First, I want to extend my gratitude to all the people who have reached out from across the country and around the world to support our family.
This kindness of strangers is the most fitting tribute because if you ever encountered my wife, Renee Nicole Macklin Good, you know that above all else, she was kind. In fact, kindness radiated out of her.
Renee sparkled. She literally sparkled. I mean, she didn’t wear glitter but I swear she had sparkles coming out of her pores. All the time. You might think it was just my love talking but her family said the same thing. Renee was made of sunshine.
Renee lived by an overarching belief: there is kindness in the world and we need to do everything we can to find it where it resides and nurture it where it needs to grow. Renee was a Christian who knew that all religions teach the same essential truth: we are here to love each other, care for each other, and keep each other safe and whole.
Like people have done across place and time, we moved to make a better life for ourselves. We chose Minnesota to make our home. Our whole extended road trip here, we held hands in the car while our son drew all over the windows to pass the time and the miles.
What we found when we got here was a vibrant and welcoming community, we made friends and spread joy. And while any place we were together was home, there was a strong shared sense here in Minneapolis that we were looking out for each other. Here, I had finally found peace and safe harbor. That has been taken from me forever.
We were raising our son to believe that no matter where you come from or what you look like, all of us deserve compassion and kindness. Renee lived this belief every day. She is pure love. She is pure joy. She is pure sunshine.
On Wednesday, January 7th, we stopped to support our neighbors. We had whistles. They had guns.
Renee leaves behind three extraordinary children; the youngest is just six years old and already lost his father. I am now left to raise our son and to continue teaching him, as Renee believed, that there are people building a better world for him. That the people who did this had fear and anger in their hearts, and we need to show them a better way.
We thank you for the privacy you are granting our family as we grieve. We thank you for ensuring that Renee’s legacy is one of kindness and love. We honor her memory by living her values: rejecting hate and choosing compassion, turning away from fear and pursuing peace, refusing division and knowing we must come together to build a world where we all come home safe to the people we love.
I mean you just have to watch the video to know that what her wife said about her is true. Even in that remarkably tense moment before a thug murdered her, she was kind, and she was doing what was right.
Maybe it is some default way of being, without effort - love, compassion, kindness, hope and faith are the baseline of this person’s character and so it is not an effort to be this way, even during such a time as this.
I don't believe that. The baseline for humans is selfishness. We learn kindness and strive towards compassion. Like any skill some find it easier than others but calling it effortless is ignoring those who practice kindness everyday and reach for it even when sometimes it feels exhausting.
She probably expresses her rightful anger in private. This statement is just for people like us who are interested and also a way to honour the compassion her wife had.
You can either choose to be pro-social or anti-social.
Social negativity (judging others, presuming you know their motivations, etc) reinforces anti-social behaviour.
I watched this in my parents. They are both very smart, but their emotional intelligence has a very short range.
So, honestly, I stay compassionate because it's the only way I can exist on my terms in a world that is becoming increasingly isolative and indifferent. I don't want to be that way, I really can't figure it out any way even if I did.
I like to think of it as I'm choosing change. Compassion is true power, in my experience, over authority or fear.
You can't change minds with arguments, but you can through understanding. Any conservative I know suddenly has kinder opinions on lesbians because of me, weird right? Heh, but that's what gasses me up the most to stay compassionate, when I'm able to bring someone back to reality with the rest of us instead of in some delusional us-vs-them tribalist bullshit.
It's hard to be a scary monolith when they can talk hockey with you, you know? It's hard to believe we're all strange deviants when you hear me talk about how I want a family, despite my birth defects. It's hard to believe we're some kind of destructive force when we just want to live in peace in a country that doesn't treat people like currency or raw resource to be exploited.
We have to visibly and reasonably express these things and compassion is how, because they paint us as "unreasonable" so the more we play into their extant narrative the less we are actually heard.
also: neither of their birth names are “good”. they decided on that last name to start TOGETHER. they chose “good” as a last name. this is so fucking tragic i don’t know how anyone can function.
Martin Luther KING, Rodney KING, Trayvon MARTIN, Renee Macklin GOOD. The symbolism in the names, whose suffering and loss exposes America injustice so powerful that it galvanizes action, seems a unique pattern. I just hope we the people rise, for GOOD.
