I don’t get this narrative at all.

I have never once been in a men’s toilet and seen another man’s Dick.

And is she happens to glance another person’s dick, so what?

You take you child to the men’s room and guide her into the cubicle

When she’s older and feels comfortable you allow her to take herself to the ladies and you wait outside

not something I've had to deal with yet but I always assumed you go where YOU normally would.

Men with kids (of any gender) go to the men's room. Women with kids go to the women's.

I'd prefer if they were all unisex honestly.

Honestly, how many dicks have you seen in a mens room in your life? I can't think of any. With us, our kids go with whichever parent they're with.

The men's. Sometimes I stick my head round the door first so I can time it when nobody's using a urinal, but that's more for their comfort than ours (nobody wants to hear 'what is that man doing?' in a piercing girls voice when trying to pee). Yes, you'll have to answer the questions about what the urinals are.

Personally I wouldn't go into the women's. I'm sure most people would be fine about it, but some would not.

In Australia we have Parents Rooms. They are great if available. Some of the larger malls have fancy parents rooms.

Otherwise, I take my daughter to the disabled toilets.

If near the coast/beach there are toilet blocks and are usually unisex.

I am a 40 year old male. I don't think I've ever seen a penis that wasn't my own in a men's room.

I take her to the men's room. She is 5 now. Never been a problem, and believe me if she would see a penis she would loudly announce it to anyone in the vicinity. So I'm sure she hasn't (not that I would think it would be a problem if she did).

For the record: I'm European.

It’s usually the men’s, as it’s a damn sight more awkward for a grown man to enter the women’s than a girl to enter the men’s. The handicapped toilets is my go to, as there’s usually more room to help the kids.

Been taking my 3 girls to the men’s room whenever they need to go. Never been an issue.

How does this question come up so frequently? Obviously you take her in the men's. I do it all the time with my 4 year old daughter and have done for years. She's never seen a guy's penis in there and has never felt or made anyone else feel uncomfortable. 

You cannot walk into the women's toilets as a man so that rules that option out completely 

This question gets asked a lot and I honestly don’t understand it. You go to the bathroom of the gender of the parent, end of story. I don’t care if I have my toddler daughter with me, as a dude I am not walking into a women’s restroom, the suggestion seems mental.

Also what men’s rooms are people going in where there are penises visible everywhere? The only way you see a penis in a men’s room is if you linger by the urinals trying to look at one. Just go in and head to the stalls. Take care of your business and go back to the sinks. It’s not a big deal unless you make it a big deal.

You as a man cannot take her into the women’s toilets.

It’s either the cubicles in the men’s toilets, or a family room.

You take her to the gents.

Can't confirm myself, but I've read numerous times that the ladies is often worse then the gents. Either way, it's a public toilet - they're all a bit gross, just goes with the territory.

In my nearly five decades on this planet, I don't think I've ever seen another man's penis in a public toilet. It's not like people are just waving them around!

And even if she did see a penis, so what? It's just a body part, it's not going to do her any harm. Seems like bizarre pearl clutching, honestly.

I took both my daughters in the gents when they were little, never once was it an issue.

On the hand, some women and girls absolutely will be freaked out/embarrassed by a man going in the ladies.

Very easy decision in my opinion!

I just take them to the shortest line or cleanest room.

How many penises are you seeing in men’s rooms btw? 

My daughter is the same age and she goes in the men's room with me. Same with my son who's 5 if he's out with my wife, they go to the women's bathroom.

Men’s restroom. Always. The people saying you can go to either are completely bonkers. Women will not appreciate you going to the women’s room despite having a little girl in tow, sorry.

Men's always. Adult matches the room not the kid. (Unless there's a family washroom)

Baby change or disabled most of the time (with the proviso that we be quick)

Also, if someone was wheeling themselves to the bathroom I wouldn't kick them out of the way to get in, ya know.

2 years old? I’m carrying her into the men’s room. Seeing urinals isn’t going to hurt her, and it’s not like guys are sword fighting with their dicks, it’ll be hard for her to see anything.

