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  • On cycle 6 for second kid and just got diagnosed with mild endometriosis and mild adenomyosis. Feeling numb. That’s all.

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  • Just got my period last night :( this was cycle 7ish? For us. To be honest we started kinda nonchalantly because I wasn’t mentally prepared for the toll of TTC and now we’re in the full swing of it. I tried inito last month which just pushed my fertile window a little sooner than I already do but not sure if I will this month.

    We bought some bird and be supplements to try to help hubbies sperm because he has low count, motility and morphology. Considering clomid for him but not there yet. Just here to rant and say trying for a kid sucks, lol.

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  • usually very regular cycle, between 29-31 days. we are trying to have a baby. im on day 41 of cycle and have tested negative. help!

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  • It’s the end of CD17 today. Not sure what to think.

    I’ve been tracking my LH since CD7. There was a slight uptick around Cd12 but never a full positive (the Premom ratio was like .37 or something). Last cycle my positive was cd16. I’ve been waiting for a surge but it’s just getting fainter and fainter. Premom predicted ovulation on cd15, then shifted to cd16, then to cd17 and now that it’s is cd17 it is like forget it, you probably ovulated back on cd13 so I went from waiting for an LH surge to being 4 dpo according to my app Idk. Cycle is typically 28-30 days.

    This cycle might be a wash. Only good thing is, if correct we did BD on cd10 and cd12. So I’m covered of if I actually ovulated then (and side note my first pregnancy the bd was cd12 so maybe…). I’m going to have low expectations this cycle.

    I also had much more of a libido around cd12 than I do now. So I either already ovulated or didn’t ovulate at all. Who knows. Either way I guess this cut off a half a week on my TWW 🤷‍♀️

    Not tracking BBT because I can get obsessive and I think that will be too much for me.

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  • Does anyone have experience with taking Fluoxetine while TTC? I have made a gyno appointment but wondering in the meantime if my dr will try to wean me off.

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    I have experience going on and off meds in the year before and just before my first child. There are different SSRI’s and some are more safe for pregnancy than others. I don’t know about the one you’ve mentioned and its safety profile but sertraline is generally considered the safest option, but not the only acceptable option. If the one you’ve mentioned doesn’t have a good safety profile they may want to switch your medication but it’s not a requirement that you go off and stay off entirely.

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    Not medical advice but typically they would recommend staying on your SSRI during TTC/pregnancy. The risks of untreated depression/anxiety, etc typically outweigh the very small risks of continued SSRI use in pregnancy. If anything, they may consider switching to Zoloft (sertraline) which is the most commonly used SSRI in pregnancy. However, if you feel relatively stable mood-wise and were considering weaning off your fluoxetine anyway, now could be a good time to try.

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  • Got my CD 3 hormone testing done over the weekend and got all of my results back today.

    Do these numbers sound promising or concerning? (31 y/o, TTC for over 1 year) FSH: 6.0 LH: 4.2 Prolactin: 11.62 AMH: 3.78

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    Different labs have different reference ranges which may give a bit more context. But generally speaking, these numbers look normal. Obviously you should discuss with your provider for more insight though.

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  • Once again complaining about the progesterone. Been having twinges and mild cramps today on 5DPO so that’s fun! I know it means nothing as I’ve also had cramps for several days around this same time in my cycle in non successful cycles. Still annoying though.

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  • Need help. I’m very new to BBT charting and trying to understand my pattern. I’m not sure whether this recent temperature drop means I already ovulated and this is a fallback rise, or if it’s a pre-ovulation dip and ovulation hasn’t happened yet.

    Here are my temperatures by cycle day: • CD12: 97.21 • CD13: 97.44 • CD14: 97.25 • CD15: 97.37 • CD16: 97.17 • CD17: 97.19 • CD18: 97.50 • CD19: 96.76

    Any insights would be appreciated

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    Sounds like you haven’t ovulated yet

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  • My family has been hit with what I’m pretty sure is influenza a for the last 4 days, between the fevers and coughing and exhaustion I’m just glad this is only CD5. Trying to look at the positives and thinking “well, if I was pregnant I wouldn’t able to take these cold meds and Advil”. So there are some silver linings I guess haha, care Tylenol doesn’t even come close to touching this fever.

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  • I have 7 more days in my two week wait. Longest wait ever.

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  • I wish we had the option to high five instead of having sex sometimes because we get tired 😩

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    Hahaha this made me giggle and I really needed a giggle tonight thank you! Also wishing a high five was an option, or a secret handshake 🤝

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    Oooh a secret handshake is probably better so we don't randomly get knocked up accidentally high-fiving strangers 🤣🤣 we'll request this in the next phase of upgrades for the species...

