Im coming here to seek advice from other women cuz no one around me really understands. Im a 17 year old girl and I’ve lost 100 pounds quickly. Because huge weight loss is impossible without side effects being young didn’t fully save me. My boobs are saggy and small and deflated and covered in stretch marks, my stomach is also covered in stretch marks with some loose skin, same with my under arms and little on my thighs. Im trying to tone up in the gym but everything feels hopeless. In every media all over the world, being young means being tight and toned and beautiful with a nice body and perky breasts and i just have none of that. I tried to commit suicide in june because of it and after i failed i went through counseling but no one has ever been through my situation. I know that when youre older guys dont care as much, and i know its stupid to care about what they think but I spent so many years being so undesirable only to put myself through hell and be a catfish with clothes on. People always say that “the right person will love you despite your flaws” but id honestly feel so bad that some poor guy has to purposely look past that to love me. What kind of 17 year old girl has an un-youthful body. I just wanna know from other women some advice to get through this or maybe your own experiences. Sorry for rambling.
I’m sorry you’re going through this. It will get easier to accept yourself. Unfortunately, the only way to get rid of loose skin is through surgery. Don’t waste your money on creams and lotions and oils. They do not work. Consider seeing a therapist about this issue. Talking to someone can really help. Wishing you luck!
I'm sorry you're going through this. The pressure on our bodies when we are young is overwhelming and cruel. It is very hard to hear or believe this, I took many many years to get there (if I can say I'm there at all), but your body is beautiful and deserving of love, even if you can't see it. The right people, friends and boyfriends alike, will love you and your body. They will not "look past it", they will love you how you are because you are deserving of love and desire. Being kind with yourself is so important. Your body carries you through this world, it's through it that you sleep, hug, run, eat, feel the world around you, exercise. Its hard to convince yourself sometimes, but your body, just as it is, deserves so much love and care. You are not alone, and you are not stupid to care about thess things. You did not make up these ideas yourself, the world is cruel to young girls, specially with bodies that don't fit their expectations. You are not alone.
I know this might not be what you want or expect to hear, but it's what saved me when I was your age. You are beautiful even if you do not see it yet. Trying to make a conscious effort to recognize yourself as someone beautiful and desirable might sound stupid and futile, but it slowly works. It is hard to unlearn this hate that you have built towards yourself, but it's a worthwhile effort. No one can hate us as much as we hate ourselves at 17, as cruel as it sounds. You are brave and determined, you lost 100 pounds but still your writing sounds sad, like you don't take a moment to celebrate something that was probably a big goal of yours. I went through similar struggles regarding my body when I was your age, and I went through surgery to manage some of it. It was ok. Really what helped was looking at myself in the mirror and being gentle. Seeing other people that looked like me and thinking "yes, she is beautiful". It's an uphill battle, but you are strong and you can do it. I hope things get better. Please know you are worth so much more than what you think of your appearance. You deserve a beautiful bright life on the many many years ahead.
You need a therapist. You obviously have trauma. I’m 45 and lost some weight and then regained more. My boobs are beyond saggy. I know how discouraging it can be, but losing your life over it is not the way. But if you ever have children, it will most likely involve some loose skin and sagging. That’s just life. I know that insurance may pay for skin removal surgery. You might consider that. Otherwise? Love yourself for being strong. Look at what you’ve accomplished. Instead of hating yourself, find some empathy.
Hi, 33F here and I lost about 75 lbs when I was 14-15. I suffered from the same issues - loose skin, saggy boobs, stretch marks etc and I felt just like you did. To be honest weight lifting does help a lot but it will take some time to really show. It gets so much better and I do find myself attractive now but honestly it’s more mental work than physical. Be kind to yourself.
In the short term bio oil and lotion to help tighten your skin. In the long term, therapy to finally know you and others can/will love you no matter how you look. I’m proud of you, and hope you have others to show you that you were always beautiful.