Honestly just happy she got called out in the comments and didn’t have her shitty behaviour validated by people agreeing with her / insulting her son and his family.
I agree. Facebook is somehow more of a cesspool than Reddit due to how it’s often at the top of comment sections. At least with Reddit the heinous comments are (usually) pushed to the bottom because of downvotes.
Insane, I will never understand how people can be nasty to a child just because they’re not blood. And then be surprised by consequences. I wouldn’t let her near my children either.
Amazing how many Christians are not even trying to be Christ like. He loved, healed, fed and accepted all. Offers forgiveness, grace and love for all. Also amazing how many have never fully read the Bible.
She was right about one thing! She did indeed somehow raise her children to be better than this lol! Or more likely they had good examples outside the home haha.
My dad died when I was 8 weeks old. A few years later my mum met an amazing man who became my new dad. They had 2 children, my brothers.
Not only did that man become my dad and me his daughter - no step stuff -, my bio dad's family (mainly nan and grandad) welcomed my brothers with open arms and they are treated just like I am. Always gets birthday and christmas gifts, round for sunday lunch, spoken about with pride to their friends 'oh yes our Jamie completed his degree last week!'; one of my brothers even moved in with them when he left his girlfriend 😅 they truly just took them on
I respect my dad so much for taking me on as his own. He chose to be my dad. And I respect my bio dad's family so much for having so much love in their hearts that they never batted an eyelid when my mum moved on and brought my brothers into the world. Truly lovely people.
Edit: also thought to add, my 'new' dad was amazing and made sure I was always able to embrace that I had another dad. He used to take me to my bio dad's grave, got me a lil gift on my 18th an engraved 'gift from heaven' sort of thing, got me a canvas of a photo of me on the day I was born and my bio dad holding me... just always acknowledged that even though he was my dad now, I still had a late dad and helped me keep that connection and navigate the feelings that came with it all
When my birth mother and I reconnected after 35 years, her new husband was a little uncertain. After all its one thing to accept her younger children that he helped raise. But a 35 year old adult?
But after meeting just once, he said he saw the love we had for one another and he just knew it was right. And said I could call him dad if I felt comfortable with it.
A grandchild is a blessing no matter how they come into your life, I would consider every child a grandchild no matter what blood they have. My kid is their step/parent? Then yes, I'm going to be nana!
It's very easy for compatible people to forge a family this way and I love to see it happen.
My uncle was informally adopted by my grandparents after he came to my grandfather looking for odd jobs when he was like 14-15.
My grandma remarried after grandpa passed away, and her second husband was accepted into my family fairly quickly. To my younger cousins he was granddad or grandpa (name), and we got a very informal 4 generation portrait with him in it: grandma and grandpa, my uncle (the informally adopted one) and my aunt, their son and his partner, and their daughter.
When my friend got engaged to his now wife who had a 2 year old daughter, his parents were so excited to buy Christmas presents for their new granddaughter, to the point where they were worried that they were overstepping because they got her so much stuff. This is just sad.
It is exactly the same with my husband. I have two boys from my previous marriage and they were included immediately once we got engaged. Christmas and birthdays, plus checking in on how they’re doing (my in-laws live on the other side of the country, so visiting is hard).
I absolutely adore my in-laws! My MIL is kinder and more supportive of me than my own mother. Makes sense that the boy she raised would be just as wonderful.
Most parents can’t wait to have grand babies (this woman seems the type to even guilt them into existence), why does it matter if they’re step- or adopted or anything else?!
I love how she went from “He’s not my grandchild” to “I can’t afford a gift” to “He was born out of wedlock.” As if any of those reasons are valid to single out and punish a child at Christmas. (I’d also wonder if perhaps the child has a bit more melanin in his skin than grandma is comfortable with; nothing in the post to indicate as such, just thinking about my sister in law’s son from a previous relationship, whom my brother in law took on as his own son without hesitation. He’s a great kid, and we all love him dearly; I’m so lucky I get to be his “cool auntie.”)
You mean Joseph. She was betrothed to him, which is more official than a modern engagement, apparently, but indeed there wasn't supposed to be any hanky-panky at that stage. I wonder how often people really did jump the gun back then?
I have an ex-stepmom who was only married to my dad for 3 years. She's the mother of one of my half brothers, but my bio mom is the mother of three of my other half sibling without my dad and one with him. My ex-stepmom included ALL of my siblings, including the ones who had nothing to do with her or my dad, in every holiday and her parents called them their grandchildren, too. My ex-stepmom became their "aunty" and after she and my dad split up, she continued to treat my siblings and I like her children and she and my mom became friends so she could stay in all of our lives.
I just got a care package of baked goods from her a few days ago. I'm 35 now. My siblings (all of them) still talk to her and she gave them their baked goods in person since they still live in our home state.
Oh, not at all. I'm vlc with my mom, nc with my dad, and nc with most of my siblings all due to abuse or addiction. My ex-stepmom has Munchausen and By-proxy, but she can't do much harm to me or my sibling as she was never our primary care giver. I still talk to two sisters and a brother out of 11 younger siblings. My mom keeping my ex-stepmom in our lives was one of the few really good things my mom did.
My ex-stepmom's mother died recently, but she was wonderful. Her dad is still kicking around and I adore him.
My grandmother said she wouldn’t come to my pagan wedding because it’s against her Catholic faith. Turns out she told my younger brother that she would attend HIS non-Catholic wedding but not MINE. Because I was baptized and he was not. From what my mom told me, she had me baptized because my grandmother talked her into it.
She’s doing an awful thing to her step-grandchild, and I’m glad his mom and stepdad are sticking up for him.
My late mother accepted my brother's stepson immediately. She treated him just like her other grandchildren, and always made sure he felt welcomed and loved.
That's how family works. This woman is just awful, and I'm glad the FB group called her out on her shit.
So I have an extremely controlling stepmother. She came into my life at 9 and raised me religiously and abusive. Sonetimes though she has a good heart and means well, but I do believe she might be bi-polar, undiagnosed. Only because she can flip a switch and it turns into complete mental breakdowns over small things.
I have an older stepbrother who married a woman with a child already and she was accepted. I have an older step sister married to two men with kids previously and the 3 of those kids were accepted. My older sister had 2 kids and they were accepted (so not blood related to her). I have another sister with 2 kids with only the older accepted. I guess step mom was getting older and more tired, understandably, but she doesn't accept the younger daughter.