Now that my daughter is 7, I’ll stand outside the ladies room while she goes by herself. I get some strange looks until I explain that my daughter is inside, then I always get smiles, I think because the bar is so low on men actually parenting their kids. Bit sad when you really think about it.

I've never once seen another man's penis at the urinal. When men piss in my country they usually stand facing the urinal with their back to the room. Is that...not what they do in your country? The mind boggles.

In our swimming pool we have family rooms for "Fathers with kids" and "Mothers with kids." I feel this should be the general rule everywhere.

Up until recently, I’d take her into the mens room stall with me unless there was a family bathroom. But little one is getting more independent every day, and now she wants to go in the big girls potty by herself. Only problem is she’s hasn’t totally mastered wiping or opening the door. So now there is the occasional awkward dance I have to do praying no one else is in the women’s room when I hear “DAAAD I HAD TO POOP”.

I go mens. Im a man. Shes a kid. 

Plus usually no queue

I have a daughter who is 1 years old, so i have yet to encounter the potty training stage.

However, when she is old enough, she will be going into the restroom that I go into.

I feel it would be more uncomfortable for others to have a grown man in the women's bathroom than a 2 year old child with her father in the men's room.

Honestly I find this question slightly mental. I mean, good on you for seeking more opinions, but as someone that has both a son and two daughters, I struggle to reconcile the idea that men's toilets are too disgusting and too full of stranger's cocks to take my daughters into, but that this is where I should take my son? What is it that these penises are doing that my boy is immune to? Why is he forced to endure "gross" environments that my daughters aren't?

Ultimately it's a room where people go to piss, shit and, ideally, wash their hands. These people have human bodies, and some parts of these bodies may be visible to the curious eyes of a child during the short walk from the door to a cubicle. Who gives a shit? The idea that simply witnessing someone urinating in a urinal out the corner of their eye (whilst chaperoned by their dad) is a problem seems mad to me. Men, and their bodies, and their bodily functions should not be a mystifying source of shame that girls (who also piss, shit and, eventually, bleed) must be siloed off from. We don't need to encourage an even more repressed idea of nudity, IMO.

With that said, I don't think many women would see a man taking his daughter into a cubicle and assume you're a pervert.

I was in a grocery store (Texas) a few months back and my daughter (3) needed to pee. I open the men’s room and a homeless man was in there yelling. So I want to the woman’s room, it was empty. 

When I was helping my daughter wash her hands after, a woman came in and started yelling at me, telling me I shouldn’t be in there. I rolled my eyes and walked out. 

How did this post become several men trying to argue their way into just using the women's restroom whenever they want?

Just take her in the men’s room and go to a stall

have you ever been to the mens restroom? have you ever seen another man's penis at the urinal? are they waving them around in the restrooms you're going to?

Men’s no question. I would never step foot in a women’s restroom, unless it’s a single stall. Plus if someone is in there blowing it up my daughter would usually laugh and it made the whole experience more enjoyable

I was a stay at home dad with daughters. Just take them in the men’s room until they can do it themselves. No need to make it weird

Men's room.

They're all filthy, men's and women's. Men dribble on the floor. Women hover over the seat and spray piss everywhere.

It's not like the men's room is dongs a-floppin' all over. It's dudes at the urinal with their back to you or in a stall with the doors closed.

Go into the women's room and get the cops called on you.

All the wive's say "oh not the men's room take her to the women's room!" because they're living in fantasy land about what the ramifications would be of you going into the women's room.

I always took my daughter into the men's room. Men don't flaunt themselves at the urinals and you just walk past them and into a stall.

If there is a family bathroom, I go there. Otherwise I take her into the men's bathroom. If she's gotta go, she's gotta go.

Try both and I think you’ll quickly find the correct answer. 😂

The general consensus (in the U.K.) is going into the men’s. That’s what I do with my little ones, and see plenty of other dads doing it.

