That's messed up. I saw this video of this overweight woman on instagram. She was livestreaming from her car after a workout at the gym and she was sobbing. She said she heard these guys at the gym say ogre then laugh when she was working out. Felt so sorry for her. That's just cruel.

On the plus side, she returned to the gym another day and this really handsome gym guy walked over and told her he sees her there almost everyday and he's proud of her. I thought that was cool and so nice of the second guy to do that. Encouraging her and not putting her down for trying to be healthier.

People who abuse other people are absolute losers.

Because there are no consequences to making these kinds of comments on the internet.

As someone who used to be very big. This is everyday day shit. Humans suck.

Because it makes them feel better about their own faults.

People have a lot of hate towards fat people for some reason

I think it’s better to be vulnerable offline and what happened to that woman is exactly the reason why. People can be so cruel.

I have an overweight young adult son and he hates going out into the outside world because of this. He’s on the spectrum and very sensitive. He hated school and now has trouble with employment. Yes, losing weight would help but he shouldn’t be shamed in the mean time. People = shit.

Social media/the Internet - in particular certain platforms encourages an anonymous wolf pack mentality where commentors pile in with vituperative vileness upon an obviously vulnerable poster instead of supporting and sympathizing with the vulnerable poster - in an attempt to highlight their own superiority over their victims/focus of their bilious hostility . In effect it's the schoolyard bully effect ,where kids gather and support a bully victimizing some else to make themselves feel better at someone else's expense .

Because people hate fat people. Some people are more overt of their hatred than others. I have dealt with it for years, even from my own family.

It's never going to change.

People see obesity as a moral failing because "obviously" you must be a gross, lazy person with no self control to get that way. People love to couch it as concern over the person's health, but get real, you don't judge other poor health decisions, just obesity. At the end of the day, I think most people want to tear down other people to feel better about themselves and obese people are an acceptable group to bully and demean. It's extremely sad.

I weighed 583 lbs I am down to 294. My long term goal right now is below 200.

I have had people say really rude a cruel things to me all my life. I am 61 and a grandma now. That's how long I have carried this weight. 58 years to get to 583 and 3 years to get to 294. Another year or less to 200.

I am a 100% disabled. I use a walker or wheelchair because spinal and pelvic injuries. I need a new left hip and Knee. Drs won't touch me until I am under 300 like now and I break hip completely or knee. 200 or below will be heathier and easier on me in long run.

Now advice I can give others in the same boat as the young woman that was harassed on camera and in text?

It's going to hurt before it gets better. That man that yells rude things to you? Turn around look him dead in the eye and tell him:

I know how hard is to be attracted to someone and want attention from them. But screaming things like ugly and fat are not how you get women to notice you. That's what boys with tiny little peckers do. If you want my attention act like a grown man with balls and talk to me respectfully. (Then slowly eye his body up and down and look directly at his crotch and say) On second thought don't talk to me at all because you obviously have no pecker. ( Or phrase of your choice to belittle his lack of manhood.) Best done in front of other people, especially his friends or on camera preferably live. Yes I have said that to several young men and old enough to know better in the past.

If your fat don't let them see it matters to you. It gives them power they don't deserve. The abuser/bully is just like sex offender they are not doing it for fun they are doing it to feel powerful.

I think the worst time I ever snapped on someone calling me fat was at an 8 yo boy. I was on zoom call with his grandmother. She made my Mother of the bride dress and I was trying it on after final fitting. It was during COVID just before I got started full time on weight loss. He ran in the room saw me and said: Why that old bitch so fat?

Both his grandmother and I were in shock. Before I could stop myself from saying anything the following came out of my mouth: (I don't know where it came from but it was out my mouth before my brain caught up.)

Because you useless little shit bad people, space aliens and monster don't kidnap fat people. They only kidnap nasty rude little boys!

He burst out crying ran to his mother. Kid was terrified of space aliens. Needless to say I shocked myself at being so hateful to a child. I love children everyone but him thinks I am a sweet old lady.His grandmother didn't help she actually pissed herself laughing. His mother came in yelling about terrifying her kid until his grandma told her he was cursing and hatefully ride to me.

