The children know what kind of father you are. Has she brainwashed them to make false allegations of assault? Surely they get interviewed? Focus on the kids and custody or access...it's a long tough road you're on. I am truly sorry you're going through this. Try not to put the kids in the middle but do show them you are committed to them and want to be a part of their life.
Remember she can’t keep them from you forever. Children grow up and have their own opinions. Take the high road on this one. It’s about the long game. Stay strong. Be supportive of your children in all of the ways you’re allowed to be. They’ll see her for the evil person she is. Her time will come.
I’m curious, after all of this, why you would consider her your soulmate? More like soul crushing. Protect yourself & love yourself more! Please only focus on yourself & your kids. Wishing you the best! Stay strong!
Thank you, she’s the only person I ever wanted to be with or ever loved. We were together from a young age and I never imagined myself with someone else. It is soul crushing, and maybe she’s not my soulmate but even still I have a hard time believing any of it.
Buddy, I'm with you in that belief. She more than likely is your Soul mate.i believe you have more than one and each one comes into your life at a different time for a different reason. Your forever soul mate is out there waiting to find you to, probably totally unaware of it currently. Why do I think this? Simple, almost the exact same scenario happened to me with my soul mate of ten years. She left and it fucking crushed me. I came so close to committing suicide but a bunch of cops managed to save my ass and pull the knife out of my chest before it could reach my heart. I'm thankful for them now, because I met my Forever soul mate and it is amazing. She is so different from anyone that I have ever dated before in my life and she is perfect in every way. This will pass And it will be tough, I am still dealing with the fallout but it WILL pass my man. Take care, hold you head up. You tried and have it your best, you stood your ground for your family, for your kids, yourself and even her. She rejected that safety you offered, it sucks but there is nothing you can do about it unfortunately. Mine did the exact same, she is now dating 2 different guys that have no clue about each other and it will eventually come back to bite her damn face off. I've been concerned and trying to reach out and tell her to be safe and that I would provide that safety, but they have to learn on their own sometimes. What they are both feeling, your wife, my ex-fiancé, is surface level lust being mistaken for new love with the NRE/Jitters. Continue being a good man and your kids will see who they should be with. Take care OP
All of that would not have happened if you didn't get back together with someone who showed you how little they cared about you by abandoning you and taking your children to stay with another man the first time.
Had a relationship with such a girl.
It's a type that loves bad boys, and only wanna be dominated & controlled by them. (Guess it's something with abuse in the childhood compensation thing??)
I was too soft for her, lucky she ended this relationship herself and I could move on, took a while to recover though.
Sorry for your kids, they are the real victims here, she is still the mother.
Please stay away from her. Sure will only bring you misery. You sound like a decent guy, be easy on yourself and just use this as a major lesson going forward. Do whatever you need to protect yourself and children from her bs as much as possible. If you haven't already find a therapist to provide you with tools to navigate your valid feelings.0
I just hope you can continue to build snd nurture your relationship with your children. Hopefully of all the damage she’s done, that bond won’t be broken. Good luck OP.
There’s not much I can say but send you positive vibes peace and love. I wish you the best and all the luck you can get keep your head up. Hopefully this will pass.
Man, I'm so sorry, I read this and it is honestly a sad story, this woman is for the streets and I know you consider her your soulmate so I'm sorry to say that she deserves whatever's coming to her, in this life or the next.
Please, please get out of there and show the kids that you are a committed and dedicated father to them and only them.
The children know what kind of father you are. Has she brainwashed them to make false allegations of assault? Surely they get interviewed? Focus on the kids and custody or access...it's a long tough road you're on. I am truly sorry you're going through this. Try not to put the kids in the middle but do show them you are committed to them and want to be a part of their life.
Thank you, I appreciate this and I will do everything possible to show my children my commitment to them.
Remember she can’t keep them from you forever. Children grow up and have their own opinions. Take the high road on this one. It’s about the long game. Stay strong. Be supportive of your children in all of the ways you’re allowed to be. They’ll see her for the evil person she is. Her time will come.