I'm the baby of the family, been through so much medically and couldn't have kids. I brought my stepdaughter over for the first time, step mom wouldn't even look at. SD was 7, she touched something on a display, and stepmom ABSOLUTELY lost it on her. Yelled at her, screamed at her, called her names. In front of everyone. Told my partner to GTFO there was too many people.
I grabbed them and left and haven't talked to them in 8 years.
The "you don't get prizes for stupid mistakes" comment really makes me wonder what she actually said to the parents. I get the feeling her getting cut off had more to do with that and her reasoning for avoiding the gift than just the gift itself like she's presenting it.
Yeah, if that's the kind of verbiage she's willing to use in public, I'm afraid to ask how vile she's willing to be behind closed doors. No wonder she's blocked on everything. Sounds to me like she's lucky she wasn't blocked long ago.
Ma’am, first of all, that’s not a boundary, and second of all, you made it clear that you intend to punish an innocent child for having been born OuT oF WeDLoCk, so I hope your son cuts your ass off for good.
Truly, I can’t imagine why they didn’t take you up on your generous offer to allow your DIL’s illegitimate spawn into your home for the purpose of feeling less than. 😒😒😒
“And Joseph said unto Mary, ‘Gross, that’s not even my kid. Don’t punish me for haveing (sic) boundaries.’” ~ (Hypocrites, 2:12)
For real! It's freakin' CHRISTMAS, for crying out loud! The whole point of the season is supposed to be love and generosity. It's definitely NOT about making anyone, especially a child, feel less-than, doubly so when that child is a family member of yours.
And if Granny Dearest can't comprehend that EVERY child her son is raising is now a part of her family, too, then she doesn't deserve to be a grandmother to any of her son's children. I hope she likes being blocked. Chances are strong she's going to stay that way for a while.
It’s a horrible term. I dare someone to tell my almost 3 year old granddaughter (chosen daughter’s daughter) that I’m not her Mimi. She’s pretty feral and spunky, and she would fight them. I would fight them also.
Wow, imagine saying that to your grandson’s face. “I’m not getting you any Christmas presents because your parents weren’t married when they had you.” It’s not the kid’s fault, lady!!!
I'm glad the commenters called her out on her bullshit. My MIL has two grandsons who were her DIL's children before they married her son and she treats them exactly the same as the other grandkids. All her grandchildren get exactly the same presents no matter what and they all call her nana. She is a devout Christian and goes to church every Sunday and takes her religion seriously, do unto others and love your family however they come into your life. She is a true Christian.
This woman in the post is looking for a way to justify abusing a child purely for being born before her son married his mother, im guessing she also hates the mother too.
There's no hate like (a false) Christian's love as they say.
So to celebrate the ancient winter solstice practices that stem from ensuring the comunity/tribe members are provisioned for the remainder of the winter, feasting to maintain community spirit and gift giving to provide tools and utilities where needed..... Granny decided to ostracise a 12yr old. Way to go Granny! Gingerbread house out in the woods for you next year it is!
Wow. My step grandma always sent me a gift each year for Christmas and my birthday. Even though my mom and her son never actually married until I was an adult, she still considered me a step-grandchild because my brother was her biological grandchild. And when my step dad and my mom got back together (they dated in their 20's had my brother, split up, both married and had other kids, divorced and reconnected when all us kids were late teens), he took me to go visit her and she introduced me to everyone as her granddaughter. If anyone even mentioned that I wasn't actually her granddaughter, she shut them down quick.
The lady in this post is gonna wonder why her bio granddaughter wants nothing to do with her when she's older. That poor step kid.
This disgusts me because I had to deal with this as the step “grandchild” very year. We were invited to my step dad’s family’s Christmas etc every year and we had to sit and watch our step siblings open a bunch of gifts. We got maybe one small item and all the other kids got like 20 expensive gifts. I remember just having the cry feeling the entire time.
I'm pretty sure that when Jesus said "let the children come to me" he didn't first screen them first to find out their parents state of wedlock at the child's birth. I am no contact with my parents after an abusive childhood. I got tired of hearing "The Bible says you should honor your Mother and Father!" so did my own Bible studying and came across an interesting quote in 1 Timothy 5:8 that basically says that a parent that doesn't take good care of their child is worse than someone who doesn't believe in God at all. These kinds of people tend to not like that bit.
Both my older half siblings are in their 40s, my dad has been their step dad for over 30 years.
I had to be sat down and told that they were not my full siblings, I never would have guessed on my own because my dad and his entire family never treated them any different to me.
My stepmom doesn’t even have the best relationship with her family, I was well into my 20s by the time we all celebrated a Christmas together, and they still got me gifts. Fighting about including a literal child is crazy.
What a piece of shit. My step dad didnt have kids with my mum but me and my sister became his kids. His mum is still my step gran even though my step dad sadly passed away. This is fucking pathetic on her part. I hope her "blood" grandchild doesnt bother with her.
Wow, comments really came through on this one. Bravo to everyone who called her out. Her replies really paint a bigger picture of her character as well…
“When did boundaries become such a bad thing??” The same type of person who would pester, harass, and show up unannounced when they didn’t get their way.
My partner’s mum hadn’t even met me or my daughter when she bought my daughter the same (small) gift back off holiday that she bought my partner’s kids. She’s met her a couple of times now, and said she considers she’s now got three grandkids, and I could be more grateful for her acceptance and support
People like this make me so angry. A child doesn’t ask to be put in those situations, they deserve family whether it’s blood or marriage. My daughter has said for years she’s adopting, not having children (she’s only 15, time will tell lol). One day I said something about having grandkids and she responds “but I’m adopting, remember?” I told her let’s make one thing very clear: if you come home and tell me this is your child, that’s my grandbaby. I don’t care if it’s your partners child, an adopted child, or you birthed it, and if you have a mix of any of those options, they’re all equally my grandbabies.
My biological grandma hated my mom so that meant us kids.
Every year for Christmas we’d all go to the big family get together. She’d pull all the other grand kids into a separate room and give them gifts. They’d come out showing off all they got from her.
