Im for sure gonna get down voted for this but what’s the big deal? They’re both consenting adults. Is it just people hate it because it is uncommon / goes against social norms?
It's incredibly shady. Completely different mindsets and life stages, and oftentimes the older partner already had contact with the younger previously, which people might be suspecting here too.
Okay so different mindset = not good? What’s wrong with being with someone in a different life stage? Yeah there’s a lot of differences of experience and priority but love shouldn’t be a check-list of probabilities…it’s much more complex than that. And that stuff about the contact is just a total stereotype and doesn’t explain why it’s actually wrong
What’s so wrong about differing mindsets and life stages? The latter truly doesn’t change much and the former…like, love isn’t just some check list of how similar someone is to you, human bonds are much more complex and it’s subjective. And that last part is just a massive stereotype and therefore doesnt justify why it’s bad
A power dynamic isn’t always bad in a relationship, dominants and submissives exist. You can indeed say 18 year olds aren’t the wisest, but there’s one thing clear in almost all relationships with older people that they do know the other one has an advantage. It’s just natural. It’s not always "extremely skewed", like genuinely, there’s plenty of room for the infinitely complex mind of the human to be able to adapt to THAT, y’know? I think you guys are kinda basing yourselves on assumptions of the worst case scenarios. It’s like I said in another comment, anyone at any age can get into a toxic relationship, and I’m pretty sure we all know that forbidding all relationships is the solution. An age limit is good, though, because yes, obviously, the human needs time to mature and the chances of someone being mature enough for an adult below 18 is extremely low to the point it’s good these laws and restrictions are in place…but I just don’t think we should start being angry over 18 year olds being considered fully consenting adults and getting into the relationships they want.
Let's be honest at 18 people aren't really smart and there is no reason to just not date your age (like around 5-7 years younger or older) unless you are looking for someone that's easy to manipulate.
And it would look way less bad if she was 19, dating someone who is just of legal age comes across as creepy.
"There is no reason" how do you know? It’s subjective, these stereotypes are harmful to just assume anything that isn’t same age is just grooming. I’m 18, and I genuinely see myself fitting in more with an older woman more than a woman my age, not that I don’t like women my age, but I like older women more…like, is that such a bad thing? If a woman older than me were to also feel like she fits in with me would that be bad? Sure, there is the question of me possibly not having experience and being misleaded, it that can happen to anyone. No matter the age, people get in relationships which they eventually let go of…and that ain’t no reason to stop having relationships all together, I’m sure you’re aware.
Most 18 year olds at an age where they think they’re an adult but they actually have many more great ideas they need to play out and learn hard lessons from. Anyone 25+ is on the other side of that journey and should ideally be looking for an equal. So it begs the question: why do they want someone less mature than them?
Genuinely do not see anything wrong with this like dude are we really being angry over 18 year olds getting with who they want? 18 year olds are not children, damnit, sure they are young but at some point we gotta allow people to deal with situations on their own and figure out through observing subjective components of each situations.
Okay, to try and steelman this, gay relationships aren’t as available as straight relationships so oftentimes you’ll see bigger age gaps and other things. Lack of availability means you have to expand your dating pool.
That being said, 18 and 34 is nuts. I get that fact it’s all legal and everyone consents and whatever, but that’s damn near double the age. Super creepy.
He just asking a question he probably raised in a world where it was not accepted or a topic people talked about so good on him for at least asking about it
bro wtf genuinely how can people think this way 😭
That's the neat part; they don't
It's ragebait
What in the groomer fuck is this.
this is predatory yes
glad that this sub agrees this clearly predatory given i was downvoted for saying 27x18 was also fucked a few days ago.
Reddit can be such a 50/50 sometimes
Im for sure gonna get down voted for this but what’s the big deal? They’re both consenting adults. Is it just people hate it because it is uncommon / goes against social norms?
