And not in the gooning sense. See, I'm autistic and am just now getting into hookup culture at 34 and oh my god it's so confusing (and I hate it). In addition to trying to navigate finding good partners, I'm also trying to figure out some pretty severe sexual dysfunction that exists for many reasons.
I think someone who's autistic or could otherwise really help spell out and make sense of these things with me would be really helpful, because oftentimes I just need someone to talk to and process with. This stuff doesn't come intuitively to me at all. And my poor straight friend is often out of his depth. Since he's the only one I talk to often, he's probably had to hear more than he wants to in a lifetime.
It's been hard to find other gay men to connect with because my experiences are just so different from theirs. Being gay is waaaay different from being gay and disabled, for example. And oftentimes hearing about their sexual adventures has been really hard for me because it just reminds me of the life I'm locked out of/won't ever have. It makes me jealous af, I'm not going to lie.
I know, I know, see a therapist. I'd love to, but that takes money and resources to find a good one who understands these important intersections of my life. The last therapist I had, no joke, every session would find some way to bring it back to "porn bad" and it wasn't very helpful. So I'm really kinda flying with no map here. And if I posted every thought/experience I had that I wanted to talk about, it'd be thousands of posts.
So, yeah, if that sounds like you, it'd be dope to hear from you. I'm happy to offer any support I can in return, I'm a really good listener when it's not my turn to yap.
Not exactly what you're looking but the Gayish podcast did a couple of episodes on this and they have their own discord channel where members talk about their experiences (that does not get put in the podcast). There are a few members who are on the spectrum. The Gayish discord is just a social channel created by fan listener with the approval of Kyle and Mike.
Gayish is such a dope podcast. I love it. Haven't really engaged with the fans much, so this is a good tip!
Such a great group of people on the discord
Sex is massively overstimulating, and easy to put way too much pressure on yourself to enjoy, and it's taken me a good amount of time as someone who was only diagnosed at autistic just over a year ago to make peace with.
A lot of the very act is pushing yourself through uncomfortable sensations, and honestly that's nothing to feel shame about.
I know everyone's experiences are different, and many people have different experiences, but so many people, even the neurotypicals, have hangups about sex that you really don't need to feel shame about it.
Be you. Be proud. Even if you still aren't sure what works and what doesn't be honest and be the best you that you can be.
Id be happy to have a chat if you want to reach out in DMS.
I was gonna say the same thing- but if you’ve already offered 😅
It's alright they never reached out anyway.
It's alright they never reached out anyway.
It's alright they never reached out anyway.
I want to talk about sex too, haha
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