Getting ready for a regular recently reminded of a couple of times when I took the time and pain of preparing for the top to cancel last minute. How do you guys deal with that?
In that instance I gave him a second chance and was let down again. I blocked him right after.
I'll just try and find someone else, I'm already horny may as well get fucked.
Good call. Prepping makes me even hornier, but I keep it up and find no one, I would be afraid of ending up like a cat heat: outside on all fours with my ass in the air, loudly calling after the surrounding males to come. lol
I tried that once, my neighbors looked at me funny.
Are you saying that none responded to your calls? That’s disappointing
I guess he didn't live in the Castro like I do. Here it might actually work, especially if he walked a block or two and it was late at night.
Wow, aren't we all so alike?
Definitely, your hole is already cleaned, pre-lubed and ready for cock. Can’t let all that preparation go to waste.
Same, if u got the mood why not to get the dic
Exactly, I'd rather do that than jerk off again.
Did the same thing once 😂😂
Exactly what he said. Say 'goodbye, douchebag! who's next?'
Same here, Even for a quick blow job. You get a 2nd chance. But there's no 3rd chance. And if you ghost me after the first cancel or no show no call. And then hit me up days or weeks later. Then I'm DONE... Go find someone elese to play your games with.
I see this a lot with younger curious guys. I think they like chatting and flirting as they crank it. Then get PNC and close the app or ghost you texting them. Im over it..
I get it, We all started out as newbies and what not. Especially guys that aren't sure about trying something different and question there sexuality. But just come out and say it, I've helped a few guys dip there toes into man on man play. And of the 7 guys I've done this with in the last cpl of yrs. All but one decided it wasn't for him. The funny part is the ones that stayed with it, Are all over 40 yrs old.
Interesting. True that everyone would gain if people were honest with what they seek and would care a little bit more about others.
Chatting, flirting, fantasizing, but in reality they're not sure what they want to do
Over 40, it's common because there are more settled and more aware of who they are what they want to do. Between 20 and 40 there's a lot of doubt and uncertainty. Also, most men when they hit the 40s, I've been married to women, the sex and the woman's desires (wink wink) dry up
Just find the next guy - if I’m prepped I’m getting dick
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The correct and unfortunate answer to this is you need to have a couple tops sitting on the sidelines.
I have a casual relationship with a guy that we are both aware of our roles for one another. If a top cancels on me, I can almost count on him to show up, He lives kinda far, but its better than just having to ride my dildo
How long have you guys had that arrangement for, sounds good actually
About 3 years on and off as we have both been in exclusive dynamics since.
Its nice to have someone who we both know our place as each others 2nd choice and no hard feelings that we are only being invited over because someone cancelled
Interesting. Although it sounds weird, I wouldn’t feel hurt by this either. So you must get a call once in a while when someone cancelled on him also then.
Yes I do, It goes both ways. However I cant really show up on a whim as I need to prep which can take some time.
I mostly get calls from him when he is in my area for a booty call and the bottom bitched out
Cool. Yeah I get you. One of the reasons I prefer to receive instead of travelling. Save some time for both.
You did exactly what your supposed to do. This is why ive been looking for a regular fwb instead of random one timers
It's annoying when a guy cancels after you've prepped, but I always give them a second chance, as life can get in the way from time to time
I just called the next number.
It is inevitable. It will happen. There's the flakes that may cancel on you once and twice and you block them.
There's also the fact that they may just blow their load and I'm not able to perform anymore. Several times my tops would just let me know that they were too excited and couldn't hold on so they just took care of it.
I enjoy a good number of regulars, and that's because I understand and I'm patient. The preparation pain is significant, time and effort and everything else.
How to deal with it, it's a choice you have to make. You could be patient and not make it a thing, and there's a good chance you will get some benefit out of it.
Alternatively, one can be sensitive and overreact, and it is your prerogative and loss
Yeah.. its already tuff especially closeted and many other hurdles..plus your going to get your needs met ..it needs to be a pretty important reason for canceling
Get on grindr and find a dude nearby