Wow she sounded like an amazing woman. Rest in Power Renee Good <3
Side note: I’m glad she put out this statement and clarified that the kid was their son. It bothers me how many people reported on this and saying she had a son and that the father died and now he has no one. Like she had a wife. I thought it’s obvious the two women were taking care of him at this point. Also the fact I feel like a lot of people who I’d thought would be allies not mentioning her wife. It’s frustrating.
Agreed. The BBC put out a piece yesterday about her life that mentions the men she was married to previously but said zilch about her wife. It looks like it’s only just been corrected in the last few hours.
There were comments by the grandpa when it happened that he was gonna go get him.
But maybe he was just wanting to be there for him.
Either way, thank God for legal marriage. Unless she had adopted him, she might not have had the right to keep him with her as second mother she was intended to be.
I understand why she took longer to speak out compared to the rest of her family. The death of your spouse and realizing youre gonna be a single parent for three kids cant be easy. Im glad so many people donated to her family. I hope she sees justice.
I really hope it doesn’t. I just watched the video from the killers POV, some of her last words to her killer were “it’s okay I’m not mad at you”, calm as hell. I feel so sick and I’m so filled with rage and I have no idea where to direct it or how to help, protesting doesn’t feel like it’s enough anymore.
Here’s a call to action I posted in another sub if you’d like to do more. I’m being intentionally vague for safety reasons, so please don’t post or advertise specific things if you find them, but please find a local training.
I just saw it after scrolling away from this post. I couldn't listen to it. I've been sick to my stomach the last 2 days. My heart hurts for her family so much. I don't know how we got to the point we are but something needs to happen. I'm scared for anyone in their path, as well as myself. I don't know what we can do though.
Absolutely, her legacy should inspire others to continue her work. It's important to keep sharing her story and the impact she made while she was here.
We’re all angry, we’re all heartbroken, and hopefully more of us will join the fight as a result of this senseless act of violence towards one of our own, queer or not. My US friends: more of us have to be fighting hate and unabashed cruelty with kindness and love for our communities around the country. Please don’t let this scare you into submission and isolation, many of us are using this to propel us forward rather than retreat, and we need help.
And if enough of us take this stand, we will abolish ICE, we will remove this administration, and we WILL hold them all accountable; for Good.
I posted this in another comment but for anyone feeling helpless and like they don’t know what to do, here’s a call to action I posted in another sub if you’d like to do more. I’m being intentionally vague for safety reasons, so please don’t post or advertise specific things if you find them, but please find a local training.
The irony of posting that in a comment which is so obviously AI generated
You know, “it’s not X, it’s Y”
Like this bit.
That’s not cruelty, it’s how every country on earth functions.
Or this
Blocking traffic and screaming at cops isn’t help, it’s theater.
And what does this even mean…
but pretending this is mindless or automated is just lazy.
This sentence is just weird
Take all the mad lesibans out to lunch we can keep them seperated and everyone will live.
Im fairly certain looking through your account history, that you were once a real person, who had their account hacked, but let’s pretend you’re real for a little bit because I’m an absolute nutter who enjoys taunting bots, it’s good training for talking to real people…
I was skeptical too until the agency video came out, just like the others eventually do.
What, you mean the video where he clearly placed himself in front of the car? The video where she clearly isnt angry, or trying to hurt him and she clearly turns the wheel away from him.
The video where he clearly calls her, and I quote, a “fucking bitch” after he murders her…
You are either a scam bot trying to take peoples money under the guise of helping murderers, or you are an incredibly misguided person trying to actually solicitate funding for murderers in a fairly liberal forum, from a community who has just been attacked in such a public way…
Well the other ones were clearly AI generated, I mean there’s just no debate but this one…
Oh thats some slick trolling isnt it, chucking in those em dashes…
Who am I kidding, you just told ChatGPT to add em dashes for some inexplicable reason…
Anyway, that isnt relevant, not really, why are you looking to solicit donations for murderers and terrorists, from a group of people, who they have just killed a member of
Do you know how deranged that seems?
We aren’t going to donate to your scam, you also haven’t posted in anywhere which would donate, if you really want to, go spam on R/conservative, they’re all idiots and bots (you’ll fit right in…) and they will fall for your little scam im sure
Also, what does this
If you’re so sure I’m fake, come debate me live. But I get it—shouting into threads is easier than showing up.
