For me(ftm) it depends, I have had dream where I have had male genetalia but I have also dreamed where I have the body I have now (I am pre everything medical). I'm curius what its like for others!
My dreams are usually in first person and I don't remember what I look like in them. However, from what I can remember and what I'd assume, any depictions of myself is what I currently look like
i usually just see myself as how i look now which is just socially transitioned. i have had a few dreams of being back in school and in those dreams i looked how i did then
one of the weirdest dreams ever was of me committing public indecency but the euphoria of having the body i want greatly outweighed the fact that my actions in that dream would have made me a sex offender. double weird cause i'm asexual, so what the hell was that dream xD
I have a dream i was giving birth in a delivery room and it felt so real. I was so happy untill i woke up and reality kick in. I was thinking if only. In the actual dream i could feel the pain and the emation of giving birth and the joy of having my own baby.
Even after my hysterectomy I have a decent amount of dreams where I become pregnant, but as my current self. They're always bittersweet because there's a reason I had it removed in the first place, but I always get to a point of acceptance riiight before I wake up or logic myself out of the dream by remembering it's physically impossible.
Depends what I'm dreaming about, if it's based on my everyday life, I tend to buy my assigned gender, probably cos I haven't publicly transitioned yet, but in most other dreams I'm my real gender.
I either don't dream or I dream in first person never see myself actually, only once I actually was speaking with feminine pronouns while talking in the dream (gendered words here)
THis is 100% going to depend on how long you have socially transitioned.
I transitioned over two and a half decades ago, I never dream of myself as AGAB, and haven't in 20+ years. Most people in this situation will usually be similar, never or almost never dreaming of themselves as their AGAB.
Someone who transitioned a couple years ago, or hasn't even transitioned yet will be unlikely to dream of themselves as their gender.
It's a lot like getting rid of the association with your deadname.
If someone on the street yelled your deadname, would you react naturally to see if they are calling out to you?
Me, I would not, no one has called me that name in decades so I don't associate it with myself anymore.
People who regularly get called their deadname, or haven't had the time apart from it, would be likely to turn and look.
The first few months on hrt I dreamt I was what I was transitioning to, female, no at best I dream I’m a guy with breasts. Perhaps cus that’s how i feel at some level sadly.
Before coming out and everything I would have occasional dreams where I was a girl. (Im MTF) Then after coming out the switch started to change. I don't dream very often because I only have nightmares If I sleep more than 6 hours? So usually try to only sleep for 4 to 5 hours to avoid nightmares. But anyways even in those nightmares that I have I'm usually a girl. Or there's so much going on I don't really notice the gender that I am it's more about the nightmare that I'm having then my gender
Not really dream dream but when I daydream, It used to be as some kind of girl who sort of look like me but not me, basically me if I was born differently.
I sadly never can remember my dreams. I can maybe once every few years and then it's unspecific weird things. However, according to my partner I'm a girl in their dream which feels pretty good.
I usually dream myself as a man, but in dreams, I'm not always me, y'know? Sometimes I dream up different characters and just follow the "main leads" pov. I've only ever dreamed up a girl lead in one, but the others are mostly men or nonbinary.
It depends. My dream bodies are far too inconsistent to say any one answer - sometimes my body is as it is right now (so decently far into transition), sometimes I'm back to being a kid, sometimes I'm in my pre-transition body, sometimes my body is randomly different in some way (e.g. flat chest but everything else is the same), sometimes I'm not even me but someone else entirely.
I have been on HRT for three years and most of the time I am a woman in my dreams. Occasionally I am cis but most of the time I am just me. The only times I show up as male in my dreams is if I am having a dream about my pretransition time and even then I am usually still a woman or a girl and sometimes even cis.
I think it took about 6 months of actively being on HRT for my dreams to always be the woman version of me
I've been transitioning for about a year. My dreams are a mix of being my AGAB and the one I'm transitioning to. Although the latter is becoming more common in dreams.
My dreams are usually nightmares of being brutally attacked and raped. Gender not really relevant. Sorry, this comment is probably unhelpful. I'm afab and have to deal with women's issues. I have a dream catcher to try to stop my nightmares though.
It's very rare that I'm conscious of my gender or body in dreams at all. I've had a few dreams where I was pregnant, and one dream where I had testicles, and they were equally weird with some body horror going on. But that's really rare and I've never been able to relate to what people mean when they talk about being a particular gender in their dreams.