I’m curious, after all of this, why you would consider her your soulmate? More like soul crushing. Protect yourself & love yourself more! Please only focus on yourself & your kids. Wishing you the best! Stay strong!
Thank you, she’s the only person I ever wanted to be with or ever loved. We were together from a young age and I never imagined myself with someone else. It is soul crushing, and maybe she’s not my soulmate but even still I have a hard time believing any of it.
Google “trauma bond”.
Real love is characterised by respect and trust - on both sides. Your partner should bring out the best in you.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Document everything and keep fighting.
Buddy, I'm with you in that belief. She more than likely is your Soul mate.i believe you have more than one and each one comes into your life at a different time for a different reason. Your forever soul mate is out there waiting to find you to, probably totally unaware of it currently. Why do I think this? Simple, almost the exact same scenario happened to me with my soul mate of ten years. She left and it fucking crushed me. I came so close to committing suicide but a bunch of cops managed to save my ass and pull the knife out of my chest before it could reach my heart. I'm thankful for them now, because I met my Forever soul mate and it is amazing. She is so different from anyone that I have ever dated before in my life and she is perfect in every way. This will pass And it will be tough, I am still dealing with the fallout but it WILL pass my man. Take care, hold you head up. You tried and have it your best, you stood your ground for your family, for your kids, yourself and even her. She rejected that safety you offered, it sucks but there is nothing you can do about it unfortunately. Mine did the exact same, she is now dating 2 different guys that have no clue about each other and it will eventually come back to bite her damn face off. I've been concerned and trying to reach out and tell her to be safe and that I would provide that safety, but they have to learn on their own sometimes. What they are both feeling, your wife, my ex-fiancé, is surface level lust being mistaken for new love with the NRE/Jitters. Continue being a good man and your kids will see who they should be with. Take care OP
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I believe that’s called a succubus
Thank you, it is done. But it is completely ruining me.
I am SO sorry. You don’t deserve this at all and she’s an idiot. I know you’ll get through this.
Yes she is evil. I am truly sorry for you. Stay strong for your children.
Soulmate? Sounds more like a disease to me.
All of that would not have happened if you didn't get back together with someone who showed you how little they cared about you by abandoning you and taking your children to stay with another man the first time.
Hope you resolve this issue
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I am truly sorry. She sounds like a nightmare not a soulmate. I hope the kids and you get to spend time together soon.
Had a relationship with such a girl. It's a type that loves bad boys, and only wanna be dominated & controlled by them. (Guess it's something with abuse in the childhood compensation thing??)
I was too soft for her, lucky she ended this relationship herself and I could move on, took a while to recover though.
Sorry for your kids, they are the real victims here, she is still the mother.
Never forgive a woman who loves asshole
Please stay away from her. Sure will only bring you misery. You sound like a decent guy, be easy on yourself and just use this as a major lesson going forward. Do whatever you need to protect yourself and children from her bs as much as possible. If you haven't already find a therapist to provide you with tools to navigate your valid feelings.0
I'm so sorry you are going through this, you deserve so much better. please hold out hope, there is a light at the end
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Thank you, it is a soul level wound, I’m still in shock.
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I just hope you can continue to build snd nurture your relationship with your children. Hopefully of all the damage she’s done, that bond won’t be broken. Good luck OP.
Hang in there. See if you can find an attorney who specializes in these kinds of cases. Get a good therapist!
She might be evil but you’re are equally an idiot for forgiving her and getting back together.
There’s not much I can say but send you positive vibes peace and love. I wish you the best and all the luck you can get keep your head up. Hopefully this will pass.
This is the man I'm with right now. I feel so hurt and depressed with no one to comfort me. I just cry to myself. I think I'm just done already.
Man, I'm so sorry, I read this and it is honestly a sad story, this woman is for the streets and I know you consider her your soulmate so I'm sorry to say that she deserves whatever's coming to her, in this life or the next.
Please, please get out of there and show the kids that you are a committed and dedicated father to them and only them.