Hi, I'm currently a freshman in a college in the southeast of the United states and my dorm situation is kinda strange. I'm in a double by myself because my roommate had to delay her enrollment by about a year for financial reasons. This has since left me with two girls (the 3rd has a single too but she is graduating this fall and isnt in the dorm that often) which I share a bathroom and living area with. Initially it was pretty chill, we weren't friends or anything but cordial. However over time it started to become kind of awkward, small things like not waving back at me when I wave to them around school (I don't care for this because I'm not in school to force friendships) or leaving pasive aggressive notes in our shared spaces when they could directly address it with me. With these I wasn't too upset about it because they weren't exactly terrible things I couldnt deal with. Fast Foward to yesterday I overhear them having a loud ass concersation about me and my skin color, just overall being very disrespectful. The craziest thing is that now they're being overly friendly with their good mornings and things of that sort as if they didnt just disrespect me. I'm not a confrontational person, but I also don't want to be seen as a pushover who allows people to disrespect her. How do I go about confronting them and also ensuring that they admit it. With how fake they are being they seem like the type
Talk to them and expose what you heard. From what you wrote, it seems you want to learn the truth.
Best luck,
So how much you push the issue probably depends on if your RA's will take your side if it devolves, but either way I would probably make a correction once and don't let her talk about it again unless she starts acting up again. If you're just looking to defend yourself and make her regret her actions I don't know that you need to make her admit it, just make her know you know and disapprove. If getting her to admit her fault is important I unfortunately don't know for certain what you can do. Either way this is just my input and may not work if your situation is slightly different from what I'm thinking.
Ask the school to move you somewhere safer. You deserve housing with people who don't hate you for the color of your skin.
Move out and find somewhere else , don’t tolerate pples who are clearly racist to u , move out dins a new dorm or place to stay , slowly move your stuff out
This is illegal and discriminatory. Document, confront them via email, and report it.
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Do you need them to admit anything? What will they do for you? They are playing mind games and you are falling by that sht. They are being overly friendly to see how you will react after they have been rude at best, full on AH at worst. If you went along they’d have none they punked you. Now you know that you can never trust them.
You are dealing with racists so I suggest you grow a pair and completely freeze them out. Pretend they don’t exist. Don’t speak to them except via post-it note, don’t look at them.
And if they bring it up and try to play the victims keep it cute and DOCUMENT! Keep a diary of negative interactions that include the things they said about you just in case you have to defend your self with your dorm managers.
Racism is everywhere. We have to keep this in mind all the time and move based on the situation. Some comments on skin color can be quite hurtful, I personally gone through. But, who knows we are blessed with such a color can prevents various illnesses and those with light skin color who make fun of dark skin color can end up with deadly diseases. We never know. We have to be happy with what we have and ensure we don't ever behave like them.