Weirdly im not interesting in talking to someone live who has just called for my death because of my sexuality…
Also im going to ask again why are you looking to solicit donations for murderers and terrorists, from a group of people, who they have just killed a member of
Do you know how deranged that seems?
We aren’t going to donate to your scam, you also haven’t posted in anywhere which would donate, you seem to be doing it just to rile people up…
In Iran, lesbians face severe state-sanctioned and societal persecution, with same-sex relations criminalized under the Islamic Penal Code. Punishments for female same-sex acts range from flogging to the death penalty for repeated offenses, leading to widespread violence, discrimination, and fear among the LGBTQ+ community.
You should move there.
What you have done is outlined exactly what a country does to people like me, and then told me to move there… what is that except for telling me you want that to happen to me?
As for the donation claim, that’s another invention. I didn’t solicit money from you, your group, or anyone connected to you. If you’re confused about what the campaign is, ask. Don’t fabricate motives and then argue with them.
What are you doing then?
You have come into a lesbian subreddit, after a member of our community was brutally murdered in broad daylight by a ICE agent, asking for money to fund ICE agents… thats what you’ve done.
And the reason you dont want to debate is cause you cant.
No the reason really is because you’ve called for my death because of my sexuality…
Bud, if you obstruct traffic and even run over someone, you go to jail and you are tried in a court of law. The Constitution protects our right to due process.
No one gets to decide to skip the jail, skip the trial, and give someone the death penalty.
It doesn’t change if someone has a gun. They still aren’t allowed to give someone the death penalty without due process. They aren’t above the US Constitution.
Where’s the dog that was in the backseat? All I will say is that my dog rides in my backseat often and I would NEVER do anything that dangerous that could possibly harm my dog. I hope that the dog and the 6 year old has a stable, safe life.
She sounds like a wonderful woman. What a loss for the rest of us
I mean you just have to watch the video to know that what her wife said about her is true. Even in that remarkably tense moment before a thug murdered her, she was kind, and she was doing what was right.
Fuck ICE. RIP Renee Good.
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Youre literally saying it's okay to shoot someone if they drive. That's literally what you're saying.
The only thing that got her shot was a coward with a gun.
Hey. No one knows what someone will do in an emergency. The agent who shot her is the one who killed her.
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Fuck off. Her last words were literally "I'm not mad at you."
That says a lot, considering the circumstances.
Oh jeez, sorry I didn't realize you were actually an agitator account judging by your post history.
Heartbreaking
how are these people strong enough to stay compassionate
Maybe it is some default way of being, without effort - love, compassion, kindness, hope and faith are the baseline of this person’s character and so it is not an effort to be this way, even during such a time as this.
I don't believe that. The baseline for humans is selfishness. We learn kindness and strive towards compassion. Like any skill some find it easier than others but calling it effortless is ignoring those who practice kindness everyday and reach for it even when sometimes it feels exhausting.
Maybe you
Compassionate people are the strongest - doing the right and good thing in spite of a harsh and cruel world
She probably expresses her rightful anger in private. This statement is just for people like us who are interested and also a way to honour the compassion her wife had.
The world is harsh and cruel.
You can either choose to be pro-social or anti-social.
Social negativity (judging others, presuming you know their motivations, etc) reinforces anti-social behaviour.
I watched this in my parents. They are both very smart, but their emotional intelligence has a very short range.
So, honestly, I stay compassionate because it's the only way I can exist on my terms in a world that is becoming increasingly isolative and indifferent. I don't want to be that way, I really can't figure it out any way even if I did.
I like to think of it as I'm choosing change. Compassion is true power, in my experience, over authority or fear.
You can't change minds with arguments, but you can through understanding. Any conservative I know suddenly has kinder opinions on lesbians because of me, weird right? Heh, but that's what gasses me up the most to stay compassionate, when I'm able to bring someone back to reality with the rest of us instead of in some delusional us-vs-them tribalist bullshit.
It's hard to be a scary monolith when they can talk hockey with you, you know? It's hard to believe we're all strange deviants when you hear me talk about how I want a family, despite my birth defects. It's hard to believe we're some kind of destructive force when we just want to live in peace in a country that doesn't treat people like currency or raw resource to be exploited.
We have to visibly and reasonably express these things and compassion is how, because they paint us as "unreasonable" so the more we play into their extant narrative the less we are actually heard.
Not that I’m perfect at being compassionate, and this last year has tested me, but I think of it as:
No one gets to steal my kindness.