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  • Just curious when did NYE become like a college frat/sorority type party lol. I’m going to be 6 DPO on NYE, and there are going to be people in my face going “WhY NoT” or “JuSt TaKe OnE sHoT.” lol.

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  • I have a nearly new BBT and it’s making random glitchy electronic sounds and giving false high temps (I’ll test a second time and then get correct temp). My old BBT never did that (from years ago). I have severe bruxism and I doze off while taking my temp so I think I have bitten down on my thermometer too hard one too many times and broken it…going to have to replace it!

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  • Hello everyone, hope you all had a wonderful holiday. I’m hoping to see a doctor about being referred to a fertility specialist. Would you say that being below 35 (30), irregular cycles and missed periods, 9 months post-BC, and inability to track LH using strips makes me a good candidate to be referred? We are baby dancing with no precautions. Please let me know your thoughts!

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    What area are you in? I think that a good doctor will do some investigating based on that description. When I was younger- like sub 25 - I mentioned irregular periods and my sister (not even myself) having trouble conceiving and she was willing to run an AMH and order bloods and and an ultrasound to check for PCOS. I am in Australia and my GP is excellent so that may have an effect on my experience.

    However data (that I am pulling from Emily Osters expecting better) says that by 9 months a cycle should be back to some form of regularity post BC. So if you’re at that mark and things are still off and especially if you’re not seeing ovulation I think that at minimum a good doctor should order some tests and refer you on based on those tests or your desire to see a specialist.

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  • Took an ovulation test today on CD 9 and it’s 0.13. The Premom app is saying that’s low and my ovulation may be delayed? Is that a normal # for CD 9?

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    I had a 0.15 on CD 9 last cycle so I think it’s ok. It said my ovulation is rapid onset though so I’d starting testing twice a day soon if I were you so you don’t risk missing the peak if yours is also rapid.

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    Yes good idea! I’m trying to be better at testing more frequently I think I’m just going to BD starting today since I peaked CD 11 last month and now I’m currently CD 10 and I feel like I missed it last cycle bc I tested early in the day and didn’t think it was peak and then tested later and it came down rapidly

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    I don’t know number as I just look at the strips myself, but low at CD9 seems perfectly normal and expected, especially if your cycle is 25 days or longer, which most of us are. Depending on your average cycle length I wouldn’t expect to see a positive or even a slight rise until somewhere between Period minus 18-14 days.

    I’ve never had a positive before CD 12 and I have a pretty standard cycle of 29days give or take a few. On CD 9 I barely have a faint line.

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    I think that's totally normal! At least for me, lol. I've discovered I think my baseline LH level is lower than average, and unless I'm in the small window where my LH is surging, it's typically somewhere between 0.03-0.25. I've gotten the same message from Premom, but I just disregard it now, because I always get a surge around CD 13 or 14 regardless of how low it is on other days.

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    Thank you! Last cycle I got a surge on CD 11 but the Premom app telling me my levels are low was bothering me lol 💀😅

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    Haha, I totally get that! It kind of scared me the first time too, but after a few cycles I've realized it's normal for me and I'm quite confident I'm still ovulating, which is what matters the most. My surges are pretty quick too, so I tend to test several times a day once I know it's getting close. Maybe yours are similar?

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    Do you usually ovulate around CD9? That sounds quite early. LH can surge quite fast, so if you usually ovulate, say, CD14, you might see a rise/positive only on CD13 and not before.

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    Ok thank you! Last cycle was the first time I used ovulation strips and I had a positive on CD 11 and then it dropped a couple hours later so my surge was quick and then already dropped down. This is my second cycle using the strips so I’m going to try to be better at testing every day 2x a day

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    Afaik, the actual numbers don't give you any information. The only thing you need to see is the test line being as dark as the control. The app gives too much unnecessary info 😅

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  • 2 DPO and due to sad events we were a little late with just one BD this cycle, either right as I was ovulating or within hours according to rapid rise and fall of LH. So thankful we got the one BD in and 2 weeks of hope otherwise it would have been a depressing 4-week wait until next cycle.

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  • I'm curious what you all feel most confident using to track fertility. Do you use a wearable? Do you trust it? Do you use those clearable ovulation tests or the ones that you can buy in bulk?

    I have a regular cycle but it ranges from 23-28 days so doing BBT with a thermometer won't work and am considering an oura ring or temp drop... but then just listened to a podcast where a practitioner said that temp drop is better than oura but not to rely on either if you TTC, because devices are better to confirm ovulation, not to gauge when to try to conceive.