Don't snap at kids ignore them.

My other advice is the old adage: Beauty is only skin deep Ugly is to the bone.

The other: Most fat people can loose weight but even plastic surgery don't fix ugly it only hides it until it returns again and again

There is this dude on Facebook that for reasons unknown (I most likely clicked on a reel a month or so back so he's in my algorithm). This guy and his gf aren't the brightest bulbs on Broadway and he's a one trick pony and probably should have a job....but...... All that to say, those things aside you can tell he is below average intelligence, says he is a recovering addict and the amount of men specifically, but people in general...that feel its okay to say some of the foulest, cruelest stuff to this couple on Facebook is unreal. But what I've learned is....these trolls, using their real account most of the time, feel they are justified because they are "better" than this couple. They kick down. It makes them feel up. I don't understand this mentality at all. But its everywhere. Also the crowd theory OP. In your example if one person stuck up for her in that video (in person not in the comments) someone else may have too. Strength in numbers....but sometimes thats for the bad side too. Trolls definitely do not like themselves, but they project that onto someone who they feel superior to for whatever reason...and online they are in huge numbers. Mean girls....AND guys. I've started bullying bullies in the comments...fight fire with fire....but it won't change anything...trolls are always under the bridge, waiting to make themselves feel better by kicking down.

I've noticed this new tough love culture coming through too, I think people get off on it. They'll basically tell people they're scum but word it like now that you know your scum you can do better? Yeah no, further hurting a hurt person rarely motivates them, it feels like a way to be abusive while pretending to help.

As an overweight person, I can say with surety people just hate the idea of us existing. I was bullied exercising of all times. They just want an easy target to spew their venom on. And they make excuses about it being a concern for health. On top of this they claim bullying them helps them to lose weight. Like maybe 1 in 10 this is true. All this bullying caused me was depression and horde of mental health issues and didn’t do squat to help me lose weight.

A person who truly cares wouldn’t be bullying them about it. Instead help them when they need it.

You should look at the profiles commenting shit like that. I’d bet at least half have 0-5 posts?

People create insta accounts just to rage bait and insult others while hiding behind the screen

As a fat woman, I can say that a lot of people simply don’t believe we deserve love or respect 🤷🏻‍♀️

This is what happens when you’re fat. Everything we do is a bit for everyone else. At the gym? Laughed at for being out of shape. Eating a slice of cake? Shamed for not taking care of yourself. Eating a salad? Someone has to shout that you must be on a diet.

After I lost the weight, I was treated like a person for the first time. Instead of feeling good, it made me so disgusted with everyone around me. I questioned if it was worth it even.

Sadly, this sort of thing is becoming more and more common. There seems to be a serious lack of empathy in certain circles online and gym culture has become quite 'toxic' again.

It used to be that you could join a gym and you'd either be left alone, or people would help you. Not now though. Now people turn to bullying (Obviously there are still millions of good eggs out there).

I blame social media. It's become more and more acceptable to just blurt out whatever is in your head and generally just be an ass. It's as if there are no repercussions.

Also, men like Tate and podcasts like freshandfit or whatever, have made hating on women seem more acceptable.

I'm praying things change for the better in 2026, but I won't hold my breath.

Why is it so difficult for people to just mind their own business?

I don't understand people like this truly, how does others being fat bother you like?!??! Just why, are you truly that unhappy in your life that you have to make others miserable too? Never in my life have I been prompted to randomly call people names like this

Tearing down someone who hasn't much self esteem is a way to control their own shitty life. Sadly these people are statistically more present on internet than real life. Also here, nice and fair behaviors are usually downvoted. Lot of projections also

Overweight people are easier to bully and make fun of because their flaw (so to speak) is on the outside, visible to the world, whereas other people have flaws that may not be immediately obvious to strangers in the outside world, like immaturity, greed, narcissism, cruelty, sexual dysfunction, learning disabilities, substance abuse, DV, phobias etc. etc. etc.

Overweight people carry their “flaw” on the outside, so people , even strangers, can see the extra weight. And since our society has an obsession with looks, being fat has been vilified, and it has become acceptable to criticize and insult overweight people. If we could turn people inside out and they carried their flaws visibly on the outside, they’d be openly criticized, too.