I just refuse to let anyone else’s negative actions change me away from being the person I want to show up as in the world.
1000% THIS!!!
also: neither of their birth names are “good”. they decided on that last name to start TOGETHER. they chose “good” as a last name. this is so fucking tragic i don’t know how anyone can function.
I’m so fucking sad and I’m not even American. It’s a terrifying time to be here.
It's almost Kojima level naming convention. Her name was Good and she was murdered.
As if the evil organization calling themselves fucking "ice" wasn't blasé enough...
Fuck now I really am crying.
That's so beautiful.
Martin Luther KING, Rodney KING, Trayvon MARTIN, Renee Macklin GOOD. The symbolism in the names, whose suffering and loss exposes America injustice so powerful that it galvanizes action, seems a unique pattern. I just hope we the people rise, for GOOD.
It’s radicalizing is what it is
Wow she sounded like an amazing woman. Rest in Power Renee Good <3
Side note: I’m glad she put out this statement and clarified that the kid was their son. It bothers me how many people reported on this and saying she had a son and that the father died and now he has no one. Like she had a wife. I thought it’s obvious the two women were taking care of him at this point. Also the fact I feel like a lot of people who I’d thought would be allies not mentioning her wife. It’s frustrating.
Agreed. The BBC put out a piece yesterday about her life that mentions the men she was married to previously but said zilch about her wife. It looks like it’s only just been corrected in the last few hours.
There were comments by the grandpa when it happened that he was gonna go get him.
But maybe he was just wanting to be there for him.
Either way, thank God for legal marriage. Unless she had adopted him, she might not have had the right to keep him with her as second mother she was intended to be.
This is heartbreaking. This poor woman, I can't even fathom her loss right now.
I understand why she took longer to speak out compared to the rest of her family. The death of your spouse and realizing youre gonna be a single parent for three kids cant be easy. Im glad so many people donated to her family. I hope she sees justice.
1 kid. The 6 year old. The older two didn't live with Renee.
That’s a very sad but beautiful and powerful statement. It can’t have been easy to write.
omgggg 😭😭😭
Here come the tears. God bless Renee and her family, I wish this world didn’t fail them.
Her name will go down in history, I have hope and faith that this world won’t fail them in her death.
I really hope it doesn’t. I just watched the video from the killers POV, some of her last words to her killer were “it’s okay I’m not mad at you”, calm as hell. I feel so sick and I’m so filled with rage and I have no idea where to direct it or how to help, protesting doesn’t feel like it’s enough anymore.
Here’s a call to action I posted in another sub if you’d like to do more. I’m being intentionally vague for safety reasons, so please don’t post or advertise specific things if you find them, but please find a local training.
https://www.reddit.com/r/50501Movement/s/qCT4d8UzjK
Thank you I appreciate this.
Wait what? What's this from?
I saw it on the r/Minnesota sub and also saw it on Aaron Parnas’ TikTok
I just saw it after scrolling away from this post. I couldn't listen to it. I've been sick to my stomach the last 2 days. My heart hurts for her family so much. I don't know how we got to the point we are but something needs to happen. I'm scared for anyone in their path, as well as myself. I don't know what we can do though.
Renee sounded like a truly wonderful and beautiful person, it’s a shame the world only knows her name now because of how she died 💔
That may be true, but I hope there’s people out there inspired by how she lived. We can’t let her mission die with her.
Absolutely, her legacy should inspire others to continue her work. It's important to keep sharing her story and the impact she made while she was here.
We’re all angry, we’re all heartbroken, and hopefully more of us will join the fight as a result of this senseless act of violence towards one of our own, queer or not. My US friends: more of us have to be fighting hate and unabashed cruelty with kindness and love for our communities around the country. Please don’t let this scare you into submission and isolation, many of us are using this to propel us forward rather than retreat, and we need help.
And if enough of us take this stand, we will abolish ICE, we will remove this administration, and we WILL hold them all accountable; for Good.
Beautiful words from Becca. RIP, Renee.
Poor people. 😔 I just cannot comprehend how anyone can just pull a gun on someone so easily. I feel so bad for her family.
