon! HOOOOOININ FER POOOOOON!"

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  • I think about a few years ago when that slavfest kicked off somebody was saying, I think it was April9th actually. It was like the way we feel about the Russian invasion of Ukraine is how the rest of the world looks at us when we invade some flavor of the week.

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  • Something to the effect of “Nobody hates women more than other women”

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  • “People think that you know what they’re insecure about”

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  • "Thou shalt not bear false witness" only applies to when you're under oath.

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  • Are you my long lost twin? I’m the exact same way and have recently been trying to remind myself that I have free will in order to make more self-interested choices

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  • Rules are made up and impractical. Context is everything. 

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