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    I just got the Natural Cycles wristband that does BBT while you sleep. I wear it to bed and check the app for my BBT when I wake up. But I use Mira fertility monitor for my hormone levels and tracking my fertile window. I hated taking BBT manually every day but I find it’s really important to know BBT because it helps confirm whether you actually ovulated. LH surge doesn’t mean that you actually ovulated, only that your body tried. I like Mira for this reason because I can see my progesterone rise so that plus BBT helps me know I ovulated.

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    I use a regular thermometer and take my temp at the same time every morning (occasionally skipping a day if I need to get up earlier than usual.) It doesn't matter how long your cycle is. I use cheap ovulation test strips from Amazon and test 1-3x a day starting on day 10 (I usually get a positive sometime between day 14-18). The strips predict ovulation, temp confirms it. You then try to have sex a couple times around those days. 

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    So I don't really have the capacity to do BBT at this point in my life. I did this when I was in my 20's for a bit and I found it extremely stress and my mornings were more predictable now than then... I love the way you put it so simply "The strips predict ovulation, temp confirms it." Maybe I could get a device like one of the bracelets or oura for temp (even though I know it's not the same as a BBT) and then strips.

    Thanks for sharing!

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    It's not the devices. BBT itself only confirms ovulation, does not predict it. You can use ovulation tests (OPKs), which can give you a 12-36 hr prewarning for when you *will* ovulate. I haven't used OPKs but I think the digital Clearblue ones give you a heads up multiple days in advance.

    Having said all of this, if you are having regular (once every two or three days) sex, you don't need to track anything.

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  • Is the nausea -stomach flu, new supplement, or pregnancy?!

    10 dpo and holding off until tomorrow morning to test

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    You are stronger than me!

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    Negative… and looking like flu … 😭

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  • One of my best friends told me she’s pregnant this morning. First try. Thankfully it was over text, because I absolutely lost it. I sobbed for over an hour, quite honestly could’ve thrown up. I’m absolutely devastated. I genuinely don’t know how long it’ll take for me to get over this, no matter how self-centering and selfish that may sound. I really am excited for her, but I feel like an elephant just sat on my heart.

    On a happy note, I got in with a new OB this morning for a Feb appointment. Hopefully I get the answers I need to move forward and 2026 brings me my baby.

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    I felt the same when my best friend told me she was pregnant back in August, even though we were relatively early on trying then. My period arrived this morning which happened to be the day we'd all organised our Christmas catch-up so I had to go and see her and some of my other friends and pretend to be fine and ask about her pregnancy even though I just felt sadness. I really hoped by now I'd be pregnant too and we could be excited together.

    I really understand how you feel - being excited for them but overwhelmingly sad at the same time, it's such a hard emotion to process. Fingers crossed for positive news for us in 2026 🤞🏻

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    I cry after every announcement, now. Each one sends me into a funk for at least a few days and as soon as I reset, I see another one. Recently I learned that a dear friend is pregnant but hasn't announced yet (I found out accidentally) and it crushed me more than usual because we just hit about 15 months trying and have never had a positive and I just turned 36. I don't know how I'll react once I get the news directly but it's probably good I'll have had some time to come to grips with it. I literally cried all evening after I heard and had to explain to my husband how this always make me feel defective and left behind and like such a failure...but he told me that other people's announcements don't make him sad because he sees them as a sign that we could be next?! Sounds crazy to me but I would LOVE that kind of optimism.

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    Not self centred at all. We also had a pregnancy announcement over Christmas. This is their second child and they had their first after we started trying almost two years ago. It stings. Don’t beat yourself up, it’s a totally normal reaction to seeing those close to us get what we desire ❤️‍🩹

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    Thank you for this, it’s super validating to hear someone else say it. I feel awful, like I’m in between feeling sorry for myself because I’m so torn up, and feeling horrible for not being more excited and involved in conversation with her. I’m so sorry you had to go through this too. 🫂

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  • We’re starting the new year with our first consultation at the RE next Monday. We are 36/f and 35/m and have been trying for about 7 months. Always had a regular 28 day cycle, but have a short 8-day luteal phase and very low AMH of .3 so I’m preparing myself for the worst. Hopefully medication can help lengthen my luteal phase and we can have some success without trying IVF. 

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  • After a weeklong massive barrage of pregnancy announcements from friends online, a coworker just showed me their sonogram for their THIRD child when I asked how their Christmas was. They have two kids under age 3. This pregnancy was “unexpected.” Took everything I had not to crumple up and cry. Started cycle 11 five days ago… been TTC for 14 months with some breaks in between. I’m fine. Everything is fine.

