I feel like it kinda is tbh. Caribbeans and African upbringings strict asf. African American upbringings strict also but I feel like once you 18+ your parents really start fcking with you like they ya friend. As for Caribbean and African upbringing they still strict even when you grown they still gon baby you till you like 25 and moved out they crib. Am I yapping or this true?
Definitely LOL
Absolutely
Yep even in my 40s but I have also seen it with some African Americans. They respect their parents - "yes ma'am/mama... yes sir/pop" - like they are kids even when they are grown ass adults.
Haha most preposterous shit ever
You experienced the opposite?
Nope some are strict on some stuff but lax in other things all depends on the person and where they are from.
Depends where you from, they don’t mess around in the south.
Honestly depends what environment they in but for the most part yea
💯 % Try getting a Ouija board into aWest Indian home
Old school AA parents were strict. Nowadays they let their kids do what they want
Depends on the family, I'm kinda strict with my son and I'm Black American
How old is your son?
He a grown man now mid 20s
Did you still treat him as a kid when he was 19?
No, I treat him as a man and I still correct him if he's out of line
You forced him to go to college or nah?
100
My mother is a bit more progressive than other Haitian women from her generation but it’s generally true.
My extended family though? They act as if I’m 11 and not pushing 30, I keep having to remind them.
I am 44 years old and still terrified of my African mom. 40% respect and 60% afraid to be exact.
I'm half AA/ half Caribbean. I grew up with my AA side and my mom, her siblings and her cousins were the Civil-Rights-era baby-boomer generation that got out of systemic poverty in the South. They were strict with me, my brother and my cousins. Their rationale was "we worked ourselves out of this as things changed so you wouldn't be in it. So don't go back to it. Also, don't ruin our name by doing stupid shit" . The only thing I didn't like about my Caribbean side of the family was the incessant bragging and how contentious it felt. I later discovered in adulthood how some of his relatives weren't too happy that he married a non Caribbean woman from the South.
I find that the issue is most non African American cultures have way more of a collective view of how the family structure works. Kids never grow up and parents control the relationship for many African and Caribbean families.
For my African American friends, the view was you are grown at 18 or earlier. Figure your shit out. Maybe you staying on your mommas couch, but that adult threshold is way earlier and the expectation was you are financially independent and not getting much support in terms of guidance, mentorship, or investment.
An example, I have Nigerian friends that parents bought a house and car for the kids in the college town they lived in. Thought of it as a rental property. Caribbean friends that didn’t move out until 35+ of their parents house. Never paid rent or spent a dime of their earnings.
For most of my African American peers and I, maybe parents helped with undergrad if they could. Definitely we was out the house at 22. No free rent for 15 years. No free house or car.
"Kids never grow up and parents control the relationship for many African and Caribbean families."
As an African, i've never never heard of this one ngl. Are you talking about a specific country rather than Africa/Carribeans?
USA.
I find African Americans are strict, but in a usual parental respect way. It begins/ends with respect.
Immigrant families it’s a co-dependency. It’s more about control. Especially for the girls, but it’s worse of an effect on the men as it makes them lack the type of independence women find alluring.
Thats quite interesting.
Which countries are most of them from/ how many families are you privy to?
Very true
Usually first generation second and third not so much.
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