Is this misogynoir or am I tripping?
For context I’m 33F. I’ve been single for a few years and decided a few months ago to wade into the dating pool starting with the apps- OKCupid and Bumble. Not a great start. I already deleted OKC 3 times. I’m this close to deleting Bumble.
I’m fairly strict with what I’m looking for, chief among them is they have to be childfree like me and looking for a long term relationship. I consider myself a good judge of character and follow my gut whenever something in someone’s profile seems off. So far the only ones swiping for me are single dads or have “want kids” in their bio. I know they don’t really read and swipe at every profile. It sucks to be intentional while others are treating it like a game.
Before anyone asks I’ve been attending more IRL events that I’m invited to by friends. I have some planned next year that I’ll attend with a friend I met online as well. I’m from a conservative country and having kids is something that’s expected of couples so I know it’s going to be a tough call.
I thought I could have better luck with expats but a lot of them a looking for easy hookups, are passport bros and lowkey consider themselves a prize like Mr. hairline over here.
I’m just frustrated and venting. If you have advice for someone who hasn’t dated since the Obama administration, help a girl out.
I doubt black women are checking for him with his messy hairline...
I love this meme so much
Same. It’s just perfect. Watching someone try and fail not to laugh is like one of the top 5 funniest things to witness. 🤣
What hairline. It’s gone lol
He could use some "philipino hair."
I was hoping this was a woman's hairline lmaooo
Yeah this is straight up racist negging.
He’s a ‘stand up comic’.
Why do so many "comics" these days just shit on specifically targeted groups instead of actually telling funny jokes?
Schrödinger’s douchebag. a lot of these “comedians” are just bigots who want the plausible deniability of not being ousted as a one, bc ‘it’s just banter’. their humour consists of intellectually lazy stereotypes or corny one-liners taken straight from the book of cringe, none of them actually have the expertise of being able to create entertainment from observation and be funny bc they’re ignorant
Oh. So he’s ugly AND broke? Pick a struggle
I know he still has a day job if this is what’s funny to him. 😩 I promise I won’t judge you for feeling too broke to date within your race…oop.
Damn gurl
Wait a minute.. he’s supposed to be a comedian??..And he’s making jokes like this??….😒girl just cut your losses & stay off those dating apps. I’ve met 3-4 crappy dudes on those apps in the past & I’ve happier ever since i stopped using them a long time ago. This guy is annoying and not funny. I thought that people were done making race jokes already.
When are they going to learn this never works?
He wanted specific attention, and got it. So, please stop giving them attention. The crazy thing is that I don’t even care what they say, how they act, or what they think. Like they can’t even make me mad—Nov24 did it for me.
You might have better luck meeting people randomly. A lot of people meet through work, either your work or theirs. Godspeed
I agree. I pay people like this no attention at all, the moment you do, you’re giving them exactly what they want. I block and keep it moving.
Nov 24?
I believe November 2024, or Nov ‘24
OHHHHHH 💀 Got it
Gross. Meanwhile his hairline is pushed the fuck back
Maybe he needs to get some scissors and chase down a Filipino* girl
The general state of men is atrocious.
I’m still hopeful to find love, and I want it more than anything, but I refuse to end up in the same marriage most of my friends are in.
Even my friends who are in mostly happy marriages, I look at their spouses and I’m like, “that’s it?”
Sure they make good money and are kind but… that’s it. No romance. No helping around the house. Having to be told over and over again what their needs are… Very little care and affection.
I’m about to get back on the apps after a long, long break and much therapy and I’m not looking forward to it.
Girl same! I can’t even point to 5 folks whose relationship I admire and respect let alone marriages. I got back on the apps briefly this week and after swiping no on 15 people in a row, I closed it.
It’s emotionally exhausting. I know two couples total whose marriages I admire—who have the type of love I want. That keeps me going haha.
He got a lot of gall with that hairline and we’re judging him for not spelling Filipino correctly.
What a wanker.
I’m confused is he asking for himself coz I know a plug. Those apps are yucky now
And the crowd is…weirded out
Was his hair stolen in a past life?
Past? It looks like it’s been stolen NEOW 🤣
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😅Not this AM - fr tho!✅
What an idiot don’t give them the attention they want
Its misogynoir!
What’s is his aim? To make someone laugh so hard they swipe right by mistake or something
Of course it’s misogynoir
wtf
Rich, coming from someone whose hairline starts on his back.
What kind of cray cray statement is this? Anyway, I'm sure ain't nobody checking for quarter baldie.
Yea this why I don’t date white dudes 🤷🏾♀️
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He looks like he needs to in another year or so. Ugh. I'm sick of them.
He could most definitely use some Philippine’s hair, which I’m sure he’ll be considering in the near future. 🙄
I think a lot of women of various *races are more open about extensions, like tape ins and k tips were not made with us in mind. Id swipe left but wouldn't internalize it.
…i KNOW that’s not a white man with a receding hairline. i just know.
He’s not even got a forehead it’s a fivehead
Protip (sort of because people can lie): The only away to filter out the ones who actually put “don’t want kids” on their profiles is to pay for an upgraded subcription otherwise you’re swiping on everyone.
The upgraded versions also allow you to pay for your profile to be boosted so you’re closer to the top of the pile and therefore seen by more…applicable people.
Funny enough I remember OKC or POF had some data about how we (Black women) and Asian men were the least desirable in terms of the dating apps. That threw me and my already poor self esteem at that time. Now I’ve heard more about how the algorithm fucks over Black women hence why paying to get your profile boosted and whatnot is a thing.
Be careful with deleting profiles and making them again. It’s not just about deleting the app. You’re profile is still there if you do that. You have to go in and actually delete the profile first then the app but do that enough times and you’ll get shadow banned. Ask me how I know lol
Aint nobody wearing no Filipino hair...🤔🤨
I’m know that’s not a white man saying this… and with that much forehead? The racist ass audacity.
My daughter’s dad (ex husband) told me that most men don’t get matches so his “strategy” was to swipe “yes” on everyone and once they’ve matched, take a look and read her profile.
When I was dating (on Hinge), I’d write I had a daughter and I quickly realized that men don’t read, so I’d weave it into our first conversation. So many men would be like “Oh you’re a mom! It doesn’t show!” But I literally mentioned it in 3 places.
It’s a tough world out there, girl. Treat it like a job and you’ll find someone.
I found my guy on Hinge. Together for a bit over 2 years, living together for a year. He’s one of the few normal men I went on a date but it was obvious he was a keeper from day one. He has no kids, but he wants one (that was my criteria as well, to have another kid)and we’re working on that right now.
However, be patient: men in the 30+ bracket often have kids and if they don’t, they want them. In all my dating, and GIRL, at my height, I had 5 guys a week taking me on preliminary dates, all of them wanted kids. I was dating primarily black, that’s just my preference.
Good luck and give us a little update. Hugs!
De center men. That's all I got. Good luck!
The audacity to talk about hair with that hairline chile
Look at the forehead on him…
I can tell he’s not attractive enough to act like that just from the top of his head 😭
That is just racism
Look into burning the haystack - dating method
wtf?
brother yes that is misogynoir
If that's his hairline, I think he may actually consider finding a Phillipina himself and see if she'll donate a few strands. Anyway... Apps are for headaches and conversations with AI and men asking how many baby fathers your one daughter has. Get off them or stay for dark humor purposes.
Why he got baby hairs?
Is he mentally ill
Bro can’t even spell Filipina right. Dating apps can be hell. I found my wife on Tinder but this was only when I stopped actively checking and only going on it passively, with zero expectations.
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So basically he likes black women but hates them at the same time