So Ive started the keto diet about a week ago, my uncle recently came to America a few months ago and we visit them pretty often. Yesterday we visited them and as most people would, they made a whole bunch of food for guests and basically all of the food they had were pretty high in carbs and sugar. I denied them but they kept asking me a bunch of times over and over again to eat but I just kept refusing. Then in the car ride home my mom just kept saying she know’s I’m dieting and that what I am doing is wrong. I just feel so awkward about the whole situation and am probably gonna deal with this constant issue everytime we visit
As you start to feel better it gets easier to not eat stuff that is hurting you and your body. I just tell people I eat clean and lower carb/no sugars instead of saying keto sometimes. Also I try to eat a meal before i go places that will have food I know I can't eat just so I'm not hungry.
Good strategy, willpower isn’t a problem for me tho. I literally came up with a lie there saying I ate at home and that I’m not full but they still kept asking me a
Sounds like you're on the right track then. I find that some generations of family refuse to believe that eating this way could possibly be good for us or how our bodies are made to eat. And they will deliberately try to antagonize me about it because they can't and won't understand it.
The ironic part is my uncle who was offering the food used to be diabetic and he reversed it. Even makes hjs own bread cuz of diabetes, so he should understand. My dad is prediabetic as well. My dad yesterday kept telling me “ you’re not diabetic you don’t need to do this”
Your dad wasn’t diabetic when he was young. The more carbs you eat now if you’re going to get diabetes the faster you kill off those beta cells. You’re doing The right thing. My mom does of diabetes and even got diabetic dementia. Im not following in her footsteps and shame on your mom for telling you that your wring for wanting to be healthier. You’re not doing anything wrong.
I got crap from family members until the lbs melted away. Then they understood, and I got more support.
I’m normal weight and have good blood work results so they press me more about it, and my parents are the opposite they say I am gonna get too skinny
And I'm curious as to why you're doing keto at all?
I have just a little bit of abdominal fat that I wanna get rid of, I am only gonna do keto for a few months not for a while, my blood pressure is also 132/70 which is not too bad but not where I want it to be ( I am 20). Blood pressure is the only iffy thing in my blood work, everything else is good. I probably will do the keto diet for like 3 months before I switch to eating normally again
I’ve eaten keto for 8 years now and this holiday season will be my 9th keto holiday season. I know exactly how irritating it can be when family and others are personally offended that you aren’t eating all the carb-laden crap they are partaking of. However, you are under zero obligation to explain yourself because much like religion and politics…it is a contentious social issue that is ultimately YOUR personal choice. It does not impact any of them whatsoever because they aren’t the ones that have to live in your body, only you do. You did nothing wrong (your mother was very wrong to tell you you’re wrong), but yes, it will likely be something you’ll have to deal with on some level in the future. I’ll say my own personal experience has been that the longer I’ve eaten this way and refused carbs, the less they press the matter and bother themselves with my dietary choices. At this point nobody even bats an eye or bothers me whatsoever about it unless they aren’t familiar with me and my dietary restrictions.
Hang in there. 🤜 🤛 It gets better!
Appreciate it a lot, I don’t really blame my mom because she isn’t into nutrition stuff like that so maybe she is just a worried mom. But yea it is frustrating
It’s more about respecting your decisions than anything else, I’m sure she meant well but support for your choice to be healthier makes much more sense than criticism. If you started exercising or you were quitting alcohol instead of a simple change to your diet, I’m sure you wouldn’t get the same pushback. 🤷♀️
And I say that as someone who went through the exact same thing with my entire family and some of my husband’s family as well. It is infuriating how they can nit-pick what they perceive to be “wrong” when you know it’s not wrong at all. Sorry you’re dealing with it!
Wow 8 years I only lasted 2 years because I don’t make enough recipes to keep it interesting my bad But I’m going to give it another “go”
You might consider bringing some keto treats to share - a charcuterie board? - on your next visit so not eating anything doesn't feel so awkward to them. It's often more about the social participation than the specific foods.
This is actually a very good strategy, do you know any dessert like keto treats that under 20g carbs? Those are the ones that are hard to find
Check out All Day I Dream About Food. She has tons of recipes for keto treats.
Thank you for the tip 😄
Try Breyers Carb Smart ice cream with some berries and the SF readywhip.
People get all insulted when one makes a lifestyle change 😂😂😂 crazy
It’s so weird
I must hang out with a better crew, cause I’ve never really had anybody push back. I get curiosity, I get “wow how do you not eat sugar?“ But I’ve never gotten anybody who gets angry at me for not eating, or tries to force me to eat something I don’t want to.Not once. And now most people, even my colleagues at work, when they bring treats, they’re starting to bring things that include me. People are generally kind in my experience.
Be honest with them and tell them you're on a strict diet but happy to bring your own food so they don't need to worry about what you can have.
“ Diet” is a dangerous word around my mom. She won’t let anyone do it because she thinks it’s too extreme and that people need to have fun, I was literally hoping she wouldn’t catch on but she has now which is gonna make this harder
Look at this perspective, it’s not a diet. It is your “diet“. The diet means the way you eat the way you eat is low carb, high fat, high protein, clean low sugar lots of green veggies lots of high protein meat. You’re not on a diet. This is the way you eat.
Thats tough, family and love and respect. My grandma made mashed potatoes my mom made it known I would be required to eat them!
Maybe use a bit of judo on them. Insist with as much vigour as they do that next time you share a meal you will make a.delcious keto meal and challenge them to eat it and tell you it's not good!
Apologetically tell them you were surprised at how much better you feel for your own body doing macros the way you do macros.
Would they force feed you milk if you were dairy intolerant? GEESH! tell them to many carbs are making you sick. (it's true) and always make some deviled eggs or something you can eat along with everyone else and always eat before you go.
Its tricky, food is a way we celebrate, comfort and share with other it can ve very social, also i find that when you start doing better for yourself it shines a mirror on the bad choices that other people make and it makes them feel uncomfortable and if others are engaging in bad behavior it makes those choices easier.
Give it enough time the weight you’ll lose and way you will look eventually speaks for itself.
The bucket of crabs analogy isn’t just for poor people trying to drag someone working their way out of the slum. Humans are jealous creatures; God forbid you’re better off they will try to shoot you down at every turn.
Could always say “I ate before I came … but I’d love to take a plate home with me for later… Then take it and pass it on later to another friend or whomever Kind of win win
Or if ya wanna do something realllly baddd fill a plate and walk around visiting people and then disappear with it and flush some down the drain At least a half eaten plate they will back off Have the other half wrapped to go
I did say I ate before I came they didn’t care, and aye the crazy part is I took some soda cans and some candies that were wrapped and gave it to my brother when we got home since he didn’t go😂😂