It's incredibly shady. Completely different mindsets and life stages, and oftentimes the older partner already had contact with the younger previously, which people might be suspecting here too.
Okay so different mindset = not good? What’s wrong with being with someone in a different life stage? Yeah there’s a lot of differences of experience and priority but love shouldn’t be a check-list of probabilities…it’s much more complex than that. And that stuff about the contact is just a total stereotype and doesn’t explain why it’s actually wrong
What’s so wrong about differing mindsets and life stages? The latter truly doesn’t change much and the former…like, love isn’t just some check list of how similar someone is to you, human bonds are much more complex and it’s subjective. And that last part is just a massive stereotype and therefore doesnt justify why it’s bad
There's no way that difference in age doesn't have extremely skewed power dynamics, in short.
A power dynamic isn’t always bad in a relationship, dominants and submissives exist. You can indeed say 18 year olds aren’t the wisest, but there’s one thing clear in almost all relationships with older people that they do know the other one has an advantage. It’s just natural. It’s not always "extremely skewed", like genuinely, there’s plenty of room for the infinitely complex mind of the human to be able to adapt to THAT, y’know? I think you guys are kinda basing yourselves on assumptions of the worst case scenarios. It’s like I said in another comment, anyone at any age can get into a toxic relationship, and I’m pretty sure we all know that forbidding all relationships is the solution. An age limit is good, though, because yes, obviously, the human needs time to mature and the chances of someone being mature enough for an adult below 18 is extremely low to the point it’s good these laws and restrictions are in place…but I just don’t think we should start being angry over 18 year olds being considered fully consenting adults and getting into the relationships they want.
Because its just a bit too much. Personally i draw the line at 18 - 22
Yeah that's pretty fair
Let's be honest at 18 people aren't really smart and there is no reason to just not date your age (like around 5-7 years younger or older) unless you are looking for someone that's easy to manipulate.
And it would look way less bad if she was 19, dating someone who is just of legal age comes across as creepy.
"There is no reason" how do you know? It’s subjective, these stereotypes are harmful to just assume anything that isn’t same age is just grooming. I’m 18, and I genuinely see myself fitting in more with an older woman more than a woman my age, not that I don’t like women my age, but I like older women more…like, is that such a bad thing? If a woman older than me were to also feel like she fits in with me would that be bad? Sure, there is the question of me possibly not having experience and being misleaded, it that can happen to anyone. No matter the age, people get in relationships which they eventually let go of…and that ain’t no reason to stop having relationships all together, I’m sure you’re aware.
Most 18 year olds at an age where they think they’re an adult but they actually have many more great ideas they need to play out and learn hard lessons from. Anyone 25+ is on the other side of that journey and should ideally be looking for an equal. So it begs the question: why do they want someone less mature than them?
Genuinely do not see anything wrong with this like dude are we really being angry over 18 year olds getting with who they want? 18 year olds are not children, damnit, sure they are young but at some point we gotta allow people to deal with situations on their own and figure out through observing subjective components of each situations.
Bait
reads like a plant ngl
Lol identity subs are all such dumpster fires.
Yes, grooming is incredibly prevalent in the gay community.
Okay, to try and steelman this, gay relationships aren’t as available as straight relationships so oftentimes you’ll see bigger age gaps and other things. Lack of availability means you have to expand your dating pool.
That being said, 18 and 34 is nuts. I get that fact it’s all legal and everyone consents and whatever, but that’s damn near double the age. Super creepy.
Me personally won’t do it.
this gotta be ragebait
He just asking a question he probably raised in a world where it was not accepted or a topic people talked about so good on him for at least asking about it
Ewww wtf that is not but she's right. LGBTq it's more normalised and it's not right. Guys that age with men who are 40s.
I get they make the minority and there's less gay people but there's enough that they don't need to be in an age gap relationship
I'm thinking this is fake by the way it's typed but i've seen this happen though.
People with 10+ year age gaps coping like it's not cringey.