I just make them aware that it’s the men’s because she isn’t old enough to go alone into the women’s yet.

Be careful with your comments, folks, last time this question came up on this sub my account was banned for 3 days for saying you should use the men's room. And no I was not making a political statement, I was just answering the question practically and in a way that covers 99% of scenarios, but a moderator was apparently smoking crack.

I personally either go to a family bathroom or the woman’s restroom with my daughter. My wife has told me to go into the woman’s restroom and Ive seen plenty of other women say as long as you announce yourself when coming in they wont be upset.

I take her to the mens restroom. Usually the handicap stall if available. Sometimes I gotta go too so when she's done I go and then she destroys me pride with "how come I potty sitting down but you go using that little thing?"

Family bathroom if available. If not just take her to the men's and use the stall.

I’ve never received anything but positive feedback from women in the restroom when I take my daughters in there. I promise it’s not as scary as people act

Announce urself into the women’s. Easy. Most women won’t have a problem with it

What kind of family friendly places are you going that you're going to see a penis in the men's room? You just walk her directly to a stall .

Mom here. For what it's worth, i wouldn't mind at all if a dad announced himself at the door to say he was bringing his daughter into the ladies' room. I think most women would understand not wanting to take a little girl into the men's room, as long as you were upfront and polite about it.

She goes where you go. Anyone says anything, you can tell the to heck off.

My youngest didn’t start going on her own until 4/5 and even then it was only single entry, single toilet bathrooms to keep her from walking off somewhere.

I'm 46. I literally have never seen a penis other than my own in the men's room. I take my daughter to the men's room. It's fine. Family room is the ideal but you cannot go in the woman's room, that's just asking for trouble.

3 daughters. I take them to the women's bathroom and just announce myself. My older daughter can go by herself now, I just wait outside. My 2 younger ones, 4&2, I go in with. Nobody really cares in my experience.

I have the same concerns with my daughter, I bring her to the men’s, move quickly through the area with urinals and get into a cubicle. Avoid going places that have gross toilets.

You cannot bring her to the women’s toilet, a man in a women’s toilet is not okay. You are afraid of strange men in the men’s toilet, but from the other women’s perspective you are a strange man in their toilet.

You will have the same issue if you are out and about and you need to use the toilet. You will need to bring her with you since you can’t leave her alone. And you cannot use the women’s toilet just because you have a toddler with you.

You might be able to go to the disabled toilet if it is a standalone single unit, but if you come out and find that there is a disabled person waiting you might feel very embarrassed and face a difficult situation.

I didn't expect such eh... Charged responses. It wasn't that deep. Just a chat with my wife...

For the record I assumed mens. My wife vividly recalls having to go into mens as a young girl with her dad, and wants me to use the women's. Her reason being cubicles, and eye height penises.

Family rooms not a thing here, most baby changing rooms lack a toilet, just a sink and table.

I'm neither trying to perv on men (you must live in nicer areas if there's 0% chance of a penis on show, I'm not sure the shopping centre floor has that on a bad day lol)

nor trying to find a reason to sneak into women's toilets. The opposite. Protesting my wife sending me into them with her promise of a warm welcome. Pretty sure she's setting me up... Lol

Whilst everyone seems a bit spicy, disabled toilets? That feels rude too.

Always the gender of the adult.

Would your wife bring your son into the men's room?

I let my daughters choose unless I have to pee myself as well. In that case it’s always men’s.

If I don’t have to go, it’s up to them.

Older one usually wants to go to the women’s nowadays, but that only recently changed from “whatever”

You go where you normally go. It's weird you going in the women's and you're massively over thinking taking her in the gents.

Very rarely do I stand in the gents competing with other fellow gentlemen to see who can helicopter the fastest, but when I do, we stop should a child enter.

I'm glad I don't live in the USA so we don't have the gender panic like you have. I've always taken the girls into the girls room. That's where they wanted to go as well. Never been an issue...

Look for a family restroom, or go into a stall in the mens. Been doing that for 6 months now and theres been 0 issue. I mean think about it, how many penieses do you normally see in the mens room?