She’d say, sorry I left yours at home or some other lame excuse. We’d be lucky if we got a card with just her signature in it.
Kids know, and at 12 this kid already feels awkward being a tween. This would absolutely cause him to hate his new dad’s family.
I hope the rest of his new dad's family aren't dipshidiots like this grandmother. But at least the new dad knows how to keep his new son far away from people who'd treat one kid as inferior to the other. Fug that noise. Treat them both the same or flake off into the sun!
Definition of irony. Using a holiday rooted in communal celebration and the "return of light" to cast a shadow over a child is a contradiction of both the holiday’s secular roots and its adopted Christian meaning of "peace on earth."
As someone raised in the south aggressively taught the bible, yet im now pagan. The ideal response would be something like;
Honor is a two-way street. We honor the role of a mother, but we cannot honor behavior that seeks to divide siblings and shame an innocent child. You are choosing a 'tradition' (Christmas) that has more to do with ancient Pagan Yule customs than the Bible, yet you are ignoring the very clear biblical command to avoid favoritism (James 2:9) and to not provoke your children (Colossians 3:21). Until you can treat both grandchildren with the same love and equality, we are honoring our children by keeping them away from such conditional love.
I can't imagine what it feels like being told that she doesn't consider your CHILD to be part of the family. I wouldn't want that energy anywhere NEAR them.
I'm so happy my family was never like this. My grandpa was technically my step grandfather, but I was his first grandbaby period. I miss him so much. 😭
"I cannot afford to give gifts to every child that exists!"
No one is asking you to, you harridan; just the ones your son is raising will suffice.
"He was born out of wedlock."
Paging Jacob Marley! We need another triple-decker ghost visitation, stat. This person's Christmas Yet to Be is going to show her not seeing her son and his family on any Christmas, ever again, if she doesn't extract her head from her backside.
I remember being a step child and standing there watching my step brother open gifts while there was none for me. I remember this even though I’m 51. This woman sucked already for that part, but then blaming the child as if he asked to be illegitimate?? And who even cares about that anymore?? What a B.
My brother and I opened socks while the "real" grandkids had piles of fun toy presents, for years, bc we were the step kids. It was awful, I'm so proud of these parents for standing up to the cruel grandma before she gets a chance to cause damage.
OOP can set whatever “boundaries” they want but that doesn’t mean their son or his wife has to accept them nor does it mean that they cannot set their own boundaries, including cutting OOP out of their and their children’s lives.
Isn’t Christian Christmas the holiday where we celebrate the child Mary had with god, and not her husband? Aren’t the wise men bringing gifts for a baby who was born of someone who was not Mary’s husband?
Neither of my children’s grandfathers are blood. Their dad and I each call our stepdads by their real names but to our children they are grandad! I don’t understand this family is only blood thing, on my sons last birthday I took my children and their half brother (that is not mine) out to dinner because that’s what my son wanted. I have a brother and nephew that are not blood but you bet I love them just the same as my biologicals.
When we all meet at Christmas this year there will be 11 of us. That includes biological, adoptees and adults though marriage. I want this woman to come to ours and tell us we arnt all family
Do you mean the odds that she THINKS she's Christian, or the odds that the actually follows even one of the tenets that Jesus tried to impart to His followers? Because those are two very different numbers.
Wow I’m glad she got called out! Usually these groups all feed each others delusions. How can she call herself a Christian and not be kind and respectful to her new family smgdh
It’s better that she showed her true colors now. My stepmom’s parents waited until my brother and sister were toddlers to do the same. I mean, they did small things that could easily pass as minor incidents, so as not to raise any red flags—like Sunday family dinners where one plate was missing (mine), or laundry day, when my clothes were separated and “hidden.”
My stepmom was bending over backward to make me feel included in everything, only for her parents to mess it all up.
This is hardly a generational issue. She's just trying to blame anyone and anything but herself. There are unfortunately far too many people round the world like her. People like this make me think of Matthew 22-23. "On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?' And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness."
I've always felt very grateful my MIL has been nothing but kindness to my two children from my first marriage. She's never treated them differently to the grandson she has from her daughter excepting as one might expect because of the 20 year age difference between him and my youngest. I could have easily had to deal with a vicious, cruel asshole like this woman.
Her logic is so fucking stupid. If her son had another baby that was her "blood grandchild" she would absolutely find the money for gifts. Regardless of how this child came into the family he is now a part of the family. Absolutely disgusting behaviour.
Meanwhile my stepdad's parents buy my kids Christmas parents who they only see maybe once a year, and have only been a part of my life for 8 years.
My mother did this and still doesn’t understand why my nieces mother doesn’t want her in her daughters life. None of my siblings wives do. Nor does her daughter. She was abusive our whole lives and it turns out, outsiders to the immediate family ALSO caught this. But treating a step kid like they’re not family is so CRAZY.
There was a post from that group that went viral about a week ago and it got infiltrated by trolls after that. I think a lot of the more outrageous posts are rage bait. There was a woman that wanted her son to pay her back for a lot of money that she had spent on his wedding after they went no contact (like $500k), and when I looked at her post history, she made a post the day before accusing her DIL of breast feeding just so that the baby would bond more to her than granny. She was arguing about it in the comments like it was real, but come on. I know there’s some crazy MILs out there but there’s a limit to what I’ll believe is real. Lol. Hopefully this is just another rage bait post to make the group look dumb.
My stepfamily never got me or my siblings that weren’t my stepfather’s biological children anything for Christmas, Birthdays or any other gift event because we weren’t their family. My mom and stepdad expected us to just shut up and accept it so yes, people can be this awful and obtuse as to why this may upset someone.
DEAR GOD, the audacity of this OP!!!! If you cannot understand why your son’s ENTIRE FAMILY is not welcome, and the damage that you’re causing…well, there are probably not enough crayons to explain it to you.
I would absolutely cut all contact until this woman gave a heart-felt apology, acknowledged that she is absolutely 100% in the wrong, and got some therapy to help her understand why her sense of entitlement is SO misguided.
I went to find if this FB page really exists and BRUH! The ancestors cannot possibly approve what these women ( it’s mainly women) are saying about their own children. They really don’t see why they are “being punished”. Ya bismillah!
