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This works until someone is unhappy and then you have to act like a partnership to support eachother. If my partner isn't happy because of something I'm doing, I would consider what I can do to change that. Sometimes, it's spending more time together. Sometimes it's that I'm dragging him out to too many parties and signing him up for things when he's feeling burned out so I need to cool my jets. If he's unhappy because of something external, I'll help him through it.
We've been through bereavement, illness, cancer, job loss, depression, family emergencies enough times to know happiness isn't guaranteed and sometimes you need support.
Seeing making your partner happy as a 'responsibility' is weird. I like seeing a smile on my partner's face. If she's a bit down, or stressed out, I'll try and cheer her up or help out in some way. It's not about my 'responsibility' it's about showing my partner that I love her.
This is treating a relationship more like a job role and just reads like a Linkedin post. Feels like Smith rationalising why Jada is so cold with him tbh.
He is close to a good revelation but still missed. A key factor to a healthy relationship is that you cannot be the only thing in your partner's life that makes them happy. They have to be able to be happy on their own and you have to be able to be happy on your own. You can be one of the reasons but if you are the only reason in their life then there is a massive power imbalance in the relationship
Absolutely agree there. Part of a healthy relationship is individual independence, where partners can spend time with their respective friend groups unhindered by their partner.
It's kind of vital in a relationship tbh, or else you'll drive each other nuts lol
It feels like Smith is saying here more 'I'm miserable, but it's not Jada's responsibility to cheer me up." which is just kinda sad.
Not just friends, but hobbies and just being alone with yourself. The latter being very important.
And if that is what Will Smith meant that is very sad because a partnership always try to cheer up their partner. It's not dependency if you have a bad day or having a bad length of time and need your loved one to be there for you because even the most independent person should be able to rely on their partner
Of course people want to make their partners happy. But how do you do that when the person doesn't know the answer to that themselves?
I have been in these relationships where the whims of your partner are an impossible moving target. Partners where you give them everything they ask for but still aren't satisfied. Worse is that they start to blame their inherit unhappiness on you.
If someone doesn't know what makes them happy before a relationship, they project it onto their partners.
Where's he wrong though? If you can make someone happier — great. But keeping them happy constantly? Thank you, no. I can't keep myself happy all the time, let alone another person
That sounds like co dependency. Healthy relationships involve people who take responsibility for their own happiness and choose to share their lives together, while supporting each other’s well being.
It’s possible to be in charge of your own happiness while looking out for your partners happiness as well. That’s not co dependency, that’s consideration. I don’t think Will should be giving relationship advice.
I didn't read what they said as "if I'm not taking responsibility to make my wife happy then it means she's miserable". I read it as more as it's not just one source of happiness which a lot of these comments seem to think. Like if she's happy and he does something to make her happier that's good. And same if she's unhappy and he does something.
Exactly what you described is how I interpreted their message. I didn't assume it to be them hanging off the wife asking "what's wrong? What's wrong? How can I help?"
I have told my wife many times that my job is to make her laugh and smile everyday. And I make sure that I make her laugh and smile at least once a day..
It is true that your happiness is your own responsibility. Don’t rely on others to make you happy.
That said, there are those who seem to have an absolute knack for upsetting you, making you mad, and bringing out the worst in you. I don’t mean those who tell you things you need to know but don’t want to hear. I mean those who are just destructive. AVOID THOSE PEOPLE.
Genuine question; but didn’t Will Smith humiliate himself?
I mean; Chris Rock made a bald joke toward Jada, Will Smith at first laughs then sees Jada isn’t, gets mad, walks on stage and assaults Chris Rock, then sits back down and yells at him.
Whole thing made Smith look weak and completely went against the image Smith tries to portray.
Especially since she basically constantly says in public that they are basically not together and she doesnt even like him anymore. And constantly cheats on him.
You know how pretty much all black folks knew Cosby was a creepy rapist weirdo, but he was beloved by Hollywood and pop culture? Will Smith isn't a demon like that, but he's been well known to be super weird and anti-black behind closed doors. Combine that with a racist wife and voila (she can be racist towards white culture, it exists).
(I didn’t expect to be debating an event from a rewards show 3 years ago but what the hell.) Frankly, no. From what I saw, Smith saw his wife was humiliated, (as previously mentioned on live tv), and he stood up for her. I sincerely believe his act of battery was justified. As to his public image it made him look better in my eyes, obviously. In regards to the rest of his relationship with his family, I don’t know, and don’t particularly care.
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This works until someone is unhappy and then you have to act like a partnership to support eachother. If my partner isn't happy because of something I'm doing, I would consider what I can do to change that. Sometimes, it's spending more time together. Sometimes it's that I'm dragging him out to too many parties and signing him up for things when he's feeling burned out so I need to cool my jets. If he's unhappy because of something external, I'll help him through it.
We've been through bereavement, illness, cancer, job loss, depression, family emergencies enough times to know happiness isn't guaranteed and sometimes you need support.
No no no that's codependency /s
Keep my mf happiness out your mf mouth!
How did this age like milk? Is it related to his wife, Jada Pinkett Smith, and his slapping of Chris Rock?
She was getting her happiness for sure
You mean slapiness
I think everyone in this comments section missed the part of the story where Jada was fucking her son’s friends. That’s the agedlikemilk part
It'd be great if OP replied to the automod with that context so we didn't have to wonder.
What's funny is that he was there to get an award.
He did WHAT???????
How long was your coma?
How can he slap?!
Was wondering the same. Doesn't quite seem to fit. The advice still holds but I suppose their relationship seemed to not.