Up to about age 7/8 into the men's with me. My eldest is now able to go by herself (as in she can cope with the doors, locks etc. rather than being able to use the toilet!) so I usually wait by the door and shout on if I think she's taking ages. Women are usually quite understanding of this!

If you want to avoid going into women's bathroom you already answered yourself and honestly I never seen a dick just walking to stall so risk is quite low. Also if there is some special toilets for families or disabled people use them.

I usually just take my kids into the parents room if available. If not the disabled/handicapped bathroom is also an option.

I take her to the men’s room. Tons of TP on the seat after a wet wipe, nothing touching the floor (clothes or hands when she bends over to wipe - hands on my shoes). No touching anything with hands, I hold her hands. We also have a portable toilet seat I use if I remember to take it with us, usually not for outings but always for trips.

The family / parent / accessible bathroom if there is one. 

Very rarely and reluctantly, the men’s bathroom. I ask her to shut her eyes if we have to walk past the urinals, as some users have no shame. 

I go where the line is the shortest. Blatter control in young kids isn’t great and when they got to go, they often got to go immediately. No toilet in sight, I hit the bushes. Never had people making comments about it as most understand your situation. I’m from Europe though, so things might be different here and also the stalls in the ladies and men’s toilets are fully closed off

Normally the disabled if there is one - they often double as baby changing stations and are generally more spacious. If I have to choose between men and women, then mens. I don't think that being vaguely close to some fully clothed men who are peeing is harmful to my kid and I've never had any men complain.

I take mine to the men's room. The urinal part never really bothered me, just walk pass it normally. If it's not weird for you it won't be weird for her.

We always go into the men's

>they're always a bit gross anyway.

Lol never had cleaning duties at a job have you? Women's can be just as disgusting I assure you.

Also no one should be looking at other dude's penises in the men's, rules should be set that it's a quiet place to do your business and no messing around or comments on people's bodies should be made.

I remember my mother taking me into the ladies when I was little, and it was no big deal and I didn't see anything weird.

If the changing table is only in the women’s room I will ask management to help me ensure the bathroom is empty before I go in to change little man.

Honestly shouldn’t be an issue but better than society crumbling every time I need to change my son and there’s no changing station in the men’s room lol.

Ireland here. Most places here would have a Wheelchair disabled bathroom which is also a unisex baby changing room. Do you not have those in the US?

Me and everyone around me takes their daughters to the men’s. It’s extremely common, no one bats an eye. Even when mom was with us I’ve waited in line with other men and their daughters because that line was shorter.

Not sure what harm a 2yo seeing a penis would do. Maybe someone can enlighten me.

I take her to the men's room, she's also 2 and potty training. One time the men's room was closed fire cleaning and she had to go, we went into the women's room.

So there have been a bunch of times as a dad that I’ve had to use the ladies room, even though I have 3 boys. Men’s rooms almost never have a changing table, and I’m not changing my baby on the side of the sink or the men’s room floor. At least a dozen times I went to the men’s, turned around, went to the women’s and announced my entry loudly “is anyone in here? Sorry there’s no changing table for the baby in the men’s room.” And then went and used the changing table.

No one ever got mad at me, and occasionally they’d wait around till I was done to say hi to the baby and do that whole thing. Once or twice a lady would walk in and see me, look surprised and think she went into the wrong one.

Now my boys are older and they use the men’s room all the time basically, but yeah don’t overthink it. Most people will be fine with it either way, unless you walk in on a group of 12 year olds, then they might make it weird.

I see men an their young daughters all the time at the shopping mall near me. The usually just head straight to the handicap stall, and there's no issue. Frankly, I've been using public washrooms all my life and only rarely have I seen another man's unit.

I use disabled one if its available

Do men normally walk around with their dicks out in public restrooms? I've always just taken my girls to the men's room till they were about 6 or 7. The only real problem I've had is wiping down toilet seats because boys don't want to pick up toilet seats and they piss on everything.

