My spouse unexpectedly passed away on thanksgiving. I went over to his parent’s house for the first time since, and his brother’s family was also there… Their 13yo son left this on my truck, I’ve been in his life since he was a baby, I’m 37, my 11yo son is his cousin… I’ve been this child’s aunt… every family event… lol wtf?
It's even weirder that he had to clarify to you that he is in fact a male.
I assumed he thought she wouldn't realize it was him who left the note.
Yeah this reads as a wildly inappropriate prank than a lewd proposition, which is honestly how I first read it.
its giving charlie from its always sunny vibes haha
Pussy me, me pussy, need pussy now.
Totally does (but with better spelling than Charlie would use). Oh, and Charlie would have #3 say to bring cheese instead of asking to be flashed 🧀
Yeah, it makes me think that he made this note intended for someone else and he forgot about it? Does OP vape?
Forgot about it but also taped it to OP's truck?
Yes, as in meant to tape it someplace else (his crush’s house/door/item), but forgot it. Why would he state he’s male if he damn well knows that his aunt knows this info? Just odd.
He didn’t sign it do he thought the note would seem to come from an anonymous and therefore mysterious source.
Maybe the plan was to check if OP would meet up with random men after her husband's passing? Or maybe he wanted to cheer up OP and thought that was how adults cheer each other up?
I'm assuming that OP is from the US based on the fact that OP drives a truck and celebrates Thanksgiving. But, this kid isn't exactly a part of our "smartest" generation. Perhaps that has something to do with it
You need to bring this up to his parents / guardians. He needs to understand that this behaviour is not okay under any circumstances.
This kid likely has his own mental health issues already going on. I have a son the same age and can’t imagine him ever doing something like this. That’s so clearly unacceptable to leave a note like that, especially to a family member who you know will confront you about it. A desperate cry for negative attention is concerning.
Edit: I’ve clearly struck a nerve with some people who think it’s apparently no big deal to ask your aunt to “show me your pussy.” My replies are turned off, you’re pissing into the wind.
It's strange that anyone at all could attempt to brush this off as just normal boy stuff. He's 13... He's not a little kid who can't understand how fucking weird that is... He wasn't just vaguely pushing boundaries, "bring your pussy" and all that is insane to write to an adult family member (double double insane that he knows your husband recently passed).
There's really no reality where this is just typical kid/boy stuff. This kid has some stuff going on— he's already dealing with porn brain rot, or some type of sexually inappropriate activity in his real life (whether that's directly to him or he's around adults who are blurring lines by being openly sexually inappropriate around him) at the very least.
Idk if I would in OPs case, but I would at least consider going to someone other than just the parents. As in, someone who can look into the situation and make sure he's okay and it is properly dealt with.
Yup yup yup
Fuck that shit, tell the parents.
The note is inappropriate in any circumstance-
and do we have to highlight the context?
This kid had the idea to put this note on the car of his uncle’s WIDOW.
Like, uncle dies and your first thought is to paste a dirty “meet me by the bushes” type note, that includes BRING PUSSY & VAPE?
This child is feral.
I enjoy the way you wrote this out a lot. I wish more people did longer explanations this way. It looks cleaner and seems easier to read.
Or he thinks that vaginas are detachable? Ionno.
I remember being a 13 year old boy. This shit is so inappropriate and weird. Something else is going on with little guy.
Yea.. this was absolutely not behavior I'd ever consider engaging in at 13 and I got into some pretty weird shit at that age. Not this.
Parents often have a huge blind spot when it comes to their kids. I’m not saying your kids are bad but I bet they do some stuff that would shock you.
It happened to me.
I read an article about how there is new research into who actually has influence over an individual. It boiled down to every person has probably around 5 people that they are willing to be influenced by, so when it comes to kids, if one of the parents are not on that list, you are kinda just shit out of luck.
It helps explain the good parents and families with bad kids, or the statement of "falling in with the wrong crowd." Parents often don't even get a choice in the matter.