I often dream of myself as further along in my transition than I actually am, but I'm not sure if I've ever actually dreamed that I was cis. I would say I normally just dream that I have my current body.
Both, but I more often see myself as the gender I am transitioning to. I have recurring dreams of looking at myself in a mirror and seeing a woman looking back at me, not some long-haired guy. I cling to the feeling those dreams evoke, I want to be the person I see in the mirror.
It varies, but the further I get into transitioning (trans femme), the more I'm feminine in my dreams. Not every dream, not every night, but more and more that happens.
I dreamed of myself as my chose. Gender or somehow becoming my chosen gender all the time before transitioning. I can’t recall being a dude since I started HRT in my dreams
I have this recurring dream where I'm trapped somewhere, I know how to get out but the environment stops me. It's been a rural village, a building site, an elevator, a riverside apartment block... The common theme is that I get stopped from getting to my destination by the things around me.
I started writing them down a while back and that's when I realized I was my current gender.
Before coming out to myself as trans; my dreams would typically be either "shot" like movies (where I'd view myself and others as a spectator), or I'd be genderless, or a woman.
Now that I'm out to myself and others, I'm just a woman in my dreams.
I had a dream a few months ago of waking up from bottom surgery, which is the first time I'd dreamt about not having a penis. Now every one of my dreams occurs after I've had bottom surgery. Dream me has done much better so far with her transition than irl me.
I'm exactly as I am irl but everybody deadnames me even if the same people don't irl, and I know while I'm dreaming that they're using the wrong name. Sometimes I forget it was a dream and get annoyed at them thinking they actually did it
It took me two years to finally consistently dream of myself as a woman, and it felt so good since I was getting distressed by my dreams as my assigned gender at birth.
I'm nonbinary, and I've never thought about this before but I'm pretty sure I never had boobs in my dreams. I've had a few dreams where I was pregnant, and one very memorable one where I had a dick, so I guess the norm is original plumbing with flat chest. Which is my current state & one I'm very comfortable in 🤷
Before my egg ever cracked, in about 70% of my dreams where I was in them, I was a cis woman. Two years into my transition and in my dreams I'm a trans woman almost all the time.
This is very interesting, i see myself as genderless besides the odd dream of having a dick (FTM). Dreams in first person i don’t see or notice my tits and third person I’m kinda just a blur but i know it’s me!
Idk, vague entity? I don't really remember seeing myself in a super... cohesive body in a dream. Most of its been like those first-person games where you don't see the player character's limbs when you look down
When I dream, it's basically just real life. Meaning I'm a trans guy with the biology I currently have. Whether or not that identity is respected depends on the dream
When I have dreams, I am the same as I am in real life with a few differences. I don’t have small nuts(neutered), I have bigger boobs and my voice sounds a bit different, but that’s really about it. It kind of bothers me when I wake up and then I realize I don’t have balloon tits. Dreams are dreams and they make zero sense. Sometimes I also have dreams that I start growing beard hair, and people start laughing and making fun of me calling me a freakoid , and I have burn my face with sulphuric acid to get rid of the hair follicles 😆
The first few months I had dreams where I was my assigned gender , but not for like five years , except for a forced detransition nightmare I had recently that doesn't really count.
I am rarely aware of my body or clothes or gender in my dreams, which are in first-person perspective. Occasionally I do see my reflection in a mirror or something like that in a dream, and in those cases I am now female.
I’m Non Gender Binary so I’ll use this example. Max Payne 2. Sometimes I have dreams where I’m Max. Sometimes, I have dreams where I’m Mona. I had a dream of my Ex Girlfriend. She was dead. But it was all right.
(I’m kidding, I know that is the norm but I tend to be a fictional character I like at the time in my dreams, they tend to be the same gender I am going to transition to, even before I knew I was trans)
Throughout the 26 before I cracked, I had a total of 3 dreams where I was my target gender. I was disappointed when I woke up, every single time.
Nowadays, it's a mixture of everything. Sometimes, I'm male. Sometimes, I'm female. Sometimes, I'm my AGAB but with my current hairlength. One time, I was my current gender but I still got misgendered in the dream, even though I knew I pass perfectly now.