Disabled / Family bathroom is first prize if available else I take her (5yo) into whichever bathroom she wants - which is usually the one which is closest.

Used the women’s bathroom plenty and never had an issue ever. I’ve always just announced ourselves when holding the door open for her saying “alright (name) let’s find you a stall”. Even shared a few laughs with some women in there due to our little one’s sense of humour. Some have even tried to start a conversation about kids or the venue etc.

I think decent people don’t really give a damn about the sign on the door. The private stuff happens behind a closed stall door and everyone just wants to sort out their business and go back to enjoying themselves outside.

I take my daughter to the men's room.

I took my girls to the men’s room when my wife wasn’t with me. Some places have a family restroom, which is awesome.
The bonus is that if someone lets out a giant tuba solo, they’ll comment on it. “WOAH! That was a big one!”

If it’s a single “room” situation, I always go to the ladies with my daughters. If it’s a larger bathroom with multiple stalls, etc, always to the men’s.

Family restroom if they have one.

Men's if it's a busy place. If it's slow and there is an employee I'll ask if I can take her to the ladies room.

FYI as somebody that worked in restaurants and had to clean bathrooms don't expect the men's room to be that much dirtier than the ladies.

Some of you all ladies are nasty.

I’d just take her to the men’s. I’ve never been in a bathroom with dudes waving their dicks around.

I check the gentleman’s, if it is too dirty, I go to the lady’s knocking and asking. When we are in the stall I keep talking to her so if anyone enters it will understand the situation before we even go out. Never had a lady complaining; they understand the minute they see my daughter. By the way, I’m in Europe where the toilet discussion isn’t a thing

I go to the men's room typically but if she's needing to pay I'd go in whatever is available.

Imagine telling to my girl (with my actions) that the maddened over thinking of strangers is more important than her bodily health and hygiene. Fuck that.

I take my daughter to the family room where you change babies as there’s usually a toilet there. If that isn’t an option to either the ladies or men’s and I’m just real obvious and loud that I’m her dad.

I always took her to the mens. I would never walk into a women's bathroom. I would just cover her eyes and guide her past the urinals.

Dude. I assume you’ve been going to the men’s room your entire life. How many dicks other than your own have you seen? In 45 years on this planet my count is zero.

Don’t overthink it. Use the family restroom if they have one, if not just take her in the men’s room.

I brought my girls with me until they were confident using the bathroom on their own and wanted to be big girls and use the ladies room

Family restroom or the men's. Y'all think too hard about something so simple.

Don't overthink it, just take her to a stall in the men's room. Family or accessible washroom if available (mainly for room to move).

Men's toilets and into a cubicle. Not even a second thought for me. On one occasion I went into the women's because the men's had a queue but went about to very carefully for obvious reasons.

Once you're in a cubicle it doesn't really matter is the way I see it. Once she's old enough to go basically by herself I'll have to rethink but I've got a couple of years yet, my girl only turned 3 recently.

How often are you actually seeing genitalia other than your own in the bathroom...? You have to really try to look at it while standing at the urinal, which would be the only weird thing in this whole conversation.

Just bring your daughter to a stall and clean the seat the best you can. Let her do her thing, wash hands, and leave. There's nothing more to think about.

hey man, don't overthink it.
Little girl in men's room is not an issue. An adult man in female's room might be a problem. Some times might be okay, other times not. You don't want to deal with some freak ass Karens and what not. Dont take the chance.

Your kiddo will soon go to ladies room on her own.

Genuine question, when you go to the men’s toilets do you normally see a bunch of other dude’s penises? I get the desire to protect your daughter (seriously, I’ve got two) but this is just a boogeyman reason IMO.

If you’re taking your daughter in to the gents then you’ll be going to a stall, so there’s no need to go near the stand up urinals. And as you’re well aware, guys don’t just walk in the room, unzip and walk around with the old fella flopped out the front.

