I feel like I might be feeling this.
Sometimes I wanna get down and dirty, but I can't be bothered to go through the process of cleaning myself out, stretching, getting stretched during penetration.. you get my point. It's not exhausting, but after a day of work the physical and mental effort can be a bit tiring.
Just wondering if anyone else has felt this way? Or maybe it's just me?
if I'm just a little horny I'll jack off, but every now and then I get that deep ache inside of me that means I need to get fucked soon. I have a bidet, so getting ready for sex is very fast. I don't fast, or stretch (because I'm a whore, I don't need to stretch).
for me, it's less about the prep and more about the cruising and negotiating that starts to feel monotonous.
in my twenties I'd do wild (unsafe) stuff when I was horny, but now I'm almost 40; I can wait for scheduled dick.
LOL, 'scheduled dick' :-D
as I've aged, I learned that RIGHT NOW style hookups tend to be kinda boring.
Why’s that?
once you get over the novelty of having sex, instant gratification becomes less gratifying.
I get you :-)
I eat a pretty good diet and never stretch (that's the top's job). Given this, a quick douche is all I really need. (I am not going to suggest fucking unless I know the prep will be easy).
As a Top, PLEASE let me do the stretching.
Half the fun is opening him up.
It also tells me everything I need to know about whether you are a good top or not..
Good man! Not that I need any stretching, but a good fingering feels great.
Going from zero to cock in my ass is often a lot more work than I really want to put in, spur of the moment which is why I maintain a consistent booty routine, with a high fiber diet, detachable shower head and regular BM schedule. I never really got into toys or pre stretching, it wasn’t really a thing when I started.
Honestly I find the process of preparing myself to be someones bottom to be very hot and fun, epsecially with a glass of wine
I don't really do all that.
I don't douche.
I don't stretch, I let my boyfriend get me ready with his fingers and tongue.
Whoa, I am always amazed to hear someone doesn't douche at all. Not judging! Just fascinated.
Do you ever have moments where it turns out you weren't ready?
I'm usually able to tell if it's a good time for anal or not.
I've been wrong a couple times, not a big deal.
That's fair. Most people are in tune enough with their own bodies.
Also, I think I've missed out on a lot of good sex because I was worried I might not be ready when the reality is I was probably fine. The few times I've tried without prepping have all been fine, so I respect your approach.
Yeah it helps that I just have zero shame too lol
I feel this way sometimes too. Some things I do is make sure I'm taking fiber daily, and have good BM's. That makes the cleanout process easier. And then it depends on how big the top is, and if this only going to be a hookup or extended play for the evening. Anything under 7 and I don't need deep clean. Anything bigger does.
Yes more and more :/ I also don't eat what I want all the time cause I know it will mess up.
It’s demanding to prep up after a day’s work for sure. That’s why I’ll only bother with regulars who’ll give me good dick and I just douche, I never stretch. That’s the top’s job to stretch me open. The worst for me is getting ready to have the top cancel on me last minute.
Cleaning myself out makes me feel sexy and slutty. I'll do it when I'm free for a weekend or traveling. I hope for those unplanned encounters. I only stretch on certain occasions since I prefer smaller cock...
I find that the process of cleaning out gets me really horned up and ready for dick. I have a shower attachment that goes inside and shoots a gentle spray. Feeling that inside gets me ready, as I anticipate the dick that’s going to get in there.
Yes, there are times when I would really rather not go clean out my insides so a guy can cunt me, but I’m a service bottom - when I’m called, I serve. Whether I’m in the mood is irrelevant.
Absolutely, yes. I was just trying to explain this to my boyfriend. I love having sex with him, but he is very well endowed and prepping to bottom for him takes a while. Most of the time, I would rather just give him head.
This is why I participate in group sex. Knowing I'll be hooking up with multiple guys makes it easier to get over the hump of not wanting to bother.
I see what you're saying, but I don't relate. My libido is high because I crave the anal stimulation, and I want to be dominated. I still prepare myself with a lot of enthusiasm because I'm always so excited to bottom. Yes, if my top wants it, I normally take a moment to check to ensure we're good to go. I think u need a partner who understands. Honestly, for me, preparation is part of the bottoming experience. You can look at it as a chore, but I don't, because it fills me with joy to fulfill my bottoming role.
Since I enjoy getting cleaned out and stretching my hole its not as bad for me unless im completely exhausted then id just get clean and take it without getting stretched.
No, it actually makes me more excited about what to come.
Bottoming to me is like foreplay for topping. So the process of getting ready just builds the anticipation.
Never knowing its all for cock tops all else
all the time. it’s why i could never be a full time bottom.
I’m only in my twenties, and personally speaking yes. If the top I’m talking to is in a rush, my libido just kinda drops cause I like being prepared. If they respect me enough to be patient, or at least courteous, I feel good enough to let events play out. Otherwise I get turned off simply because I’m not a pocket p*$$/, I need time to make sure we both are satisfied and I don’t feel embarrassed cause you wanted to be too eager.
I don't feel the need to do any stretching. My ass is experienced enough it will open up when a cock is pushed into it. If you're not yet to that point, it still shouldn't take more than a few minutes of the top fingering your hole to get it ready.
I strongly recommend using toys to get your sphincter to open up more easily. Butt plugs can be very good for this.
As for douching, that shouldn't take all that long, either, but I could easily see being too tired to want to bother, but those are days when sex is also too much bother, so don't be putting yourself out there on the apps.
I have a shower attachment and I also eat a relatively high fiber diet. "Cleaning out" takes me very little time with the exception being occasional deep cleans when taking bigger toys and dick. And when I prep, I make it sexy... I have color adjustable lighting in my bathroom (I love turning the lights red), I'll even bring in a glass of wine or cocktail to enjoy while doing my thing. But yes, there are long days where I'm not in the mood to do any of that... it's normal for every human being to have days where they would rather not bother. ;-)
Yes especially if it's a 1on1. Because of that I haven't done any for the past 2 years and only go to the sauna to have multiple dicks. Worth the preparation.
Exactly, this is a feeling i get lately
Yep. Prep is a a chore and the older I get the less patience I have for it. I have a ton of kinks anyway, so it’s not like I’m having a lot of sex
No, never. I get anxious waiting for the guy to get here that it makes it even hotter. Or if the host, there is something so damn hot about driving to them with only a jock or g-string on under my sweats.