Hi All,

So i will try to keep this short as possible, Married and joint home owner with wife. We are going through a seperation and will be in mediation in a couple of months.

We have 2 kids 16 / 23 - never a bad word spoken really, never raised a hand to anyone so safety in the house is a non issue.

We have been in the same home for 22 years, I have paid the mortage and all bills in that time apart from two mortgage payments at the very start. Wife pays food shopping.

I moved here from the UK mid 90's no family here, this is my sole home, She has family here as is irish born and bred.

During seperation she is looking for me to be told i must leave the family home! my research has indicated this cannot happen but i am looking for a little more information here to possible scenarios.

I cannot afford to leave this home and still maintain all bills and mortage and pay rent on a new place as that will destroy me but she seems to be of the impression that I will be told to leave as she is saying she is a primary carer but we have both raised the boys. I can buy her out and the conversation from me was that the only real way is for either of us to buy the other out but she cannot afford that due to her salry.

- neverous as hell so anything you can give advise wise would be great.