Oh holy shit i can't this is so horrible
There is no justice in this world
En Freyja megi holda ástríðum þínum vera sendimaðr fyrir öllum ástum sem þú gafst ok fengir
En Baldr megi spegla fegurð þína ok ljóma festja kennslu endurfæðingar ok upprisu
En Bragi, guð skáldskapar syngja lof þitt vefja galdra til að leiða þig heim
En Þórr verði þér vörðr á ferðum þínum í öllum ríkjum
En Heimdallr vaki yfir þér er þú ferð yfir Bifröst, regnbogabrúna
En Frigg opni dyrnar að guðlegum leyndardómum ok heimili
Hvenær sem vér förum framhjá vatni munum vér sjá ásýnd þína endurspeglaða
Í brunni Mímis Brunnr viskunnar
Heill Renee Good
Þegnir af goðunum Elskaðir ok saknaðir af oss mönnum Munaðir ok heiðraðir Sem forfeðr frá degi í dag
I posted this in another comment but for anyone feeling helpless and like they don’t know what to do, here’s a call to action I posted in another sub if you’d like to do more. I’m being intentionally vague for safety reasons, so please don’t post or advertise specific things if you find them, but please find a local training.
https://www.reddit.com/r/50501Movement/s/qCT4d8UzjK
live in the Light Renee Good
MIDTERMS ......VOTES will end this shitty govt
then TACO will be impeached and jailed
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Or how about we don’t fund murderers?
Why are you spamming this on every sub you can? Did you even read the name of this sub?
Who am I kidding, im talking to a bot lmao
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The irony of posting that in a comment which is so obviously AI generated
You know, “it’s not X, it’s Y”
Like this bit.
Or this
And what does this even mean…
This sentence is just weird
Im fairly certain looking through your account history, that you were once a real person, who had their account hacked, but let’s pretend you’re real for a little bit because I’m an absolute nutter who enjoys taunting bots, it’s good training for talking to real people…
What, you mean the video where he clearly placed himself in front of the car? The video where she clearly isnt angry, or trying to hurt him and she clearly turns the wheel away from him.
The video where he clearly calls her, and I quote, a “fucking bitch” after he murders her…
You are either a scam bot trying to take peoples money under the guise of helping murderers, or you are an incredibly misguided person trying to actually solicitate funding for murderers in a fairly liberal forum, from a community who has just been attacked in such a public way…
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You know what…
Well the other ones were clearly AI generated, I mean there’s just no debate but this one…
Oh thats some slick trolling isnt it, chucking in those em dashes…
Who am I kidding, you just told ChatGPT to add em dashes for some inexplicable reason…
Anyway, that isnt relevant, not really, why are you looking to solicit donations for murderers and terrorists, from a group of people, who they have just killed a member of
Do you know how deranged that seems?
We aren’t going to donate to your scam, you also haven’t posted in anywhere which would donate, if you really want to, go spam on R/conservative, they’re all idiots and bots (you’ll fit right in…) and they will fall for your little scam im sure
Also, what does this
Even mean?
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Weirdly im not interesting in talking to someone live who has just called for my death because of my sexuality…
Also im going to ask again why are you looking to solicit donations for murderers and terrorists, from a group of people, who they have just killed a member of Do you know how deranged that seems?
We aren’t going to donate to your scam, you also haven’t posted in anywhere which would donate, you seem to be doing it just to rile people up…
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What you have done is outlined exactly what a country does to people like me, and then told me to move there… what is that except for telling me you want that to happen to me?
What are you doing then?
You have come into a lesbian subreddit, after a member of our community was brutally murdered in broad daylight by a ICE agent, asking for money to fund ICE agents… thats what you’ve done.
No the reason really is because you’ve called for my death because of my sexuality…
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Wtf?
What the hell is that supposed to mean?
She didn’t run him over, at most she bumped him (im not convinced she did) at less than five miles per hour after he stepped infront of her car
ICE aren’t police, if they were they’d show badges
That agent needs to rot in jail like any other murderer
Bud, if you obstruct traffic and even run over someone, you go to jail and you are tried in a court of law. The Constitution protects our right to due process.
No one gets to decide to skip the jail, skip the trial, and give someone the death penalty.
It doesn’t change if someone has a gun. They still aren’t allowed to give someone the death penalty without due process. They aren’t above the US Constitution.
Where’s the dog that was in the backseat? All I will say is that my dog rides in my backseat often and I would NEVER do anything that dangerous that could possibly harm my dog. I hope that the dog and the 6 year old has a stable, safe life.