The word step isn’t in our lexicon as a family. My brother in law’s children are my nieces and nephews. Their kids are my sister’s grandchildren and my great nieces and nephews. Fuck this woman and if she doesn’t change her tune, she is going to live the rest of her life as a very lonely woman.
Holy shit - back in the "old fashioned AF" days of the 1980s, my grandmother never forgot my non-bio cousins. The same amount was spent on every grandkid, DNA wasn't a factor.
I have a step grandma who only gives a shit about her grandkids. It sucks ass going to your grandpa and step grandmas house and the house is only covered in her kids and grandkids but not my grandpas grand kids.
Blood doesn’t mean shit. Everything that matters in life is about love and who cares for you) and vice versa). I loved my stepdaughter as if I had given birth to her. She was, frankly, easier than the kids I had given birth to. Love is all that matters and this grandmother is finding that out the hard way. Either open your heart or never see your son and his kids (all of them) again.
Dear lord! My “step kids” were all adults when I married their dad 25 years ago. One of them recently got re-married to a man with adult children (making them my 3 step-step grand kids). You bet your sweet patootie I make sure that all 3 get at least a token gift (something in the $30-$50 range) because A - there’s no way in hell I would let anyone come over to my house & sit around watching everyone else open gifts while they’re left out, and
B - I KNOW exactly how challenging making a blended family work can be & I would never disrespect my stepdaughter’s choices or make her new family feel like they are ‘less than’ just because they haven’t been in my life as long as my other grandkids (2 were toddlers when we got together, 4 were born after we married).
I’m lucky in that it’s not a financial stretch to get something for everyone, but even if it was, I would eat ramen noodles for a month straight before I would think of leaving a literal child out of Christmas.
She’s right. Family doesn’t mean what it used to anymore. Cuz in my family, if you’re in the house you’re family. I’m 50 and my siblings’ best friends from childhood are also my siblings at this point. My partner’s nieces and nephews are mine. If someone marries into the family with a kid, that kid is ours. What a weird boundary to have and line to draw.
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Props to people in that group calling her shit out instead of feeding into her ego.
It’s the first time I’ve ever seen this happen in one of those groups
I was thinking the exact same thing. First time I’ve seen these groups actually go against someone
It’s nearly unanimous. The only person defending her is another anonymous account that I suspect might be a sock
There is hope for 2026!
I, too, am a sock
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My mom is 62 so not really old but yeah
She’ll adopt all the children
…I’m also not old but I’ll adopt all the children too
Right?! most of the time I see everyone coddling the insane grandparents! Good on the comment section
A Christmas miracle indeed 😂
The millennials took it over and those grandparents are BOTHERED 🤣🤣
It’s been a blast, honestly.
Honestly just happy she got called out in the comments and didn’t have her shitty behaviour validated by people agreeing with her / insulting her son and his family.
I agree. Facebook is somehow more of a cesspool than Reddit due to how it’s often at the top of comment sections. At least with Reddit the heinous comments are (usually) pushed to the bottom because of downvotes.
Insane, I will never understand how people can be nasty to a child just because they’re not blood. And then be surprised by consequences. I wouldn’t let her near my children either.
And call themselves “Christians”. The awful ones are truly awful.
Amazing how many Christians are not even trying to be Christ like. He loved, healed, fed and accepted all. Offers forgiveness, grace and love for all. Also amazing how many have never fully read the Bible.
Or they just don't understand it and cherry pick what they think supports their awful beliefs.
She was right about one thing! She did indeed somehow raise her children to be better than this lol! Or more likely they had good examples outside the home haha.
Ain't no hate like Christian love
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My dad died when I was 8 weeks old. A few years later my mum met an amazing man who became my new dad. They had 2 children, my brothers.
Not only did that man become my dad and me his daughter - no step stuff -, my bio dad's family (mainly nan and grandad) welcomed my brothers with open arms and they are treated just like I am. Always gets birthday and christmas gifts, round for sunday lunch, spoken about with pride to their friends 'oh yes our Jamie completed his degree last week!'; one of my brothers even moved in with them when he left his girlfriend 😅 they truly just took them on
I respect my dad so much for taking me on as his own. He chose to be my dad. And I respect my bio dad's family so much for having so much love in their hearts that they never batted an eyelid when my mum moved on and brought my brothers into the world. Truly lovely people.
Edit: also thought to add, my 'new' dad was amazing and made sure I was always able to embrace that I had another dad. He used to take me to my bio dad's grave, got me a lil gift on my 18th an engraved 'gift from heaven' sort of thing, got me a canvas of a photo of me on the day I was born and my bio dad holding me... just always acknowledged that even though he was my dad now, I still had a late dad and helped me keep that connection and navigate the feelings that came with it all
What a lovely family. Your dad sounds great, as do all of the rest of them. Your mum must have chosen well with your bio dad and your dad ❤️
Mannnnnnnn your dad made me cry fml only my dad gets to make me cry!
This is why blood relations mean SHIT. It's humanity that matters. Also I am crying at your EDIT
I've been awake a while 13 minutes, and I'm bawling like a baby! This is so sweet.
When my birth mother and I reconnected after 35 years, her new husband was a little uncertain. After all its one thing to accept her younger children that he helped raise. But a 35 year old adult?
But after meeting just once, he said he saw the love we had for one another and he just knew it was right. And said I could call him dad if I felt comfortable with it.
Family is about more than just blood.
What a wonderful story. I'd love to hear more, but only if you feel like sharing. ❤️
A grandchild is a blessing no matter how they come into your life, I would consider every child a grandchild no matter what blood they have. My kid is their step/parent? Then yes, I'm going to be nana!
It's very easy for compatible people to forge a family this way and I love to see it happen.
My uncle was informally adopted by my grandparents after he came to my grandfather looking for odd jobs when he was like 14-15.
My grandma remarried after grandpa passed away, and her second husband was accepted into my family fairly quickly. To my younger cousins he was granddad or grandpa (name), and we got a very informal 4 generation portrait with him in it: grandma and grandpa, my uncle (the informally adopted one) and my aunt, their son and his partner, and their daughter.
My husband's parents treat my kids the same! They have 2 sons, so (his) mom was excited to have a daughter and grandkids!
When my friend got engaged to his now wife who had a 2 year old daughter, his parents were so excited to buy Christmas presents for their new granddaughter, to the point where they were worried that they were overstepping because they got her so much stuff. This is just sad.