If primary care giver isn’t one of the people the individual is willing to be influenced by, the primary care giver did something where the child lost faith in the parent. I’m sorry
Agreed, though sometimes kids will make stupid choices regardless of having a good parent.
Yeah no parent has had a kid do something bad to stupid and was like “I totally expected that he’s a bad kid” every parent says my kid is an angel and wouldn’t do that but the reality is no one knows what’s going on in their head besides them.
Even my parents, who knew I was a fuck up most of the time, were constantly surprised by dumb shit I would do as a teen.
Kids can be impressively stupid
This is something I think about from time to time and it kinda scares me. Not just children, but everyone. The way people present themselves to you is not always an accurate reflection of what their true intentions are and what's really going on in their headn
Yep. Just got blindsided by this recently. 🫠
Idk, my son is 16 and every time I found out he was doing something, I wasnt even slightly surprised. Then again, my son is a really good kid who makes a handful of dumb decisions, and I was an addict by 16, so I kind of anticipate far worse behavior than I've ever known him to do. He's started fights, skipped school, and gotten in minor trouble in school, and it's never been a "omg i cant believe my baby could" moment for me. More like, "he's my kid, so that checks out". I think parents are often delusional about childhood development and behavior. Teenagers literally have undeveloped brains, of COURSE they make dumb decisions - give natural consequences, talk with them as often as you can, and expect them to be stupid af at every turn.
For real. This behaviour is concerning. Hell, it could be an indicator that he's been through some sort of sexual abuse. Not necessarily from an adult in his life. I knew a kid who behaved kinda like this in middle school. At the time as a middle schooler I just thought he was a creep. Found out later as an adult that the boys in his class had been straight up molesting him in the locker rooms.
Kids have more access to porn than ever before and at younger ages. It is actively rotting these kids brains. Yes, obviously, abuse still happens, but the more obvious answer is this kid simply has a gooner rotted brain.
Ads, ai videos, YouTube shorts, tiktok, all these things that kids go on are bombarded with sexual content. Lil homie is watching too much incest porn and thought this would fly irl.
This is the one! People always assume kids like this have been through SA & albeit it may be true, but this gen is watching porn very early and have 24/7 access to it. 5 yr olds are raping others in the news & talk about porn and sex in school before they’re even in the double digits ages (confirmed by teachers), it’s so beyond sad and ofc disturbing.
This does seem very likely unfortunately. It's wild how easy it is to access not even what you mentioned, but straight up porn sites. It gets especially bad if you have older friends. I remember being 8 years old and having friends who were a bit older, think 12 to 13 year olds, and I learned about porn and sex and all that exclusively from them at that age, plus sharing a room with my parents combined with having a terrible sleep schedule. Before we even had wifi I was watching porn at 11 years old, and even then I'd never try something like this with anyone, let alone a family member.
By the time I was 12 to 13 my brain was so rotted by porn, which was exasperated when we had our wifi installed that same year, that I'd get concerning intrusive thoughts of even people I never interacted with. I was lucky enough to have moved away from that a bit over the years, but even now at 17 I struggle with it from time to time. I couldn't imagine what it'd have been like had I continued watching porn at every opportunity I got like when I was younger, or if I were still so much younger today with the ads and shit you mentioned
Naaah tell his mom, then hatch a plan where she meets him at the designated spot instead of OP and start with "so, you want your aunt to flash you, huh?"
Y'all just reinvented the plot of Mozart's Le nozze di Figaro
“Why don’t you have a seat”
This is probably the last kid to try this tactic on.
Agree! His parents need to know their kid is doing things like this and determine why he would think it’s ok.