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  • Also just realized that I’m going to be fertile/ovulating when my husband is planning to travel to see his friends this month 🙃 I’m not going to tell him because I don’t want him to change his plans for this and stress him out. I’d rather he go have a good time and come back happy since he’s been very stressed and a little depressed lately but not gonna lie it kills me a little that it’ll be a waisted cycle

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  • Just got my period. Having a lot of anxiety. Any tips on managing the anxiety?

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    Walking or exercise, spending time with friends, take a shower, deep breathing. Those are some of my go-tos

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    Allow yourself a day or two to get all the emotion out, and then distract yourself and lean into the things you already have. I have been on the receiving end of similar advice and although it has annoyed me in the past, it’s so true.

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  • On CD5 of 12th cycle TTC. We are leaving on a 3.5 week trip tomorrow and i’m actually so happy we decided to not track this cycle. Just enjoy the trip, no pressure to be strict about waking up to temp, dance, or pee on sticks. We have our first appointment with our GP after the trip to officially start seeking help ttc. One year mark here we come.

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    I wasn’t thinking baby dance and imagined you do a little jig on the way from temping to peeing on sticks.

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  • In a somewhat cosmic turn of events, we are starting a business in the new year, which I'm really excited about because I've been having a career-based existential crisis for a while now. One of the cons is that we will be funneling money into that, and because we aren't rich, and we are losing health insurance next month, it means we will have to put fertility treatments on hold because they'd be out of pocket. On one hand, this is hard for me, but on the other hand, I've been desperate to have something to focus my time on that isn't purely TTC. My purpose has been solely tied to this journey that my mental health has been at a very serious all-time low. I'm not going to continue to put career on hold for this thing that may or may not work. So I think it's good...?!

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    Starting a business is a big move! Congrats! ❣️

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  • heterozygous for MTHFR A1298c, there’s conflicting research but i was curious about prenatals. should i be taking folic acid since the research says it’s the only one proven to prevent neural tube defects but im seeing that methylated folate is better for MTHFR mutations. there are prenatals on the market that contain both FA and methylated folate. what do you think?

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    Hi I have the same mutation and my doc recommended methylated folate! I’m on SmartyPants gummies.

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    Take the folic acid at a minimum. If you want to take methylated just because, go for it. But it’s folic acid you need.

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    You need folic acid. There is no research supporting methylated folate. If you want to take both, fine. But please take regular folic acid!! (I’m a doctor)

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    sorry for hijacking I’m just a little bit stressed. I did a blood test unrelated to TTC (digestion issues) and I found out my TSH is around 5, which would explain a lot of my symptoms. Then I also realized that this is not good for pregnancy or conceiving in general, and I have family history of hypothyroidism. Do you think my doctor would be happy to prescribe the medication or do I need to fight for it? My appointment is tomorrow so I’m anxious.

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    Hi! Quick disclaimer that this is not medical advice but….it depends on your particular doctor. A TSH of 5 is usually around the upper limit of normal. What was your free t4? If that was normal, you’d have what we call subclinical hypothyroidism. If you’re symptomatic, I personally would treat. Also, important to note that the studies showing a TSH goal of 2.5 is better for TTC/pregnancy comes from studies on those undergoing fertility treatments or with an already established diagnosis of hypothyroidism. But you can explain that you feel your symptoms are related to this and throw in that you’ve seen a lower TSH is recommended for TTC/pregnancy and hopefully your doc is receptive to at least discussing the pros/cons with you.

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    thank you so much for the info. my T3/T4 were not tested this time around, I will also ask for a full panel because of my family history. I’m definitely symptomatic - having strange digestion issues recently and my hair has really thinned out, my hairdresser even commented that without my saying anything so I know it’s true. Good to know it’s not detrimental for TTC since I’m only cycle 4 and it starts feeling like something is off… but I would be so relieved to treat my digestion issues and other things I’ve noticed. I really hope my doctor wouldn’t push back. From previous blood tests, my TSH was 2.5 in 2019, 4.2 in 2023 and now it’s 5 so going up through the years :(

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    Happy to help! I hope your doc is supportive and your journey here is short 💗

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    thank you so much 💞 right back at you!

