My husband works offshore and is out of the country about 50% of the year. I had my first baby at 29 and am 37 now. My husband doesn't have any kids of his own and is so excited to start. I never expected to not conceive immediately (feeling so stupid now!) and on top of things my husband works away so basically we only have 6 cycles a year.
Pressure feels crazy. I know many moms only start older these days... The school my daughter goes to, her friends moms are mostly 10-15 years older than I am... But I'm freakinggg out.
Also my husband says I must gtfo these platforms and just trust and enjoy the process.
Does anyone else have the issue of husband not being around for a 12-cycle year??
We are on Cycle 4 but have been trying for 8 months!
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This might be a good case for freezing his sperm and doing IUI. At 37, you might conceive in just a few cycles or you might not, so I hate to see too much time pass for you guys. Especially if you want more than one more child.
Lol I said this to him!! And he said not a chance in hell. He'd watched a documentary about a doctor swapping out husbands' sperm for the doctor's own. I haven't watched this but it's closed for debate.
He said I'm welcome to use the home freezer and figure it out 🙄🤣
That’s a shame he made a snap decision based on a documentary because that’s probably your best option. It’s hard to conceive at 37 even with a husband who’s home all the time.
I know what he’s talking about, some lunatic doctor ended up having like 20 kids cause he kept doing this, one of the kids found out decades later by taking one of those ancestry tests.
All this to say, one lunatic doesn’t make the fertility community unreliable. Look up how many IUI/IVF pregnancies from various clinics there are in a year and compare to this one guy (who has been arrested by the way). The benefits outweigh the minuscule risks.
Experience: IVF baby that is a spitting image of his dad and not of the female doctor we had lol
Yeah. This. If your husband really won’t consider this as an option because of a crime case then maybe he shouldn’t leave the house either incase he encounters a murderer on the street?… see? It’s a silly way of thinking haha
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I was a live in nanny for a couple, he wasn’t away for months on end but was away Monday evening until Friday morning every week. They did IUI to avoid having to deal with the timing issues. If it’s an option for you it might be worth considering!