It is exactly the same with my husband. I have two boys from my previous marriage and they were included immediately once we got engaged. Christmas and birthdays, plus checking in on how they’re doing (my in-laws live on the other side of the country, so visiting is hard).
I absolutely adore my in-laws! My MIL is kinder and more supportive of me than my own mother. Makes sense that the boy she raised would be just as wonderful.
Most parents can’t wait to have grand babies (this woman seems the type to even guilt them into existence), why does it matter if they’re step- or adopted or anything else?!
Imagine alienating your entire family over a $30 gift for a child. Hope she chose the right hill to die on.
I love how she went from “He’s not my grandchild” to “I can’t afford a gift” to “He was born out of wedlock.” As if any of those reasons are valid to single out and punish a child at Christmas. (I’d also wonder if perhaps the child has a bit more melanin in his skin than grandma is comfortable with; nothing in the post to indicate as such, just thinking about my sister in law’s son from a previous relationship, whom my brother in law took on as his own son without hesitation. He’s a great kid, and we all love him dearly; I’m so lucky I get to be his “cool auntie.”)
Right?! At least she can save a lot of money on presents now :')
I mean, Jesus himself was born out of wedlock. Mary wasn’t married to Jesus.
Or to god, either, for that matter xD
Jesus, god, the Holy Spirit, they’re all the same guy anyway, right? 🤣
*Joseph
Joseph, the Holy Cuck
Cuckin' hell
They were also Palestinian!
You mean Joseph. She was betrothed to him, which is more official than a modern engagement, apparently, but indeed there wasn't supposed to be any hanky-panky at that stage. I wonder how often people really did jump the gun back then?
I'm pretty sure "boundary" doesn't mean what she thinks it does.
She only believes in boundaries for her
Nah, "I won't buy presents for a child not related to me by blood" is a boundary, since it's a limit on her own behavior that she sets.
So is "I won't be connected to a person who treats my child born out of wedlock differently than my child who was born to my wife".
One of those is a healthy boundary, one is not.
Funny how that's one of the few words she can spell correctly lol
I have an ex-stepmom who was only married to my dad for 3 years. She's the mother of one of my half brothers, but my bio mom is the mother of three of my other half sibling without my dad and one with him. My ex-stepmom included ALL of my siblings, including the ones who had nothing to do with her or my dad, in every holiday and her parents called them their grandchildren, too. My ex-stepmom became their "aunty" and after she and my dad split up, she continued to treat my siblings and I like her children and she and my mom became friends so she could stay in all of our lives.
I just got a care package of baked goods from her a few days ago. I'm 35 now. My siblings (all of them) still talk to her and she gave them their baked goods in person since they still live in our home state.
Edit: spelling
Gosh, this is genuinely lovely 🥰
Your entire family sounds like lovely people.
Oh, not at all. I'm vlc with my mom, nc with my dad, and nc with most of my siblings all due to abuse or addiction. My ex-stepmom has Munchausen and By-proxy, but she can't do much harm to me or my sibling as she was never our primary care giver. I still talk to two sisters and a brother out of 11 younger siblings. My mom keeping my ex-stepmom in our lives was one of the few really good things my mom did.
My ex-stepmom's mother died recently, but she was wonderful. Her dad is still kicking around and I adore him.
My boundary is that I must be allowed to be cruel to a child at Christmas.
I love when abusive people learn therapy speak.
I said in another comment, it's funny how that's one of the few words she could spell correctly lol
Boundaries work both ways.
Ain't no hate like a religious nutcases love.
My grandmother said she wouldn’t come to my pagan wedding because it’s against her Catholic faith. Turns out she told my younger brother that she would attend HIS non-Catholic wedding but not MINE. Because I was baptized and he was not. From what my mom told me, she had me baptized because my grandmother talked her into it.
She’s doing an awful thing to her step-grandchild, and I’m glad his mom and stepdad are sticking up for him.
I am so sorry this woman is in your life
Oh she’s most definitely not anymore. But thank you, she is the worst kind of fake sweet church lady who will say vicious shit behind your back.
Grew up Jewish in the Deep South. Very much know the type
Why I left Louisiana and never looked back. Except for Mardi Gras.
Happy Hanukkah!
Thank you! And Happy Yule!
That's just a normal church lady from my expierence...
Been a member of this group for a while because I genuinely thought it was satire due to the lack of awareness.
Nope, that’s one of the worst of the groups. Every time I check it out, I come away shaking my head
Please post more! I love this kind of drama and delusion.
My late mother accepted my brother's stepson immediately. She treated him just like her other grandchildren, and always made sure he felt welcomed and loved. That's how family works. This woman is just awful, and I'm glad the FB group called her out on her shit.
I would hate to see this woman’s reaction to an adopted grandchild
I mean really that's basically what this is honestly.
Grandma is just pissed her son set his own boundaries. It's both or none, your move grandma...
But honestly she's already screwed. The only way she'll see her "blood" grandkids is through pictures.
My mother in-law bought gifts for her son’s girlfriend’s adopted teen niece’s baby lol
What a great MIL! And I bet she didn’t quote scripture while doing so!!
So I have an extremely controlling stepmother. She came into my life at 9 and raised me religiously and abusive. Sonetimes though she has a good heart and means well, but I do believe she might be bi-polar, undiagnosed. Only because she can flip a switch and it turns into complete mental breakdowns over small things.
I have an older stepbrother who married a woman with a child already and she was accepted. I have an older step sister married to two men with kids previously and the 3 of those kids were accepted. My older sister had 2 kids and they were accepted (so not blood related to her). I have another sister with 2 kids with only the older accepted. I guess step mom was getting older and more tired, understandably, but she doesn't accept the younger daughter.
I'm the baby of the family, been through so much medically and couldn't have kids. I brought my stepdaughter over for the first time, step mom wouldn't even look at. SD was 7, she touched something on a display, and stepmom ABSOLUTELY lost it on her. Yelled at her, screamed at her, called her names. In front of everyone. Told my partner to GTFO there was too many people.
I grabbed them and left and haven't talked to them in 8 years.
The "you don't get prizes for stupid mistakes" comment really makes me wonder what she actually said to the parents. I get the feeling her getting cut off had more to do with that and her reasoning for avoiding the gift than just the gift itself like she's presenting it.