I'm in the UK so it may be a different culture but there was never any question or weirdness about taking her into the men's toilets. When she asked I explained what the urinals were for although at two I mainly focussed on urgently insisting they were not for washing your hands. She has always been perfectly familiar with what a penis is so no problems there and besides you generally don't see them on a casual walk through. Now she's six I'll ask her if she wants to go in the women's on her own or the men's with me and she usually picks the men's toilets unless its somewhere she's very familiar with.

As a man I would never ever enter the women's bathroom unless it was a single stall and I knew no-one else was in there. If she's in there and not coming out I'll send someone else in to check.

As for cleanliness I've never checked but I hear women's toilets are just as gross as men's and often worse.

Daughter is 11. I always used the men’s toilets. Never any issues. There are family rooms near me now which would have been handy!

I’m an outlier I guess… I have two daughters and now I KNOW women’s bathrooms in the US are far nicer, cleaner and more user friendly than men’s… especially when they were in diapers, I KNOW I can always find a diaper changing thing on the wall in a women’s room. I simply poke my head in and yell loudly “I’m a dad coming in to let his daughter go potty, does anyone object?” Mostly women have laughed and said come on in no worries here. I actually never thought about her seeing someone’s dick… just want it easy for the both of us.

My oldest is now 5… I’ve NEVER had an issue.

You take her in the men's. She won't be able to see other dudes penises.

Just take her to your toilet when you’re out and about. Just like you’d take her to the men’s changing area and showers at a swimming pool.

As she gets older, you’ll no doubt find yourself needing to enter the ladies’ toilets on occasion, as her being 5 or something wants to use a girl’s toilet, but will find herself getting locked in toilets frequently, and you’ll need to free her as needed.

The men's room. Or a family restroom if available.

I have two girls, and I've never had an issue. It's not like you see strangers penises when you use the bathroom by yourself.

I try the dude's restroom first, sometimes there is piss everywhere so we then go to the women's and I just announce that I have my daughter and the ladies don't seem to care. I usually hear them laughing when my daughter remarks on how much cleaner mommy potties are than daddy potties.

Let's have some real talk, does your wife think men in the men's room just stand around helicoptering their dicks?

Up to a certain age, I would take my daughter into the men's room.

Once she was able to successfully use the bathroom by herself and open the door by herself, I would stand outside waiting.

That being said, if the women's room was the only room the changing table - I would use that. (After announcing myself and alerting staff) And nobody cared.

I take my son and daughter with me to the men’s and don’t think about it at all.

I would NEVER take my girl into a girls bathroom, and I would straight up expect any woman in there (if I did) to be upset and offended that I decided to traipse my adult male body into their toilet because my 3 year old needs to pee.

Its a bit awkward the first few times, but I take her to the ladies room. Most women understand, I had one lady comment in a positive and nice way too.

Funny story though, there were some significant "potty sounds" from another stall once. My daughter made a statement about it, something like "DADDY! Shes going POOP!", very loud as kiddos do. That was hard to keep my composure!

Wow, surprised to find myself in the minority here but I always take her to the women's. Not because of her seeing a wayward weiner or men's being dirtier (they aren't) but because that's the one she uses. She can't go on her own so I'm coming with her.

Maybe it's because I live in Canada but it's never been an issue. I just announce myself so that a sudden 6' 4" dude in the women's washroom doesn't startle anybody and we scoot quick into a stall. No big deal.

I don't particularly want her walking through the mens with urinals, penises

What the hell kind of restrooms are you going in where you are seeing penises just randomly as your walk in???

If there isn't a family bathroom (obviously first choice) I always took my daughter to the men's room. Walked right past the urinals the the stalls and let her do her thing, helped clean her up, washed hands, and left.

None of it is really a big deal unless you make it a big deal.

Oh and women's rooms are often much nastier than the men's, ironically because they're all so afraid of touching anything that they squat instead of sit and make the mess they were concerned about touching in the first place..