It’s been less than a year since I transitioned (mtf). I don’t have a heavy gender slant to my dreams, but yeah any gender feelings are definitely as a woman.
For me, it varies. Sometimes I’m my assigned gender at birth, especially if the dream is more chaotic. Other times, I see myself as I am now, reflecting my journey and comfort in my identity.
I have had something funny happen. I cut my hair when i was 17 and never looked back. Before starting T, an for the first couple of months, ig, i had the occasional dream where everything was normal, except i had long hair again, and i Knew something was wrong, and my hair shouldn't be that way, so id end up being lowkey dysphoric the entire dream.
Recently though, I had a dream where i had a Full Beard >:)
I was very sad when i woke up to my 3 chin hairs :/
Depends on if it's a nightmare or a good dream...
My dreams are usually in first person and I don't remember what I look like in them. However, from what I can remember and what I'd assume, any depictions of myself is what I currently look like
Mostly birth assigned gender :(
Me too, but it is nice waking up, doing a boob check, and remembering that I really do have a woman's body now.
i usually just see myself as how i look now which is just socially transitioned. i have had a few dreams of being back in school and in those dreams i looked how i did then
Same, and my first thought in those school dreams is always “ugh it’s going to take so long to grow my hair out again”
It took maybe a year and a half but I’m almost always a woman in my dreams now. It just happened as I got more comfortable with myself.
mostly no specific body, but i occasionally experience both bodies in dreams
This is basically the same for me
one of the weirdest dreams ever was of me committing public indecency but the euphoria of having the body i want greatly outweighed the fact that my actions in that dream would have made me a sex offender. double weird cause i'm asexual, so what the hell was that dream xD
I have a dream i was giving birth in a delivery room and it felt so real. I was so happy untill i woke up and reality kick in. I was thinking if only. In the actual dream i could feel the pain and the emation of giving birth and the joy of having my own baby.
Even after my hysterectomy I have a decent amount of dreams where I become pregnant, but as my current self. They're always bittersweet because there's a reason I had it removed in the first place, but I always get to a point of acceptance riiight before I wake up or logic myself out of the dream by remembering it's physically impossible.
I have so much dysphoria about not being able to give birth as well.
🫂 it broke my heart to just read it
After 2 decades past transition, almost always as myself. It's jarring when I'm back to my AGAB.
It varies depending on how much I have been expressing my gender during the day versus not bothering. Mostly my birth gender.
Depends what I'm dreaming about, if it's based on my everyday life, I tend to buy my assigned gender, probably cos I haven't publicly transitioned yet, but in most other dreams I'm my real gender.
I either don't dream or I dream in first person never see myself actually, only once I actually was speaking with feminine pronouns while talking in the dream (gendered words here)
My body while dreaming is typically whatever it looks like currently. As my body changes in real life it changes in my dreams as well.
THis is 100% going to depend on how long you have socially transitioned.
I transitioned over two and a half decades ago, I never dream of myself as AGAB, and haven't in 20+ years. Most people in this situation will usually be similar, never or almost never dreaming of themselves as their AGAB.
Someone who transitioned a couple years ago, or hasn't even transitioned yet will be unlikely to dream of themselves as their gender.
It's a lot like getting rid of the association with your deadname.
If someone on the street yelled your deadname, would you react naturally to see if they are calling out to you?
Me, I would not, no one has called me that name in decades so I don't associate it with myself anymore. People who regularly get called their deadname, or haven't had the time apart from it, would be likely to turn and look.
The first few months on hrt I dreamt I was what I was transitioning to, female, no at best I dream I’m a guy with breasts. Perhaps cus that’s how i feel at some level sadly.
I don’t have a body, it’s a pov perspective
Before coming out and everything I would have occasional dreams where I was a girl. (Im MTF) Then after coming out the switch started to change. I don't dream very often because I only have nightmares If I sleep more than 6 hours? So usually try to only sleep for 4 to 5 hours to avoid nightmares. But anyways even in those nightmares that I have I'm usually a girl. Or there's so much going on I don't really notice the gender that I am it's more about the nightmare that I'm having then my gender
Mostly some kind of watcher without defined gender - just me. Mostly when there's gender, new-me. Nightmares? old-me.
Not really dream dream but when I daydream, It used to be as some kind of girl who sort of look like me but not me, basically me if I was born differently.