Seeing making your partner happy as a 'responsibility' is weird. I like seeing a smile on my partner's face. If she's a bit down, or stressed out, I'll try and cheer her up or help out in some way. It's not about my 'responsibility' it's about showing my partner that I love her.
This is treating a relationship more like a job role and just reads like a Linkedin post. Feels like Smith rationalising why Jada is so cold with him tbh.
He is close to a good revelation but still missed. A key factor to a healthy relationship is that you cannot be the only thing in your partner's life that makes them happy. They have to be able to be happy on their own and you have to be able to be happy on your own. You can be one of the reasons but if you are the only reason in their life then there is a massive power imbalance in the relationship
Absolutely agree there. Part of a healthy relationship is individual independence, where partners can spend time with their respective friend groups unhindered by their partner.
It's kind of vital in a relationship tbh, or else you'll drive each other nuts lol
It feels like Smith is saying here more 'I'm miserable, but it's not Jada's responsibility to cheer me up." which is just kinda sad.
Not just friends, but hobbies and just being alone with yourself. The latter being very important.
And if that is what Will Smith meant that is very sad because a partnership always try to cheer up their partner. It's not dependency if you have a bad day or having a bad length of time and need your loved one to be there for you because even the most independent person should be able to rely on their partner
I understand where he is coming from.
Of course people want to make their partners happy. But how do you do that when the person doesn't know the answer to that themselves?
I have been in these relationships where the whims of your partner are an impossible moving target. Partners where you give them everything they ask for but still aren't satisfied. Worse is that they start to blame their inherit unhappiness on you.
If someone doesn't know what makes them happy before a relationship, they project it onto their partners.
Where's he wrong though? If you can make someone happier — great. But keeping them happy constantly? Thank you, no. I can't keep myself happy all the time, let alone another person
I love my wife dearly. Her happiness is my responsibility every single day. How’s Will’s marriage working out?
“Her happiness is my responsibility every day”
That sounds like co dependency. Healthy relationships involve people who take responsibility for their own happiness and choose to share their lives together, while supporting each other’s well being.
It’s possible to be in charge of your own happiness while looking out for your partners happiness as well. That’s not co dependency, that’s consideration. I don’t think Will should be giving relationship advice.
Sure, I agree. Looking out and being responsible for their happiness every day are two separate things
Yeah there's far too much nuance and variation for a generic Reddit comment here.
I didn't read what they said as "if I'm not taking responsibility to make my wife happy then it means she's miserable". I read it as more as it's not just one source of happiness which a lot of these comments seem to think. Like if she's happy and he does something to make her happier that's good. And same if she's unhappy and he does something.
Exactly what you described is how I interpreted their message. I didn't assume it to be them hanging off the wife asking "what's wrong? What's wrong? How can I help?"
Interdependence is not codependence.
Who told you this?
Life experience. Co dependency leads to toxic and abusive relationships.
I have told my wife many times that my job is to make her laugh and smile everyday. And I make sure that I make her laugh and smile at least once a day..
Read between the lines, they are both gay. That’s what he’s trying to say.
But they don’t come together though.
. “She…
Not sure it aged like milk, but is is certainly a self-serving statement filled with insecurity.
I guess her happiness was cucking him with their sons friend.
She kept herself happy alright.
lots of women have not learned this
That’s one way of admitting that you can’t find the G spot
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It is true that your happiness is your own responsibility. Don’t rely on others to make you happy.
That said, there are those who seem to have an absolute knack for upsetting you, making you mad, and bringing out the worst in you. I don’t mean those who tell you things you need to know but don’t want to hear. I mean those who are just destructive. AVOID THOSE PEOPLE.
Is this because Smith slapped Chris Rock when the guy humiliated his wife in front of millions?
Genuine question; but didn’t Will Smith humiliate himself?
I mean; Chris Rock made a bald joke toward Jada, Will Smith at first laughs then sees Jada isn’t, gets mad, walks on stage and assaults Chris Rock, then sits back down and yells at him.
Whole thing made Smith look weak and completely went against the image Smith tries to portray.
Especially since she basically constantly says in public that they are basically not together and she doesnt even like him anymore. And constantly cheats on him.
She's not cheating. They have an open relationship and you guys are fooling yourself if you think Will isn't fucking people on the side as well.
He did humiliate himself.
You know how pretty much all black folks knew Cosby was a creepy rapist weirdo, but he was beloved by Hollywood and pop culture? Will Smith isn't a demon like that, but he's been well known to be super weird and anti-black behind closed doors. Combine that with a racist wife and voila (she can be racist towards white culture, it exists).
Out of curiosity, how has Will smith been "anti black" behind closed doors?
All this for a woman who cheated on him and gleefully brags about it
(I didn’t expect to be debating an event from a rewards show 3 years ago but what the hell.) Frankly, no. From what I saw, Smith saw his wife was humiliated, (as previously mentioned on live tv), and he stood up for her. I sincerely believe his act of battery was justified. As to his public image it made him look better in my eyes, obviously. In regards to the rest of his relationship with his family, I don’t know, and don’t particularly care.
Will? Is that you?
Uh, no, assault isn’t justified because a comedian made a bad joke.
So if I think someone humiliates my wife, I'm allowed to slap anyone? That seems like a good solution for society to you?
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If Chris Rock was a woman would you still believe that this violence was justified?
Everyone point and laugh at the only mfer on Earth still defending Will Smith.
It’s okay. I’m at peace with this.
Simple minds can only understand physical violence. Keep broadcasting this so people know.
You're not alone, if it helps, but ours is indeed an unpopular opinion.
Oh please he made a few jokes
But AIDS very much is
I would slap that award in his face