One of the main kinks I have is ownership and passionate control. At first, it really felt weird and crazy to do but honestly it felt the best for me and my partners.
Do you have a kink that you’re ashamed about at first but gradually you felt better about?
Yes and no. I have a super niche kink where I can only bottom when I'm wearing an OCD school uniform (polo shirt with all buttons done up and shorts) and I become the biggest anal whore. If I'm naked I'm pretty much a boring straight guy but when wearing the costume I want to take multiple loads, wearing a plug all day, tied up and other degrading stuff.
When I'm horny I own it and fantasise about being a school boy anal slave forever. But when I get post nut clarity I'm thinking: WTF ! I'm a grown man in my thirties who just got fucked in the ass wearing a school uniform as I'm taking out a huge plug out of my hole, checking out the gape and farting out his load.
hmmm that’s very ultra specific lmao. but seems like harmless fun and very interesting. how did it come about?
So many guys have told me that and I'm aware I'm a huge outlier when it comes to what bottoms wear. To this very day I have no idea where it came from and I've analysed my entire schooling life to see if there ever was a gay awakening which there was none. So no idea man.
Did you have an embarrassing but subtly sexually charged moment while wearing the shirt?
During the moment ? Not at all. I'm too horny to think logically. A top could shove my head in a toilet while fucking me and I would go along with it.
The minute I hit post nut clarity then it's a sudden sense of shame, embarrassment and shock. That's why I will never come until I've left.
Tbh I’m the exact same way
If I’m wearing something that gets attention, I’d want to be bent over and fucked like a slit but once i nut idk what was going on inside my head
ay best of luck costume man. i hope you the best
I’m very into raceplay (black on white, never the other way around, and without the n-word. Basically BNWO type stuff). It’s entirely consensual, fun for both parties involved, gets me off and harms no one— but it still gets so much judgement and pearl clutching from people that I don’t include it in my saved response to “into?”.
But I feel absolutely zero shame about it personally and will keep having fun doing it with the people who are into it. Everyone else can fuck right off.
I really don’t care what that “says” about me.
Into BNWO as well. Often have to train white men on not being the center focus of sex. It’s about Black men and it’s about white submission to them. Deep down that’s white mens entire obsession with us- they know we better men. When I hear the N word it’s an immediate turn off for me (why) because it’s intentional disrespect to me as a Dom. How are you submitting to sex but wanting to use a slur as power over me… the point of BNWO is you have NO POWER.
Bnow is the best. , I love calling them daddy and I Dont understand the caling them the n word play into it lol.😈😍🫦
Good boy
submissive white sissy very into BNWO here.
Just what I’d expect 😏
I am into this and got really shamed by my black boyfriend about being into it and how demeaning it is only to find out that he secretly liked when white men called him the n word and was disappointed when he realized I would never be that man for him. It was very confusing
This happens for all kinks, some people just get caught in a contradiction of liking something that turns them on that they have been taught to fear or be ashamed of by some other influence in their lives. So they can’t decide what to do with that, and give mixed messages. It sucks that you’re not on the same page about it, but no one is 100% sexually compatible with another person throughout their entire lives, we go through phases and evolve.
Wow that makes so much sense, especially about having contradictions between our kinks and our actual feelings. I think at the time we both were dealing with underlying self hatred about our races and so it manifested in both of us wanting to feel sexually submissive/inferior to each other.
What’s something someone should say if they want to hear about all your kinks?
There are subtle cues and euphemisms (if they discuss liking interracial specifically, or being into “contrasts”, if they call you a “king” or seem super submissive as a white guy or mention their own whiteness rather than pointing out my blackness, whiteboy as one word or more overt using “whiteboi”, if all the pictures they send are them with various black partners it’s a clue, the spade emoji— etc.) but sometimes you just have to feel out the vibe and come out with it straight up and own it. Way more people are into it than admit or are down to explore that dynamic, they often just need to feel it’s safe to say so which typically comes from the partner of color acknowledging first that they are into it. Some white guys just don’t care and come right out with it too and I actually appreciate that approach as long as it’s respectful and not gratuitous—because it tells me they are a risk taker willing to put themselves out there and be seen which is something you have to be willing to do on some level if you want to have kinky sex.
Damn, I was hoping for more general thoughts and specific advice on how to kinky people to open up more. Curate and feel out the vibe is the way to go, expect everyone only has the attention span for about 2 lines or less of text and 1-3 pics. It sucks
Stealthing but a very specific kind. It revolves around the fantasy of having someone who will actively keep reassuring me that they have a condom on but they actually don't. It is very much connected to my breeding kink. I don't like condoms but being the one that "insists" on them and then being tricked by someone who doesn't use it is so hot to me... I felt weird about it but not anymore. And also, I have never tried this but I'd like to try it one day with someone I trust.
woah that’s unique. why does it sound kinda…. 👀
Kinda what?
I actually forgot one part. The reassuring process is suppised to be full of complinents, words of affirmation and support encouraging heteronormative dynamic. The moment I realised my unmet needs when it comes to my childgood and in general I stopped feeling ashamed of it cause most of the time kinks and fetishes are a direct reflection of what you lacked in childhood or life in general... in my case, that's radical ownership and praise.
Kinda hot ofc.
especially in the context you mentioned and how you move forward with it. just seems like an interesting idea and would probably be funny as hell talking about it during after care
Yeah thank you. I am still single so I don't know if that will ever happen...😅
I’m not sure if it’s more a fantasy or kink, but I sometimes fantasize about getting a bottom pregnant, and telling him I’ll knock him up and grow big with my seed. I find it hot, but I don’t share it often since it’s not exactly a turn on to a lot of other people lol
The male impregnation (mpreg) kink is common. Do a search in this sub on ‘mpreg’ and you’ll find lots of threads full of people talking about how much they’re into it.
Oh for sure, I’ve seen plenty of people online that are into it. Unfortunately the people I’ve been with in real life haven’t been as turned on by the male impregnation kink as I am.
My kink is bit tame. It's having sex with both people wearing only ankle length socks on lol.
I like socks too but more as an accessory and prefer them long.
Cuckolding... 😅 I'm a total top but I have the looks and physique of a skinny, boyish little twink. It's simultaneously really hot and really shameful to picture all the ways a big, strong, hairy, masculine beast of a man could dominate and ravage my bottom boyfriend right in front of me 🥵
I like saving a condom and eating the contents, afterwards. Also like W/S. Only did it (successfully) with one person but I really liked it. I believe these fall into your question category. Not all the tops knew i ate their loads and not everyone knows I like WS
WS?
Piss.
Watersports
This makes it sound like you like to jetski. It’s piss, he is into piss. Lots of people are.
No, but the kinks I haven't yet explored scare me. Like, how far I'd be willing to go in the right context. (Nothing illegal, no masochism, nothing underage, more things like shoe licking or few-limits ownership, stuff like that.)
When I see a big man, I just wanna smell his musk.
I have that same fantasy.. I love smells Soo much.. they turn me on.. love natural scents
Not at all,however, there are things I can't do, do to my age and size.
Hell no! Kinks are perfectly normal.
Yes 🥲
No
No, but I have 1 or 2 that I have no plans on acting on.
No need for shame when it comes to kinks. As long as everyone involved is willing, it doesn't matter.
I probably should... I LOVE cheating on women with black men....
I do now I realize mines is sorta weird and involves mayo and mayo and sex are not received well together. I love having miracle whip spread all over my bubble butt and then get pounded doggystyle and creampied
Nah. I have a few guys who love me wearing a mini skirt. It's only for sex so it doesn't bother me. Never feel bad about pleasing yourself or others.