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    When I first got my thyroid checked I was at 4.5 TSH, my primary care doc was ok with that but did say it was the upper limit and wanted to keep an eye on it. Started treating me when I bumped up to an 8, and was happy again when I got it to under 4. None of my symptoms started to resolve however, then I told him my OB recommended the 2.5 for ttc and he was fine increasing my medication. Actually I feel the best closer to 1, and while he started out being very conservative, when I told him how much better I was feeling he was happy to work on the dosage with me. I have hashimotos so my thyroid kept getting worse, and he was very good about checking my dosage and levels to help me get to a good spot (although I had to pay attention, his office would always call me and tell me my levels looked great/in range, even if they weren’t under 2.5 like I wanted). If your primary doc gives you any trouble (which hopefully won’t be the case!) you might get your OB to prescribe for ttc?

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    oh that’s amazing that you got it down and they are keeping an eye on it. It must feel so good to feel better and to understand when your body feels the best. my mom has hypothyroidism too and she’s also being monitored by blood tests every 6 weeks, but she has a different doctor so I don’t know how my doctor will respond - I really hope he will be willing to treat it right away I actually don’t have an OB, I’m in Canada so I think it might be different here but usually you need a referral and so far I haven’t been to an OB.

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    Absolutely! The hair loss, weight gain, tiredness, etc, I thought I was just getting older lol, I started feeling bad across a couple of years so I didn’t notice it till I started feeling so much better.

    I see. It may well be different, I’m in the US and get my Pap smears at my OB. Actually the reason I found out my OB could prescribe levothyroxene was when I called for my first pregnancy checkup (early loss), and I just happened to mention it bc I had just started the levo 6 weeks before the loss.

    At the very least with a clear family history and symptoms I would imagine your doc would want to keep a close eye on it. It seems like something that is relatively safe and easy to treat, so as long as you advocate for yourself your doc shouldn’t have a problem. Good luck!

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    that’s exactly how I’ve been feeling lately! I turned 30 in May 2025 so I legit thought I was getting old. crazy!

    thank you so much for the support and encouragement ❤️

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  • I posted once before in another daily discussion but didn't get much response. What are your recommendations for a reliable book that focuses on male fertility? I'm hoping for something not too outdated and data based or research based.

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    Edit: sorry, wrong comment

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  • My husband and I took this month off TTC, but I have continued to track my cycle because it’s been so hard for me to pinpoint ovulation. I have had varying amounts of clear EWCM since day 9, and I’m now on day 24 (!!!). I also use OPKs but maybe it’s time to start recording BBT, because I’m just constantly so confused about what’s going on down there.

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    I ovulate reallyyyy late and BBT was the only thing that gave me some clarity as to what was going on.

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    I started tracking BBT 4 months ago and I wish I'd done it sooner. It really helped me identify when my fertile window had finished and gave me confidence I was ovulating as well as knowing when to expect my period based on my luteal phase (as well as seeing the BBT dip at the end of luteal phase so I'm waiting to expect my period rather than it taking me by surprise). It's also helped me not miss ovulation when it happened a bit later than expected in my cycle before last. I just use a cheapy BBT thermometer from Amazon, would recommend giving it a go!

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  • So sad today, BFN after being one day late. Thought maybe it was our Christmas miracle but instead no it’s just a whole year gone. Feeling broken.

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    Hugs I’m sorry!

    I wish I could hug everyone going through negative testing, it is such a heart breaker.

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  • Driving to the fertility clinic today for some more testing and I felt so defeated. I literally was praying out asking why this was happening to me. Probably about 5 to 10 minutes later a car at the red light in front of me had a bumper sticker on it…a single bumper sticker I went ahead and translated it because I was curious since it was in a different language and Google translate told me it said “God‘s timing is perfect”

    You can bet your bottom dollar I sobbed the rest of the way to the clinic. This is definitely not how I thought my year was going to end, but I’m really hoping that 2026 is our year. Sending love to everybody going through this treacherous journey and I hope you take this story as a positive sign ❤️

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  • Just a vent. Had a negative 14 dpiui yesterday so that feels pretty definitive. Also at work in this weird time between Christmas and new years holidays when half the office is out… I literally don’t know how to do anything else but be on Reddit and obsess over ttc even though there’s nothing to be done at this moment but wait for AF. 🤦🏻

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    Right just scrolling through Reddit reading TTC stuff and then staring at the Premom app as if it’s gonna tell me in pregnant and right now is a good time to test

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    Same here feeling crap and negative and now AF here just sat on my sofa crying feeing hopeless

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  • CD11, O predicted in 1-2 days. Been having lots of EWCM since CD8. OPKs are on the rise, still need to take one today to see if it’s positive. If not today, likely tomorrow. We BD’d yesterday, but both husband and I are starting to feel sick.