In my country (NZ) the parents room has a toilet for both the parent and the child so you can both poop or pee together !! Some even have two hand basins at different heights to accomodate lol

I take my almost 2 year old to preferably a room with the changing bay for her to sit on as I redress her. But we can manage in the men's toilet too. 

Just take her into the men's room. No one cares.

Why does this keep coming up? Not even 5 days ago, then multiple times before that.

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I would take my daughter to the men's ....

If there were guys using the urinal, I'd jokingly cover her eyes and she thought it was hilarious.

People act normally and nothing is weird or creepy about it.

I take her to the men’s room if “family” facilities are not available. It’s not a big deal, don’t over think it.

This is the most common question asked here

Drag the into the men’s. Explain that boys bathrooms are gross and not to touch anything (the will touch everything for the first year at least). But the wiener thing isn’t a big deal, she’ll catch on that you have one soon if she hasn’t already. Don’t sweat it, just take her where you are going. I got a 7 and 4 year old, they’re great kids, and can even go to the women’s on their own now.

I don't particularly want her walking through the mens with urinals, penises and lets be honest they're always a bit gross anyway.

Dad of two girls here. We went to the mens toilets.

I don't know where you live but I never seen men flaunting, waving or showing of their penises in there. You might want to change where you hang.

I just became more mindful of places we would select to go eat when we had our daughter with us. If I knew the restaurant had a nasty bathroom as a rule, I would avoid it. The only time I would use the women's room instead of the men's is if it was a one person at a time setup.

Bring a travel potty with extra wipes, bags and clothes in a tote, everywhere you go. These are life changing. Have one in the car and ask if she needs to go before entering the store, then bring it with you.

Like others have said, bring her to the men’s room or family bathroom. Don’t worry about other ppl judging you, you’re doing great!

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I take my daughter to the accessible toilet or the men’s if that’s the only option. In the men’s usually I have to wipe piss off the seat, which she finds hilarious and we have quite the conversation about why men wee on the seat 😂

Follow-up question: My little dude's not old enough for this yet but I dated a girl a long time ago with a young boy I took him into the bathroom He's way too small for the toilet. Nothing I could think of would get him to be able to fit so I just kind of held him up and he shot for the bowl. What are you guys do when they're like three or four?

First choice is a family bathroom if available, big enough for all the kids and often change table and cleaner. Second choice is men's bathroom, if it's clean and there is a reasonable spot to change little one we will do that. If not clean or good change spot I'll use womens bathroom and just announce myself going in, I've once had a complaint about it from management at the store so I promptly changed my kids shitty diaper at the customer service desk and left, not recommended but sure as hell made my point that day. I hear they now have change tables in men's washroom.

At 2 I just took my daughter with me into the men’s restroom if a family room was not available. At about 4 she started using the woman’s restroom on her own and I would stand outside. If she ever needed help she would just ask another person in the restroom to help her with the door, or I would just open it and ask if she was good

Hot take: you should take her into the men's room so she understands what a normal interaction should look like.

If she never goes in and sees dudes minding their own and not making eye contact that will be cemented as the proper interaction and any potential funny business down the road will be different and weird for her and she'll be more likely to flag it.

Not an expert, just my 2c.

We've done both men and women's restrooms. When my daughter was 3 or 4 years old, we did what we needed and every other opinion didn't matter. Moms and Dads knew what was happening and respected it.

Men's room. Just carry her to a cubicle.

Penises are rarely visible at urinals, so not much of an issue there. My daughter changed in the men's changing room when swimming etc and it was never an issue.

Don't worry about it so much, it'll be fine - and if a little, funny thing happens then you'll deal with it just fine too 👊🏼

Mom here, I would be fine with you announcing you're bringing your daughter into the women's room and coming in. We all have individual stalls, so it shouldn't be a problem.

If there wasn't a single use family restroom available, I'd just take her into the men's with me and use the larger handicap stall. Not a single man ever paid attention, if there was ever even another man in there at all. I can guarantee, even if most women wouldn't mind, you'd run a real risk of finding one of the few who would if you went into the womens room.

