How I Love:

I do not love lightly. I do not love casually. I do not love halfway.

When I am with someone, I am with them. Fully. Deliberately. Without hedging. Without backup plans. Without contingency romance waiting in the wings. I do not scan rooms. I do not keep doors open. I do not audition replacements. I do not chase what is “neat.” I chase what is real.

My love is not transactional. My presence is not conditional. My loyalty is not a performance.

There is no price on me. There is no price on my love.

If you are with me, you are already chosen. You do not need to earn me. You do not need to impress me. You do not need to perform for me. You do not need to compete for me. You do not need to make yourself smaller, louder, prettier, tougher, or quieter to keep me.

You are not on probation. You are not on trial. You are not for sale.

You are with me. That is enough.

I do not love to fix. I do not love to rescue. I do not love to repair broken men for sport.

I love to keep.

I love to build continuity. I love to protect space. I love to be steady. I love to be predictable in the ways that create safety. I love to be the place someone can rest without bracing.

I do not want a boy who needs to be fixed. I want a boy who wants to be kept.

Kept in warmth. Kept in loyalty. Kept in chosen presence.

I will love you right.

That is not a promise of perfection. It is a promise of intention.

It means I will not make you pay for what others did to me. It means I will not bleed on you because I was cut elsewhere. It means I will not import old wounds into new rooms.

I come from trauma. I come from pressure. I come from environments where love was conditional and stability was not guaranteed. But I refuse to turn that into your burden.

My past does not get to harm you. My history does not get to train you. My pain does not get to discipline you.

I will love you right.

To me, relationship is not a hobby. It is not a pastime. It is not a social accessory. It is not an aesthetic. It is a mission.

And I do not enter missions casually.

When I am in, I am in. With duty. With honor. With loyalty. With integrity. With presence. I take responsibility seriously. I take commitment seriously. I take the weight of being someone’s chosen person seriously.

I am wired for protection. I am wired for steadiness. I am wired for watchfulness.

Not control. Not possession. Not dominance.

Protection.

There is a difference.

I will always act in a way that protects the relationship. Even when it would be easier to be careless. Even when it would be more fun to be loose. Even when the culture says “it’s not that deep.”

It is that deep to me.

I do not blur lines. I do not flirt for sport. I do not entertain ambiguity. I do not play games with fidelity. I do not create situations that could be misread, misinterpreted, or misused.

Not because I am rigid. Because I am clear.

If that makes me less fun, so be it. If that makes me old-fashioned, fine. If that makes me intense, I can live with that.

I would rather be trusted than entertaining.

I believe consent is not just necessary. I believe consent is sexy.

I believe gentleness is masculine. I believe restraint is powerful. I believe patience is attractive. I believe respect is erotic.

I do not need to take to feel strong. I do not need to push to feel desired. I do not need to dominate to feel wanted.

If I see someone vulnerable, I cover them. If I see someone sleeping, I let them rest. If I see someone open, I protect the opening.

That is my nature.

I do not approach desire as entitlement. I approach it as invitation.

And I never forget that someone trusting me is not a given. It is a gift.

I am monogamous by nature. Not out of fear. Not out of insecurity. Not out of control. Out of focus.

When I choose someone, I choose them. And then I stop looking.

Not because others stop existing. Because my attention is no longer available.

There is a difference.

I am not interested in collecting bodies. I am interested in building something that lasts.

I do not want chemistry without character. I do not want heat without gravity. I do not want intensity without integrity.

I want depth. I want steadiness. I want chosen continuity.

If you are with me, you are safe. If you are with me, you are held. If you are with me, you are not alone in the room.

That is not poetry. That is policy.

This is how I love. This is how I show up. This is how I stay.

Not loudly. Not performatively. Not for applause.

But consistently.

And that, to me, is everything.