I drew a picture of boobs when I was about six, and my brother took it and told me he was going to tell our mom and dad. I never knew what he did with it; my parents never said anything to me. Fast forward 30 years, my dad was cleaning out his house, and brought some items to me that he thought I’d like. My baby book was in the lot, and my brother had put the image of the boobs under “my first drawing.” That was a long con. I’m still impressed.
https://preview.redd.it/8dbse75wp07g1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=0bf0ab8917b6caaecbdd1d66d19f13532ac4eda0
Found the drawing! It’s under “what I learned in school.” I was nine.
I appreciate the fact that it's labeled like artwork in a museum.
Kid saw some real ones.
Not me looking at that drawing and seeing my own post-breastfeeding flappy sacks 😭
What’s funny is that I was born about a month and a half after this drawing was made. Lol
God bless you and your boobs, Mom.
Tits
3/31/93
Ink on paper
u/hernkate (b.1984)
Tits, 1993
3”x4”
blue ballpoint pen on paper
HernkateBabyBook Collection
Impressive hangers from a six year old!
Ah this is top. Thanks for delivering
Holy shit did you happen to draw this in your kindergarten class?!
I got in trouble with my buddy in kindergarten for drawing titties exactly like this on scraps of paper. School called my parents and everything. My mom was like meh boys will be boys lmaoooo
Cool boobs
This is fucking brilliant. Oh man, I wish r/bestof still existed.
It does still exist...
Holy shit. It does exist. It's balls have been cut off and it's starving. But it's alive. We should mercy kill it
Fucking spez or someone more powerful stomped it into the bloody pool it is.
Back in the day it was usually top post on popular. And people could bestof with a click.
Fucking why is it crippled?
Since Reddit killed third party apps my entire Reddit experience has changed for the worse. So many fun subs used to pop up on r/all which is what I usually browse now it's just the same lame bullshit.
those 90s tits hit different
What did your bother say when you reminded him of this? I also love that these are the more realistic saggy tits type that you drew.
Draw what you know.
Omg I love this so much.
Not my proudest fap but bewbs are bewbs
Please tell your brother that a random internet stranger is also impressed by this.
As is this other random stranger. Effing bravo, man, damn.
Same here. Holy shit what did your brother say when you told him? This has me cracking up. I love it
I drew similar stuff when I was about that age and my grandma caught me 😬 she just gave me a look and I learned my lesson lol
"I told you I'd tell them."
Damn that is legendary lmao
Around the same age, I drew my babysitter as a topless stick- figure with giant tits. She FLIPPED out, scolded my parents, and quit. Core memory for me.
You dodged a bullet. It never would have worked out.
That is actually so funny.
Goddamn. That's outstanding.
When I was 10, I got in trouble at school cause they found a rough script for a parody video I wanted to make with a friend where a news anchor announces that penises are exploding everywhere from viagra use
I remember just being brought up to the principal and she’s low key tryna keep a serious face as it’s being read out loud to her while she’s tryna to make it seem like this is serious and inappropriate, and I was like begging them not to call my parents (they didn’t in the end thankfully, they’ve must recognized the harmless ‘boys’ humour in it.
Anyway, OPs nephew seems dumb as fuck lmao
My mom got that same baby book, Peter Rabbit, when my brother was born in 1981, minus the long boobs.
lol wtf
I'm sorry for your loss.
Thank you, it’s been the most difficult thing I’ve ever been through
I lost my wife nine years ago and I just wanted to share with you that while it seems impossible now, it does get better. Slowly. In my experience, the pain never goes away, it just becomes something you learn to live with. I’m very sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry. Remember it's one step at a time! Be kind to yourself and ask for help and support whenever you need it.
Deepest condolences- the last thing you need is this additional and very creepy hassle from a child (and a family member no less)
Seconded on the above - sorry for your loss. If you can help your nephew as well, though, that might help both of you - your spouse's memory, and the kid himself. It sounds like he is, or was, abused in some way; that's a cry for help if I've ever seen one.
It’s kind of sad that you’re the only comment here acknowledging that this happened after the loss of her spouse.
I’m with Piglet on this one.
Dont forget your pussy!!! Lol wtf?