Now I do it as myself
I usually see myself as a girl thankfully 😅
I sadly never can remember my dreams. I can maybe once every few years and then it's unspecific weird things. However, according to my partner I'm a girl in their dream which feels pretty good.
For me, it used to be my agab with very rare dreams of being a woman. Nowadays, I am almost exclusively just my trans woman self in my dreams.
I usually dream myself as a man, but in dreams, I'm not always me, y'know? Sometimes I dream up different characters and just follow the "main leads" pov. I've only ever dreamed up a girl lead in one, but the others are mostly men or nonbinary.
It depends. My dream bodies are far too inconsistent to say any one answer - sometimes my body is as it is right now (so decently far into transition), sometimes I'm back to being a kid, sometimes I'm in my pre-transition body, sometimes my body is randomly different in some way (e.g. flat chest but everything else is the same), sometimes I'm not even me but someone else entirely.
The sex I have transitioned to
I’m genderfluid, so it depends on the story of the dream what gender or character I’m assigned.
I dream kinda like a stage play, no agency, just lines and acts.
Depends. Sometimes I’m pre transition, sometimes I reflect my current state, sometimes I’m a cis girl.
Dreams are wonderful, but they don’t always reflect lived reality
A bit of both, but I also hardly dream. But like some have stated, me in my current state. I’m a bit of a brick.
I have been on HRT for three years and most of the time I am a woman in my dreams. Occasionally I am cis but most of the time I am just me. The only times I show up as male in my dreams is if I am having a dream about my pretransition time and even then I am usually still a woman or a girl and sometimes even cis.
I think it took about 6 months of actively being on HRT for my dreams to always be the woman version of me
I've been transitioning for about a year. My dreams are a mix of being my AGAB and the one I'm transitioning to. Although the latter is becoming more common in dreams.
My dreams are usually nightmares of being brutally attacked and raped. Gender not really relevant. Sorry, this comment is probably unhelpful. I'm afab and have to deal with women's issues. I have a dream catcher to try to stop my nightmares though.
It's very rare that I'm conscious of my gender or body in dreams at all. I've had a few dreams where I was pregnant, and one dream where I had testicles, and they were equally weird with some body horror going on. But that's really rare and I've never been able to relate to what people mean when they talk about being a particular gender in their dreams.
I often dream of myself as further along in my transition than I actually am, but I'm not sure if I've ever actually dreamed that I was cis. I would say I normally just dream that I have my current body.
Strange... I don't ever think I've seen myself in a dream.
I’ve never seen myself in a dream, my dreams are first person tho. In my dreams I don’t think gender has ever come up
Both, but I more often see myself as the gender I am transitioning to. I have recurring dreams of looking at myself in a mirror and seeing a woman looking back at me, not some long-haired guy. I cling to the feeling those dreams evoke, I want to be the person I see in the mirror.
It varies, but the further I get into transitioning (trans femme), the more I'm feminine in my dreams. Not every dream, not every night, but more and more that happens.
Usually I'm just sort of a formless entity
I've always been a girl in my dreams for as long as I can remember.
It’s always how I (ftm) currently present myself. I’m 4 years on T, and never started female puberty.
I dreamed of myself as my chose. Gender or somehow becoming my chosen gender all the time before transitioning. I can’t recall being a dude since I started HRT in my dreams
The shift came about 18 months ago
I have this recurring dream where I'm trapped somewhere, I know how to get out but the environment stops me. It's been a rural village, a building site, an elevator, a riverside apartment block... The common theme is that I get stopped from getting to my destination by the things around me.
I started writing them down a while back and that's when I realized I was my current gender.
I'm not really any gender/gender in my dreams never plays a role that I can remember.
Last night I was the way I am, the night before I was a girl
I'm a trans woman.
Before coming out to myself as trans; my dreams would typically be either "shot" like movies (where I'd view myself and others as a spectator), or I'd be genderless, or a woman.
Now that I'm out to myself and others, I'm just a woman in my dreams.
Recently IDed I am trans and pre-everything, AGAB :/
I had a dream a few months ago of waking up from bottom surgery, which is the first time I'd dreamt about not having a penis. Now every one of my dreams occurs after I've had bottom surgery. Dream me has done much better so far with her transition than irl me.
So the one that I am now, not agab.
I have had a couple trans-specific dreams. But most of the time I’m pretty much genderless. Sometimes I’m other people entirely
I don’t really take note of my body when I’m in a dream. I just exist.
