I generally get about 6hrs of sleep. Go to bed around 12-1, wake up at 6-7 depending on the kid. If I’ve got a lot to do, I might stay up until 2-3am and then get up at 7. I know the next day will be rough, but I feel like the only productive time I get at home is after 9pm.
I’ve kind of always been a night owl. Idk if this is a good strategy long term though.
I’m in the same boat: night owl, stay up late to get work done. If I’m not mistaken long term effects of lack of sleep are dementia and heart disease. I think about that every morning…
My wife and I are generally are reacting to our kids. They wake up, we wake up. We’re working on transition away from that and getting up before they do but we are still having trouble sleeping and an extra hour is sometimes the only thing I live for.
That’s kind of my issue. I don’t feel overly sleep deprived during the day until I’ve done a couple days of under 5 hrs of sleep, but I basically never feel “rested.”
Damn kid never sleeps in past 7am. Unless my wife takes the morning, I just don’t get to sleep in
I don’t get home till11:30, usually around 3 I’m in bed and up by 7:30 to get the little one to school.
It’s rough but without that I don’t get any me time
Damn. I feel that. I can do a few days of under 5hrs, but I’m a zombie after that. I really need alone time though, so it’s a trade off basically every day
Hi, this is me. 6 years in, averaging under 5 hours because I need alone time. It will almost certainly put me in an early grave but 0:00 to 0:200 is the only me time I consistently get.
If I get 6 hours I consider it a win. Often it’s more like 4-5. Haven’t had 8 hours since our first was born. 1yo and 3yo.
I average around 7.5, then every two weeks pass out early and sleep for 10. Outside that bi weekly 10 hour sleep, I literally can't sleep more than 8 on a given day.
I can function on a few days in a row on 6 hours of sleep with little impact, but I'm much sharper on my full sleep.
31 y/o with a 20 month old FWIW
Similar here. 39. Two kids under 5.
6 hours. Weekends less
Funny how weekends used to be my recovery/rest time….
Saturdays are the new Mondays.
Ain't that the sad truth
Exactly the same as you. I'm a SAHD with a 2.5yr old boy. I can do 5-6 hours of sleep about three days in a row but day four is going to be a crash with a migraine if I'm not careful.
I also have ADHD which is a fairly common night owl trait. I can be dragging all day but am inspired and ready to clean the garage at 1am. It both sucks but is also the only thing that makes me feel alive on the rough days.
Ok. Literally it sounds like you’re describing me.
Why the fuck am I so productive at 1am??
Brother you might have ADHD. Spend most of your life having no idea what "meditating" is because you always have multiple TVs inside your head playing 3-6 shows all at the same volume? Ever stare blankly at several easy tasks because your brain tries to do them all at once so instead you do nothing?
You're productive at 1am because the only stimuli is you, and thats so much quieter than the rest of the day and your mind is more free than usual. And then you stay up late and don't do the thing you wanted but you didn't want to go to sleep and lose that potential time and you wake up with regret and say you wont do it tomorrow and you'll repeat that cycle until you die.
Seriously though, I didn't find out I had ADHD until I was 35. My kid started walking at the same time my grumpy old dog was in his final weeks and my executive function disappeared. I started therapy because I thought I was broken and didn't know what to do. If you relate to my ramblings and don't know what category your brain is in, look up the common traits.
Yeah, I got diagnosed around the time my LO was about 6mo. Went to a therapist to work through some issues and after a couple sessions he said something like “so you were really never diagnosed as a kid? You obviously have ADHD”
Okay so we are the same person.
I average 5-6 hours a night. I probably get four to six nights with 7+ hours of sleep per year.
For the first 6 months with our youngest, she was constantly awake during the night, and we were probably in the 4-5 range, but it’s now more like 7-8 hours per night. Something happened in my 30s and I went from being able to function fine on 6 hours of sleep to tired if I get less than 8, and it sucks
If I'm working the day shift its around 6 evenings I'll sleep around 9 and nights are around 5.5.
Maybe take half an hour off because baby grunts wake me up still and I also help my wife get a feed started overnight. She's around 7 months old.
I make up for it on my days off by just sorting when baby sleeps. Not a lot of adult time on work days but she's adorable and makes up for it when we get to play.
I'm a morning person, and I leave for my job pretty early so it works for me. I usually sleep 10pm-5am.
Idk what it is but it isn’t enough
I'm nearing 48, and I used to be the same. I would stay up late to either get stuff done or watch movies or game.
What I've realized is that I was handicapping myself by not having the capacity for using my brain to its full potential. I would kind of sleepwalk through some days.
It's like that short story, "Harrison Bergeron."
Now, this is tough for those with newborns and toddlers, but once they get a bit older and can sleep through most nights, I recommend trying to get more sleep and see if it doesn't make you at least more patient as a father, if not better in other aspects of your life.
I go to bed 20-21 every night. I have prioritized sleep ever since my kid was born.
5-6 hours. Shit's real as a working solo parent going to school 🙃
5 hours? 6, maybe?
What's that?
4-5 weekdays. 6-7 weekends
Yep, 5-6. Posting here at nearly 1 AM. I’ve got an infant and a toddler.
We have a co-sleeping 3 year old and a 3 month old. Our sleep is all fucky. Some nights I’m asleep by 10 and up at 6. Some nights I’m up til 3 and awake at 7. Some nights the 3 year old wakes up and I gotta lay with her in the guest bed.
Tonight maybe 5 hours, yesterday 7.. the night before when I was fixated on a stupid issue 4 hours. The night before that 8 hours.