You never forgot your pussy at home?
Been there. But this is a no brainer for OP. Rendezvous by the pool,with a vape, but no pussy? Unheard of.
Detachable Pussy
It was in the sink!
Gotta Velcro that shit on.
That’d be so convenient
Unless you get drunk and forget about it at a party
Then you might have to buy it back from some rando, and that's NOT convenient.
True!!
I always hang mine on the little hook next to my keys so I remember to grab it every time I leave the house
Better than leaving it in the sink for Archer to find
Little bit of elbow grease will have the ol' pleasure boat ship-shape.
I just leave mine in my underwear drawer, it makes things more efficient when I’m getting ready in the morning.
I've got a lanyard for mine so I can just hand it around my neck whenever my hands get busy with something else.
He scratched it out so it doesnt count
Haha. Yeah plausible deniability. 😆
Is this the rizz I keep hearing about?
"I didn't bring a vape for you, I don't own one. But I did bring Mr. Snuggles if you want to pet him. Be careful, he isn't declawed.."
lowkey funny af ngl
Jesus Christ, gooner culture is ruining kids
He definitely has a few Discord servers where he is discussing this.
“…it’s just a prank bro!”
“i’m just trying to cheer up my widowed aunt, bro!”
I read a tweet that claimed incel culture won and well....
Honestly I had to take a break from Instagram beginning about two months ago because it was crazy how much thinly veiled Only Fans promo content was making it into my feed, especially considering I always made it a point not to engage with it so my algorithm wouldn’t get messed up. It’s not as though I have a problem with seeing half-naked women but I wish there was a way to filter it or something so I could safely open IG in a room full of people without having to worry that the first thing on my screen is going to be some chick doing an “outfit of the day” video that’s 90% her jumping up and down in a pair of jeans and a bra for no reason. Like dude at least make it so that shit doesn’t pop up until after a certain time of day or something. I hadn’t considered that teenagers and kids are basically getting the same content since afaik it isn’t age restricted. Worst part is I feel so lame for thinking this way since I’m sure if I was still a teenager I’d be stoked lol, like it sure beats having to wait 10 minutes for a still image of swimsuit model to load on 56k.
Please make a big deal about this. He's still young enough to snap him out of this behavior, but only if there are consequences.
Is he... all there upstairs?
It’s okay, you can say it!
Dumb?
Nah its dumber than that
Super duper colossal idiot head?
He’s all there downstairs, that’s for certain.
I teach kids around that age and you NEED to let his parents know. Unless he is neurodivergent, at that age he should 100% be aware saying that is disgusting and totally unacceptable. Maybe it is how he is coping with losing his uncle or maybe he has had a bit too much free time on the internet but either way he needs help...
Even if he’s neurodivergent, this still is unacceptable.
Right, he should know it’s “you’re so sexy”.
“Welcome to you’re doom”
WE CAN NEVER GO BACK TO ARIZONA!
We have a neurodivergent kid where I work that was harassing multiple girls. It has to be addressed or it escalates and can get worse when they get older for sure
My son is almost 13 and neurodivergent. He absolutely knows this is inappropriate and unacceptable.
Not all neurodivergent kids will do sexually inappropriate things, but it’s not uncommon for many kids to not register social cues of what’s appropriate or not.
they're not all built the same
So are you saying that neurologically they're divergent?
Hell, it could be an indicator that he's been through some sort of sexual abuse. Not necessarily from an adult in his life. I knew a kid who behaved kinda like this in middle school. At the time as a middle schooler I just thought he was a creep. Found out later as an adult that the boys in his class had been straight up molesting him in the locker rooms.
Yeah... When kids act out sexually like this, it's like a big flashing sign telling you to investigate. Impossible for us to say what is going on, but something sexually confusing and really inappropriate is happening to/with/around him.
