I'll be direct: I'm lonely. I'm looking for meaningful conversation with someone who's also childfree and agrees that real connection requires patience, curiosity, and genuine effort.

About me:

  • Childfree by choice.
  • Autistic and ADHD - It can be a daily challenge, sometimes it's all about accepting this is what life is like and hoping there's a human or two out there who just get it.
  • I do love animals, but I'm also still grieving the loss of my two cats. Maybe one day.
  • Passionate Packers fan and (obsessed) fantasy football player.
  • Lifelong wannabe writer finally working on her memoir that nobody asked for.

What and who I'm seeking: Someone patient, empathetic, and genuinely curious. A skeptic with sharp critical thinking skills. Someone justice-oriented who values safety and believes aligned values are the cornerstone of healthy partnerships.

I understand we all have strengths and weaknesses - I'm looking for someone whose complement mine. That's where balance lives, and it's worth exploring. While partnership is the ultimate hope, I'm in no rush. I've been alone for many years. Building something with a strong foundation rooted in friendship is the only path forward for me.

I'd prefer to move to long-form, pen pal style communication rather than live chats via Reddit. It's an awful platform for actual conversation, and I prefer the pace of old school letters over instant messaging.

The gist: I'm intense. I know I'm not easy. And I decided a while ago I was done pretending to be less of who I am just to make connection feel safer for others. It's been a lonely experience, and I hope that one day I'll bump into someone who feels safe and like home.

If this resonates, I'll look forward to hearing from you. My preference is someone around my age, give or take a few years. I'm attaching some photos. While I am seeking something that is far beyond the aesthetic, I fully acknowledge physical attraction is certainly a factor. We're complicated humans, we aren't just our exterior or interior - so I decided to show a little bit of both.

Signed, Someone whose strength is not brevity

  • 38M4F here. Your post really stuck out to me as there are a lot similarities (seems like similar thinking, traumas, family, etc.) Have a brother with level 3 autism and have experienced similarities myself (severe agoraphobia in my teen years). Isolation and loneliness is the story of my life esp this past year living in an RV on the road off grid out west. It has been the most freeing and calming experience of my life, and look towards more adventures. I feel safer out in desert wilderness then in any city, I feel like where there are people there are problems.

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    I love to check with you sometime. Kind of old school like talking on the phone

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  • Hi, i would love to know you 🙂

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  • Hi,

    It seems like you’ve been carrying a lot of loneliness and are really craving someone who truly gets you. It sounds like finding someone who can meet you with patience, curiosity, and empathy has been challenging. Does that feel accurate?

    It also seems like you take your intensity seriously and are proud of being authentic, even if it sometimes makes connections harder. What’s been the most important thing you’ve learned about yourself while navigating that intensity?

    It sounds like building a connection rooted in friendship is really important to you and that rushing intimacy just doesn’t feel right. How have past attempts at connection shaped the way you approach relationships now?

    It seems like showing both your inner world and your exterior and being open about your passions and grief is a way of inviting someone to see the real you. How do you imagine the kind of person who could meet that level of openness and still feel like “home”?

    I get the sense that your experience has been lonely at times, but also full of self-awareness and reflection. It makes me curious, what does a meaningful day of connection look like for you when you feel truly understood?

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  • Hope you find what you're looking for!

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  • Is distance a factor? How about some one who resides in another country ?

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  • I sent you a message :)

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