    I got a major signs alert on my Oura (though no specific metrics pulled out). Hoping we both feel up to a second BD attempt tomorrow, or our timing isn’t gonna be great this cycle depending on O.

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    lol just took my morning OPK and it’s darker than the control. So thank you body for that!

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  • I think I’m around 7 dpo today. Yesterday I kept having this twinging, pulling sensation in my lower right pelvic area. Chat gpt said it’s too early for implantation. I have been having vivid dreams. Yesterday I was sternly fatigued but this could all just be progesterone. My husband and I have a good feeling about this cycle since it’s our 5-6 month trying and we timed it well with ovulation using LH strips. I am having more white CM the past two days as well. But I read that’s normal leading up to your period. My period isn’t due until Jan 7th . I would like to test early but it’s such a mind game I can’t .

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    Nothing you can do but wait sadly. Good luck

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    I just think it’s crazy that you can have the same symptoms leading up to the positive, and wait two long weeks, and then the test just determines it all. We do feel better about this cycle tho

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    I’m desperate for a positive too. It’s my ovulation day today. I feel like my life is on hold until I get pregnant. It sucks.

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  • CD 6 and just found out recently that yet another friend is expecting. Just feeling very morose but trying to remain hopeful.

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  • Anyone decline an HSG before starting IUI? My SIS was painful and terrified of the HSG.

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    I specifically requested my HSG before iui, but my RE did not require it. I asked bc I wanted to be sure if I was going to be spending the money, since I had a history of polyps and ovarian cysts. Some folks find one tube is no good, and so may choose to only go through with an iui cycle when they have dominant follicles on the clear side, or may choose a procedure to recanalize a blocked tube, so it is good info to know. My RE also mentioned that there is increased fertility the few months following (it didn’t for me and many others, so may or may not factor in for you). You cannot be sure that your tubes are clear without checking, but unless you have a specific history of ectopic, loss of tube, cysts, endo, etc., it may not outweigh the difficulty of the procedure to get that surety. I will say, you can definitely take otc pain meds and specifically ask for pain management due to your history. If your clinic/radiologist does not offer anything when you specifically request it due to your history, that would be a red flag for me and maybe a sign to try a different place if you have the option. I also would not have the same practitioner that did your SIS… I think technique is really important for patient experience and it varies greatly between practitioners. My SIS with my OB wasn’t painful but it was uncomfortable and long and the catheter insert took several attempts. The HSG with my RE was a breeze (but I did take all the recommended otc meds).

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  • 5 DPO today and starting to get antsy. Here’s hoping a NYE trip to a friend’s cabin will be enough distraction to keep me occupied until test day! (Because trying to work today is NOT IT)

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    Hi cycle twin! :) I'm 5 DPO also and it's kind of excruciating, lol. I'm glad you have a distraction this week to keep your mind occupied! When are you planning to test?

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    I’m thinking Saturday at 10 DPO. 10 days is when I got my BFP with my first pregnancy, and it would be nice to tackle those feelings either way on a weekend. What about you?

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    I'm thinking Saturday too! I'm so tempted to test on New Years Day, but I know it will very likely be negative even if I am pregnant, so that feels like a set-up for a sad start to the new year, lol. I'm going to do my best to wait until the weekend!

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    Is this your first time TTC? Even 10dpo/Saturday is still pretty early! Some people like having the constant tests, but it was really hard on me last time around (I tested every day before my first pregnancy 😳).

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    Yeah, this is our first time TTC and our 3rd cycle, so we're still pretty new to everything. Last month I started testing at 9 dpo, but I do think it would be better for me to wait until later. Is this your second time TTC?

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  • Had a D&C Dec 15. My body is in limbo. Hormones all out of wack and I just want to get back in there. No period, no ovulation, just waiting… I hate waiting.

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  • I have a SIS scheduled for Wednesday and I am really nervous. I have read the posts linked on the wiki but wanted to get some personal advice. I am bringing my husband with me but wondering if I should ask my doctor for any other anxiety/pain medication besides just the ibuprofen they told me to take?

    When my doctor first mentioned it for checking my fibroids she asked me how I was with pelvic exams and I said they were fine. But forgot to mention that they are stressful and I have to breathe deeply the entire time until it is over. I do get pelvic discomfort from sex so I am not sure if that means this will also be painful/uncomfortable without additional medicine.

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    Mine was really easy! It wasn’t comfortable but there wasn’t a lot of pain. The worst part was the nerves but it was over so quickly. I watched a few YouTube videos of them ahead of time so I would know what to expect. I did have some low level cramps after so I just took it easy the rest of the day.

