So we have a group of four , three girls and one guy. My girlfriend and I are bisexual. The guy in the group said he would be uncomfortable being friends with a gay man, but then claimed this isn’t homophobic. I argued with him, but no one really backed me up. The other girl tried to avoid conflict, and while my girlfriend initially said something at first but she stayed silent once the argument started, which really upset me. Then we talked about it and we are ok rn. This isn’t the first time we’ve had issues with this guy all of us have had arguments with him before about a lot of things. He is just rude in general, and performative. Anyways. I was genuinely furious, because I don’t see how refusing to be friends with gay men and framing them as a threat can be anything other than homophobic? Is it not factualy homophobic? Also one time he called someone f*ggot, not that he is gay, but he was doing annoying things. Not that it makes it okay but just wanted to give context. So then we fought with him about this. Uhh im just so angry.
It's incredibly homophobic.
Thanks, I've been wanting this exact meme!
Definitely homophobic. Homophobic straight men are threatened by gay men, but do not respect lesbians, or women, as people. So he's ok with lesbians, and probably fetishizes them, but gay men are threatening. It's all rooted in the same homophobia.
It’s wildly homophobic AND misogynistic.
Are they sure the friend isn’t gay?
“A man and a woman can’t be friends” type shit.
shit.
Its homophobix AND ✨️sexist✨️
Sounds like he shouldn't be in the friend group.
I mean straight dudes are okay with lesbians because they can still fantasize about them and lesbian porn is still technically just two women.
Yes. Very homophobic. And possibly misogynist.
Yes. He wants to sleep with the lesbian friends. He doesn't see it as friendship. He sees it as delayed sexual conquest
The thought of this makes me sick
Yeah same
Yup. This guy should perhaps be ousted from your friend group.
Homophobic for sure. I would not be friends with him.
You’re absolutely right, this man is a homophobic, misogynistic sack of shit. Dig a little and you’ll find the rest of his bigotry too. You’re also right to be pissed off with your friends for not having the spine to do the right thing and support you even when it would have cost them almost nothing.
Yes it is.
He considers gay men a threat because he doesn't think it's possible for a man to NOT view someone of his preferred gender as a potential sexual conquest. That includes you, your girlfriend, and the other girl: he still considers you conquests. He's just smart enough to know that saying so will get him ousted from the group, thus ruining his chances of getting a threesome with you and your girlfriend or dating the other girl.
If he's rude and "performative" (aka... shallow? vain? hypocritical?) in general, why is he part of the group in the first place? If he uses slurs, he obviously doesn't actually respect your identity.