When I was pregnant I got insulted in the street several times by men who assumed I was fat.

The thing is that many if not almost all are not comfortable with their own life, be it stile, looks, weight, etc so they find themselves feeling better if they make feel someone else (who they think are worst than them) sad or bad.

Sadly this is how things works now a day, human decency and empathy are very rare to find.

Assuming this happened in the US, do you see who was elected the current President of the United States? We have a deep undercurrent of cruelty in this country that has been encouraged to flourish.

I’m not even a crazy overweight im 5’7 and 185ish sometimes 190 somtimes 180 depends and I still get trashed at the gym. It’s everywhere

I think Meta has either bots or they are shamelessly pushing this kind of rage bait! Zuckerberg is an incel and it does seem like ppl are being extra hateful there in some pages.

I personally love seeing overweight people working out, cause it means that someone’s trying to better themselves and you don’t see a lot of that these days. It absolutely inspires me every time and I’m not big. And I wanna surround myself with people who inspire me, as sweaty as you wanna be.

It’s not a general tearing down, in my experience. It’s specifically geared towards heavier people. Fat phobia is ugly, and demeaning, and unfair, but it’s also horrifyingly common. I’ve never had anyone call me names to my face, but I’m sure there’s loads of whispered comments behind my back. Fat phobia is so, so damaging for people who carry (a lot of) extra weight, and it demolishes our self-esteem, which is often already so very damaged.

It makes me so sad thinking about the abuse people go thru just because they are different. It is free to to be kind to someone and uplift them, or say nothing at all. It takes more energy and effort to spit venom at someone who did nothing wrong to you.

It's a mix of "we care about health and you're not healthy" "If we push you and dog pile you, you'll be more motivated" and have a "feeling of superiority" over someone else.

Fat doesn't equal unhealthy. Are you at a higher risk for certain issues? Obviously, although being underweight puts people at a higher risk too.

Skinny doesn't equal healthy, fat doesn't equal unhealthy.

Alot of people say it's because they care about someone's health, but my best friend had a hyper thyroid (?) (she couldn't gain weight no matter what or how much she ate) she was suffering, she was tired, she couldn't stand her body but no one was concerned for her but me because I have hypothyroidism so I'm on the other end.

Also people feel comfortable being cruel online because they're not face to face

Insecurity

People tell themselves they're being righteous by "helping" the fat person want to lose weight

Was this posted on Facebook? Because that place is getting almost as bad as 4Chan now.

That is awful. What a disappointing commentary on people's characters. Horrible.

I cannot fathom people who are so...yucky. I guess it's easy for them online, they cannot see the hurt, the tears...or in some cases, get punched in the damn mouth for comments like that. I think a lot of people would think twice about saying/typing certain things if the consequence was a fist in their face 9 times out of 10.

It's sad that karma isn't real and there won't be consequences for this nasty behavior.

Keyboard warriors have no life. That's the only thing I can think of

Awww I wish I could go and post support. Could you dm me the link

I think a lot of us are just becoming unhappy with our day-to-to lives and some people use the anonymity of the internet to take out their frustration and stress bullying people who can literally do nothing to stop them just because they're either jealous of the other person's happiness or they're simply projecting their own shit

Why is it ok to say something about someone’s body? Or why even try to bring someone down because you are not feeling good or not ok with your own body? Why do some people feel like they “win” because someone else feels worse? And why is it so bad that a woman feels herself? It is not just fat women but even conventionally attractive women get this treatment.

People are so exhausting.

Human beings are total shit because they choose to be

It is up to us to be good humans.That's why I don't care if people say being kind puts you at a disadvantage, I'm not going to let the world turn me into shit because they are all shit

That is because this world is full of horrible people. I am neither overweight or ugly. But still, most of the people I have encountered in my life are rude a-holes just like that old man and the ones siding with him. I am convinced that the hatred and violence is the norm in this world. We are born to suffer and survive. There is no support in sight.

Because people are shit. That’s it. That’s the reason. People are just shit.