Yeah, if that's the kind of verbiage she's willing to use in public, I'm afraid to ask how vile she's willing to be behind closed doors. No wonder she's blocked on everything. Sounds to me like she's lucky she wasn't blocked long ago.
“I… am being punished for having boundaries” 😒
Ma’am, first of all, that’s not a boundary, and second of all, you made it clear that you intend to punish an innocent child for having been born OuT oF WeDLoCk, so I hope your son cuts your ass off for good.
Truly, I can’t imagine why they didn’t take you up on your generous offer to allow your DIL’s illegitimate spawn into your home for the purpose of feeling less than. 😒😒😒
“And Joseph said unto Mary, ‘Gross, that’s not even my kid. Don’t punish me for haveing (sic) boundaries.’” ~ (Hypocrites, 2:12)
Hey, I’m pretty sure that’s the same Bible my mom reads from!!
Typical evangelical Christian. Hate has become a prerequisite.
id buy the child a fucking gift for christmas. whats the problem?
For real! It's freakin' CHRISTMAS, for crying out loud! The whole point of the season is supposed to be love and generosity. It's definitely NOT about making anyone, especially a child, feel less-than, doubly so when that child is a family member of yours.
And if Granny Dearest can't comprehend that EVERY child her son is raising is now a part of her family, too, then she doesn't deserve to be a grandmother to any of her son's children. I hope she likes being blocked. Chances are strong she's going to stay that way for a while.
‘Blood grandbaby’ what an ugly term to use so proudly.
It’s a horrible term. I dare someone to tell my almost 3 year old granddaughter (chosen daughter’s daughter) that I’m not her Mimi. She’s pretty feral and spunky, and she would fight them. I would fight them also.
Wow, imagine saying that to your grandson’s face. “I’m not getting you any Christmas presents because your parents weren’t married when they had you.” It’s not the kid’s fault, lady!!!
The funny thing is, she somehow DID end up raising him "better than that." HER parents, on the other hand, WOOF.
I'm glad the commenters called her out on her bullshit. My MIL has two grandsons who were her DIL's children before they married her son and she treats them exactly the same as the other grandkids. All her grandchildren get exactly the same presents no matter what and they all call her nana. She is a devout Christian and goes to church every Sunday and takes her religion seriously, do unto others and love your family however they come into your life. She is a true Christian.
This woman in the post is looking for a way to justify abusing a child purely for being born before her son married his mother, im guessing she also hates the mother too.
There's no hate like (a false) Christian's love as they say.
Well, this hussy did have a baby out of wedlock! The horror! 😱
(/s about the hussy part, obviously)
The American flag emoji on this was certainly a choice she made.
I bet I know how she votes.
I'm 100% sure this is just the tip of the iceberg.
Oh yeah, it was the straw that broke the camels back for sure.
“Her child from a prior marriage”
“Out of wedlock”
So which is it?
So to celebrate the ancient winter solstice practices that stem from ensuring the comunity/tribe members are provisioned for the remainder of the winter, feasting to maintain community spirit and gift giving to provide tools and utilities where needed..... Granny decided to ostracise a 12yr old. Way to go Granny! Gingerbread house out in the woods for you next year it is!
"A previous marriage" means the kid wasn't born out of wedlock so her whole premise is off. As is, obviously, her moral compass.
Wow. My step grandma always sent me a gift each year for Christmas and my birthday. Even though my mom and her son never actually married until I was an adult, she still considered me a step-grandchild because my brother was her biological grandchild. And when my step dad and my mom got back together (they dated in their 20's had my brother, split up, both married and had other kids, divorced and reconnected when all us kids were late teens), he took me to go visit her and she introduced me to everyone as her granddaughter. If anyone even mentioned that I wasn't actually her granddaughter, she shut them down quick.
The lady in this post is gonna wonder why her bio granddaughter wants nothing to do with her when she's older. That poor step kid.
I wouldn't be shocked if the 12-yo is mixed race and that's why this bitch is so focused on "blood"
This disgusts me because I had to deal with this as the step “grandchild” very year. We were invited to my step dad’s family’s Christmas etc every year and we had to sit and watch our step siblings open a bunch of gifts. We got maybe one small item and all the other kids got like 20 expensive gifts. I remember just having the cry feeling the entire time.
I'm pretty sure that when Jesus said "let the children come to me" he didn't first screen them first to find out their parents state of wedlock at the child's birth. I am no contact with my parents after an abusive childhood. I got tired of hearing "The Bible says you should honor your Mother and Father!" so did my own Bible studying and came across an interesting quote in 1 Timothy 5:8 that basically says that a parent that doesn't take good care of their child is worse than someone who doesn't believe in God at all. These kinds of people tend to not like that bit.
"family doesn't mean what it used to anymore"
Both my older half siblings are in their 40s, my dad has been their step dad for over 30 years.
I had to be sat down and told that they were not my full siblings, I never would have guessed on my own because my dad and his entire family never treated them any different to me.
This lady just sucks.
My stepmom doesn’t even have the best relationship with her family, I was well into my 20s by the time we all celebrated a Christmas together, and they still got me gifts. Fighting about including a literal child is crazy.
"When did boundaries become such a bad thing"
She says as she cries on Facebook about her family making boundaries with her.
What a piece of shit. My step dad didnt have kids with my mum but me and my sister became his kids. His mum is still my step gran even though my step dad sadly passed away. This is fucking pathetic on her part. I hope her "blood" grandchild doesnt bother with her.
OH MY-..HER CALLING THE POOR INNOCENT 12 YEAR OLD A STUPID MISTAKE…?!
Wow, comments really came through on this one. Bravo to everyone who called her out. Her replies really paint a bigger picture of her character as well…
Love the flag emoji in her first post. MAGA-ma
Another adult child FINALLY estranging themselves from a terrible parent 🙏🙏🙏🙏
And then, of course, she immediately goes to quote the fucking Bible to rationalize her insanity
“When did boundaries become such a bad thing??” The same type of person who would pester, harass, and show up unannounced when they didn’t get their way.
JESUS WAS BORN OUT OF WEDLOCK!!! unless I missed a section with Mary walking down the aisle to marry God!
