Hey there Reddit, got a question that I would like some opinions on. I've known this girl off and on for about a year now, we used to talk here and there, and I've always felt like I had a thing for her. We've recently hit it off in a way of talking a lot more, getting to know each other better, and gaming together. That feeling I always had has grown exponentially, same music taste, she's hilarious, pretty, and fun to talk to. What I'm trying to get at is that I'm definitely going to ask her out, I just want to know what everyone's opinions on "when" I should ask her out. It would help me greatly gauge the best time without waiting too long and losing my opportunity. If it matters, we're both 22 years old. I appreciate any help y'all could give greatly.
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Just when y'all have some time alone (preferably towards the end of that time) is a solid way to go about it.
I would ask to hang out with her doing what you both enjoy. While doing that and having fun then ask her out. Doing it while you are both having fun already has endorphins running high.
That seems valid, but wouldn't that create a skewed response? I don't want her to feel forced to say yes or anything.
No, that would not be a skewed response. It would be a real genuine response. Doing something you both enjoy puts the both of you in an open environment where there is no pressure. There is never a right time. Your will always question that and by the time you finally figure out what is the right time the truth is that might have passed. The right time is sooner than later.
You don't want to ask her when she is feeling down. You want it to be an enjoyable experience and not have her in an awkward situation.
The other thing is pick up the phone and call her and ask her out. Let her know that your feelings for her have grown and the next time you get together it's for an official date.
Whatever you do don't make it so serious that she will be uncomfortable. Don't start with there is something I need to ask you. When you are out doing something you both enjoy just ask her if you can have her hand for a second. Hold her hand and then say that you have feelings for her and would like to make this an official date or say the next time we get together I would like it to be a date. Whatever you think will work but doing it while holding her hand helps convey the message.
I see, that makes a lot more sense. I'll probably do it like that then. Thanks a lot!