My mother randomly called me yesterday and I was busy. She started demanding I answer because “she gave birth to me” I explained to her that’s not the way you get people to call you. Somehow she jumped to the conclusion that I don’t come around much because of what happened to me when I was a kid. (She doesn’t even get any of the details right it’s much worse than what she was saying, and it wasn’t little kids) she literally brought up my trauma out of nowhere for no reason.
I finally got fed up and stated my boundaries to be able to continue this relationship and she showed her true colors.
This woman gave me up when I was 10 btw.
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Id block her so when she changes her mind you don't have to deal with that toxicity again. She's just trying to accuse you of being kidnapped every time she doesn't like what you say. Gotta be someone else, not the kid she raised...I couldn't keep contact with this woman
Eesh. Sounds a lot like my mother. She told me to have a good life and she was tired of my bullshit when I set boundaries and blocked me. Somehow she flipped the story and I was the one that cut her off first even though I just stuck with it when she came running back. Been No Contact for 5 years and there is so much less drama and stress. She also destroyed my credit before I was 18 so I feel ya there.
Hugs you don't need this drama. ♥️
This is awful. I’m so sorry. This is exactly how generation abuse continues, by her mindset of “it happens to everyone, get over it”.
That is so fucking disgusting. I can't believe she would talk about your trauma that way and then go "poor me I had anxiety my whole life 🥺" not to invalidate anxiety of course but how can she expect you to have empathy after she talked to you that way? I'm so sorry. What happened to you was not okay and it's normal to not be "over it". She asked who gives a fuck, well I do. Good riddance!
She gave you up when you were 10? I'm so sorry. The audacity of this woman!
PS they don't see boundaries as healthy. They look at boundaries as trying to control someone. In their minds, boundaries are for people you don't love.
Welcome!
Do you really love her? I did not love mine by the end. I don't even understand what loving someone you can't stand would look like. I can wish someone well from a distance, but that doesn't mean I love them.
This is so abusive. I’m sorry you are experiencing this. You deserve so much more care than this woman is capable of.
She’s disgusting for saying all that. My heart hurts for you. Your requests go entirely reasonable and when she said “it’s clear you don’t love me” because you’re asserting boundaries, what she’s actually saying is “I don’t love you enough to respect your boundaries.” ✌️ please block and try to move on with your chosen family.