My partner’s mum hadn’t even met me or my daughter when she bought my daughter the same (small) gift back off holiday that she bought my partner’s kids. She’s met her a couple of times now, and said she considers she’s now got three grandkids, and I could be more grateful for her acceptance and support
People like this make me so angry. A child doesn’t ask to be put in those situations, they deserve family whether it’s blood or marriage. My daughter has said for years she’s adopting, not having children (she’s only 15, time will tell lol). One day I said something about having grandkids and she responds “but I’m adopting, remember?” I told her let’s make one thing very clear: if you come home and tell me this is your child, that’s my grandbaby. I don’t care if it’s your partners child, an adopted child, or you birthed it, and if you have a mix of any of those options, they’re all equally my grandbabies.
My biological grandma hated my mom so that meant us kids.
Every year for Christmas we’d all go to the big family get together. She’d pull all the other grand kids into a separate room and give them gifts. They’d come out showing off all they got from her.
She’d say, sorry I left yours at home or some other lame excuse. We’d be lucky if we got a card with just her signature in it.
Kids know, and at 12 this kid already feels awkward being a tween. This would absolutely cause him to hate his new dad’s family.
I hope the rest of his new dad's family aren't dipshidiots like this grandmother. But at least the new dad knows how to keep his new son far away from people who'd treat one kid as inferior to the other. Fug that noise. Treat them both the same or flake off into the sun!
I love how’s she complaining that “family doesn’t mean anything anymore” when her son is displaying a very strong sense of family.
Definition of irony. Using a holiday rooted in communal celebration and the "return of light" to cast a shadow over a child is a contradiction of both the holiday’s secular roots and its adopted Christian meaning of "peace on earth."
As someone raised in the south aggressively taught the bible, yet im now pagan. The ideal response would be something like;
Honor is a two-way street. We honor the role of a mother, but we cannot honor behavior that seeks to divide siblings and shame an innocent child. You are choosing a 'tradition' (Christmas) that has more to do with ancient Pagan Yule customs than the Bible, yet you are ignoring the very clear biblical command to avoid favoritism (James 2:9) and to not provoke your children (Colossians 3:21). Until you can treat both grandchildren with the same love and equality, we are honoring our children by keeping them away from such conditional love.
I can't imagine what it feels like being told that she doesn't consider your CHILD to be part of the family. I wouldn't want that energy anywhere NEAR them.
You could bring an entirely random child off the street to my family’s Christmas and I’d make sure they have a gift to open. This is just horrible.
I'm so happy my family was never like this. My grandpa was technically my step grandfather, but I was his first grandbaby period. I miss him so much. 😭
Same. My (step) grandpa use to take me to Toys R US once a week to pick something out.
This step grandmother is shameful.
My grandpa used to take me to comic book shops. He liked X Men and I liked Archie. He was a great man.
"We don't want to spend Christmas with a miserable old Grinch" is enough really
That's insane and Id block her too what an evil person
I'm a devout Christian and I'd never do this or condone treating a child like this it's so mean
Sounds like she did raise her children to be better, better than her at least.
r/OhNoConsequences would benefit from this post.
"I cannot afford to give gifts to every child that exists!"
No one is asking you to, you harridan; just the ones your son is raising will suffice.
"He was born out of wedlock."
Paging Jacob Marley! We need another triple-decker ghost visitation, stat. This person's Christmas Yet to Be is going to show her not seeing her son and his family on any Christmas, ever again, if she doesn't extract her head from her backside.
I remember being a step child and standing there watching my step brother open gifts while there was none for me. I remember this even though I’m 51. This woman sucked already for that part, but then blaming the child as if he asked to be illegitimate?? And who even cares about that anymore?? What a B.
Sounds like she raised them to be better than her somehow. So I guess something good came of her being a raging AH.
As a stepdaughter this would be beyond hurtful.
Luckily, I had the most amazing dad. He wasn't my biological dad, but everyone thought we looked a like - and I loved it. 💕
If the child she’s excluding is from a previous marriage, how was the kid born out of wedlock?
My brother and I opened socks while the "real" grandkids had piles of fun toy presents, for years, bc we were the step kids. It was awful, I'm so proud of these parents for standing up to the cruel grandma before she gets a chance to cause damage.
OOP can set whatever “boundaries” they want but that doesn’t mean their son or his wife has to accept them nor does it mean that they cannot set their own boundaries, including cutting OOP out of their and their children’s lives.
That post got ratioed. Very good.
Isn’t Christian Christmas the holiday where we celebrate the child Mary had with god, and not her husband? Aren’t the wise men bringing gifts for a baby who was born of someone who was not Mary’s husband?
True hypocrisy
Neither of my children’s grandfathers are blood. Their dad and I each call our stepdads by their real names but to our children they are grandad! I don’t understand this family is only blood thing, on my sons last birthday I took my children and their half brother (that is not mine) out to dinner because that’s what my son wanted. I have a brother and nephew that are not blood but you bet I love them just the same as my biologicals.
When we all meet at Christmas this year there will be 11 of us. That includes biological, adoptees and adults though marriage. I want this woman to come to ours and tell us we arnt all family
What are the odds she’s a “christian”?
She’s got a bible verse in the post so pretty good odds
I didn’t even notice 😂
Do you mean the odds that she THINKS she's Christian, or the odds that the actually follows even one of the tenets that Jesus tried to impart to His followers? Because those are two very different numbers.
What a vile woman.
I love the American flag emoji. MAGA idiot.
Wow I’m glad she got called out! Usually these groups all feed each others delusions. How can she call herself a Christian and not be kind and respectful to her new family smgdh
And to a CHILD, no less. She's relishing the thought of excluding a child. WTAF is the matter with her?
Exactly
I just can't understand that attitude.
Like my Mom and I always say, "The only steps in my house take you from one floor to the next, these are our children/grandchildren!"
It’s better that she showed her true colors now. My stepmom’s parents waited until my brother and sister were toddlers to do the same. I mean, they did small things that could easily pass as minor incidents, so as not to raise any red flags—like Sunday family dinners where one plate was missing (mine), or laundry day, when my clothes were separated and “hidden.”
My stepmom was bending over backward to make me feel included in everything, only for her parents to mess it all up.
Why is she saying he was born out of wedlock? He’s her son’s stepkid. How is that relevant?
