im gonna type my full story out here.
it was april 2025, I had started an extra class for math and sciences. every monday I’d have chemistry. I was in batch 2. sometimes batch 1 would study chemistry with us. saw him first there. let’s name him J. I thought J was pretty cute. I found his instagram and sent him a request. got a follow back. then there was nothing up until july. in july I put some note on instagram and he responded. we slowly became friends. maybe even best friends. I fell so hard for him. he made me feel like a human. we would text almost everyday. but we never talked in person because at this point we didn’t study any subjects together. I would pass by him tho. glance a little. wave maybe. sometimes a high five. or three or four words exchanged. never a conversation tho. once I even crocheted him a keychain for his bday but I gave it to him in a hurry because I was late for class, so once again hardly talking. we would call a lot tho. well we planned to hang out last sunday after a test in my tuition. you know just roam around outside class for like half an hour. he texted me he was gonna be late so I thought it’s fine maybe some other day. well it was 11:30am. my test ended. I saw him and his test also ended. I just said like a few words and he responded that his test ended quickly. so weren’t we supposed to hang out a little? our tests ended and our rides would take a while to get there to pick us up. i was just asking him about the test, when there was a girl from his batch near us and he included her on the convo. I just stepped aside because i didn’t know what else to do. waited in silence for my sister to pick me up, while eavesdropping on what they were talking about. nothing in particular just small talk. but he didn’t even approach to me considering how he would say things like “you’re the best person I met in 2025” “you’re one of my only two real friends”. and I know he didn’t really do anything wrong. nothing evil or mean. but it hurt. I had tears in my eyes while they were just standing 7 feet away from me chatting. I know it’s wrong if I block him randomly. but I don’t think I can move on unless I do. I don’t think confrontation is a good idea.
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Yeah I don’t recommend blocking him out of nowhere. That kind of thing can make people overthink their own actions, and it could end up bothering him for a while. You should probably explain the situation before you block the guy. You can give him some time to explain his actions if you want, you can jut block him immediately, that’s up to you.
You know I NEVER EVER read the TLDR but this time I thought I might an THERE IS NO FUCKING TLDR
I usually always read the TLDR first and then the full post but of course the OP is too fucking lazy to write one and calls US lazy for not reading the full post
It's immature and wrong to block someone for no reason, especially because it doesn't actually seem like there's much going on except distance.
Before you block him, don't be confrontational, just talk to him about it. "I just feel like you've been distant and don't wanna talk to me anymore, or you're not as interested", etc. And ultimately, you don't even have to talk it out, tell him WHY you're doing it and then block him. Don't be a child. It's unfair to just ghost someone or cut them off with no explanation, it shows your lack of communication skills and your lack of care for them. If you cared about that person, you wouldn't put them in a position where they'd overthink or blame themselves for something they weren't even aware of.
(before you take this advice just know i've never been in this situation)
i don't know if blocking right away is the right thing to do. it could be that your friendship wasn't as deep as it was for you, or this other girl was also his friend and he wanted to talk to her, or smth else.
did you ever consider your relationship bf and gf? he might not have felt like that and to him you were just friends. again, there's no way for sure to know unless you ask him, but idk if blocking ootb is right.
Sounds like a “2s company, 3s a crowd” sort of thing. Sometimes people don’t see how important their presence is to someone else. It’s really easy to include another person in something and then forget the person that it all was really meant for.
Try to give him another chance. I bet he just made this mistake on accident. Maybe try to find him and talk to him more if you can and that will probably help. I’ve had friends that are girls and he is probably just somehow acquainted with this girl in some platonic way.
Dont block him. Even though he prolly only sees u as a friend, it really hurts to get cut off with no explanation
Yes it is. You might wanna fix your relationship with him. He didn't commit any crimes. He did miss a hangout you were supposed to have, which isn't a nice thing to do, but otherwise he just talked to another person. Talk to him, figure it out. Admit your feelings while you're at it. It's hard to move on knowing you did a bad thing to someone, so instead of pushing him away because you like him, maybe you should talk about it and let it all off your chest.
Its a would be a dick move to block him out if nowhere. The blocking itself completely valid, but at least tell him why
Yeah blocking someone out of nowhere is a dick move. They're gonna think "what did I do to upset them" and it'll likely bother them for days. Give them an explanation
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Your call . You don't have to confront him but if he apologises you change your mind then it would look kinda rude that you blocked him but you do you.