So, I mostly have like violent thoughts(like choking or killing people who Im mad at, excluding my family though) and so I reposted a tiktok that expresses the same feelings I have. But my friend found this video out and she said “you cant be serious right? This is so cringe. You know how cringe this is that you reposted something like this?” And I’ve been thinking about that. Is it really weird to have violent thoughts when youre angry??
It's not weird but as someone with similar thoughts and also struggles with equally violent and graphic ideation, it's definitely indicative of unhealthy coping mechanisms and deeper underlying issues that cause rage 🙏🏼 nothing that isn't unheard of or abnormal, just another symptom of humanity my dear- Defintely speak to a trusted adult if you have one in your life that you feel will not only offer solid advice but provide the warmth and comfort you need to receive said advice.
I have these. I think of them like neutralizing thoughts for when I'm having horrible intrusive, anxiety inducing thoughts. I have to imagine either brutally killing the person its about, or brutally killing myself to stop the anxiety it's causing me and get my anger out. This is actually the first time I've ever shared this. I have very bad coping mechanisms for sure
Thanks for sharing this. I never told anyone for years what my thoughts were, and I found out that I was not alone at all. So many of us have violent thoughts, the difference between us and evil is that we don't act on those thoughts.
You're not alone either.
Thanks for understanding that it's different from actually wanting to cause harm. That's the hardest part about sharing this stuff
Look into emdr therapy. I like your use of neutralizing thoughts. Emdr helps with that wo the violent associations
I've had thoughts like those since I was molested at age 10. For me, it's a normal part of who I am. I have never once acted on anything I've thought. I have not hurt any innocent people, and have only been in physical fights with someone who hit me first. I never started a fight in my life, but I have a mean streak a mile long when crossed. DO NOT TOUCH ME, NEVER HIT ME! That comes from physical abuse from my mother, too, along with molestation.
When I was a teenager, I had this HUGE chip on my shoulder. My face said it all. Fuck with me, come on. I had to grow up and away from that mentality. It was stupid. But I'm 68 now, and I still think violent things about the brother that molested me and my two sisters. One who died because of her pain. So, I hate him and I wish the worst the world has to offer for him. But wishing doesn't make it come true, thinking it doesn't make it happen. So for my own sanity, those who I hate, I try not to think of at all. Why let myself get so fucking angry that I want horrible things to happen? All it does is hurt me, they don't know, they can't feel my anger, they wouldn't care if they knew what I was thinking. Best thing to do is, calm yourself, find a way to stop thinking about them. I work out a lot. That helps me! Find something that brings you joy.
I think most people think violent things about someone who has hurt them.
Anger is just pain needing an outlet.
I always say “I can’t let them live rent free within me”.
Having these thoughts may not always be weird, but directly talking about them or indirectly referring to them is on another level.
Edit: At least sometimes.
I still wouldn't call that weird, more so seeking an outlet for said issues- but not necessarily having the tools or ability to properly address it yk it takes some learning
It's not always weird, but it could become. It may depend, for example, whether you say "I want to punch you in the face" or "I want to disembowel you" when someone looks at his cellphone in the cinema.
It’s a little extra for sure. You may want to speak to someone.
It never hurts to speak to a professional about your emotional pain.
Honestly, the only way to stop those type of thoughts is to attend anger management or therapy.
not weird. if I get very mad I get a strong urge to bite people. it feels like I have rabies lol