This is hardly a generational issue. She's just trying to blame anyone and anything but herself. There are unfortunately far too many people round the world like her. People like this make me think of Matthew 22-23. "On that day many will say to me, 'Lord, Lord, did we not prophesy in your name, and cast out demons in your name, and do many mighty works in your name?' And then I will declare to them, 'I never knew you; depart from me, you workers of lawlessness."
I've always felt very grateful my MIL has been nothing but kindness to my two children from my first marriage. She's never treated them differently to the grandson she has from her daughter excepting as one might expect because of the 20 year age difference between him and my youngest. I could have easily had to deal with a vicious, cruel asshole like this woman.
I'm hearing my paternal grandparents (actually my stepdad's parents) call her every name under the sun from the afterlife.
And I mean it in Spanish.
Geez I mean if she cares about her grandbaby, she should probably care about the half-sibling that baby is going to grow up knowing.
Her logic is so fucking stupid. If her son had another baby that was her "blood grandchild" she would absolutely find the money for gifts. Regardless of how this child came into the family he is now a part of the family. Absolutely disgusting behaviour.
Meanwhile my stepdad's parents buy my kids Christmas parents who they only see maybe once a year, and have only been a part of my life for 8 years.
My mother did this and still doesn’t understand why my nieces mother doesn’t want her in her daughters life. None of my siblings wives do. Nor does her daughter. She was abusive our whole lives and it turns out, outsiders to the immediate family ALSO caught this. But treating a step kid like they’re not family is so CRAZY.
Just went to check out the comments and besides that post, there is absolutely no self-awareness to be found in that group.
Yeah, there’s even some recent insane posts from people who were shredding her in the comments of this post
There was a post from that group that went viral about a week ago and it got infiltrated by trolls after that. I think a lot of the more outrageous posts are rage bait. There was a woman that wanted her son to pay her back for a lot of money that she had spent on his wedding after they went no contact (like $500k), and when I looked at her post history, she made a post the day before accusing her DIL of breast feeding just so that the baby would bond more to her than granny. She was arguing about it in the comments like it was real, but come on. I know there’s some crazy MILs out there but there’s a limit to what I’ll believe is real. Lol. Hopefully this is just another rage bait post to make the group look dumb.
Thank "god' people are calling her out.
That's not insane, it's borderline psychopathic
Holy bitch!
I wonder if grandma so worried about wedlock is pro life or pro choice….
Not really “insane”, more “sad and pathetic”.
I like how there is an American flag emoji
Out of curiosity, I went to that Facebook page and WOWEEE…What a toxic page! Some of these posts are actually blowing my mind.
Religion is a cancer.
This has to be rage bait - no one is that obtuse, surely!?
My stepfamily never got me or my siblings that weren’t my stepfather’s biological children anything for Christmas, Birthdays or any other gift event because we weren’t their family. My mom and stepdad expected us to just shut up and accept it so yes, people can be this awful and obtuse as to why this may upset someone.
Why is it always the anonymous posts?
The Spirit of Christ and Christmas really runs shallow in this woman
DEAR GOD, the audacity of this OP!!!! If you cannot understand why your son’s ENTIRE FAMILY is not welcome, and the damage that you’re causing…well, there are probably not enough crayons to explain it to you. I would absolutely cut all contact until this woman gave a heart-felt apology, acknowledged that she is absolutely 100% in the wrong, and got some therapy to help her understand why her sense of entitlement is SO misguided.
I went to find if this FB page really exists and BRUH! The ancestors cannot possibly approve what these women ( it’s mainly women) are saying about their own children. They really don’t see why they are “being punished”. Ya bismillah!
The word step isn’t in our lexicon as a family. My brother in law’s children are my nieces and nephews. Their kids are my sister’s grandchildren and my great nieces and nephews. Fuck this woman and if she doesn’t change her tune, she is going to live the rest of her life as a very lonely woman.
My step grandparents would buy me Christmas gifts. That child is a part of the family now, asshole
Insane. I've seen this happen in other families.
Holy shit - back in the "old fashioned AF" days of the 1980s, my grandmother never forgot my non-bio cousins. The same amount was spent on every grandkid, DNA wasn't a factor.
She nuked the comments
Rage bait for sure
This be like me wondering why I can’t go to my father in laws for Xmas Eve.
Spoiler: it’s bc he hates me for being a scumbag.
Wow ….
I have a step grandma who only gives a shit about her grandkids. It sucks ass going to your grandpa and step grandmas house and the house is only covered in her kids and grandkids but not my grandpas grand kids.
Blood doesn’t mean shit. Everything that matters in life is about love and who cares for you) and vice versa). I loved my stepdaughter as if I had given birth to her. She was, frankly, easier than the kids I had given birth to. Love is all that matters and this grandmother is finding that out the hard way. Either open your heart or never see your son and his kids (all of them) again.
The flag before the broken heart tells me everything I need to know about that woman.
my dad remarried and has 3 stepkids now. my grandma gets presents for them and they’re all over 18. idk how this lady thinks it’s normal 😭😭
Imagine being the step-grandkid… Granny needs a fucking wake up call 🤦🏽♀️
Dear lord! My “step kids” were all adults when I married their dad 25 years ago. One of them recently got re-married to a man with adult children (making them my 3 step-step grand kids). You bet your sweet patootie I make sure that all 3 get at least a token gift (something in the $30-$50 range) because A - there’s no way in hell I would let anyone come over to my house & sit around watching everyone else open gifts while they’re left out, and B - I KNOW exactly how challenging making a blended family work can be & I would never disrespect my stepdaughter’s choices or make her new family feel like they are ‘less than’ just because they haven’t been in my life as long as my other grandkids (2 were toddlers when we got together, 4 were born after we married).
I’m lucky in that it’s not a financial stretch to get something for everyone, but even if it was, I would eat ramen noodles for a month straight before I would think of leaving a literal child out of Christmas.
Bpd in action
She’s right. Family doesn’t mean what it used to anymore. Cuz in my family, if you’re in the house you’re family. I’m 50 and my siblings’ best friends from childhood are also my siblings at this point. My partner’s nieces and nephews are mine. If someone marries into the family with a kid, that kid is ours. What a weird boundary to have and line to draw.