People in the comments seem all too happy to just blame it on the internet or "brainrot" but like... i was born in 2000, we grew up on unsupervised internet access back in the time when most websites were wayyyy less censored than they are now. but even the dumber kids could differentiate behaviour you could do online from behaviour you could do irl.
I look at this note and think trauma if there’s no cognitive or neurodevelopmental differences
Trauma is the first thought for me
If he is neurodivergent then he absolutely needs this talk. Inappropriate behavior is not to be laughed off or seen as less serious because they're neurodivergent. They need to be told what is and isn't appropriate because you're just asking to raise someone who's not ready for adulthood. It's ableist to infantalize neurodivergent people like this. He knows what he's doing is wrong, otherwise he would have said it to her face and not in a sneaky note.
I didn't read that comment as "if the kid is ND, never mind he's fine." I read it as, "if he's neurodivergent he might not be picking up the obvious social rules of how and when and with whom to propose sexual activities, so that might explain why he did this, but regardless he needs that lesson."
I'm sorry for your loss. I have absolutely no words for the note though, boy is out of his damn mind.
That’s fucking disgusting and in extremely poor taste. Kid might have some shit going on at home like unlimited porn access or worse.
Might wanna inform his parents because even if it’s an “oopsies hormones go brr” asking an aunt even by marriage who’s a recent widow for such things is abhorrent.
Aw shit I forgot my pussy
I leaving this up on my fridge. So when he visits in 6 years he gets to be mortified that everyone has been seeing that for half a decade
That surely won't be adding more tension to the family dynamic, and I'm sure op wants to see it daily for years as well. lol
It’s on my fridge, now.
Perfect. Keep it up there until he sees it?
Oh this family dynamic is already garbage lol hes asking his aunt for her boobs in writing🤣
This kid is terminally porn brained AND writes like a first grader. He'll be lucky to be alive in 6 years.
That's what I was thinking.... 13 with handwriting like that??
I work with kids (not a school teacher) and they’re using so much more technology at school that they don’t hand-write anything nearly as much as they used to
Mine was that bad until I was like 22 tbh.
Died of horny bonks you say?
his 6-year-old handwriting is giving incel iPad kid
honestly kind of a concerning literacy level for a 13-year-old
As a high school teacher, you’d be surprised. Handwriting and even writing digitally has plummeted in recent years
"ChatGPT, rite me a term pay per"
He’s writing like he’s not going to high school next year wtf 😭
The "yor" suddenly fixed into "your" is concerning.
Poor kids got the mourning wood
🤣
The dad joke of the century.
Don’t forget to bring your pussy! I sometimes leave mine at home on the dresser.
Pussy!I hope you gave it to his mom. Ew.
I bet the kid wants to give it to his mom, too
Please bring it up to his parents, someone so young doing such a thing, he's likely been exposed to awful things online or maybe worse, this needs parental intervention ASAP.
he has watched too many japanese funeral porn
I understand and am at peace with those words individually, but together they fill me with intense dread
I was going to say that cringe isn’t quite the word for it.
You nailed the feeling of dread lol
Japanese what now?
FUNERAL PORN
A new genre just opened up for me.
Dude is beating off to adult videos too much
Can you make this into one of those lesson teaching moments like on Arrested Development with the one armed man?
And that’s why you don’t solicit your aunt!
You need to ignore it or tell his parents.
Do NOT try to keep it between the two of you. That would be incredibly inappropriate and the people suggesting it are not safe people for children to be around.
An adult should never be keeping a secret with someone else's kid (baring an abusive parent situation) and DEFINITELY not one of a sexual nature.
You guys are basically telling a grieving widow to go give a secret sex ed/consent class to a 13 year old, you should be ashamed.
Instantly showing his parents. Little shit.