It's never the same. Sometimes it's my fault, sometimes it's just bad luck with both kids not sleeping well... Some nights it's because of anxiety from life problems that are not always my fault..
I should go to bed.
You have to just not wish you were getting more.
Same hours, same reasons, same everything.
From the looks of it, i have a pretty different set up to most here. My partner is still breastfeeding so Ibcant really help much in the night, and Im working full time, so I sleep in the guest room. I take care of 80% of the house chores and cooking. Usually asleep by 9:30pm and up at 5am to walk the dog, working by 6am. . But due to work stress I am up around 2:30am for a bit until I can get that shut out of my head 🙃
I generally sleep 3-4 hours a night, if I go to bed early I'm generally up super early. Sometimes I will sleep a few hours and then wake up, get some work done and then go back to bed for a few hours.
It sounds awful but I actually feel better this way. I used to try and force myself to sleep more and felt like crap. Any less than 2 hours or more than 5 has me feeling like garbage. If I can do 4 consistently that is just about perfect. My parents are the same way, my sister is not. My oldest seems similar too.
I’ve come to learn that 6 hours is pretty much my minimum. I can handle the occasional 3-5 hours of sleep night, but if that isn’t happening night over night it ruins me. 7-7.5 hours is my sweet spot on sleep amount it feels like though. Longer if I’m sick of course. 2.5 year old and 2 month at home, so the 7-7.5 hour nights are a luxury and rarity at this point. But I can cobble at least 6 together the vast majority of nights so far, even with one middle of night feed for my newborn
Last 3 weeks I've been averaging around 3-4 hours. It's extremely low even for me (generally averages 5h over the years) but yeah.
I usually go to sleep around 1 and wake up at 7. I need some me time after the wife goes to bed to catch on reading, gaming or TV.
I’m in my 40s now though and starting to feel it. I probably have sleep apnea as well 😭
My wife sleeps with the baby, I sleep in the guest room. I sleep about 6 hours. I have no time for anything other than coming home from work, being with the baby for a few hours, help the wife and baby settle for sleep, then shower eat get ready for the next day and go to sleep. Repeat. Honestly it is much better than what I thought it will be like with a 1 month old.
I've basically just concluded that I'm no longer supposed to have productive or "me" times in the evening. To get even close to enough sleep I need to go to bed roughly around the same time as my kid. Otherwise it's just never going to be enough.
I can be lucky and he'll sleep mostly undisturbed until 8-9, but more often than not he wakes up around 5-7, and even when he wakes up later, there's usually always at least one or two stretches of 30-60 minutes of... issues... during the night, wrecking my sleep...
Six hours sounds amazing. I’m lucky toget four. I’m up right now because he’s crying for no goddamn reason.
Four hours. Dead tired. Good my wife the more the days go by the less I want a second child. I just want sleep. 1 year old baby. I’m starting to have resentment towards them both. Up right now because he’s crying despite giving him a bottle and patting him to sleep. Gotta get up in three hours to get ready for work. Have slept 30 mins.
I'm always asleep by 11pm, then up by 7:15 am for a shower before the youngest one wakes
When I get enough sleep I'm a better, more patient parent. Without enough sleep I'm irritable and impatient
Same as you. I'm a night owl and the hours are similiar to you. It works for me.
About 7 hours. I’ve worked really hard on sleep habits like no phone after 9pm and I read before bed to help my wind down. Always in bed before 10pm and asleep by 11pm at the absolute latest.
Generally wake up about 5/5:30 unless my kids sleep in. We are all early risers. The whole house is usually out of bed before 6:30am.
I really feel the difference between achieving 7 hours and not. I can function absolutely fine, but I’m just in survival mode and getting through the day. With 7 quality hours of sleep I’m a different person entirely.
During the week, 8-9 hours from 930-620
On the weekends, probably 1030 or so to 730-800. My wife is a napper, so she gets on up with the kids on the weekends and then she has an afternoon nap to balance things out.
Kids are 8 and 3.
7.5 almost every week night. 10:30 until 6. I have a schedule set on my smart watch. I get a warning 15 minutes prior to bed that it’s time to wind down. I read a bit in bed and that pretty much knocks me out.
On weekends I get about the same but go to bed later. My girls get up around 7:30 and I tend to stay up until 11:30 or 12.
I’m generally at 7.5-8 during the week and 6-7 on the weekends
You know bud there's a whole bunch of research now that says it's part genetic and part lifestyle. Some people need less than 7hrs, some need more. 7hrs appears to be the prime target for muscle/mental health, although it also changes over time. I believe take away is to find what number leaves you feeling refreshed and rested and try for consistency
I used to get 6. Life was hard and I couldn't figure out why. Started prioritizing sleep, now with 8-9 I can 100% avoid all of my kids breakdowns and tantrums. I have patience that never existed before.
I've been a night owl my whole life but now that I am working so hard both paid and unpaid, I find that by about 7pm I am just done. I can't even play a video game at night anymore, on the rare occasions that I have the time to, because my brain just can't handle doing even that amount of work.
So if you can still be productive at 1am, go for it, I guess. Enjoy it while you can.
6 but mostly because of my adhd
I've got 4 month old twins and a 3 year old. I think i would fare better fighting in the Roman Colosseum than getting more than 4 hours of straight sleep.
I usually stay up until 11:30 playing games with my friends, then deeply deeply regret it at 2/3am when one of the twins wakes up screaming.
Same