Hi!

Just thought id get others opinions/similar experiences for anyone who's been intimate with another Trans person and has felt confused/stuck dissociating or overthinking during sex?

I'm in my younger 20s and ftm. I have this friend (also trans ftm) that I've been sexually intimate with a couple times.

But everytime I've been intimate with him I get stuck thinking A LOT and trying to FIGURE something out. Like why the sex doesn't feel "right", or If I'm having sex "properly"? I have gotten feelings of bottom dysphoria before, So not sure if it could also be dysphoria in general??

Personally I don't like people touching me sexually since I just don't feel comfortable with anything going near my privates unless I'm the one topping. My friend is completely fine with this and respects me and let me have fun during the act. But I often find myself with this sense of BIG BIG CONFUSION... like overthinking about nothing? Its bren noticeable to various points where he's asked me before if I'm okay and that I should try to stop overthinking.

But I also feel dissociated(?) or as if I can't feel everything to the full 100% he's feeling everything. I've heard of the term stone top before? Idk if that's just me and that's "normal"? Idk I'd just like to get other Trans people's thoughts abt this, thank you!

Also apologies this is my first time posting n its late at night n im just stuck thinking...n my next therapy appointment isnt till another while so 🥲💔

TLDR; I, a transguy feel confused while having sex due to something not feeling "right" or "normal".