Idk if im actully trans just to start off. But me male, I have had dreams where I were a girl.
Mostly when I can remember then they are just my normal self 98% of the time.
I dream that im a girl about once a month maybe twice.
I'm exactly as I am irl but everybody deadnames me even if the same people don't irl, and I know while I'm dreaming that they're using the wrong name. Sometimes I forget it was a dream and get annoyed at them thinking they actually did it
It took me two years to finally consistently dream of myself as a woman, and it felt so good since I was getting distressed by my dreams as my assigned gender at birth.
I think I dream in first person? I don't think I have a gender or appearance in my dreams
I'm nonbinary, and I've never thought about this before but I'm pretty sure I never had boobs in my dreams. I've had a few dreams where I was pregnant, and one very memorable one where I had a dick, so I guess the norm is original plumbing with flat chest. Which is my current state & one I'm very comfortable in 🤷
Before my egg ever cracked, in about 70% of my dreams where I was in them, I was a cis woman. Two years into my transition and in my dreams I'm a trans woman almost all the time.
I dream in such a way that I don’t see my body (kinda like in a first person video game) so I’m not really sure, just a formless entity I guess.
This is very interesting, i see myself as genderless besides the odd dream of having a dick (FTM). Dreams in first person i don’t see or notice my tits and third person I’m kinda just a blur but i know it’s me!
Idk, vague entity? I don't really remember seeing myself in a super... cohesive body in a dream. Most of its been like those first-person games where you don't see the player character's limbs when you look down
When I dream, it's basically just real life. Meaning I'm a trans guy with the biology I currently have. Whether or not that identity is respected depends on the dream
When I have dreams, I am the same as I am in real life with a few differences. I don’t have small nuts(neutered), I have bigger boobs and my voice sounds a bit different, but that’s really about it. It kind of bothers me when I wake up and then I realize I don’t have balloon tits. Dreams are dreams and they make zero sense. Sometimes I also have dreams that I start growing beard hair, and people start laughing and making fun of me calling me a freakoid , and I have burn my face with sulphuric acid to get rid of the hair follicles 😆
That's cute
The first few months I had dreams where I was my assigned gender , but not for like five years , except for a forced detransition nightmare I had recently that doesn't really count.
I am rarely aware of my body or clothes or gender in my dreams, which are in first-person perspective. Occasionally I do see my reflection in a mirror or something like that in a dream, and in those cases I am now female.
I’m Non Gender Binary so I’ll use this example. Max Payne 2. Sometimes I have dreams where I’m Max. Sometimes, I have dreams where I’m Mona. I had a dream of my Ex Girlfriend. She was dead. But it was all right.
Yall are actually you in your dreams?
(I’m kidding, I know that is the norm but I tend to be a fictional character I like at the time in my dreams, they tend to be the same gender I am going to transition to, even before I knew I was trans)
Throughout the 26 before I cracked, I had a total of 3 dreams where I was my target gender. I was disappointed when I woke up, every single time.
Nowadays, it's a mixture of everything. Sometimes, I'm male. Sometimes, I'm female. Sometimes, I'm my AGAB but with my current hairlength. One time, I was my current gender but I still got misgendered in the dream, even though I knew I pass perfectly now.
Transitioned but used to be in detective dreams but now they like Lupin the Third meet the Avengers
It’s been less than a year since I transitioned (mtf). I don’t have a heavy gender slant to my dreams, but yeah any gender feelings are definitely as a woman.
It really depends, I dream of being a lot of things
Always female. This body may be considered male like, but my brain has always female. I am woman always.
usually i am at the same way as real life (3 years transitioning into a woman) but sometimes i imagine myself looking better
For me, it varies. Sometimes I’m my assigned gender at birth, especially if the dream is more chaotic. Other times, I see myself as I am now, reflecting my journey and comfort in my identity.
Im usually just me, idk
I have had something funny happen. I cut my hair when i was 17 and never looked back. Before starting T, an for the first couple of months, ig, i had the occasional dream where everything was normal, except i had long hair again, and i Knew something was wrong, and my hair shouldn't be that way, so id end up being lowkey dysphoric the entire dream.
Recently though, I had a dream where i had a Full Beard >:)
I was very sad when i woke up to my 3 chin hairs :/