That was me for a long time... getting over my internalized mysgongy has opened up my life, relationships, and sources of joy in so many wonderful ways.
Same. Sadly, so often women seek male validation by capitulating to their demand that they be mostly indistinguishable from men behaviorally, but nonetheless remain a sexual or romantic option. And this is a huge part of many girls' socialization (mine included), causing them to live disingenuously hoping to earn the same praise their male peers are offered freely.
No amount of posts and texts like this would actually do any good
I think the only cure is time and experience. I was an absolute shithead of this in my teens, worst of the worst, but I got more mature, I read more, I talked more to women of different experiences and ages and it helped me overcome it
lol girls will say “I only have guy friends becuase other girls are catty and they all hate me,” but when I say I only have female friends I’m the one called toxic
Ron Swanson to Leslie about not being gracious (jokingly) about winning the Woman of the Year award. (Not verbatim cause I’m old and memory is shit)
Leslie: “That’s not the attitude of an award winner.”
Ron: “My attitude is that of an award winner because I have won an award.”
Stop telling people who are the thing that they aren’t being the thing the right way. You are not the Arbiter.
That was me for a long time... getting over my internalized mysgongy has opened up my life, relationships, and sources of joy in so many wonderful ways.
Same. Sadly, so often women seek male validation by capitulating to their demand that they be mostly indistinguishable from men behaviorally, but nonetheless remain a sexual or romantic option. And this is a huge part of many girls' socialization (mine included), causing them to live disingenuously hoping to earn the same praise their male peers are offered freely.
So many years with a false sense of pride when I actually hated myself. :(
Telling myself I was better, to be different than be SHEep buying into the Girl Image.
Not realising I bought into another patriarchal message: Hate Yourself.
I hated them for wearing so much makeup. I hated myself because I didn't know how to do that.
I hated how they wore shorter clothing. I hated the lack of comfort and confidence in my own body.
I hated how popular they were and the attention they received. I hated my paralysing shyness and loneliness.
Well, I broke out of that mental prison and I'm in a better place.
Thanks for saying this out loud. We need this!
"I don't act like a woman" is a fallacy because women can act however they want.
No amount of posts and texts like this would actually do any good
I think the only cure is time and experience. I was an absolute shithead of this in my teens, worst of the worst, but I got more mature, I read more, I talked more to women of different experiences and ages and it helped me overcome it
lol girls will say “I only have guy friends becuase other girls are catty and they all hate me,” but when I say I only have female friends I’m the one called toxic