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    Good to know!! I have been seeing mixed reports of it being a couple minutes to 20 minutes which is what scares me. Plus the fact that I do get pelvic pain/discomfort. Maybe I will just message the office and ask about the time expectation etc and mention this and see what they say!

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    I would definitely ask for medication ahead of time.

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    They just said they can prescribe me ativan to help with the anxiety. Thank you for the suggestion!

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    Do you mean separately from the ibuprofen they recommend? Is there anything specific I should ask for?

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  • I thought this cycle was anovulatory, but I felt a strange tension yesterday and scheduled an appt for today. My ogbyn told me I'd just ovulated and our timing this cycle doesn't bring much hope lol

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  • Myself (35F) and husband (38M) have been TTC for 7-10 months now. All of our tests have been normal, including my AMH and HSG and his SA. We tried Letrozole and trigger shot for the first time this last cycle (5mg/day & monitored). I had 2-3 mature follicles at time of trigger and good progesterone levels after. Sadly, we didn’t succeed. We’re currently discussing options with my fertility team and deciding between trying another medicated TI cycle or moving onto medicated IUI. IUI is not at all covered for me and would cost $2,950 for one cycle. The mediated TI costs $250 for one cycle. Getting desperate for success and struggling with what to do.

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  • Second cycle ttc and we tried really hard this time. BD every day in my fertile window and had perfect timing. Currently 1 or 2dpo.

    I just worry about my fibroids. There are 2 that are 7cm and I is 4 cm. My doctor told me the good news is they aren’t distorting my uterine cavity and they are all hanging off the outside of my uterus rather than inside. My periods have always been extremely painful ever since I was a teenager and I didnt have fibroids back then so I don’t fully believe my period pains are from the fibroids. I also have normal and not too heavy bleeding during periods. When I have my period I have what my family and I call “episodes”. This is when the pain gets so out of control that I hyperventilate and sometimes vomit. I can prevent these episodes if I start taking Tylenol and Advil days leading up to my period. These block the prostaglandins in time so it doesn’t happen.

    My grandma RIP had a history of these same episodes when she was younger. And she had 5 children. So it gives me some hope that she had the same condition and was still fertile. My mother had fibroids (but not painful periods) and still had children and never even needed to remove them. But I don’t know how big hers were. She did need an emergency C section with me because the fibroids prevented me from flipping around to come out head first. But she said it wasn’t too bad. I’m just hoping that my “episodes” are not causing damage to my body and they are simply just from sensitivity to prostaglandins.

    I guess I’m just extra concerned today about my health and fertility. Spending time on the fibroids sub really gets my anxiety going since ladies have smaller fibroids than me they are causing them infertility and anemia and painful periods and they are getting surgery. My doctor really wants me to aim for having kids before I get the surgery. She said that if I weren’t ttc immediately however, she’d consider removing them. The whole situation just makes me uncomfortable and queasy. I wish I could have these fibroids out right now because I am beginning to be able to feel the pressure of them in there and I am a slim girl with a protruding uterus these days. And no real idea about my fertility yet since I’ve only just started trying a couple months ago

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  • Expecting my period in 2 days... lucky me, I get to start the New Year on the worst day of my period. I'll be making a call to my OB and my therapist when their offices open in the new year 🤷‍♀️ I don't know if I hope something is wrong so that we can fix it and I get pregnant... or I hope nothing is wrong because things aren't always easily fixed and it's just been bad luck.

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  • Just venting a bit, DPO 9 today after a slew of abnormal PMS symptoms yesterday. Still no AF but I did test this morning, knowing full well it’ll be negative since it’s too early but I just needed to get that jitters out of my system.

    This cycle has me emotional, tired af, waking up in the middle of the night multiple times, the worst lower back pain, and full pelvic ache that’s not going away.

    Think I’m just gonna try to hold off testing until DPO12 lol this waiting game is the worst. GL everyone else

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  • Booked an appointment to remove my IUD and taken my first folic acid tablet today - at the very start of ttc journey!

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    Whoooop! Me and the husband just decided to do the same thing later this year. I am so excited that I feel like I am really trying already. Are you going to track your cycle?

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  • 10 dpo and flushed FMU. Temp shot up this morning. Ahhhh.

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  • Has anyone ever used a fertility conception aid cup to help with leakage?

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    I wouldn’t bother. I’ve tried one several times , never helped us conceive. I have got pregnant 3 times in the last 2 years but sadly they were all chemicals. All conceived on cycles where I didn’t track or use special lube, other gadgets etc.