This is beyond cringe. Each point makes it worse:
he is sexually harassing a female
the female is his aunt
the aunt is grieving her husband
And then there is the content. The sexual harassment itself is explicit, aggressive, and is weirdly impersonal (unsigned and “i’m a male”). The conclusions that can be drawn from this include (but are not limited to):
he sees women as the carriers of body parts he is interested in, not as people with feelings or needs
he thinks women will/should comply to orders from a male
he either wants to have a sexual encounter with his aunt, or he want to lure his aunt into a fake sexual encounter for some sort of outcome (like a prank or humiliation)
Not to be the over the top redditor, but this boy needs a serious intervention. I know that teens have a tough time with these new feelings and don’t have perfect social awareness, but thinking of his aunt sexually shows porn brain rot at the very least. If unchecked, his misogyny and harassment could become more than hurtful/cringe. He is showing a serious lack of empathy and respect for women.
I'm also worried for his own wellbeing, it seems like he could be easily groomed by an adult who will take advantage. This needs to be addressed for so many reasons!
Is he ok? Bc that's an extreme thing to say to anyone.
Your only option here is to bring this to his parents. Shut him down emphatically.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
He may have a porn addiction. A lot of step-related/incest themed porn out there. His 13 y/o realities are truly warped.
I hope he gets the help he deserves (as he’s still a child) and you all are able to guide him back to balanced without damnation.
This is creepy and hilarious.
I would recite it as a poem in front of a family party, then play a rousing game of Guess Who Put This On My Car?
You're*
I thought the same thing… damn kids these days!
Gotta embarrass him with this before he tries that shit on someone who won’t have his back.
Watch your child around him. Sorry for your loss.
I'm so so sorry for your loss and now dealing with a creepy child. 💛
Damn and I thought 11-year-old me was harlot incarnate for trying to rizz up the Mother's Market shelf stocker. That boy ain't right. My deepest cringedolences
Guarantee he has unregulated and unmonitored internet access and been bombarded by the proliferation of incest porn online.
I cannot be the only one who is appalled by the penmanship of a 13 year old writing like that
Nope, you’re not the only one. Penmanship among kids is declining overall.
This was posted a few days ago, did this happen twice?
Here's another post by OP 2 months ago. I think they like making up stories for the internet.
The family incest porn must be stopped
He’s terminally online and his brain has been poisoned. You need to make a giant fuss about this and specifically go after the parents and tell them they have utterly failed to raise a decent boy and if they don’t do shit right now to correct this, they will be having, “My son didn’t rape that girl,” conversations in the future.
Having the audacity to write a note like this to an aunt is beyond the scope of “stupid teenager,” this sort of thing would create a nuclear situation in my culture.
Raging hormones are partially to blame. The other thing is he's just dumb 🤷♀️
I’m sorry for your loss, I’m wishing you the best during this difficult time
Literally never seen a 13 year old print a like that. And I teach 13 year olds for decades
Aunt aside. You gotta admit this kid got game.
https://preview.redd.it/kga2s2c7ie7g1.jpeg?width=1290&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=cd9d89538505d0e00d2b133842337643f7f2d95b
i am so sorry for your loss. that being said, while teenage boys as a whole are astoundingly immature, gross, and have terrible judgement - what the FUCK is wrong with this sick little asshole?! why on earth would he leave this note for YOU, HIS AUNT, WEEKS AFTER YOU SUFFERED SUCH A HEARTBREAKING LOSS??!?!? i am literally speechless. please tell his parents, he deserves major consequences for this!!!
Like some of the others have suggested, PLEASE bring this up with his parents. I'm a former child protection worker and that means I have lots of experience with child development and behavioral concerns.
Don't try to embarrass him with it, as in, don't turn it into a joke. Calmly and seriously discuss it with his parents. I can't tell you or them how to feel or react, but this is concerning behavior and if it goes on without intervention it very well could escalate. Not everyone looks back at the dumb and cringe things they do as kids with regret. Some people just continue down an unhealthy path. He may be 13 but he's still a child and this has to be addressed in the right way by the adults in his life. Please do right by him.
This is where shaming comes into to play to help society. Let the parents know please.
Therapist
All jokes aside whoever is raising this kid is failing