When we told my in-laws, we surprised them with a digital pregnancy test. To my surprise, my mother in law asked to keep it. Said something about wanting to make a scrapbook for the baby. I said sure, at the time I thought it was odd but wasn’t bothered.
Since then, I discovered I had a missed miscarriage. She has the only test I took that actually says the word “pregnant” and I really want it back. I have plenty of the first response with lines. Am I crazy for wanting the test back? Or should I just let it be? It was one of the first tests we ever took and it makes me sad I don’t have it.
This is our first pregnancy and my husband is her only son (my husbands older brother passed away a few years ago).
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100% ask for it back!
I’m so sorry to hear that. If it’s a digital test then the battery will run out after a while if it hasn’t already. Mine lasted like a week
They last for about 6ish months and there are stickers you can get for the screen.
That’s sweet. Sorry I didn’t mean to reply to your comment, amateur move!!!
All good!
Yeah I was surprised at how quickly the battery died. I placed mine in a memory box. It was dead within a couple of months.
This. First pregnacy’s lasted like 5 months. Second only lasted a few weeks.
When I took digital test I left it at the counter and couple days later it did not show anything 😂
Sooner or later the battery will run out and it will be blank. I understand the attachment but think about if you would want a keepsake of a digital test tjat says nothing down the line.
Btw my pregnancy turned out to be chemical, so I took a couple pregnancy tests few days apart and both turned blank in just couple of days 😅
Absolutely ask for it back but please know that the screen does go blank after a certain amount of time. I am so very sorry for your loss.
Thank you! Now that I know the screen goes blank maybe I don’t need it back though 😂
Maybe ask for a picture of it? That’s what I did with my old tests, both for my daughter and the miscarriages, took pictures of the tests to keep. Digitals go blank and line tests can fade and yellow.
Honestly, after my loss seeing the blank screen was kind of awful. My next pregnancy I tossed them quickly to not have it happen again if it was another loss.
Yeah, the battery on it only lasts a little while and then dies. I also had a digital test for our first pregnancy and was sad that the only thing I had left of it was that test, and it died ☹️
5 years later and my dollar store tests with the lines are still in perfect condition!
The lines aren’t the same as the digital tests which run on batteries. The lines should theoretically last forever but can fade / yellow
Ya, that's why I let her know the ones with the lines are going to keep lol. If she wants a keepsake, what she has is perfect! I never bothered with the digitals
I want to say how very sorry I am for your loss.
But yeah, the digital ones will run out of juice at one point which can be sooner than one thinks (I've heard anywhere from a week to a year) and apparently it is near impossible to change their batteries. On the other hand the line ones I've heard still show the results from a year to many many many years depending on how they are kept. Although I have never gone through a loss I also kept my first tests and they all still show lines with no signs of fading more than 3 years after as I keep them in a dry dark place with no real temperature fluctuations.
With all that I also want to share a fact about being a mother- your baby will always be with you. You will always be their mother. Fetal cells will remain within the mom forever and you will always have that connection.
Came here to say this! I think my clearblue digital went blank after a couple weeks. I'm sorry for your loss!
I’d ask for it back!! Just a fair warning, I kept mine and they all don’t have anything on the screen anymore so take pictures of it too in case it does blank out. Sending you love 🫶🏼
Digital test batteries will eventually die. That test isn’t gonna say pregnant forever. Having a picture of it is gonna last longer than the test itself. Test with lines stay forever.
You peed on it so its yours. Oldest principle of property law.
I would ask for a pic since the test will go blank eventually. I’ve lost 2 pregnancies and it was hard to get rid of my tests but I eventually did when it went blank.
I would honestly give her whatever you’ve got and ask her to make a scrapbook of all of it, or a shadow box. (ONLY if you trust her 100% to do that without losing anything, or throwing anything away, and making it with respect and honor to your little one in heaven)
All for asking for it back, but just to let you know (assuming clear blue digital) the display goes away after a few months and finding it in a drawer without the word pregnant on it broke me.
I think in this situation it's totally cool to ask for it back. Because you want it to be sentimental in your own way because of the circumstances. I would totally understand if I had a daughter in law that asked this.
Ask for it back! Nothing wrong with that. I will warn you though, my digital lasted like a week until it died :/
I'm sorry to hear this. Have your husband retrieve the test! Also, I have a few digitals and they stop saying the word pregnant on them after a few weeks.
My clearblue digital only stays live for 24hrs before going blank!
I’m so sorry. I just had my second miscarriage (six pregnancies total) and they are SO HARD. Ask for the test back. It’s all you have of the baby you carried and it’s ok to want it back.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Absolutely ask for it back if that’s something that will be comforting to you! As others have said, the “pregnant” part will go away after a few months when the battery dies. But I have seen where people send the test caps off to have someone make jewelry from the cap. There are some beautiful pieces on Etsy to commemorate the pregnancy and remember your baby. You can then keep the other line tests since the lines won’t (or shouldn’t) fade. My mom kept the pregnancy test from when she found out with me and the lines are still there 30 years later.
Ive heard that the company will send you a forever test and idk if they come bedazzled or ppl do it themselves but ive seen it so much on tiktok!! my condelencese to you and your hibby 💔🫶🫂
That’s your test. If she doesn’t give it back, she’s asking for a lot of trouble.
So ask for it back?????
Just wanting validation that it’s not a bitch move when I do have more tests at home … lol. Part of me feels petty and stupid for asking for a test back when the pregnancy failed
It's definitely not a bitch move, especially when you're grieving and you just need that bit of happy proof right now.
Its your test. Its all.you have now of your pregnancy. If shes not understanding that would be wildly insane. You aren't petty or stupid at all.
It was straight up inappropriate for her to ask for it. Get it back!
You want the digital test back despite it not saying pregnant on it? Because they eventually die after a few days. If that's the case, she should still respect your wishes and give it back
Ask for it back !!