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    Mine arrived today, I know no evidence or science but just think what’s the harm in trying now, I’ll give anything

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    We tried it a couple times. It was kind of just gross and it’s not really supported by science. But it was helpful in giving me the illusion of control when I felt like I needed it.

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    I have one. I found it to be very cumbersome and so I don't actually use it all that often.

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  • 8DPO and all of my normal progesterone symptoms have disappeared so I am not feeling very optimistic. Have a feeling that AF will be early this cycle 😕

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  • I thought tracking several fertility signs would be more definitive, but now it just feels like everything is more disjointed and confusing. I'm tired of this.

    (No advice needed, just venting.)

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  • Currently CD13. HSG is next month so I’m delusionally hoping it won’t come to that lol. Started mucinex and trying to BD everyday

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  • Expecting my period tomorrow and not feeling good about this cycle. What I do have to look forward to is an appointment with a NaPro doctor who specializes in endometriosis excision surgery next month. I’ve never had a doctor take my pain seriously. I’m excited but also nervous about the prospect of surgery. 3 weeks til the appointment!

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  • BIL and SIL told us they’re expecting their third last night. They were super sensitive about how they told us (bless them for that), and I was 90% sure it was coming anyway, but man, this one still stings.

    They gave birth to their second shortly after we started trying, so in the time we’ve tried, they’ve birthed, breastfed, weaned, recovered, and conceived another kid. And all I have to show for our efforts is a blighted and stubbornly empty uterus.

    This 💩 is so unfair.

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    Feeling the Same, just got AF today after a year of TTC and just saw someone announce their second now due in April 26 and she’s already had the other one not long before we started, my friend has also had her baby along wit 4 other women in my work. It stings and it hurts.. another year over.. maybe this time next year…

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  • Cd3 of my 7 cycle… I kind of have lost hope and I try to stalk some of you that have more than 6 cycles to see any positive to be happy about. I kind of put some goals for the next year and nothing about be pregnant, well actually planning a lot of stuff like I would not be pregnant at all in the whole year… I guess the good thing is that we have appointment for SA. And eventually go to the doctor to see if I have anything to think about it. I know if it short time in comparison with some of here, but it is kind of sad surpass the 6 months.

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    I’m on cycle 7 too, haven’t ovulated yet but feeling the same way. Trying to read through old posts, it’s hard

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    I used to come across this sub just from googling stuff and I would read all kinds of posts from a year or several years ago. Every single person whose history I checked had been recently in this year posting about their baby. So that gives us some hope

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  • 9 DPO and idk why I keep having delusional thoughts like “oh this is the one!” My temperature is dropping so of course I’m crying in my bed before I even get out of it (if I even get out of it today)

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    I’m currently on 9DPO too. Every time I feel a little “wet” or something down there I feel like it’s game over. But it’s just discharge…

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    The PMS symptoms just makes everything worse as well! I just want to get it over with!!

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    Right I probably shouldn’t have I told myself I wouldn’t test again till 12DPO (clearly I am the clown hahaha) but I bought the easy@home strips to test, just to let myself down gently in the case AF does come in the next 4 days

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    I don’t even delude myself into testing once I see my temperature drop despite the 30 tests I have stashed under my bathroom sink lmao

    Like what am I even hoarding them for?? I guess I was being really hopeful lol

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    For funsies. But real talk, have you tried the Premom app and did you ever get a peak?(looked at your post history 😅)

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    I’m currently using the PreMom app and have been since October! I use the free version to log my tests but I also input the data in FF (I did get an annual sub for FF) as well as a paper log (free from TCOYF) that I can put in my medical binders to show my medical team.

    I absolutely found my peak (over 1.0) in my October cycle but I never found a “peak” (it was 0.88) for my November cycle like my October one. I just counted it as a positive anyways because it was quite close. It did match with my FF data so I think I just caught the end of my surge.

    I used like…one test strip I had lying around my toilet and it didn’t show a peak (it was like .21? Which it was on the day before FF confirmed ovulation so that makes sense) for this cycle. I relied on my temperature data and cervix checks BUT I was also having sex so often that I wasn’t going to miss my fertile window either way.

    This cycle will be a LOT less hectic for me so I’m going back to using the strips but I’ll still do sex every other day since it honestly was much easier than trying to hit every day of my fertile window.

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  • First official cycle trying. We've been having unprotected sex since I came off birth control in September but my periods have finally settled and we're now actively tracking and trying. Trying to just take things as they come and not spiral but man we want this so much. We spent yesterday with friends helping set up for their toddler's second birthday. My husband was helping build a trampoline, I had the two year old on my lap and was helping their five year old practice his letters and I felt such a strong yearning, it was almost physical.

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