And as far as what she might see? Brother I have been using mens restrooms in public for four decades and I've never once seen another mans penis.

My daughter is older now and has been using the restroom in the women's room on her own for years now. But for those few years where she needed me to be with her, there was never any issue. In and out, pees peed and poops pooped, hands washed, not a phallus or scrotum was ever seen, not a single leering glance ever cast her way. In fact most men would probably do everything they can to pretend they don't notice a little girl in there *because* they don't want to get falsely accused of anything.

You're overthinking it. Men's room, 100%.

She'll be fine if she sees a urinal, and I've been using men's rooms my whole life and have yet to see a penis in one, aside from my own.

Also, FYI, women's rooms are often more gross than men's rooms.

I take my girl into the men's room with me. Once she turned 5, I could start using it as leverage.

"You better go potty before we leave."

"I don't have to go!"

"Ok, you can use the gross boys room while we are there."

"Ok, I'll go."

At that age I would often take her straight into a stall in the mens room. There were times where the mens room was disgusting or when she got a little older that I have knocked on a ladies room and yelled in there that I had a little girl I would like to take into the ladies room. A few times it was empty and we were in and out. Twice I had women invite us in and I just went straight into the stall with my daughter and nobody cared.

The kids don’t care at all. It’s the parents and adults that make it weird. The kid doesn’t think thing one about what the other people in the bathroom are doing, in fact, you’ll learn that when they make loud comments about everything in there.

Also, wtf is going on in the men’s rooms around you? There aren’t any penises flopping around in my years of experience. And they’re all somewhat dirty men’s and women’s.

My girl is younger and still in daipers, so this is something that I probably won't deal with for close to another year. I'd just take her to the men's.

I mean the one time I have taken her to use a toilet in public, it was a boy's locker room. I'd feel too strange in a women's bathroom. Way too strange. I don't want to preemptively apologize for being there. And I already know that some women will take issue with it, so I don't want to feel like each time I go into the women's bathroom with my daughter I need to hope that I'm lucky enough that the only women there are ones who will be supportive/indifferent.

As for penises in the men's room. You really don't see any. I've never seen another man's penis in the men's room. Everyone zips up while they're facing the urinal. Yes, some men might be adjusting their belt still while they're walking between the urinal and the sink, but everything has been put away by then.

I'm in Canada, and no one ever so much as batted an eye when I took my daughter into the men's room. Also a SAHD, so that was many, many times.

You use the men's room. It's really not that difficult.

If you're seeing other men's penises in public restrooms, you have bigger problems than where to take your girl to go pee.

Use the men’s bathroom. Usually shorter lines. Nobody really cares. Hell, I’ll usher my wife to the men’s bathroom at busy public bathroom places. There’s no honor in standing in line.

I take my daughter into the men's all the time. She doesn't care, I don't care, and the men don't care 🤷 if that's something that bothers someone that's 100% on them and I wish them the best

The rule of thumb is “school age” for using their own bathroom. Dunno if this still applies

Best answer I can give is it depends. If a family room is available that’s where I head. If the men’s room is clean I had no palms brining my daughters in. Never had a situation where they saw anything. But the why can’t we stand questions were fun. Cleanliness was more the problem with men’s rooms. If I had to use a women’s room always knocked and announced dad bringing in a daughter who can’t wait. That immediacy takes a lot of the awkward out of it.

Children under 6 generally can go into any change room or bathroom.

I am a single dad. I took my daughter into the men’s room all the time. Nobody ever complained.

I have this problem too, I hate taking my 4yo daughter into the men’s as you don’t know what you’ll be greeted with. But I’m still not going into a women’s bathroom. Absolutely no chance. It is what it is

This is insanity. Of course you take her to the men’s room.

I've always taken my girls to the men's restroom. Even now (they are 7 and 9) if they first go to the woman's by themselves and all the stalls are taken or something then I will take them to the men's room and just wait outside the stall. I wouldn't send them in there by themselves.